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Well i know i dont work full time,so i do nearly all the house,shopping well you how it is.What i wont do is clear up after any one,which i think is fair.Well i got uo this morning it looked like a bomb hit it.Yesterday we bathed the dogs so we put towels on both of are sofas,which by the end of the evening they fell on the carpet,which is ok as we all went off to bed.

But really made my blood boil is that hubby got up this morning 5'0clock which i dont know why has he did not start work until 7-30:-3 so why did he not think about picking the towels up and just tidy up the mess he made in the kitchen

From now on my new name is DOGS BODY,

neffy;617945 wrote: Well i know i dont work full time,so i do nearly all the house,shopping well you how it is.What i wont do is clear up after any one,which i think is fair.Well i got uo this morning it looked like a bomb hit it.Yesterday we bathed the dogs so we put towels on both of are sofas,which by the end of the evening they fell on the carpet,which is ok as we all went off to bed.

But really made my blood boil is that hubby got up this morning 5'0clock which i dont know why has he did not start work until 7-30:-3 so why did he not think about picking the towels up and just tidy up the mess he made in the kitchen

From now on my new name is DOGS BODY,




:-6 Neffy, my hubby is the same - I just think they don't see it. If I leave him and the kids in the house for any length of time - when I get back the place is a complete tip!

typical...and not for all men, but I understand your frustration. I was married to a man like that and now trying to train my 3 sons to pick up after themselves is a FULL time job!!:-5 :-5

I hope your day got better Neffy, If I lived closer I'd come over and help you tidy up your home and give those doggies treats!!:-4

WonderWendy3;617954 wrote: typical...and not for all men, but I understand your frustration. I was married to a man like that and now trying to train my 3 sons to pick up after themselves is a FULL time job!!

I hope your day got better Neffy, If I lived closer I'd come over and help you tidy up your home and give those doggies treats!!:-4


:-6 Well you don't live so far away from me - so how about you come over here and help me clean my place up and you can give my doggies some treats too :-4

Hi mate,

I am really sorry that you are feeling really crap. I am afraid to say my other half is exactly like that too. They dont see the things that need doing. I only work part time because of a back injury, so i feel ok doing most of the housework. But sometines i really think i have doormat written across my forehead. I am thinking of you mate, i send my love. Dont let it get to you. I hope you day gets better.

Take care.

Clairexx

ThePheasant;617956 wrote: :-6 Well you don't live so far away from me - so how about you come over here and help me clean my place up and you can give my doggies some treats too


Be there in a few hours!:D I would if I could...trust ME!!:-4



Actually I am going to PA this Friday, but not near Allentown:-1

Argh most men are the same. Had a couple of boyfriends who were really great with housework, what a difference it makes!

My sons dad used to say that I should ask if I want help then when I did he'd say I was moaning! Jades dad says that he doesn't live here so why should he help, yet he doesn't mind eating and sleeping here.

neffy;617945 wrote: Well i know i dont work full time,so i do nearly all the house,shopping well you how it is.What i wont do is clear up after any one,which i think is fair.Well i got uo this morning it looked like a bomb hit it.Yesterday we bathed the dogs so we put towels on both of are sofas,which by the end of the evening they fell on the carpet,which is ok as we all went off to bed.

But really made my blood boil is that hubby got up this morning 5'0clock which i dont know why has he did not start work until 7-30:-3 so why did he not think about picking the towels up and just tidy up the mess he made in the kitchen

From now on my new name is DOGS BODY,




It's probably because picking up towels is womens work

Uncle Kram;617965 wrote: It's probably because picking up towels is womens work


:eek:



Bad Krammie - go and stand in the corner (picking up after yourself on the way)

Actually I am going to PA this Friday, but not near Allentown:-1


:-5 :-5

Uncle Kram;617965 wrote: It's probably because picking up towels is womens work


Yes, and there are Man's jobs that they don't do properly and we have to finish those too...

WonderWendy3;617977 wrote: Yes, and there are Man's jobs that they don't do properly and we have to finish those too...


:eek: Well said Wendy

WonderWendy3;617977 wrote: Yes, and there are Man's jobs that they don't do properly and we have to finish those too...
Oh I dunno....some of us have had excellent teachers

WonderWendy3;617977 wrote: Yes, and there are Man's jobs that they don't do properly and we have to finish those too...


