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My x-roomate called me about a job for a live-in caretaker back in the city where I used to live near my school. We are going there tonight to see the woman and I may move tonight. I will live there for rent free, and they will buy my food, give me weekends off, and allow me to go to work and school. And I just need to be there with this man and cook for him.

So I just told this man who I have been involved with at the shelter. He and I are on the rocks since I have a new male friend (who I am not sleeping with). He has become very jealous of this new man and began to accuse me of being at a motel with him, while he and I were together on a train to L.A. He called me obsessively for hours while I was with him. We finaly turned off my cell. Then I called the Pastor and told him about his harrassing calls. So this morning I called him while I am at work to tell him I am moving and why. Because he has treated me very badly and continues seeing this other woman. He only got more angry and said it is my fault that we don't get along. But it isn't.

So my x-roommate said I should tell the Pastor about everything after I have a new roof over my head. I may write him a letter and tell him everything. This man should not be in a position that he is in.

I may even go tomorrow morning. And I hope that my new friend with come and visit. There isn't anybody else that I'd want to continue being friends with at that horrible place.

Just wanted to give the news.

Saffron wrote: My x-roomate called me about a job for a live-in caretaker back in the city where I used to live near my school. We are going there tonight to see the woman and I may move tonight. I will live there for rent free, and they will buy my food, give me weekends off, and allow me to go to work and school. And I jsut need to be there with this man and cook for him.

So I just told this man who I have been involved with at the shelter. He and I are on the rocks since I have a new male friend (who I am not sleeping with). He has become very jealous of this new man and began to accuse me of being at a motel with him, while he and I were together on a train to L.A. He called me obsessively for hours while I was with him. We finaly turned off my cell. Then I called the Pastor and told him about his harrassing calls. So this morning I called him while I am at work to tell him I am moving and why. Because he has treated me very badly and continues seeing this other woman. He only got more angry and said it is my fault that we don't get along. But it isn't.

So my x-roommate said I should tell the Pastor about everything after I have a new roof over my head. I may write him a letter and tell him everything. This man should not be in a position that he is in.

I may even go tomorrow morning. And I hope that my new friend with come and visit. There isn't anybody else that I'd want to continue being friends with at that horrible place.

Just wanted to give the news.




if you write the letter... watch your back. that man is crazy.

Hi Saffron --

Good luck! I hope you enjoy your new job.

Perhaps it would be best to write a letter after you've settled into your new home and position.

Keep us posted on what happens. :-6

I agree wait till your in your new environment before you write the letter.

Also what exactly is the medical condition of the Man your will be a caretaker for?? What do they expect from you?? Meals only?? Who else takes care of him if he can't take care of himself?? If he has Alzheimer's you may be in over your head, they can be very difficult to care for sometimes, and experts at making escapes. I'm just concerned for you.

[QUOTE]if you write the letter... watch your back. that man is crazy.[/QUOTE]

CARLA wrote: I'm just concerned for you.


Carla :-4

That's really nice :-6

Thanks everyone for the posts. I am going there to see about it all in a couple of hours. I hope and prayed for this to happen. That I could move to a new home and to get away from this man.

Everyone please pray for me.

Ah, it doesn't look like I will go live in the new place. The man has advanced Alzheimers and his daughter, who I'd be living with has OCD.

I'll have to write more later.

Saffron wrote: Ah, it doesn't look like I will go live in the new place. The man has advanced Alzheimers and his daughter, who I'd be living with has OCD.

I'll have to write more later.




what kind of OCD?

the kind that makes her want to analyze everything I did while I was there. And also she does not want anybody touching anything of her's without gloves on. And other nuttiness.

Saffron wrote: the kind that makes her want to analyze everything I did while I was there. And also she does not want anybody touching anything of her's without gloves on. And other nuttiness.


oh, i see ...that kind.



i hope she was nice otherwise...you just can't seem to escape the crazy people.

ARgi wrote: ...you just can't seem to escape the crazy people.


No,

you

really

can't,

can

you? :wah:

bubble, bubble.........................:p

ARgi wrote: oh, i see ...that kind.



i hope she was nice otherwise...you just can't seem to escape the crazy people.
Uh huh, it's weird.

She is probably crazier than I even know. I mean, she was there telling me how she is seeing a psychiatrist for her OCD and that she is in love with him too. Then her roommate went on to tell me all about how her OCD is.

So then we decided to go out onto the patio and have a smoke. When I took one of her cigarettes, she stopped and stared at me and said "so what was that about"? I said "what"? I thought she'd offered me one, so I just took the pack and lit one up. She said she thought that was weird. I thought it was normal, as she offered me a cigarette. But nevertheless, I am glad that I did that, so that I could see how bad she really is. She made a big deal out of it. It was as if she was trying to analyze me, the way that her psychiatrist does to her.

Then she said she wanted to do a background check on me. I said it was okay and that I didn't have good credit. So she made me embarrassed and said "really, you don't have good credit, because I consider that to be a character flaw when you don't pay your bills." Then she asked me why I don't pay my bills. I told her that I usually pay my rent first then my credit card bills, so that I can have a roof over my head. Needless to say, it was like she was letting her weirdness get out of control. It was very uncomforatable.

I felt I was put down needlessly, and I was supposed to overlook all of her flaws. I know that I would have been taking care of her father, and that she needed to make sure I was okay, but she actually kind of insulted me. I bit my tongue a few times. And I couldn't wait to get the hell out of her house. Now I know that I could not do that job and live there. Even though I so want to get out of the shelter.

:-5