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Oh, then she really isn't a friend, Snooze.

lot of that going around....:yh_whistl

I guess I would consider the circumstances but in general I choose not to have people like that in my life.

2 things I cannot tolerate: a liar and a thief. When someone lies to me, the trust is gone. If it's an online relationship, I'd question them privately. Regardless, no matter the answers, I'd still not be able to trust that person again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

oh i love, LOVE online liars. i mean like BIG liars. women that say they are blonde, six feet tall, and rail thin. I LOVE TO PROVE THEY ARE HAIRY MEN!



now, if it is a friend...someone you consider a friend. well, that just stinks. they are no friend at all. i've made two awesome friends online. i would be DEVISTATED if i found out they were lying. it would also depend on what they were lying about.

BabyRider wrote: 2 things I cannot tolerate: a liar and a thief. When someone lies to me, the trust is gone. If it's an online relationship, I'd question them privately. Regardless, no matter the answers, I'd still not be able to trust that person again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.


Im with BR totally on this one!

There is no reason to lie, why do it, your more than likely going to get caught anyways!!

and if you do then l can not ever trust you..

for the same reason l could not forgive a partner if they cheated..if l forgive you once!!:-3

Hate liars.



Ok what happened now, geez I miss everything when I take naps. :-2

SnoozeControl wrote: You've got an online friend that you've found out has lied through her teeth




Live and learn I guess, but dont get too jaded. Im hoping there are more honest people than dishonest ones. If you start mistrusting everyone, you lose.

SnoozeControl wrote: You've got an online friend that you've found out has lied through her teeth


This is all about me, isn't it?

valerie wrote: This is all about me, isn't it?






I thought it was about Sheryl.

what the hell. What did I lie about?

:-2

Sheryl wrote:



what the hell. What did I lie about?



:-2There you go again. :yh_glasse

man you guys have me all sorts of confused....

Sheryl wrote: man you guys have me all sorts of confused....YOU?!? How do you think WE feel? :-2

What did I do? Help me out here....

Sheryl wrote: What did I do? Help me out here....
:yh_rotfl Fished in! :wah: I just reeled in a nice one! :-6



Could you possibly be nicer, Sheryl? I hardly think so.

We all tell little white lies big deal. :p When it comes down the the big lies then that is different I don't lie, I don't want people to lie to me real simple I don't betray someones trust, I hope they feel the same.

If they lie it's no sweat off my brow, they are the ones that lose out in the long run. It take to much time and energy to maintain lies you have to remember all of them or whoops you get caught. Much easier to deal in the truth..

BabyRider wrote: 2 things I cannot tolerate: a liar and a thief. When someone lies to me, the trust is gone. If it's an online relationship, I'd question them privately. Regardless, no matter the answers, I'd still not be able to trust that person again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
Those thoughts were so close to mine, I thought there for a moment that I had already answered this! Out of my head BR! :wah: I hate liars and thieves. I'd have to ask her privately why lie and she'd better have a darn good answer.

could we have another option? - depends on the lie

example

lie - im a size 10

truth - im a size 16

i have no problem with that

lie - im not sleeping with your husband

truth - i am sleeping with your husband

i have a big problem with that

buttercup wrote: could we have another option? - depends on the lie



example



lie - im a size 10

truth - im a size 16



i have no problem with that



lie - im not sleeping with your husband

truth - i am sleeping with your husband



i have a big problem with thatJust the lie?? :wah:



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To address Snooze's original post, "lied through her teeth" means a big blatant lie. Integrity is paramount for me. If you "lie through your teeth" on one issue, how am I supposed to take your word for gospel on any issue? I can't. Therefore, any important meaningful information that I get from that person will have to be verified by someone else - because the trust is gone. It has nothing to do with the friendship, per se. I can still be friends, but maybe not a confidante.

CARLA wrote: We all tell little white lies big deal. :p When it comes down the the big lies then that is different I don't lie, I don't want people to lie to me real simple I don't betray someones trust, I hope they feel the same.

If they lie it's no sweat off my brow, they are the ones that lose out in the long run. It take to much time and energy to maintain lies you have to remember all of them or whoops you get caught. Much easier to deal in the truth..


Yeah what CARLA said.

Also agree with what BC said, the "degree" of the lie has a very significant impact to it!

SnoozeControl wrote: You've got an online friend that you've found out has lied through her teeth


Snooze you need to ask this person why or it will drive you nut's...

I have a neighbour who lie's about everything from the price of a handbag to claiming to be sober even when you can smell the achohol on her breath. Why..... i really don't know why maybe it's like a disease... they tell lie's and they actually believe whatever come's out of their mouth's or they think they are so convincing we (the victim's) are to stupid to see thought it .I believe to lie to somebody who trust's you is a dispicable thing to do and to gain somebody's friendship by being deceitful is a nasty thing to do and to convince yourself your anything other than what you really are mean's your kidding yourself and you will never be really truely happy and if your lying is so bad your life is based upon that lie then you need psychiatric help - sad really . I do think there is a difference though between telling a little white lie in order to save somebody's feeling's and a blatent lie to mislead or impress people and if you have to impress someone why would you want them as a friend to begin with .