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This thread is reserved strictly for hugs for Peg. She needs lots of them right now.

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For Peg...



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Big bear hugs Peg xxxx:-6

Come here Peg........

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Squeeze,and Hug

:yh_hugs :yh_hugs :yh_hugs and :-4 Peg.

Thank you all so much. It has really helped me a lot to vent here. I'm quite suprised how much it has helped. I'm tough and I'll make it. This too shall pass. Another lesson in the school of hard knocks. I've got a lot of major decisions to make right now, none of which I take lightly. Thanks for being here for me.:-4

Peg wrote: Thank you all so much. It has really helped me a lot to vent here. I'm quite suprised how much it has helped. I'm tough and I'll make it. This too shall pass. Another lesson in the school of hard knocks. I've got a lot of major decisions to make right now, none of which I take lightly. Thanks for being here for me.:-4
Just the thought of people wishing you well and pulling for you does make a difference, doesn't it? It has helped me on a number of occasions. We're here for ya', babe.

Here you go lovely lady plkease have a big old hug from me!

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Ummm Snooze? Which one of us is Homer?:wah:

thoughts for your happiness Peg. you're such a good lady. :yh_flower :yh_flower :yh_flower

Hey Peg...

Will send ya all the positive vibes I can.. and more..

if ya need an ear.. buzz me up.. hehehehehe... no not that you silly woman....

hugs

oh oh.. send me .. send me.. puleeezzeeeee....

I volunteer...

me me me me me.....

oh

you said hunks...

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Peg, in you own wise words, this too shall pass! Only it's very difficult while you're going through it as we all know. Well in the mean time, the very best of wishes goes out to you!! Bounce anything that you may need to off us, we'll be there for you with a strong shoulder for you to lean on!

SnoozeControl wrote: I googled "mauve" and found a flower for Peg.

(You can tell I'm bored at work, can't you?)


My motto at work used to be, "if it was all fun & games they wouldn't have called it work"! It seems in your case, you're the exception, it's the other way around!:D (Oh yeah, & that's a beautiful flower for Peg Snooze, wish I knew how to get those things)

huggles to peg :-4

*hugs for Peg*

I haven't a clue what's wrong, Peg. But if you're hurting, you got my arms around ya.

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OpenMind wrote: I haven't a clue what's wrong, Peg. But if you're hurting, you got my arms around ya.

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Me too!!! Hope you're feeling happier soon hunny!

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Thank you guys for the hugs and for making me smile. For those who missed the previous post I had made, here is why you are hugging me.

I have been married to my husband for 19 years. He was clean and sober for 23 years. These past 4 months or so have been hell for me. I found out he was drinking after work. Once confronted, he admitted it. He stopped for about 2 months. Then, one night, he came home drunk. Hard to see when in 19 years I've never seen him drunk. He promised never again. He deejayed a birthday party Saturday night. It was to end at 1a.m. He got home at 4:30a.m. Sunday morning. Drunk again. I gave him a choice. Either the booze or me. He knows I mean business. I just don't know if it's enough. He has thrown away 23 years of sobriety and is close to losing 19 years of marriage. I will not live like I did with my first husband, I will not live like his first wife did. He's talked of going back to AA but has not done it. He knows I will go with him whenever he wants or he can go alone. I will support him as long as he stays sober, but one more time off the wagon, it's over. Done. After 19 years. 19 wasted years. I hurt like hell, I am angry as hell. Sometimes I wonder if I should even stick around and wait for it to happen again. I have begged him to give up bartending and deejaying. He does not need the constant temptation. He won't give either up. I'm so frustrated I want to scream. I'm depressed and tired of crying. Everything in me tells me to run. I can't keep it in any more. I don't usually share my personal life here. I just can't deal with it alone any more.

:yh_hugs I missed that the first time round, stay strong :-4

That's very brave of you to share that Peg.

I can only offer this, if it helps you. There will be an underlying reason to his drink problem. If he is willing to talk about it with you, all is not lost.

However, if he's not willing to talk, then ditch him. Let him go, and don't look back. If this is the case, he has been deceiving you for a long time.

