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...or do you prefer people keep their distance??

I'm a really touchy- feely, huggy, kissy sort of person!:D

I worked with a guy who said nobody was ever allowed to touch his hair, not even his wife (they were divorced at the time!:rolleyes: ) that was so weird to me!

Well I can't say I really like all the hugs, kisses treatment. I do prefer to keep my distance from that sort of thing, at least for the moment.

Very affectionate. I believe in the power of human touch.

People can be affectionate with touching, I think that distinction needs to be made.

Some people need to maintain their personal space, and it doesn't relate to inter-personal relationships.

sunny104 wrote: ...or do you prefer people keep their distance??



I'm a really touchy- feely, huggy, kissy sort of person!:D



I worked with a guy who said nobody was ever allowed to touch his hair, not even his wife (they were divorced at the time!:rolleyes: ) that was so weird to me!Touchy, feely, huggy, kissy person here also.

SnoozeControl wrote: I don't like casual acquaintances touching me... unless its just a gesture during conversation where they might touch my arm. That's okay. Sometimes.


Touch. Touch. Touch. Poke. Touch. :yh_kiss

SnoozeControl wrote: You're asking for it, you!


LOL!:D







(poke)

MY hubby and best friend are both very affectionate so I'm affectionate in training. I'm learning to loosen up a bit but it's hard if you weren't raised that way.

I love big hugs, its one of the best things about living here in Spain. Its always two kisses and if you know them its a hug as well. :-4 :yh_hugs :-4

I'm not very affectionate to people outside my family. And then sometimes with my family I catch my self running and hiding, espicially from my nanaw. Yikes that little lady can crack a rib or two if your caught off guard.

:yh_hugs I'm a hugger! :yh_hugs

Accountable wrote:





:yh_hugs I'm a hugger! :yh_hugs


Group hug everyone!!:D :yh_hugs

i used to be a major hugger...my husband has made me more of a distance person! that is so sad! his mom smothered him in toooooo many kisses when he was a child. he has a difficut time letting go of a lil personal space.



i did, however, get a hug from my dad the other night that lasted about three minutes. it was about the best feeling i have had this year! i guess it just depends on who is wanting to get their hug on. sometimes i feel it...sometimes i don't.

I'm constantly touching Bullet. I love feeling close to him. Anyone else? STAY OUTTA MY SPACE!!!!

I get enough goofballs trying to touch me when I'm working, they learn real quick not to try it again.

BabyRider wrote: I'm constantly touching Bullet. I love feeling close to him. Anyone else? STAY OUTTA MY SPACE!!!!

I get enough goofballs trying to touch me when I'm working, they learn real quick not to try it again.


in your space :p

Depends on the nature of the relationship. Love giving and receiving hugs from my partner, close mates get a hand across the shoulders, but if I haven't seen them for a long while, they'll get a hug too (but no kisses). Close female friends and female family get a hug and a peck on the cheek (male family get a handshake or the same as a close mate if we're close). The rest will get a handshake on first meeting.

Punching and slapping workmates is a form of male affection.

Personally, I think that looking a person in the eye is the closest form of contact.

I touch people when I speak with them. I found out that when I do this they almost always respond in a positive way. The conversation becomes more interesting. I do this with men and women. Quickly on the shoulder with men and usually very briefly on the arm with women. Ill do this after a few minutes with someone Ive just met and the response is interesting if you keep your eyes open.

I look for signs of acceptance or alarm and almost without fail the eyes light up, I get a smile and I think more involvement in the interaction.

People seem to like it.

Try it.

One positive thing I learned from my ex was to be tactile. I'm like it at work without crossing any boundaries and it is accepted. I think it makes you more approachable at a time of crisis. I've had male colleagues crying on my shoulder when they've heard news of a death, and my boss gave me a big hug when we thought my daughter had cancer. Without sexual overtones, a human touch is what we all need.

I am very selectively affectionate. And I like being that way. All that kissy huggy nonsence annoys me.

If I shook Nomads hand, would it kiss me?

flopstock wrote: Imagine when he puts his hand in his pocket...




Now your getting it ! :sneaky:

It depends on the person and the situation. I'm pretty good at reading people so I know when to approach or not. I have worked all my life in the healthcare field in some form or fashion and touch is a big part of communication with people of any age but it has to be acceptable for both parties. I agree with OM and NOMAD eye contact is the first and most direct form of communication and affection there is.. :-4 :-4

Am I affectionate? Yes, but only when I want to be.

Galbally wrote: Am I affectionate? Yes, but only when I want to be.
DUDE!!! where the heck you been????

I'm failry affectionate with loved ones, although friend wise I need my space.

I'm right in the middle of the road on this one. I was raised to be stand offish, married into a family that was all huggy. So I pick and choose who gets a hug and no kisses. My grandkids all get goodby hugs and kisses, the older ones are beginning to act like they could do without them. I have one son and daughter -in-law who always hug us when they leave. Love it. The other six just walk out with a bye. I have a close friend whom I see only occassionally. When we part we always hug big time. Here in the midwest there is a habit of hugging all family members,even if you do not know them,at a wake. I find this very difficult and usually just put out my hand for a handshake. Weddings, everyone hugs everyone, sometimes I am hugged by the bride who I have never seen before. I hug her because a handshake would seem out of place. :-2

I feel that way with the upper-crust "air kiss", where the lady puts her cheek near yours and you both make smoochie sounds. :wah:

weeder wrote: I am very selectively affectionate. And I like being that way. All that kissy huggy nonsence annoys me.


Why is it nonsence to express what you're feeling in a physical way??

Unless you're a virgin I'm sure you've expressed your feelings in a physical way at least a couple of times in your life!;)