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koochikoo wrote: Aaargh!

I hate my job. I hate dragging myself out of bed of a morning and forcing myself not to come up with some invented malady so I can call in sick. I know I should be grateful that I have a job at all, jobs being so scarce here, but I find myself wishing I had never sent in that stupid application! I have now come to the conclusion that money can't buy happiness. I was a bit iffy before but now I'm dead certain. If I get a good fortnight in I make quite a good amount of money, but I'm not happy. I think I'd rather be poor and happy than well-off and miserable.

I just don't seem to fit in at work. There's nobody there that's like me. It's mainly all women and I've concluded, by overhearing their conversations, that they secretly hate each other. They are very petty and trivial, and I'm not like that. I really don't associate with any of them. There are a few friendly ones that I talk to in our breaks but it's only small talk, 'gee, it's hot today.' 'So, what shift are you on next week' etc. I have nothing in common with any of them. For eight hours a day I hardly speak two words which is not like me at all. I feel I can't be myself without them looking down on me. I am not used to working with women, I have always worked in male-dominated environments, nearly all of my friends are guys and I don't know how to get along with women, I think all the males in my life have rubbed off on me too much and made me too much like them!

I think of the most mundane jobs I've had before that were made tolerable by the people I worked with. A good atmosphere and a good bunch of workmates can make you happy to go to work every day. I have put in applications for three new jobs. Surely one of them has to go through! Can someone please cross their fingers for me?

Ok, whine over. Sorry for bothering you. :)I can relate to you totally. And I feel for you. I actually just came out of the situation you describe. 3 months miserable on a job. I cannott tell you how I dreaded leaving here each morning. Same scenario. Good jobs are scarce in my area. The salary for my position was great. I also couldnt stand the people I was with either, They were also making me physically ill. I walked out. Couldnt do it. The consequences are quite a bit of worry about paying my bills. But I cannott relate to spending precious life locked into a place we dont want to be. I hope so much that one of the other positions opens up for you. PS. I work in a mans field... the group of women you are with may be horrible. But dont give up on women. There are great ones in the world. If you meet the right ones... you will find you might prefer them to the company of men.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. It's miserable dreading to go to work. I couldn't do it. Although I get annoyed with the people I work with and certain situations, I like my job. I hope you find one you like too.:-6

Whinge away, but don't quit. It's easier to find work if you already have a job. It's proof to a prospective employer that you have a good work ethic.

Acc is right, keep your job, but keep your eye out for any other job opportunities that may come up. I absolutely hate working with groups of women. The tend to be cliqueish and backstabbing. :rolleyes:

You haven't said what your job is. You mention that jobs are scarce where you are and I know from my rels there how difficult it can be. Would you consider moving from your area?

How long have you been employed there? If not very long, you have to get used to the "office politics". This involves both sexes. You have "the good ole boys". "the divas"," the office clowns", and other types of fellow-employees I can't think of right now. Just go to work and do your job as best as you can and, when you can, observe your environment and the characters who work within. Maintain a sense of humor and, if allowed by the boss, play backgroud music on a radio or CD that you like...but play it kinda softly. You're not there to be your fellow employees best friend. The best you can do is try to work together as a team to get the job done. You are only obligated to be professional and courteous. When it comes time to clock-out and go home...you can feel good because you've done an honest days work.

I have worked in an office for twelve years with both male and female co-workers. I do like my job. And...when that alarm goes off every weekday morning at 5am, ewwwwwwww, yuck,.........but by the time I'm on my way to work and awake, I feel better.

If you do find a better opportunity..go for it. And good luck to ya!:)

Hey, whinge away, it's good to let off some steam sometimes, and besides, doing it in a place like this can and usually does lead to some good suggestions.

Putting it bluntly though, If you really do feel that bad about where you work, perhaps then it is time to move in, but as mentioned before in this thread, don't give up the current job before looking for another and never burn your bridges, you never know if you might have to return there in the future, or you may need a referance.

Be honest with yuorself though, have you truly given it your best shot? Sometimes I think the effort you put into a job directly influences how much enjoyment you get out of it. Just a thought.

I have days when I hate my job, and I admit, mostly in my younger days, I have days when I have thought about phoning in sick, but I always think to myself: Why should I let the job get the better of me, or let a certain person ride roughshod over me etc.etc..??

I suppose I am fairly lucky in my job (Licensed security operative) in that The good days usually far outweigh the bad days.

Best of luck and I really do hope things get better for you:):)

P.S. PM me if you want to chat further, I'm full of wisdom... not!!! LOL;)