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Ok. I am a forum junkie. While I am a registered member of 10 forums - I am only active on about half of them. By active, I mean that I check them and post on them about every day.

So on one of the pet forums that I belong to I told some idiot that he should take his puking chihuahua to the vet instead of looking for free medical advice on the internet.

Next thing I know - he is IM'ing me!

Personally, I DO NOT IM anyone that I don't know. If someone who is a longtime member of one of the forums that I am active on should sent me a pm and ask if I minded if they IM'ed me - well that is one thing. But for someone who has posted 1 whole post on a forum to IM a complete stranger is just rude.

Am I crazy? Do you like to "know" the people that you are "talking" to online?

I always, ALWAYS ask for a "go-ahead" before I IM someone. I don't IM very often since Yahoo messenger makes my computer run like mollasses in February, but still, it's common sense. And common courtesy.

Am I crazy? Do you like to "know" the people that you are "talking" to online?


Do you really ever know the people that you talk to online? C'mon

LilacDragon wrote: But for someone who has posted 1 whole post on a forum to IM a complete stranger is just rude.I was only ever IM'd by one person I'd never spoken to before, and it was great fun. People should do that more often.

If I want to chat to someone at random I go onto Yahoo and play chess. I've no idea who I'm playing against, but I talk a lot during the game.

I've been IM'd by a chap on another forum and instantly felt like I was being stalked. Much prefer general discussion with people I don't know.

I have made a great friend from one forum who turned out to live locally, but we were very polite and public until we decided we weren't perverts.

No one can IM you without permission if you haven't added them to your contact list and set your IM options to be visible only to your named contacts. To get on your contact list requires a request from the other person. Then it is up to you to accept or not.

its not a good idea to advertize your IM in your profile, anyone advertizing an IM in a profile i would imagine are ok with people IMing them

you really have to be more careful lilac, lots of weirdo's out there hun

buttercup wrote: its not a good idea to advertize your IM in your profile, anyone advertizing an IM in a profile i would imagine are ok with people IMing them

you really have to be more careful lilac, lots of weirdo's out there hun
Weirdos on the internet?:-3 :wah:

buttercup wrote: its not a good idea to advertize your IM in your profile, anyone advertizing an IM in a profile i would imagine are ok with people IMing them

you really have to be more careful lilac, lots of weirdo's out there hun


Anyone who IM's me had better hope that I'm not a wierdo.:sneaky:

OpenMind wrote: Anyone who IM's me had better hope that I'm not a wierdo.:sneaky:Anyone who'd been on FG would know the answer to that beforehand.

spot wrote: Anyone who'd been on FG would know the answer to that beforehand.


:yh_rotfl

SnoozeControl wrote: MSN IMs require request and permission, but I've been IMd out of the blue while using one of the Yahoo! services. My usual reaction when that happens is the same as when I find cat crap on the floor... wrinkled up nose and immediate removal.


On Yahoo, you can still opt to only be visible to your existing contacts.

I had someone try to speak to me on Skype by sending me their details, i just erased them, cheeky thing!

spot wrote: Anyone who'd been on FG would know the answer to that beforehand.


That's darned astute of you Spot.

spot slaps his hand as he reaches for the keyboard. Down, spot, down. Behave yourself.

SnoozeControl wrote: I've got that option checked, but that doesn't stop people from sending PMs. It must be my scintillating wit and charm that people find impossible to resist.:rolleyes:


Seeing as you've set yourself as invisible on the forum, no one can IM you from here. Nothing stopping someone PMing you from a post though, but not an IM.

Scintillating wit and charm? That's putting it mildly.

Lon wrote: Am I crazy? Do you like to "know" the people that you are "talking" to online?


Do you really ever know the people that you talk to online? C'mon


After you have been on a forum and read posts by people for a while you do get to know them.

I went back and changed my profile in that forum and reset some of my security settings on Yahoo.

I really only use the yahoo to talk to my DH. I do have a couple of other people listed there as friends but most of them are pretty quiet.

i think lilac has a point in you do get to know people after a while on a forum by the posts they make, you get a pretty good indication as to what they are like



many people here im sure i would get on with well in real life having seen thier reactions to threads, in turn i would say i wouldent get on with some who are nasty in most threads & wouldent want to meet in real life, yup what you write says a lot about who you are

buttercup wrote: what you write says a lot about who you are ;)Spot blushes and slinks into a corner for the rest of the day.

i havent seen many of your posts spot, are you horrible?

Now see, if I ever went to Scotland - I would look up Buttercup.

That Spot though - he seems kind of slinky.

LilacDragon wrote: Now see, if I ever went to Scotland - I would look up Buttercup.

That Spot though - he seems kind of slinky.


awww hopefully one day you will lilac, its beautiful, wrap up well tho its brrr cold

im gunna have to check out spots posts now & form an opinion

SnoozeControl wrote: I think I'd enjoy an evening with Spot, chatting over a few pints of ale. Of course I'd probably end up bending his fingers backwards when he got a little snarky with me.


That is cuz you saw him in his orange undies!