Please allow me a long vent... most of you can skip!
Posted: Fri Oct 13, 2006 9:21 am
Some of you know that recently my aunt passed away. My sister,
who lives in the same little Sierra town, has been trying to take care
of figuring out what happens with my aunt's "estate". (Basically, it's
a piece of property).
I'm doing quite a lot of this: :-5 because of the normal frustrations
of this kind of thing, but also because I'm geographically removed and
because my sister doesn't really seem to "get it". Last night I went
around with her at some length on the phone and really didn't get
anywhere, it wasn't a bad conversation per se but my sis started
making comments about the battery in her cordless going, she sounded
fine to me but I think that's just what she does as an "out".
As far as I can tell, nobody has notified all the organizations that were
sending my aunt money (Soc. Sec., Medi-Cal, etc.) that she is
deceased. My aunt's trailer has been sealed by the sheriff's dept.,
my sis was allowed to get in and rescue my aunt's 2 cats and do
a brief "paperwork" search, but then the trailer was sealed back up.
I can't seem to get my sister to grasp all the little details, like a
fridge full of food going bad, the need to pay mortgage/prop taxes
so that it isn't foreclosed on, and the Medi-Cal estate recovery
program that will likely take any proceeds of a sale. Right now the
lawyer my sis got says 6 months to a year before it's settled, which
I told my sis a month ago at least, and nobody seems to see the
urgency in figuring stuff out like I do.
The lawyer first said (absent the will being found which my aunt told
me about and I think is still in the trailer somewhere!) that my aunt's
estate would go to my mother. Since my mom has advanced Alzheimer's,
that meant my sister in Idaho with the power of attorney would
handle it. Fine. But NOW the lawyer is saying the estate might go to
my 103 year old grandmother, who long ago gave power of attorney
to a "kind neighbor". More :-5 for me, I can tell you!!
I'm REALLY trying to not let this stress me, but it is as you can tell.
I just foresee a BIG hassle down the road, especially since I will be
helping clean out and pack up a trailer that hasn't had anything done
to it for the last 30 years or so. I don't care about possesions, but
I would like to get whatever photos and newspaper articles my aunt
had.
Anyway, thanks gang, it helped me just to type it all out. Anyone
have some comfoting thoughts for me, go ahead on!!
:-6
who lives in the same little Sierra town, has been trying to take care
of figuring out what happens with my aunt's "estate". (Basically, it's
a piece of property).
I'm doing quite a lot of this: :-5 because of the normal frustrations
of this kind of thing, but also because I'm geographically removed and
because my sister doesn't really seem to "get it". Last night I went
around with her at some length on the phone and really didn't get
anywhere, it wasn't a bad conversation per se but my sis started
making comments about the battery in her cordless going, she sounded
fine to me but I think that's just what she does as an "out".
As far as I can tell, nobody has notified all the organizations that were
sending my aunt money (Soc. Sec., Medi-Cal, etc.) that she is
deceased. My aunt's trailer has been sealed by the sheriff's dept.,
my sis was allowed to get in and rescue my aunt's 2 cats and do
a brief "paperwork" search, but then the trailer was sealed back up.
I can't seem to get my sister to grasp all the little details, like a
fridge full of food going bad, the need to pay mortgage/prop taxes
so that it isn't foreclosed on, and the Medi-Cal estate recovery
program that will likely take any proceeds of a sale. Right now the
lawyer my sis got says 6 months to a year before it's settled, which
I told my sis a month ago at least, and nobody seems to see the
urgency in figuring stuff out like I do.
The lawyer first said (absent the will being found which my aunt told
me about and I think is still in the trailer somewhere!) that my aunt's
estate would go to my mother. Since my mom has advanced Alzheimer's,
that meant my sister in Idaho with the power of attorney would
handle it. Fine. But NOW the lawyer is saying the estate might go to
my 103 year old grandmother, who long ago gave power of attorney
to a "kind neighbor". More :-5 for me, I can tell you!!
I'm REALLY trying to not let this stress me, but it is as you can tell.
I just foresee a BIG hassle down the road, especially since I will be
helping clean out and pack up a trailer that hasn't had anything done
to it for the last 30 years or so. I don't care about possesions, but
I would like to get whatever photos and newspaper articles my aunt
had.
Anyway, thanks gang, it helped me just to type it all out. Anyone
have some comfoting thoughts for me, go ahead on!!
:-6