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If, I had a chance to change my past, I would have liked to spend more time with my kids. (Now adults)

I spent way too much time at work, always looking to advance. I did become sucessful at work, but . . . . . . .at what cost! :-2

If you had "one" thing in your life to do over, what would it be?

Ah, so many things I would change. But we cannot go back. we have set our course that we have selected. To look back too much hurts in retrospect, and for myself it doesn't help at all.

If I could have one selfish wish, I would like to be living in L.A. by my family, and not far away. I do not want to end my days here, but at least when I die be buried in the warm soil in the land where the sun shines so happily.

But then, to have such a thing, would mean unhappiness to one of my children who is very rooted here now, with a lovely boyfriend. Since I made the decision to move here to remarry. It is my solitary road to endure.

The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one.

We're human. We mostly try and make reasonable decisions at the time. Sometimes these have unwelcome consequences we didn't foresee. With hindsight we might have done better. And yet, how can you really know/ Like the chaos theory butterfly effect, you change one little thing... loads of other stuff might also change, and bring even less welcome consequences..

I probably would take back all those years of pouring bourbon down my pie hole. But I cant so onward and upward, only looking back to shake my head once in awhile.

chonsigirl wrote: Ah, so many things I would change. But we cannot go back. we have set our course that we have selected. To look back too much hurts in retrospect, and for myself it doesn't help at all.

If I could have one selfish wish, I would like to be living in L.A. by my family, and not far away. I do not want to end my days here, but at least when I die be buried in the warm soil in the land where the sun shines so happily.

But then, to have such a thing, would mean unhappiness to one of my children who is very rooted here now, with a lovely boyfriend. Since I made the decision to move here to remarry. It is my solitary road to endure.

The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the one.


Chons, you sound like a selfless mother and wife.

I would hog-tie Bullet to the recliner on July 1st, 2005 and not allow him to go help his "buddy."

I always wish I had gone to college instead of getting married right out of high school, but then I wouldn't be the strong person I am today. We can't change the past but we can learn from it and not make the same mistakes in the future. Your kids may be grown now, but spending time with dad would not mean any less to them. I think that as adults, they will understand why you did work so hard.