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I know that with family (and who is closer family than yourself?) it's the love that helps you get through the times when you don't like the other family member so much.

You area kidn and giving person. That is why you do the work you do. Here, among your friends, you are funny and witty, and have a good time. You do not have to love yourself, liking is a good way to start.

But what of those who do not even like themselves??

Pinky wrote: There are sme threads here about learning to love yourself...what people have said in them is fab, and makes a lot of sense. however, I just can't get to grips with it!

I like myself, even the bits that others think are a bit strange, lol!

But I can't say that I love myself. But I do have love for a hell of a lot of other people.

Technically, I shouldn't be able to do that, but I can.

Basically, it's been a long old trip...I've arrived where I am today by finding things out for myself. I was brought up to think I was crap at everything and my opinions were worthless. I suppose that's why i'm so overkill on the gobbing off scores sometimes. But understanding why you react the way you do is half the battle right?

I'm pretty bloody proud of the way I turned out, despite the early conditioning. It makes me want to change the lives of kids, which is why I'm in the job I'm I suppose.

Its weird really, I have an oxymoronic personality. I'm loud and confident, but then I worry about how I come across all the time. Stupid huh?

I find it easy to open up n here because I trust everyone so much, but try to get me to do it in RL and I'll make an excuse, crack a crap joke and run a mile.

How do I go about trying to love someone like me?


Hey Pinks

Have you ever heard people say that they love this so and so person but they don't like them? Often this is said about family members.

Or people saying they want to like the person they fall in love with and marry. Liking yourself is a very good thing. Some people just call it accepting themselves the way they are. Some people are just contented with themselves. It all adds up to the same thing......just being happy with yourself, enjoying yourself. The name we give it is not at all as important as how we feel about ourselves.

Hust my 2 cents or pence or pesos or pennies

Pinky

I know many had the same early conditioning (Crap). I'm proud of where I am now in life/ how I turned out/ that I survived it.. Your proud of yourself, where your at / how you turned out/ what you stand for, I'm proud of you and I'm sure many here at FG are proud of you, and you'll receive love from those who know you and those around you.

Patsy

See how strong you are Pinky?

Inspite of all the struggles you have had to go through look at how great a person you have turned out to be! You have the love, respect and friendship of so many people here at FG. I am sure the kids you teach have the same love and respect for you as well. That doesn't come easy, it is not freely given but earned. You should be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished. If you were to meet you on the street I bet you would like the person you saw standing there.

PINKSTER Your just brilliant the way you are sweetie. :-4

weber wrote: Hey Pinks

Have you ever heard people say that they love this so and so person but they don't like them? Often this is said about family members.

Or people saying they want to like the person they fall in love with and marry. Liking yourself is a very good thing. Some people just call it accepting themselves the way they are. Some people are just contented with themselves. It all adds up to the same thing......just being happy with yourself, enjoying yourself. The name we give it is not at all as important as how we feel about ourselves.

Hust my 2 cents or pence or pesos or pennies


Hiya Weber:)

I really like the way you said this :-6

You can just "like" yourself pink if you want to, but we "LOVE" ya!

So there!:)

*pulls out PocketGrand (r) Piano*



Don't go changing, to try and please me

You never let me down before

Don't imagine you're too familiar

And I don't see you anymore

I wouldn't leave you in times of trouble

We never could have come this far

I took the good times, I'll take the bad times

I'll take you just the way you are



Don't go trying some new fashion

Don't change the color of your hair

You always have my unspoken passion

Although I might not seem to care

I don't want clever conversation

I never want to work that hard

I just want someone that I can talk to

I want you just the way you are.



I need to know that you will always be

The same old someone that I knew

What will it take 'till you believe in me

The way that I believe in you.



I said I love you, and that's forever

And this I promise from the heart

I could not love you any better

I love you just the way you are.

cherandbuster wrote: Hiya Weber:)

I really like the way you said this :-6


Hi Cher

I just love the way you are :-4

and that smile is contagious:-6

Liking yourself is just fine! It's a great place to start, and it's a lot more than many people have.

I have had a long journey through life (at an astonishingly young age ) which, with a certain amount of medical and professional health, has taken me from self-loathing, to acceptance to out and out love! I think I'm pretty fab, if I'm honest.

I can look at all the many challenges I've overcome, all the suffering endured, and I can be pretty bl00dy proud of the (relatively) stable, thoughtful and considerate person that has emerged the other side of it all.

So when some of my closest and brutally honest friends tell me that I love myself, I can but agree!!!!

You'll get there chick, stick at it - and try and aportion a little bit of that love for yourself.

Pinky you are so witty I can't keep up with you;)

Pinky wrote:

How do I go about trying to love someone like me?


