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as many of you know i have a daughter in the states that is very unhappy and she wanted to spend christmas with some people after trying to get through to her for several days

i got through to her mom last night who matter of fact told me chantelle has tried taking her life and is in hospital for several days and to not buy an airline ticket as chantelle wont be coming over for christmas



the mom would not let me have the number of the hospital as it was incovenient for her to talk



so i'm here not knowing how or where my daughter is ,having sobbed my self dry through a sleepless night, sue and i are in agreement that if we dont get chantelle back soon she wont be alive much longer:-1 :-1 :-1

Wendybird;448406 wrote: jimbo hun I am so sorry



My thoughts and love and with you and Suzy. I hope this gets resolved for you soon.



If you need anything babes just holler. I will help anyway I can.



You 2 need something good in your life. You have had it far too rough for too long.



I loves you both and please keep strong for Chantelle.



:-4 :-4


thanks guys obviously i'm destroyed by this my body is shaking and i've cried until my eyes are like to boiled eggs with pepper on them but my spirit is strong things are out of my hands at the moment all i can do is try to stay in control and try to be positive , what else can i do :-6

So Sorry Jimbo, love and hugs to you all. :-4 :yh_hugs

:-1 My heart feels so heavy reading this jimbo,

Every good thought i can spare and more besides are with you and Chantelle right now x

Hey mate - I'm thinking only positive thoughts. Here's to the happy ending that will surely come :yh_hugs :yh_hugs

Maybe her Mom will start to look at why she's so unhappy and start thinking of your Chantelle instead of herself for a change

That woman is so bloody cruel, I am stunned. :-1

You have my best, you guys. Keep up your hope!!

Pinky;448413 wrote: You're right jimbo, all you can do at this point is stay positive.

Are there any other relatives over there that could give you the number or get a message to Chantelle? Or you could look up any hospitals in the area on the net and try giving them a ring round?


This was my first thought too.

Do you have any numbers for Chantelle's friends that you can contact for updates?

Or you could phone the local hospitals and give her name.

Could you send her a mobile phone?

That way you can phone her, she can phone you and you can put money on it for her so she always has credit? (Make sure its one she can use in the US). She could have it turned off when her mum's around so she doesn't even know about it.

Best of luck Jimbo and Suz. I hope things work out for you both very soon. :-6

I can't understand some people, for the past few days i felt that we needed to speak to Chantelle, we had been trying for the last few days but their was no answer and they don't have an answering service, last night we finally got through. I was laying in bed when Jim just dropped the phone, he told me C had taken an overdose, he called Sam back, to be told she's in hospital and she wont e coming over for Christmas and it was 'inconvienient' to talk now!!! What the *******!!!

I really don't understand why Sam wont let C come over here, C has made it clear she wants to come and this is the 2nd time she's taken an overdose in a month. Sam works full time and just comes and goes as she pleases without a thought to Chantelle, it was only 10 days ago she pissed off to Florida and only told C that morning! At least if C came here, i'm always around, i work from home, Jim works local, i could get C a good Dr, she could work for me or she could go to school, maybe after all thats happened she just needs to start a fresh.

I'm going to call Sam in a while to ask if she can come here, i'm going to have to kiss ass when all i feel like doing is kicking it.

I'll let you all know how i get on

SuzyB;448446 wrote: I can't understand some people, for the past few days i felt that we needed to speak to Chantelle, we had been trying for the last few days but their was no answer and they don't have an answering service, last night we finally got through. I was laying in bed when Jim just dropped the phone, he told me C had taken an overdose, he called Sam back, to be told she's in hospital and she wont e coming over for Christmas and it was 'inconvienient' to talk now!!! What the *******!!!

I really don't understand why Sam wont let C come over here, C has made it clear she wants to come and this is the 2nd time she's taken an overdose in a month. Sam works full time and just comes and goes as she pleases without a thought to Chantelle, it was only 10 days ago she pissed off to Florida and only told C that morning! At least if C came here, i'm always around, i work from home, Jim works local, i could get C a good Dr, she could work for me or she could go to school, maybe after all thats happened she just needs to start a fresh.

