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I don't know what it is.....Bullet got an invite from one of the brothers to come to his house for a cookout, and I just don't feel like going. He thinks I'm digging my heels in because it's about the club, and a brother. I told him maybe I just needed some "alone" time, and I'd meet up with him there later on. I thought that would help, but I've been sitting in my house for a couple hours now, and I still don't feel like going. I know I should, for Bullet, but I just don't want to sit around making small talk and smiling with people I barely know....

Ever have a day where you're just "off" and you can't put a finger on why???

Yeah. And it doesn't matter how many times you tell yourself you're being daft, you just can't snap out of it can you? - How will he feel if you're a no-show?

Uncle Kram wrote: Yeah. And it doesn't matter how many times you tell yourself you're being daft, you just can't snap out of it can you? - How will he feel if you're a no-show?
He'll be disappointed. I will go, eventually, I just have to drag my sorry ass out of this chair. Really weird thing...I don't even feel like riding today, and THAT is never the case!!! Any chance to ride is snapped up like Dove chocolate. Just....not today. And no, I can't snap out of it.

BabyRider wrote: I don't know what it is.....Bullet got an invite from one of the brothers to come to his house for a cookout, and I just don't feel like going. He thinks I'm digging my heels in because it's about the club, and a brother. I told him maybe I just needed some "alone" time, and I'd meet up with him there later on. I thought that would help, but I've been sitting in my house for a couple hours now, and I still don't feel like going. I know I should, for Bullet, but I just don't want to sit around making small talk and smiling with people I barely know....

Ever have a day where you're just "off" and you can't put a finger on why???


Frequently - and I wouldn't dare go 'til I'd worked it out. If I went feeling like that I'd end up talking myself into disliking the place so much I'd never go back.

Sitting stewing on it won't help - do something for you until your mood changes.

Bryn Mawr wrote: Frequently - and I wouldn't dare go 'til I'd worked it out. If I went feeling like that I'd end up talking myself into disliking the place so much I'd never go back.



Sitting stewing on it won't help - do something for you until your mood changes.
Great advice, Bryn....that's why I'm still here and on FG.

BabyRider wrote: Great advice, Bryn....that's why I'm still here and on FG.


Oops - preaching to the converted again

Bryn Mawr wrote: Oops - preaching to the converted again
:yh_rotfl

If that means I'm an FG junkie, well....you're right, I am! I just needed to get that off my chest and this is always the place I come to do such. Now I have to drag my lazy butt to the shower and get ready to go. *sigh* The things we do for love.....

Same thing happened to me last night. I was thinking of having a cosy night in, lit the fire in the lounge room and BF turned up and reminded me that we were supposed to be going out. I just said "I'm not going" and off he went on his own. There was no way I was going out in the cold once I'd lit the fire and got cosy.

I have these days and when I force myself to get out and do whatever it is I'm supposed to be doing, I am glad I went in the end. Maybe this will be the case for you.

Pinky wrote: I feel like that sometimes. There are just the odd times when you just want to be on your own, no matter how much you think of the people you're supposed to go see. When I get like that, I know there's no point in trying to force myself or put on a happy face, as people can tell!

I sometimes tell Si to go out on his own, as at least then I'm not stopping him going out.



I think that in this day and age, you just don't get too much 'me time'...something that is essential to your wellbeing, especially if like me, you happen to be quite happy in your own company.
Exactly. I don't mind my own company at all. And I never stop Bullet from doing his own thing, as long as he understands I am content to just be by myself. It's odd to him, as he likes being around his friends all the time and socializing a lot. Me...I like my alone time.

SnoozeControl wrote: It sounds perfectly normal to me, BR. I enjoy my own company, and sometimes I get a little annoyed when I feel obligated to attend something I don't want to be at. It's better for all involved if I just crawl back under my rock when that happens.
Yeah, well I just got a text message on my phone telling me "Forget it..." Now he's p!ssed I didn't go. Great. So much for "understanding." :-5

Pinky wrote: Just explain to him that just because you didn't fancy it, you had no intention of stopping him from going. Time alone can be a good thing - it gives you more to tell each other.
I tried that. I told him if anyone was missing out on anything then it was me....so what did he have to be mad about? He's not listening right now...he's too ticked off.

BabyRider wrote: Exactly. I don't mind my own company at all. And I never stop Bullet from doing his own thing, as long as he understands I am content to just be by myself. It's odd to him, as he likes being around his friends all the time and socializing a lot. Me...I like my alone time.
Maybe your not ... not yourself.. maybe your finding yourself.

weeder wrote: Maybe your not ... not yourself.. maybe your finding yourself.
Whatcha mean, Weeder? There's something more here that you're trying to say...go ahead and say it....please!

Oh BR, tell him you just didn't feel up to going, it wasn't anything about not wanting to be with him or his friends. *when he's talking to you* Nothing wrong with wanting to stay at home on a day off! And Bullet shouldn't sulk because you choose not to go.

BR, If you don't feel like going don't. I know when I go to events or places I'm not really up for it is always a mistake. I should have listened to what my feeling were telling me. :rolleyes: Bullet will still love you if you don't go I'm sure of that. We all need our space at times and the relationship will be better off for it in most cases..