Baby steps... first go on a date with yourself, but no funny business. See how it goes. I hope this has been helpful my friend

Pinky wrote: LMAO!!!

Thanks for all the replies, I don't feel I have a problem as such, it's more that other threads got me thinking! Talk about some nice stuff to come home to though...you guys are all tops:-4


Eyup pinkster, you don't have a problem!! We all love you because your good humour and warmth is infectious!:-4

Pinky-i admire the heck out of you!!. you're a doll!! :-6

Self-love would worry me, liking yourself is a lot more positive. Either way you're not perfect, you know. There's bits you can improve, but in terms of sheer nice-to-knowness you beat the rest of us hands down. Liking isn't just ok, it's the best any of us could hope to manage. Love's an addictive disease with huge downsides to it, self-love would worry me if I were foolish enough to let it happen. It sounds too uncritically satisfied.

I love you Pinky -- :yh_flower

Look,............When you are born.....you are born ALONE.

when you die,you will be buried ALONE.

So you do not want too spend enternity with some one you don't like.So be true to yourself and learn too love the most important person.YOU.

Shweet tatersalad wrote: Look,............When you are born.....you are born ALONE.

when you die,you will be buried ALONE.

So you do not want too spend enternity with some one you don't like.So be true to yourself and learn too love the most important person.YOU.


Shweet

You speak the truth, my friend :-6

Hamster wrote: Mmmnnnn..Should we leave you two alone???
:yh_rotfl

Pinky wrote: There are sme threads here about learning to love yourself...what people have said in them is fab, and makes a lot of sense. however, I just can't get to grips with it!

I like myself, even the bits that others think are a bit strange, lol!

But I can't say that I love myself. But I do have love for a hell of a lot of other people.

Technically, I shouldn't be able to do that, but I can.

Basically, it's been a long old trip...I've arrived where I am today by finding things out for myself. I was brought up to think I was crap at everything and my opinions were worthless. I suppose that's why i'm so overkill on the gobbing off scores sometimes. But understanding why you react the way you do is half the battle right?

I'm pretty bloody proud of the way I turned out, despite the early conditioning. It makes me want to change the lives of kids, which is why I'm in the job I'm I suppose.

Its weird really, I have an oxymoronic personality. I'm loud and confident, but then I worry about how I come across all the time. Stupid huh?

I find it easy to open up n here because I trust everyone so much, but try to get me to do it in RL and I'll make an excuse, crack a crap joke and run a mile.

How do I go about trying to love someone like me?
If you can laugh at yourself, then you are already there.

guppy wrote: Pinky-i admire the heck out of you!!. you're a doll!! :-6


She sure is - I'd blow her up anytime

Pinky wrote: There are sme threads here about learning to love yourself...what people have said in them is fab, and makes a lot of sense. however, I just can't get to grips with it!

I like myself, even the bits that others think are a bit strange, lol!

But I can't say that I love myself. But I do have love for a hell of a lot of other people.

Technically, I shouldn't be able to do that, but I can.

Basically, it's been a long old trip...I've arrived where I am today by finding things out for myself. I was brought up to think I was crap at everything and my opinions were worthless. I suppose that's why i'm so overkill on the gobbing off scores sometimes. But understanding why you react the way you do is half the battle right?

I'm pretty bloody proud of the way I turned out, despite the early conditioning. It makes me want to change the lives of kids, which is why I'm in the job I'm I suppose.

Its weird really, I have an oxymoronic personality. I'm loud and confident, but then I worry about how I come across all the time. Stupid huh?

I find it easy to open up n here because I trust everyone so much, but try to get me to do it in RL and I'll make an excuse, crack a crap joke and run a mile.

How do I go about trying to love someone like me?


Aw Pinky it is sad to hear of people who have been made to feel less than ... great. Enjoy those who make you feel great about yourself, relish in their love. It makes it easier to like yourself more and more each day. Never for a second think less of yourself weather you like or love you. You are you, and at times you may only be who you can rely upon, so love you

Is just liking myself ok?





We like you enough for you:-4

Pinky wrote: Wise words as always from our Minksy:-4


Ahhhh shucks....

.... a good up bringing that has got me a long way in good and bad times

What's this thread?...."Is just Licking myself ok?" :-3

*reaches for reading glasses.....again*

Uncle Kram wrote: What's this thread?...."Is just Licking myself ok?" :-3

*reaches for reading glasses.....again*


oh Kram I think you need your perscription checked... how many fingers am I holding up....

Well we all know why dogs lick themselves

Pinky wrote: Because they can:D

Uh, Unc...cat might have been a kinder example:-3


Yeah, I don't think Einstein could have come up with a formula as to why dogs lick themselves.