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More than once lately two people that i am friends with on fg have had little tiffs ,difference of opinion ,me being the most non confrontational person in the world ,just quickly got the hell outa the thread never to return again, but its wrong of me really ,what is the done thing ??? what do you guys do?? private message saying look i think your wrong , just jump in and take the side you think is right ,what have you done that works or have you lost friends trying to calm it down , or even worse does that good friend now not like you ,every time i step off the joke threads its ended in disaster but ...... you never know unless you try ....:-6 :-6

i usually stay out of the tifts.....and go swim upriver somewhere.....:p

If you're friends with them both, I would say letting them handle it themselves is probably the best in most cases.

Taking sides is unproductive. Wont get ya anywhere but in trouble. Unless you have strong feelings on the matter butt out.

Nomad;562958 wrote: Taking sides is unproductive. Wont get ya anywhere but in trouble. Unless you have strong feelings on the matter butt out.





oh yeah who's side you on anyway

















just kidding:wah:

The Bible talks about iron sharpening iron. Without some friction we get dull. On the other hand humor is important for our well being too. I personally have trouble finding the right balance.

What I have found to work, IF you all use MSN is to have a three way conversation and be sorta the (forgotten the word, argh), when you are just there to support them both and give advice to what they say.

crazygal;562962 wrote: What I have found to work, IF you all use MSN is to have a three way conversation and be sorta the (forgotten the word, argh), when you are just there to support them both and give advice to what they say.


well you do seem to make friends pretty easy even with the people you have upset ,well done to you and your crazy breed when you joined i did think oh no ,but sue likes you and i'm not allowed to argue with you any more just leave us poor spellers alone ,no pinks i dont mean you different kind of spell ,oh and by the way you are the only perzson i dont use the spell checker four :wah: :wah: and if lookz right i delibratelly mizzspwll it any way

Clint;562961 wrote: The Bible talks about iron sharpening iron. Without some friction we get dull. On the other hand humor is important for our well being too. I personally have trouble finding the right balance.


well clint they do say abrasion and being rubbed the wrong way shapeth the man ....... or something like that:D

jimbo;562965 wrote: well you do seem to make friends pretty easy even with the people you have upset ,well done to you and your crazy breed when you joined i did think oh no ,but sue likes you and i'm not allowed to argue with you any more just leave us poor spellers alone ,no pinks i dont mean you different kind of spell ,oh and by the way you are the only perzson i dont use the spell checker four :wah: :wah: and if lookz right i delibratelly mizzspwll it any way


Well I will slap you when I see you! FOR!

Thanks for what you said, I think.

I'm still trying to think of that word, grrr. You know when say a couple goes to mediation, you could be the mediator on MSN or something.

jimbo;562965 wrote: well you do seem to make friends pretty easy even with the people you have upset ,well done to you and your crazy breed when you joined i did think oh no ,but sue likes you and i'm not allowed to argue with you any more just leave us poor spellers alone ,no pinks i dont mean you different kind of spell ,oh and by the way you are the only perzson i dont use the spell checker four :wah: and if lookz right i delibratelly mizzspwll it any way




That should keep you busy with your very own arguments :wah:

I will always tell my friends from the start that I don't do arguments and if they try to start one " I'm off out the door "

You can try to defuse a situation but it depends if the other person is ready to comply , some people just start one just for the sake of it , If you cant talk about it together there's just no point .

That's what I think

CrazyCruizChick;562974 wrote: I will always tell my friends from the start that I don't do arguments and if they try to start one " I'm off out the door "



You can try to defuse a situation but it depends if the other person is ready to comply , some people just start one just for the sake of it , If you cant talk about it together there's just no point .



That's what I think




No it isnt

Nomad;562976 wrote: No it isnt


For me it is :p

CrazyCruizChick;562982 wrote: For me it is :p




No I dont think so

Nomad;562983 wrote: No I dont think so


I really do think so

I love a good arguement.

crazygal;563007 wrote: I love a good arguement.




no you dont

jimbo;563014 wrote: no you dont


Yes I do, wanna make something of it? :wah:

crazygal;563018 wrote: Yes I do, wanna make something of it? :wah:




oh crap your totaly imune to me ,well watch it i know nomad



and soberidjit

flopstock;563024 wrote: It's much easier if you just don't bother to have friends, I've found. Then you just give both sides crap and don't have to bother yourself about hurt feelings and such...




ha ha me and suzy are your friends ,hang on flopzilla who's side are you gona be on when we argue

flopstock;563024 wrote: It's much easier if you just don't bother to have friends, I've found. Then you just give both sides crap and don't have to bother yourself about hurt feelings and such...
The thought of you without friends .......... Nope! Can't do it. :-4

jimbo;562951 wrote: More than once lately two people that i am friends with on fg have had little tiffs ,difference of opinion ,me being the most non confrontational person in the world ,just quickly got the hell outa the thread never to return again, but its wrong of me really ,what is the done thing ??? what do you guys do?? private message saying look i think your wrong , just jump in and take the side you think is right ,what have you done that works or have you lost friends trying to calm it down , or even worse does that good friend now not like you ,every time i step off the joke threads its ended in disaster but ...... you never know unless you try ....:-6 :-6
I tried to referee a bad fight once here through PMs. Damn near broke the hand I was holding the olive branch in.



If a friend rejects your friendship because you don't take sides, how good was the friendship really? Of course, that doesn't make it hurt less.

When two friends argue - hmmm usually causes a riot round here then the flopster comes in & sorts it out

Accountable;563043 wrote: I tried to referee a bad fight once here through PMs. Damn near broke the hand I was holding the olive branch in.



If a friend rejects your friendship because you don't take sides, how good was the friendship really? Of course, that doesn't make it hurt less.




well acc i'll explain a bit more wise guy,soberego and bh672 where all arguing over who was my best mate ,

This will probably make no since at all, but I will try, When two friends argue, there friendship usually grows stronger. If someone picks on you, it's because they like you as a friend. When me and my friends argue, we usually become closer that before. Does that make since?

Accountable;563043 wrote: I tried to referee a bad fight once here through PMs. Damn near broke the hand I was holding the olive branch in.



If a friend rejects your friendship because you don't take sides, how good was the friendship really? Of course, that doesn't make it hurt less.




well acc i'll explain a bit more wise guy,soberego and bh672 where all arguing over who was my best mate ,:-6







you know wise guy would say to bh672 that soberano was ,then soberano would say that wisey was and bh672 would say that they both were as he never has had a friend





i just dont know who's day to ruin by saying its them :rolleyes:

Tater Tazz;563048 wrote: This will probably make no since at all, but I will try, When two friends argue, there friendship usually grows stronger. If someone picks on you, it's because they like you as a friend. When me and my friends argue, we usually become closer that before. Does that make since?


No :sneaky: :wah:



I kind of know what you mean, I have become friends wiith someone that I didn't like at all, but her views still niggle me, I just don't tell her anymore.

SuzyB;563052 wrote: No :sneaky: :wah:
Must be all the medication I am taking, Made since to me.

Tater Tazz;563054 wrote: Must be all the medication I am taking, Made since to me.


Sorry hit the submit before I'd finished posting re-read ^^^^^

Tater Tazz;563048 wrote: This will probably make no since at all, but I will try, When two friends argue, there friendship usually grows stronger. If someone picks on you, it's because they like you as a friend. When me and my friends argue, we usually become closer that before. Does that make since?
Suzy beat me to the joke.



The problem isn't two friends arguing; it's when two of your friends, who aren't friends with each other, start fighting. That's the one that can be tough, depending on how serious the fight.

send them each to their respective corners till they settle down.:-6