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yesterday i spent 3 hours cleaning my daughters bedroom, usually i leave it & drop the odd comment in the hope she will take the hint, this seldom works

i retrieved 17 towels, 4 side plates, 1 dinner plate, 2 mugs & 3 glasses

suggestions welcomed as to how to get her to be tidier

Buttercup, it's great to see you again !!!! Best I found was stashed in a cupboard about a whole term's worth of lunch sandwiches, kind of mummified. Grin. Good luck!!

Afterthought: Your house has 17 towels???

thats why i had to give up & clean the room pam, no fun drying yourself with hand towels

some of those plates from yesterday had mummified food on them & i dont know what was congealed in one of the glasses, blue milk maybe :-3

Grin and sigh!!! A garden rake is a useful implement for removing anything and everything from beneath a bed!

your far too calm about this pam, your kids have left home right? :p

Yes. Grin. And I found that when they had no-one to pick up after them, there was a miraculous transformation. Basically, they liked clean and tidy and it happened.

post me your left over valium

Gin and tonic did it for me!!!

(I don't drink that now - grin)

envy

When the mess in my kids rooms got to a certain stage, I used to give them 24 hrs to clear up or after that the rooms would be 'black bagged'. I did this a couple of times telling them I'd taken their stuff to the dump (it was actually locked in the garden shed) and it worked for a while. In the end I just shut the door on it all.

Now they run their own pristine homes and have kids of their own....guess what....same problems...I have to laugh

Exactly, Bez!! I think there's a lot to be said for just shutting the door. Of course if you completely run out of towels, plates, glasses .........................

AussiePam wrote: Exactly, Bez!! I think there's a lot to be said for just shutting the door. Of course if you completely run out of towels, plates, glasses .........................


give'm their own towels and lock yours up.

give them a years supply of paper plates and plastic glasses.........

If I go in my son's room, I'm tying a rope to myself and telling my husband to pull me out if I'm not out in 3 hours. It makes me crazy so I am reading this with interest too.

Peg wrote: If I go in my son's room, I'm tying a rope to myself and telling my husband to pull me out if I'm not out in 3 hours. It makes me crazy so I am reading this with interest too.


The worst scenario is when you have to call in the 'Pest control'... or the 'Decomtamination 'squad.

I'm thinking of all those lovingly made mummified sandwiches ..................................

:wah: ahh the good ol'days where I had path from bedroom door to my bed and my closet.

I was never allowed to have my room get like that. And it didn't. And

still doesn't.



Think of the fire and health hazards, if nothing else!! I like the black

bag idea only I'd really throw stuff out. Or some sort of sanctions

and removal of privileges if it isn't kept clean.



Heck I made my bed every day and make it now right after I climb

out of it!



:-6

valerie wrote: I was never allowed to have my room get like that. And it didn't. And

still doesn't.



Think of the fire and health hazards, if nothing else!! I like the black

bag idea only I'd really throw stuff out. Or some sort of sanctions

and removal of privileges if it isn't kept clean.



Heck I made my bed every day and make it now right after I climb

out of it!



:-6


I didn't have enough posessions to make a mess with, and I shared with my brother and sister. I had a bed... chair beside the bed that doubled as a beside table and a suitcase under the bed for clothes etc. I moved to a room to share with my sister when i was about 11, and I was so thrilled I kept my half immaculate.

Bez wrote: I didn't have enough posessions to make a mess with, and I shared with my brother and sister. I had a bed... chair beside the bed that doubled as a beside table and a suitcase under the bed for clothes etc.




:D Geting out violin.....

Bez wrote: give'm their own towels and lock yours up.

give them a years supply of paper plates and plastic glasses.........