:wah:

The trick is to have them watch so they might learn something. At least then they don't have any excuses.

koan;617985 wrote: :wah:

The trick is to have them watch so they might learn something. At least then they don't have any excuses.


that still doesn't work with some though...then they figure they don't have to do it...and can go watch tv...:-5 :-5

neffy;617945 wrote: Well i know i dont work full time,so i do nearly all the house,shopping well you how it is.What i wont do is clear up after any one,which i think is fair.Well i got uo this morning it looked like a bomb hit it.Yesterday we bathed the dogs so we put towels on both of are sofas,which by the end of the evening they fell on the carpet,which is ok as we all went off to bed.

But really made my blood boil is that hubby got up this morning 5'0clock which i dont know why has he did not start work until 7-30:-3 so why did he not think about picking the towels up and just tidy up the mess he made in the kitchen

From now on my new name is DOGS BODY,




What would happen if you brought this up to him?

This thread is kinda funny to me 'cause my fiance is the one who loves to clean and keep things tidy and I'm the one who's messy and disorganized! He says he can always find me by following the trail of my clothes, etc.! :p I do my best to keep things organized since it means a lot to him.

People just have different ways of going about things and different definitions of "tidy." I'd talk to hubby and see if you can get on the same page. Good luck!

Uncle Kram;617965 wrote: It's probably because picking up towels is womens work


well like all men kram just relax

neffy;618007 wrote: well like all men kram just relax


Hey, I'm the tidiest man I know.

laneybug;618002 wrote: What would happen if you brought this up to him?

This thread is kinda funny to me 'cause my fiance is the one who loves to clean and keep things tidy and I'm the one who's messy and disorganized! He says he can always find me by following the trail of my clothes, etc.! :p I do my best to keep things organized since it means a lot to him.

People just have different ways of going about things and different definitions of "tidy." I'd talk to hubby and see if you can get on the same page. Good luck!
oh i do talk to hubby,but it goes in one ear and out of the other.When cleans the house it is done right but what i am saying here is that i dont see why i should clear up not only after him but also my daughter.After all i thought slavery had been banned:wah: :wah:

I've gone on strike many many times..it doesn't work...they just don't care. Until it's important to them...my kids will walk around a piece of trash 20 times, and then I will point to them to pick it up...duh...."why didn't you ask me to earlier":-5 :-5

It just never ends!!:-5

Pinky;618018 wrote: I left the first time because of the bugger being incapable of doing anything for himself, so I stopped doing anything and left for a few months. In the meantime, he learnt how to go out and buy bogroll for himself if there wasn't any (I kid you not, he'd wait hours for me to come home) wash his stuff before he'd used all his clothes (though he did boilwash his phone and cards, hehe!) and figured out that it's easier to load the dishwasher before every single plate, glass and bit of cutlery is used.

Put your foot down for a bit and just do your stuff...leave his for him to sort out. You'd be surprised how quickly they pick it up.




just what the world needs another hairy nipped bra burner :wah: :wah:

Pinky;618026 wrote: What, you'd rather have a grumpy slave-like drudge who's sole purpose is to run around after you? Sorry Jim, you're not allowed to marry your mum.


dont worry pinky i pull my own weight around the place , have i got even more annoying pinks or are you reaching that age :wah: :wah:

Pinky;618039 wrote: No, it's just one of those issues that I feel strongly about, and you know I always react to them.




so i see :-3





any way just to let you know i do all the cooking and help with the shopping



note to self no more jokes about bra burning with pinky :wah:

jimbo;618042 wrote: so i see :-3

note to self no more jokes about bra burning with pinky :wah:


Stand back Pinks - I got him in range!!

ThePheasant;618046 wrote: Stand back Pinks - I got him in range!!




:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl



cowabunga:wah:

for pinkzilla







How To Make Women Happy...

The Point System

(advice according to women)

In the world of romance, one single rule applies: Make the woman happy. Do something she likes and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.