Sorry if this makes you feel more pain. If he can't share with you, he's no longer a husband to you in the sense of the word. My advise is for your sake, not his.

Whatever else you do, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. Give him the chance to talk about his problem. If he can't, you've done your best. Don't hang around. It'll just get worse.

I am so sad for you Peg!!! How totally aweful for you. I'm sending hugs and prayers.

Peg wrote: Thank you guys for the hugs and for making me smile. For those who missed the previous post I had made, here is why you are hugging me.
I hope it was ok that I did this, Peg. I know not everyone saw your post, but I wanted folks to know one of ours needed support. I don't mean this as drawing attention to your private life problems, but I so wanted to show my concern and care.



More hugs for you...

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It's okay BR. I chose to put it in an open forum. It's really helped. Right now, I'm doing things to take care of ME; things to make me feel better. Something I don't do often enough. I'm off Friday, so I'm treating myself to a major, drastic haircut, getting my eyebrows waxed, then Friday night, one of my friends is taking me out.

We have decided to find some place I don't normally go, where we know noone, and just cut loose. It may be a temporary fix, but any break from reality is welcome right now.

Are ya going for a no.1 haircut then?:yh_ooooo

Not quite THAT drastic!:wah:

Phew!:D

Peg wrote: It's okay BR. I chose to put it in an open forum. It's really helped. Right now, I'm doing things to take care of ME; things to make me feel better. Something I don't do often enough. I'm off Friday, so I'm treating myself to a major, drastic haircut, getting my eyebrows waxed, then Friday night, one of my friends is taking me out.

We have decided to find some place I don't normally go, where we know noone, and just cut loose. It may be a temporary fix, but any break from reality is welcome right now.


Good for you Peg, get out there and have some FUN! And if you don't post on Saturday, we'll know you did!;)

Peg wrote: It's okay BR. I chose to put it in an open forum. It's really helped. Right now, I'm doing things to take care of ME; things to make me feel better. Something I don't do often enough. I'm off Friday, so I'm treating myself to a major, drastic haircut, getting my eyebrows waxed, then Friday night, one of my friends is taking me out.

We have decided to find some place I don't normally go, where we know noone, and just cut loose. It may be a temporary fix, but any break from reality is welcome right now.


You're doing exactly what you should be doing... taking care of YOU. Good luck Peg. I hope things come back together for you. Hugs Hon! :-6

Kick up your heels, Gal and have a ball !!!

Oh Peg......my heart goes out to you :guitarist . I remember the conversations we had about your husband. He was staying sober on his own, without any help from AA. I do hope he gets some help.

But this thread is about supporting you. I do hope you went out with your friend and had a relaxing evening. Right now, you need to take care of "YOU."

Love ya, Pegs. If you want to chat, just IM me. I still have you on my YahooIM.

Robin (:driving: driving my way to OHIO, to give you a hug in person).

:-4 HUGE~ BIG ~LOVER~ BUNNY HUGS!!!:-4

Sending you best wishes and lots of hugs!!

Peg I missed this first time around,

Huge Huggs from me as well, I hope things are working out for you and with each day your feeling a little more able to cope.

M

Peg wrote: It's okay BR. I chose to put it in an open forum. It's really helped. Right now, I'm doing things to take care of ME; things to make me feel better. Something I don't do often enough. I'm off Friday, so I'm treating myself to a major, drastic haircut, getting my eyebrows waxed, then Friday night, one of my friends is taking me out.

We have decided to find some place I don't normally go, where we know noone, and just cut loose. It may be a temporary fix, but any break from reality is welcome right now.


Oh my God ! Dont do it Peg Its going to be ok, you'll see, things are going to work out for the best. But whatever happens, dont do that. Please ?

LMAO! It's too late Nomad. I had them waxed and guess what? It doesn't hurt! I'm not real happy with the haircut, but I had fun on my night out and am feeling a lot better about things right now.

Peg wrote: LMAO! It's too late Nomad. I had them waxed and guess what? It doesn't hurt! I'm not real happy with the haircut, but I had fun on my night out and am feeling a lot better about things right now.


So Peg, it just goes to show you, you can have fun!:) NOW DO IT AGAIN!!!;)