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Ive been working at a restaurant that I call " The Womens Prison" The reason for this name is because of the way the waitresses behave. The back biting, arguing, gossip, and hostility, never ends. This is an enviorment that is very difficult for me, as I have had the good fortune to work in places where there was much comradly behavior and team work. Ive managed to avoid being drawn into the fray... until last weekend. There is one young woman ( obviously troubled) who from day 1 has been hostile, rude, and agressive towards me. We were scheduled working together in a small pantry, in the back. She made my shift miserable. Mumbling dissatisfactions, under her breath, about my failure to pull my weight. She pushed me on a bad day. I finally told her off. I was very mean to her. I told her she needed professional help, and that with her miserable attitude, she would never be able to work anywhere else. Big Mistake. I felt I was justified in finally blowing. I smugly thought my cocky observations might have an impact on her lousy attitude. I was off for the next 2 days. When I walked in last Wednesday, I could tell that something BIG was wrong. Well, it turns out that in an attempt to " Get Me Back" She and one of her nastly little cohorts, gathered all of the women together, and told them that I had called them all " Trailer Park Trash" Needless to say. they werent too pleased. The incident was the talk of the place for 2 days. A few of the more red neck types are very angry about this. Some of them. who like me. have said they dont believe it. I tried giving an explanation to a few of them, but I finally gace up. I adopted the attitude of believe what you want to. What are the lessons to be learned from this horrendous incident?

When you lay with dogs, you will get fleas.

There is never any profit in anger.

If you cant say something nice, dont say anything

There is never any gratification from being right.

I am horrified to discover that there are really people who behave this way.

I am sick to think that ( even though I didnt make that awful comment) that some of the women were hurt by hearing it.

I have to get out of there.

I have to stop thinking I can change people.

Thats it. Just a little story from the horrible work life, I am living right now.

Your absolutely correct, in everything you said. I need only open my mouth, and they know I am different. The mistake I always make is in thinking that strangers get to know what kind of a person you are. So many people have poor communications skills. Unable to express themselves, or to ask questions... the impressions they have, are often so wrong. Firstly, we have the north, south thing going on here. I am a northerner working with all southerners. Its also country versus city. Im city, even though I live in the country. Many of these women havent graduated high school and they have bad situations at home. They are also treated with disrespect by this employer. I made a very big mistake, losing my cool and having a confrontation with this young woman. I have the ability to use my tongue like a razor blade simply by choosing the right words. Its crazy, but I actually feel ashamed of myself now. Actually, she had no other way to retaliate. The remark I made about her not being able to work anywhere else was very cruel. My goal is to be out of there by December 31st. But still, I hate to leave a bad situation behind me. I wonder if I apologized if it would make things worse....

Do not apologize.

You didn't do anything wrong.

Aw Weeder that has to be absolute Hades to work in that kind of environment. It's a no win situation isn't it. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't. You stand your ground then suddenly everybody is against you.

Its all about the power of the Gob! or Gab, who has the biggest mouth and the better ability to spout off utter crap.

People are going to believe all sorts of ugly crap and no matter what, we just can't change them.

Your right Red... Im just feeling guilty for how mean I was to that horrible girl. I am supposed to be. older. wiser blah blah. But boy, shes been asking for it for 9 months, and groveling just wasnt cutting it anymore. And Juno your right also. For God sake, we are all just trying to make a living.

Minks.... many tourists from Canada are stopping in at The Womens Prison to eat. I spoke to a couple from Ontario just this past weekend. Told them about you and me being Canadian and US ambassadors on the England trip.

weeder;589482 wrote: Minks.... many tourists from Canada are stopping in at The Womens Prison to eat. I spoke to a couple from Ontario just this past weekend. Told them about you and me being Canadian and US ambassadors on the England trip.


ooo I bet they got a kick outta that eh.... what fun, you know I brag about that trip to everybody, still am amazed you and i hopped onto planes from here and jetted off to that great place for that great time

weeder;589478 wrote: Your right Red... Im just feeling guilty for how mean I was to that horrible girl. I am supposed to be. older. wiser blah blah. But boy, shes been asking for it for 9 months, and groveling just wasnt cutting it anymore. And Juno your right also. For God sake, we are all just trying to make a living.


Yeah but sometimes the younger ones need to learn their rank. I know I wouldn't have lasted any nine months before I sunk my teeth into her!