Simple Duties:

You make the bed (+1)

You make the bed, but forget to add the decorative pillows (0)

You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)

You leave the toilet seat up (-5)

You replace the toilet paper roll when it is empty (0)

When the toilet paper roll is barren, you resort to Kleenex (-1)

When the Kleenex runs out you use the next bathroom (-2)

You go out to buy her extra-light panty liners with wings (+5)

In the snow (+8)

But return with beer (-5)

You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)

You check out a suspicious noise and it is nothing (0)

You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)

You pummel it with a six iron (+10)

It's her pet (-10)

Social Engagements At a Party:

You stay by her side the entire party (0)

You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college drinking buddy (-2)

Named Tiffany (-4)

Tiffany is a dancer (-6)

Tiffany has implants (-8)

Her Birthday:

You take her out to dinner (0)

You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)

Okay, it is a sports bar (-2)

And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)

It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted in all of the colors of your favorite sports team (-10)

A Night Out With the Boys:

Go with a pal (-5)

The pal is happily married (-4)

Or frighteningly single (-7)

And he drives a Mustang (-10)

With a personalized license plate that reads GR8 N BED (-15)

A Night Out:

You take her to a movie (+2)

You take her to a movie she likes (+4)

You take her to a movie you hate (+6)

You take her to a movie you like (-2)

It's called DeathCop 9 (-3)

Which features cyborgs that eat humans (-9)

You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

Your Physique:

You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)

You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)

You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to loose jeans and baggy Hawaiian shirts (-30)

You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-800)

Communication: When she wants to talk about a problem:

You listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)

You listen, for over 30 minutes (+5)

You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+100)

She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-20)



The Big Question: She asks, "Do I look fat?"

You hesitate in responding (-10)

You reply, "Where?" (-35)

Any other response (-20)

jimbo;618034 wrote: dont worry pinky i pull my own weight around the place , have i got even more annoying pinks or are you reaching that age :wah: :wah:


Ummmmmmm rightttttttttt :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

SuzyB;618192 wrote: Ummmmmmm rightttttttttt :rolleyes: :rolleyes:




this should of been posted on the bulling thread ,where are the mods and how can you lot let me be picked on like this :-2 :-2

jimbo;618203 wrote: this should of been posted on the bulling thread ,where are the mods and how can you lot let me be picked on like this :-2 :-2


Wow, we are all running to your rescue aren't we old buddy??:wah: :wah:

WonderWendy3;618258 wrote: Wow, we are all running to your rescue aren't we old buddy??:wah: :wah:




good old ww , i knew yu wqould not let me suffer alone like this :-6







oh i have just noticed you are laughing ,oh i get it you have just come to gloat have you

jimbo;618260 wrote: good old ww , i knew yu wqould not let me suffer alone like this :-6







oh i have just noticed you are laughing ,oh i get it you have just come to gloat have you


Nahhhh, gonna stay nuetral on this one Jimbo...but it's not gonna be easy for me!!:rolleyes:

To me it is not a man issue. To me this can be attributed to both sexes as there must be a few women out there like men. So you share a house with a person that you are in love. It is the fact that one partner could sit and watch the other partner doing many chores and not even offer to help. That is not what many call love. Love includes showing your love, showing your respect, showing your loyalty, showing compassion and thoughtfulness. You may be tired when you get in, but so is YOUR partner, dont be so self absorbed, help to do the stuff that needs doing. It actually gets done quicker. Do little bits like make a cuppa. One day do the hoovering. Ironing anything. Your partner will think you are amazing. A lot of partners are told well tell me what needs doing and i will do it, 1 you are an adult you shouldnt need TELLING what to do 2 Thoughtfullness is great just stop and look round the house and think i will do the washing up for my partner because i love her and i want to help. Talking to partners dont help sometimes. So dont talk tell them what you want changing. Explain how them sitting there and not helping is really hurtful, thoughtless and whether they mean it or not, it comes across as i cant be bothered with our relationship. I dont love you, as you have to be bothered to be in love. People may not say this stuff, but that is how your reactions are seen by the person you love, if you meant it or not, what does count is you are upsetting the person the person you love. Now do something about. If you dont then i my eyes you should go back and live with parents.

Take care.

Clairex

suilunguk;618338 wrote: To me it is not a man issue. To me this can be attributed to both sexes as there must be a few women out there like men. So you share a house with a person that you are in love. It is the fact that one partner could sit and watch the other partner doing many chores and not even offer to help. That is not what many call love. Love includes showing your love, showing your respect, showing your loyalty, showing compassion and thoughtfulness. You may be tired when you get in, but so is YOUR partner, dont be so self absorbed, help to do the stuff that needs doing. It actually gets done quicker. Do little bits like make a cuppa. One day do the hoovering. Ironing anything. Your partner will think you are amazing. A lot of partners are told well tell me what needs doing and i will do it, 1 you are an adult you shouldnt need TELLING what to do 2 Thoughtfullness is great just stop and look round the house and think i will do the washing up for my partner because i love her and i want to help. Talking to partners dont help sometimes. So dont talk tell them what you want changing. Explain how them sitting there and not helping is really hurtful, thoughtless and whether they mean it or not, it comes across as i cant be bothered with our relationship. I dont love you, as you have to be bothered to be in love. People may not say this stuff, but that is how your reactions are seen by the person you love, if you meant it or not, what does count is you are upsetting the person the person you love. Now do something about. If you dont then i my eyes you should go back and live with parents.

