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where do you get your strength? everybody i know thinks i am so strong. and i am. i'm a bastion of power. except sometimes i just want to break down and weep. i want to be weak and go to bed and cry and not answer the phone or my emails.

well i wonder about that too sometimes

at the end of the day - who can you rely on except yourself

so i guess you choose & by choosing yourself it makes you strong & those who are weak will attatch themself to you

so your always gunna have to solve everyone elses **** & not have time for your own - comes with the terratory (wish i could spell )

maybe a good thing - i dont know

all i know is most people i know look to me for an objective answer, not always easy to give but is expected of me

world needs lc's n buttercups :rolleyes:

lc - :-4

christ, please ignore this. i had a bad moment.

no such thing as a bad moment my sweet, being complex & diverse makes us human :-4

buttercup wrote: well i wonder about that too sometimes

at the end of the day - who can you rely on except yourself

so i guess you choose & by choosing yourself it makes you strong & those who are weak will attatch themself to you

so your always gunna have to solve everyone elses **** & not have time for your own - comes with the terratory (wish i could spell )

maybe a good thing - i dont know

all i know is most people i know look to me for an objective answer, not always easy to give but is expected of me

world needs lc's n buttercups :rolleyes:



lc - :-4you're a love.

lady cop wrote: where do you get your strength? everybody i know thinks i am so strong. and i am. i'm a bastion of power. except sometimes i just want to break down and weep. i want to be weak and go to bed and cry and not answer the phone or my emails. You've had a tough year hon, what with your health and your job, it could be a possibility that you're depressed.

And before you bite my head off, depression is clinical and not a weakness, why not go to the quacks and tell him how you're feeling?

I guess we gals just have to be strong, but feeling weepy and the 'pits' isn't a weakness...it's inevitable that things will catch up with us at times. Once I broke down at work...I was sitting at my computer and these awful great sobs just came out of nowhere....this guy I worked with took me outside and we walked round and round the building and i just dumped everything on him...he was really good about it but i was so embarrased. I couldn't do this with family...they'd be too upset. Although I sometimes regret it after, venting here helps...so many people offering support...bless you all for that.:-4



It's funny that some days you can take all the crap the world has to throw at you and another day it just seems too much to take. It's not unusual to feel low when you've been as poorly as you have LC....chin up gal...we're all here for each other.

Well, LC. Bez beat me to it. She said all the words I wanted to say. Just remember we love ya.:-4

This is a really good question me lady cop.

First off crying isnt a sign of weakness. Its healthy and cleansing. People that suppress this natural act of release are less than healthy, there needs to be an outlet, so cry.

Strength can be so many things, for me my strength comes from my weaknesses. My weakness taught me lessons Ill not soon forget. I find that its hard to regret my drinking years because they taught me so much about what it is to not live. If I hadnt been down such a rough road I wouldnt be who I am today and I like me. I guess that could be true for everyone now that I think about it, as they say what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.



The trick is to gradually grow and learn and evolve and I think personal strength is direct result of our own experiences.



I think too it helps that I feel like I can see the big picture. I dont get too involved in the little stuff, I can let it slide off my back. I enjoy the little things in life but I dont get bogged down in trivial matters. For me I know whats important and so far thats working pretty well for me.

Its we tower of strengths...... that never allow ourselves to break down and cry. who need to the most. Where the hell did we get the idea that to cry is weak?

There are many many people who having endured what you have this past year.. would have hung themselves.... with a pair of panty hose.. from their shower nozzles:D Or put a brick on the gas peddle of their vehicles and driven over a cliff:D Or eaten a whole bottle of pain pills... wrapped in motzarella cheese drizzled with a delicious marinara sauce.. after donning a negligee, and those slippers with the fur on them:D Not you..... you keep plugging along overcoming everything.. coming here every day to enlighten us.. ( and keep us posted on every kidnapping, murder and slaughter that makes the front page) Make us jealous about your love affair with Bothwell..... and taunt us lonelies with nights filled with marguerites... dancing... romance and God knows what else:D Lay down and cry for a while... and then for christ sake...pull yourself together, and keep clicking that mouse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1:

damn, you give me ideas. shower nozzle eh?

and what's wrong with bloody murder? it keeps me happy. :p xoxox

weeder wrote: Its we tower of strengths...... that never allow ourselves to break down and cry. who need to the most. Where the hell did we get the idea that to cry is weak?