I'm going to call Sam in a while to ask if she can come here, i'm going to have to kiss ass when all i feel like doing is kicking it.

I'll let you all know how i get on


This child is crying out for help!

Contact child protection services in her area. Even if they weren't married Jim must have some claim to his daughter, especially if her mother leaves her alone and if C is suicidal. There MUST be a contingent to cover this!

At least if you contact them you'll KNOW where you stand and they'll be made aware of C's plight. It surely can't hurt to try. Hugs. :yh_hugs

Oh I am so sorry to hear about this, all of you must be going through such a hard time with this, especially when you have her mother not giving a damn, which must be such a frustration. I say good on you Suzy for trying your upmost to talk some sense into the woman, even though I know you would rather do something else.



Jimbo, both you and Suzy have to stay strong through this tough time, I am certain that all will turn out well in the end, and you must believe this too. My best thoughts and prayers go out to all of you!! :-6

Hope you can talk some sense into the mother, Suzy. That is the easiest and quickest solution.

If worse comes to worse and you think that she is going to remain in danger than you should report it to the local child protection agency. They can tell you what action can be taken and likely intervene in a case where the child has tried to kill herself on more than one occasion. You might be able to wake the mother up by mentioning that you'll feel forced to call the agency if she doesn't convince you of C's safety.

koan;448506 wrote: Hope you can talk some sense into the mother, Suzy. That is the easiest and quickest solution.



If worse comes to worse and you think that she is going to remain in danger than you should report it to the local child protection agency. They can tell you what action can be taken and likely intervene in a case where the child has tried to kill herself on more than one occasion. You might be able to wake the mother up by mentioning that you'll feel forced to call the agency if she doesn't convince you of C's safety.


Yeah, what koan said!

You need legal advice and soon . Chin up mate, be strong for Chantelle :-6

thank you all so much for your kind words and support, i did mention on another thread that Chantelle only came home last month from a 'home', she couldn't stand it there and felt very cut off from her friends and boyfriend, and it was there that her best friend died. I am sure that the authorities must be involved as the number of times she has been taken to hosp and from being in the 'home'. I feel the best thing is C to come here with us, to be around warm, loving and affectionate family. I am calling America in a minute and i'll let you know how i get on, thanks for all your support :-4 :-4

What state is she in? Perhaps one of us can drop in, just so she can see a smiling face.

Accountable;448539 wrote: What state is she in? Perhaps one of us can drop in, just so she can see a smiling face.


Connecticut

Accountable;448539 wrote: What state is she in? Perhaps one of us can drop in, just so she can see a smiling face.


That Mr Acc is a fantabulaus idea:yh_clap i wonder if thats possible :-6

I'm not remotely near there, but some of us are. I sent a pm to one, but I don't know the real distance.



Who lives near Conn?

Accountable;448548 wrote: I'm not remotely near there, but some of us are. I sent a pm to one, but I don't know the real distance.



Who lives near Conn?


Yes please anyone thats near there please let us know, she wouldn't even let us know what hospital she's in, i'm going to try to get numbers of all the hospitals in the area and start calling them.

Can't seem to find any hospitals in CT, if you guys over the pond have any luck can you send the hospital name and number, thanks guys

SuzyB;448554 wrote: Can't seem to find any hospitals in CT, if you guys over the pond have any luck can you send the hospital name and number, thanks guys
On ya Suzy for doin' the phone call thing!

There's about 360 hospitals in CT according to:

http://www.switchboard.com/

Have you a city or one of those ZIPcode things that Americans use?

yea, narrow it down to a citie or county and alot of us will start hunting. What county do they live in. do you know?

i am soooo sorry about this. My heart goes out to you Jimbo, suz, and chantelle.

i hope you manage to get her out of the states soon.

guppy;448567 wrote: yea, narrow it down to a citie or county and alot of us will start hunting. What county do they live in. do you know?



i am soooo sorry about this. My heart goes out to you Jimbo, suz, and chantelle.

i hope you manage to get her out of the states soon.