Take care.

Clairex


very ture claire well said.You ok mate xxxx

Hiya,

Not too bad mate. :-6 Still beating pete into submission:sneaky: Not quite there yet, but i think he is starting to realise i will not be quiet when he is being a pleb, i will tell him. He doesnt like it, but hey lifes not fair. lol. I hope things get better for you mate. I so know what you are going through. I am always here if you need a chat.

Work is going well i really like it. My back is a bit bad today, but it is easing, so i am just chillin on here til i feel a bit better.

Take care.

Clairexxx

jimbo;618203 wrote: this should of been posted on the bulling thread ,where are the mods and how can you lot let me be picked on like this :-2 :-2


Very easily. :p

It always amazes me how my family never notices the trash cans are overflowing or the laundry needs carried up until they see me doing it. :-5

Peg;618815 wrote: Very easily. :p

It always amazes me how my family never notices the trash cans are overflowing or the laundry needs carried up until they see me doing it. :-5


I feel your pain Peg...I really do!!:-5 :-5

suilunguk;618805 wrote: Hiya,

Not too bad mate. Still beating pete into submission Not quite there yet, but i think he is starting to realise i will not be quiet when he is being a pleb, i will tell him. He doesnt like it, but hey lifes not fair. lol. I hope things get better for you mate. I so know what you are going through. I am always here if you need a chat.

Work is going well i really lke it. My back is a bit bad today, but it is easing, so i am just chillin on here til i feel a bit better.

Take care.

Clairexxx


well if you did your womans work like your spozed too they would not get a chance to notice that your not doing your job properly :rolleyes: jeeez do i really need to spell it out why there are so many break ups :wah: :wah:

jimbo;618861 wrote: well if you did your womans work like your spozed too they would not get a chance to notice that your not doing your job properly :rolleyes: jeeez do i really need to spell it out why there are so many break ups :wah: :wah:


Jimbo, I'll let you know when it's safe to come out of hiding!!:-3

I'm wondering why women go with men who are obvious slobs and don't do anything around the house.... and then marry him.

laneybug;619093 wrote: I'm wondering why women go with men who are obvious slobs and don't do anything around the house.... and then marry him.




i'm not married :wah: :wah:







all joking aside i more than pull my weight around the house just love teasing you bra burners:wah:

laneybug;619093 wrote: I'm wondering why women go with men who are obvious slobs and don't do anything around the house.... and then marry him.


hey my husband is not a slob, if he was i would not of married him.

jimbo;619096 wrote: i'm not married :wah: :wah:







all joking aside i more than pull my weight around the house just love teasing you bra burners:wah:


So a "bra burner" is an independent, free-thinking, self-respecting woman, right? And what's wrong with that?

No one can call me a bra burner. Not because I'm not all of what I just listed.. but because I don't even wear 'em!! :sneaky:

laneybug;619105 wrote: So a "bra burner" is an independent, free-thinking, self-respecting woman, right? And what's wrong with that?



No one can call me a bra burner. Not because I'm not all of what I just listed.. but because I don't even wear 'em!! :sneaky:


woop woop hairy legged militant femmo alert

:wah:





just kidding





if you lift your arms up do you look like you have zz top in a headlock :wah:





just trying to get the proper label for you:D

jimbo;619108 wrote: woop woop hairy legged militant femmo alert







just kidding





if you lift your arms up do you look like you have zz top in a headlock :wah:





just trying to get the proper label for you:D


Well its been nice knowing you Jimbo - RIP :-4 :-4

ThePheasant;619119 wrote: Well its been nice knowing you Jimbo - RIP :-4






you dont think i've offended anyone do you :-3









i'm kidding fembots honest i am :wah::wah:

jimbo;619120 wrote: you dont think i've offended anyone do you :-3









i'm kidding fembots honest i am :wah::wah:


No not us girlys - had you worried though :yh_rotfl