There are many many people who having endured what you have this past year.. would have hung themselves.... with a pair of panty hose.. from their shower nozzles:D Or put a brick on the gas peddle of their vehicles and driven over a cliff:D Or eaten a whole bottle of pain pills... wrapped in motzarella cheese drizzled with a delicious marinara sauce.. after donning a negligee, and those slippers with the fur on them:D Not you..... you keep plugging along overcoming everything.. coming here every day to enlighten us.. ( and keep us posted on every kidnapping, murder and slaughter that makes the front page) Make us jealous about your love affair with Bothwell..... and taunt us lonelies with nights filled with marguerites... dancing... romance and God knows what else:D Lay down and cry for a while... and then for christ sake...pull yourself together, and keep clicking that mouse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1:you amaze me constantly. hit the nail on the head. i am done whining. i want to kick some criminal's butt into next week. but it's true...sometimes you just need to have a good cry when you're tired of being superwoman.

abbey wrote: You've had a tough year hon, what with your health and your job, it could be a possibility that you're depressed.

And before you bite my head off, depression is clinical and not a weakness, why not go to the quacks and tell him how you're feeling?i won't admit it.

Close your eyes and think of Bothwell-you miss him, but will be with him soon all the time. That should give you the strength you need, so you will be ready when you can be with the man you love. Being sad at times is normal, and isn't a sign of weakness. It's going through the hard times, and coming out of them victorious that counts, dear LC. Go out tomorrow and treat yourself to something special, for getting over the down time you feel now.:-4

you know Chonsi, you're right. he tells me to keep the faith. sometimes i falter. i am ashamed of myself when i do. :-1 i'll be OK tomorrow.

LC..like many have posted before me--days that are filled with everything under the sun from bills, to a heart ache, to health issues -to your love being away from you...it takes a toll and it isn't so easy to keep pushing on...but know that if you don't admit defeat every now and then -that you would be cold hearted...you have a heart of a thousand people and you give everything 100%...so what if some days you pull the blinds and cry--stay in bed and veg out on ice cream....becuase the next day will always come and you will always be given the chance to get up and move on -or wait another day.....you have been through a lot and the one you lean on isn't so close by...lean on your kids and your friends....they will pull you through the bad times and make you realize you are stronger then you feel...You are what I call---"the reason there are angels in heaven"...I feel like people who have suffered here on earth -are the angels that guide us after they pass...I know--deep subject but its what gets me through......Be strong but yet too---be a big darn cry baby when you feel like it....damn it--we deserve it every now and then! :-4 MUCH LOVE!

Mom you make me feel even more humble. i love you. i am going to go cry a river and then kick some butts.

Mominiowa - you are an inspiration!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So are you, LC. You both ROCK !!!

After you kick butt can you come on up to Iowa and show me how its done?? I think I may need some assistance! LOL Thank you Aussie.....:-4

lady cop wrote: damn, you give me ideas. shower nozzle eh?


I think this is more your "MO" pussycat

wrapped in motzarella cheese drizzled with a delicious marinara sauce.. after donning a negligee, and those slippers with the fur on them

Nomad wrote: I think this is more your "MO" pussycat

wrapped in motzarella cheese drizzled with a delicious marinara sauce.. after donning a negligee, and those slippers with the fur on thembut....but....i wanna do my marilyn monroe imitation with high heeled cat fur slippers and a silky teddy! no cheeses. :p

lady cop wrote: but....but....i wanna do my marilyn monroe imitation with high heeled cat fur slippers and a silky teddy! no cheeses. :p




yea but but I wanna see you wrapped up in mozzarella !

Nomad wrote: yea but but I wanna see you wrapped up in mozzarella ! :Dpervert. i only do parmesan.

I got drawn irresistibly in here by the aroma of CHEEEEEESE!!!! But I'm not gonna bloody munch or nibble anything dressed up like Marilyn Monroe..... (very nice cat fur slippers though LC!! put the shower nozzle down..... put it down... ) :yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

I find strength in the "dictionary", along with understanding! :rolleyes: :wah:

lady cop wrote: you know Chonsi, you're right. he tells me to keep the faith. sometimes i falter. i am ashamed of myself when i do. :-1 i'll be OK tomorrow.
Never be ashamed of yourself, you are such a wonderful person. We all falter at times, I know I do many times during a few bad nursing days in a row. And you are your perky self again today, and more beautiful then ever!:-4

you're always so kind!

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Oh, thanks LC! Bunny pictures!:)