BabyRider wrote: Exactly. I don't mind my own company at all. And I never stop Bullet from doing his own thing, as long as he understands I am content to just be by myself. It's odd to him, as he likes being around his friends all the time and socializing a lot. Me...I like my alone time.


BR when you really think about it, your job "makes" you have to socialize every working day, whether you want to, or feel like it or not! :wah: So when you're not working & on your own time, it's certainly understandable why you would like to have some of your "me time"!

We all have times where we just wanna be by ourself and if your like me, you have conversations with yourself working out inner problems. If that's not you, then I'm wierd and just admited to all you guys. :wah:

Don't worry!

Not to worry Sheryl I have some great conversations with myself...:-3

cars wrote: BR when you really think about it, your job "makes" you have to socialize every working day, whether you want to, or feel like it or not! :wah: So when you're not working & on your own time, it's certainly understandable why you would like to have some of your "me time"!
Now why is it, that a man whom I've never met, and is thousands of miles from me, understands that, and my own husband does not? Go figure...I shoulda married Cars!! :yh_rotfl

BR--just shake things up and say you'd rather have your Latex friend and the good company from the FG..............:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl Did I say that??? :yh_shhhh :-2

CARLA wrote: Not to worry Sheryl I have some great conversations with myself...:-3


Whew glad I'm not the only one.

Sheryl wrote: Whew glad I'm not the only one.
Oh no, you're definitely not alone!!! I'm right there with you and Carla!!! I had several conversations with myself just tonight, one in particular right after I'd talked to Bullet in which I invented 3 new cuss words!!!

mominiowa wrote: BR--just shake things up and say you'd rather have your Latex friend and the good company from the FG..............:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl Did I say that??? :yh_shhhh :-2
YES YOU DID!!!!! You crack me up, woman. That'd teach the ol' grump, wouldn't it?

BabyRider wrote: I don't know what it is.....Bullet got an invite from one of the brothers to come to his house for a cookout, and I just don't feel like going. He thinks I'm digging my heels in because it's about the club, and a brother. I told him maybe I just needed some "alone" time, and I'd meet up with him there later on. I thought that would help, but I've been sitting in my house for a couple hours now, and I still don't feel like going. I know I should, for Bullet, but I just don't want to sit around making small talk and smiling with people I barely know....

Ever have a day where you're just "off" and you can't put a finger on why???


Sometimes us 'Gals' just need some 'me' time. Guys seem to like the socialising stuff more, specially when they have a common interest like Bullet.

Don't fret about it or your 'me' time'll be wasted....he'll get over it I'm sure. :-4 :-4

And yes I DO get days like that for no particular reason....:-6

Bez wrote: Sometimes us 'Gals' just need some 'me' time. Guys seem to like the socialising stuff more, specially when they have a common interest like Bullet.



Don't fret about it or your 'me' time'll be wasted....he'll get over it I'm sure. :-4 :-4



And yes I DO get days like that for no particular reason....:-6
Ya know what Bezzy? I'm not in the mood for his moods right now, so I'm not going to concern myself with him "getting over it." It's not the end of the world, and we have WAY more important things to worry about than me missing out on a gathering of two or 3 brothers that he wanted me to meet. I'm already over it. If he's not, tough noogies. He's sleeping off his grump now anyway. So there.

BabyRider wrote: Ya know what Bezzy? I'm not in the mood for his moods right now, so I'm not going to concern myself with him "getting over it." It's not the end of the world, and we have WAY more important things to worry about than me missing out on a gathering of two or 3 brothers that he wanted me to meet. I'm already over it. If he's not, tough noogies. He's sleeping off his grump now anyway. So there.


You forgot the :p BR....

Big :yh_hugs for you....

BabyRider wrote: Whatcha mean, Weeder? There's something more here that you're trying to say...go ahead and say it....please!
Your horizons are getting broader... you've got interesting things on your mind to think about. This club and "The Brothers" are getting a little boring?

Remember,I told you when you wrote about the new club and the new people.. that maybe it was time for a change? Big changes are coming.

BabyRider wrote: I don't know what it is.....Bullet got an invite from one of the brothers to come to his house for a cookout, and I just don't feel like going. He thinks I'm digging my heels in because it's about the club, and a brother. I told him maybe I just needed some "alone" time, and I'd meet up with him there later on. I thought that would help, but I've been sitting in my house for a couple hours now, and I still don't feel like going. I know I should, for Bullet, but I just don't want to sit around making small talk and smiling with people I barely know....

Ever have a day where you're just "off" and you can't put a finger on why???






Being anti social is in now, its the "thing" all the kids are doing it cuddles. Being with a lot of people isnt my favorite thing unless Im really psyched about it. I enjoy Thanksgiving, luckily thats only once a year. It takes a lot of energy being social. Pbbttthh on that !

BabyRider wrote: Now why is it, that a man whom I've never met, and is thousands of miles from me, understands that, and my own husband does not? Go figure...I shoulda married Cars!! :yh_rotfl


C'mon now BR, although we've never met in person, we've been friends here in Fg for close to 2 years already. You kinda get to know a person during that time, so. . . . . . . Anyway enjoy your "ME TIME", & Bullet will have to get used to it!

Oh Yeah, and I asked my wife if she thought you & I could get married, but she said naaaaa, she didn't think that would be such a good idea, oh well!!!:p