That is exactly what I do. And Jr Minks hates it so I told her ok if you can't find clean towels perhaps every tuesday you could run a load of towels through the wash and put them back into the closet. Hmmm into week 1 and last nite a load was washed. As for the rest of the mess, I walk in, say "my what a mess how do you stand it" she mutters something about she will clean it today and I walk out. I am a firm believer of "shutting the door":D

buttercup wrote: yesterday i spent 3 hours cleaning my daughters bedroom, usually i leave it & drop the odd comment in the hope she will take the hint, this seldom works

i retrieved 17 towels, 4 side plates, 1 dinner plate, 2 mugs & 3 glasses

suggestions welcomed as to how to get her to be tidier
How about taking her to the front door and explaining the fors and againsts of being one side or the other? OK! I know I am being cruel!

meltonpie wrote: How about taking her to the front door and explaining the fors and againsts of being one side or the other? OK! I know I am being cruel!


Now that is funny....

When I was a lass my mum used to let me be messy for a while, then if it got too bad she'd warn me about the "Box"...



If I ignored her warnings everything would then be shoved into this Massive Carboard Box, and then it would be put into the corner of my bedroom, she put everything in it that was left out... food, plates, towels, clothes.. Everything.



I used to think "SO WHAT" "WHO CARES" my rooms tidy and all my stuff is in a box... "GREAT" I thought.... until it came to wanting to go out with my friends... I'd be like "Mum, where's my cream top & Jeans" and she'd shout back "In your Box", this went on for weeks until I had no clothes left to wear to go out with my friends and my room started to stink like the underground sewers beneath me....



I Soon sorted out the "BOX" and kept my room tidy after that... :wah:



I have two babies now who are too young to tidy up after themselves at the moment, but look forward to one day using my mum's magic "BOX" ha ha ha



Bless Mums... Don't you just love them...

shelleybelle73 wrote: When I was a lass my mum used to let me be messy for a while, then if it got too bad she'd warn me about the "Box"...



If I ignored her warnings everything would then be shoved into this Massive Carboard Box, and then it would be put into the corner of my bedroom, she put everything in it that was left out... food, plates, towels, clothes.. Everything.



I used to think "SO WHAT" "WHO CARES" my rooms tidy and all my stuff is in a box... "GREAT" I thought.... until it came to wanting to go out with my friends... I'd be like "Mum, where's my cream top & Jeans" and she'd shout back "In your Box", this went on for weeks until I had no clothes left to wear to go out with my friends and my room started to stink like the underground sewers beneath me....



I Soon sorted out the "BOX" and kept my room tidy after that... :wah:



I have two babies now who are too young to tidy up after themselves at the moment, but look forward to one day using my mum's magic "BOX" ha ha ha



Bless Mums... Don't you just love them...


Now that one is brilliant "The Box" hmmmmm

I shared with my sister for a few years but we used to fight and fall out so much I ended up having to share with my Mum.

Boy, was I glad when Big Sis got married, I finally got my own room that I kept immaculatly............. like a pigsty

I actually ended up putting a lock on my bedroom door to stop my Mum tidying it up, I could never find anything after she'd had a clear up. :rolleyes:

buttercup wrote: yesterday i spent 3 hours cleaning my daughters bedroom, usually i leave it & drop the odd comment in the hope she will take the hint, this seldom works

i retrieved 17 towels, 4 side plates, 1 dinner plate, 2 mugs & 3 glasses

suggestions welcomed as to how to get her to be tidier


Hi there, buttercup. I am essentially a house husband with a twelve year old daughter. I don't really know the answer. Carrot, stick, bribery, corruption?

I've got a company coming tomorrow to take away some of the clutter from the house. Selling some more, and a load is going to charity. We have a girl from near Cherobyl who is staying with us for a month, and she is the right size for her old clothes. But as to a set of crockery in the bedroom???

My son, who is 21 has been staying with me since last January. I throw things in the garbage when I can get away with it. I had to buy a new 40 piece cuttlery set just yesterday... my forks and spoons have dissapeared. I have to keep the door to his room closed when friends visit. I need some nice clean girl to marry him.... Any takers? Hes very handsome.. despite still being a slob

My son, Weeder, is sharing a house in London with his sister. And she is now dealing with the updated version of the mummified sandwiches syndrome. She wrings her hands at me, and I just smile...