New Haven, ct

try this site Jimbo.

http://www.usimmigrationsupport.org/pas ... ?NS_cid=17

according to this, if chantelle is seventeen. she may be able to apply for a passport without her mother's consent.

Bored_Wombat;448563 wrote: On ya Suzy for doin' the phone call thing!

There's about 360 hospitals in CT according to:

http://www.switchboard.com/

Have you a city or one of those ZIPcode things that Americans use?


Thank you, the 1st number i tried it was the right one Jim's talking to her now

She couldn't talk properly but we are going to call back later, she has said when she comes over she doesn't want to go back, i'll keep you updated :-4

SuzyB;448584 wrote: Thank you, the 1st number i tried it was the right one Jim's talking to her now


Bonus!

Pinky;448588 wrote: :yh_clap :yh_clap :-6

Fantastic!!!


Thanks Pinks, :-4

Jimbo and Suzy my dear friends

I live in Massachusetts, which is right near Connecticut.

I will do anything to help you.

If you need me

I am there :-6

Rapunzel;448461 wrote: This child is crying out for help!

Contact child protection services in her area. Even if they weren't married Jim must have some claim to his daughter, especially if her mother leaves her alone and if C is suicidal. There MUST be a contingent to cover this!

At least if you contact them you'll KNOW where you stand and they'll be made aware of C's plight. It surely can't hurt to try. Hugs. :yh_hugs


I agree the child protection services need called. Between the egg donor taking off to Florida, the child being in a home and suicide attempts, hopefully they will help fight to get her where she will feel loved and happy.

Peg;448600 wrote: Between the egg donor taking off to Florida


Peg

That was perfectly said :-6

i have just spoken to her she said she wants to come over here to live as soon as she can



i thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for all your support



i did not realise how much of a difference it could make to when you are really down you guys gave me such a lift today i just wish i could hug ya all



thank to every one:-4

Jimbo

We are your family too :-4

Oh how wonderful I got goose bumps when I heard you found her on the first try. Get her a passport (which takes a bit) and now she has something wonderful to look forward to a home with you and Suzy. :-4

Remember Jimbo FG has a great bunch of people as members all over the world we are here to help when ever it is needed in any way humanly possible.

Cher great idea maybe if its not to far you can visit, and cheer her up with your sunshine personality.:-6

Jimbo and Suzy if there is anything I can do let me know, you must feel a bit better now.

Things are certainly looking a lot brighter than last night, we really need to speak to C's mum, but she wont answer our calls, just worried that she'll dash all C's hopes of coming over and she'll feel really bad again and do something silly, C couldn't talk properly earlier as i think the phone was on the nurses station, when we phone later we'll she if she has a direct number. We tried a few times to get hold of Shaun this morning but i know that he leaves really early for work, he is such a tower of strength for Chantelle, i really do believe that he is like a guardian angel looking out for her, he is only 18 and is a really good boy, doesn't do drugs, stuck with C through all her bad times, yet C's mum and step-father treat him awful because he doesn't conform to their standards!!! When we called last night he calmly told us what happened and said he'd help us in anyway possible - what a great kid, anyway i'll post you later:-4

sending you lots of love and prayers!

It's good to come home to good news! :yh_dance

SuzyB;448737 wrote: We tried a few times to get hold of Shaun this morning but i know that he leaves really early for work, he is such a tower of strength for Chantelle, i really do believe that he is like a guardian angel looking out for her, he is only 18 and is a really good boy, doesn't do drugs, stuck with C through all her bad times, yet C's mum and step-father treat him awful because he doesn't conform to their standards!!! When we called last night he calmly told us what happened and said he'd help us in anyway possible - what a great kid, anyway i'll post you later:-4


Gee ... Big guy ...

Does he know and support that we're scheming to take his girlfriend out of his country permanently?:-3