Armistice Of The Sexes.
Posted: Wed Dec 20, 2006 11:52 am
Evolution of mankind has reached a milestone. Men and women always have been basically incompatible. This accounts for the proliferation of Lesbians, Homosexuals and any other same sex arrangements, also spinsterhood, bachelordom, monks and nuns.
No fault. No blame. This misalignment of man and woman is nobody’s fault. I need to make that clear. Feminists and Misogynists think it is the fault of their opposites but it isn’t at all. It may be that in the mists of the vast chunk of evolutionary time, a ‘frisson’ between the sexes was necessary for survival. Too matey might not have worked. It’s the fault of the progress of civilisation and the changes in lifestyle to choice and cushyness.
There’s always been hostility, a sort of armed neutrality between the hers and hims. Most men think women are damned awkward. Most women think men are damned stupid. Living together both need to make adjustments, women even tempered and amenable, men helpful and romantic. This is asking a lot, living apart they don’t need to. They can act like women and men. More men and women live on their own than ever before, either because they are divorced, separated or never married. If they have cohabitated, the longer they subsequently are on their own, and enjoy the benefits of self-determination and cuddling the cat, or meddling with the car, the more likely it is they will stay like that. They find that it works. If there is a boyfriend or girlfriend half a city away, that’s Ok. On balance doing as they please most of the time and being constrained for a little of the time is preferable to constraint most of the time and short periods of doing their own thing.
Inexorably, a recently abandoned partner will, over time, add to the list of desirable qualities in a substitute mate, until Apollo, Socrates and Arnie Schwartzenegger, or Marilyn Monroe, J.K.Rowling and the goddess Venus herself couldn’t meet up to it with their best qualities amalgamated. So it’s the cat and the car and sometimes, ‘See you Saturday.’
Men from mars, women from Venus? Don’t think so. Too close. We’re from different galaxies.
Peter :-6
No fault. No blame. This misalignment of man and woman is nobody’s fault. I need to make that clear. Feminists and Misogynists think it is the fault of their opposites but it isn’t at all. It may be that in the mists of the vast chunk of evolutionary time, a ‘frisson’ between the sexes was necessary for survival. Too matey might not have worked. It’s the fault of the progress of civilisation and the changes in lifestyle to choice and cushyness.
There’s always been hostility, a sort of armed neutrality between the hers and hims. Most men think women are damned awkward. Most women think men are damned stupid. Living together both need to make adjustments, women even tempered and amenable, men helpful and romantic. This is asking a lot, living apart they don’t need to. They can act like women and men. More men and women live on their own than ever before, either because they are divorced, separated or never married. If they have cohabitated, the longer they subsequently are on their own, and enjoy the benefits of self-determination and cuddling the cat, or meddling with the car, the more likely it is they will stay like that. They find that it works. If there is a boyfriend or girlfriend half a city away, that’s Ok. On balance doing as they please most of the time and being constrained for a little of the time is preferable to constraint most of the time and short periods of doing their own thing.
Inexorably, a recently abandoned partner will, over time, add to the list of desirable qualities in a substitute mate, until Apollo, Socrates and Arnie Schwartzenegger, or Marilyn Monroe, J.K.Rowling and the goddess Venus herself couldn’t meet up to it with their best qualities amalgamated. So it’s the cat and the car and sometimes, ‘See you Saturday.’
Men from mars, women from Venus? Don’t think so. Too close. We’re from different galaxies.
Peter :-6
