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We go through our lives.....there are good times and my goodness there are bad ones also so I was thinking.....If you could rewrite your life......what bit would you want to change the most???

Carolly;621252 wrote: We go through our lives.....there are good times and my goodness there are bad ones also so I was thinking.....If you could rewrite your life......what bit would you want to change the most???


yer phot didnt come up lol

kazalala;621253 wrote: yer photo didnt come up :wah: :wah:I know schhhhhh they may not notice!:-5

Im thinking ,,, omg my brain is hurting:wah:

Wow good question, I think for me one thing I would have changed was the way I handled my first year of divorce I got pretty wrapped up in bitterness and failed to see what was happening to one of my daughters. I spose we can't go through life regretting too much from the past but that is my start of the re-write.

Ok.. i think its not mostly the things that have happened to me that i would change,,, but the way i have been or handled things. In certain circumstances,, if i changed something bad that happened to me,, then it would mean a lot of the good things may not have happened too!

Oh carol this is too hard a question for me:-3 U know im not serious very often:wah:

Carolly;621252 wrote: We go through our lives.....there are good times and my goodness there are bad ones also so I was thinking.....If you could rewrite your life......what bit would you want to change the most???


great thread - Carolly. I am going to ponder on this for a while :-4

Because certain events in our lives, cause other events to happen. So by removing a negative it could change the overall outcome and possibly cause us too loose the positive things that have happened.

ThePheasant;621268 wrote: great thread - Carolly. I am going to ponder on this for a while :-4

Because certain events in our lives, cause other events to happen. So by removing a negative it could change the overall outcome and possibly cause us too loose the positive things that have happened.


Same as wot i said,,, but in better words:-3 :wah: :wah:

I wonder what my life would have been like if i re wrote my birth and was born a man :-3 :wah:

kazalala;621275 wrote: Same as wot i said,,, but in better words:-3 :wah:


Sorry Kaz, I didn't see that - great minds think alike and all that :-4 :-4

ThePheasant;621292 wrote: Sorry Kaz, I didn't see that - great minds think alike and all that :-4


its ok Pheasy:wah: :-4 Im not very artic,, articul,,, er dont speak right good:wah:

minks;621261 wrote: Wow good question, I think for me one thing I would have changed was the way I handled my first year of divorce I got pretty wrapped up in bitterness and failed to see what was happening to one of my daughters. I spose we can't go through life regretting too much from the past but that is my start of the re-write.Minks so much in my life I would rewrite that Im finding it so hard.....thanks love for your comments;)

ThePheasant;621268 wrote: great thread - Carolly. I am going to ponder on this for a while :-4

Because certain events in our lives, cause other events to happen. So by removing a negative it could change the overall outcome and possibly cause us too loose the positive things that have happened.Oh ok love:-2

my life has been hard but its fine , i would change taking my daughter back when she was young and i would prevent the death of my brother in a house fire ,and my cousins murder ,but who is to say that if you changed one thing a whole bunch of other things could happen much worse :-3 :-3





besides its abrasion that shapes men not the smooth times



and on the whole i'm pretty proud how against all odds i'm not a bad guy

I would've moved to Texas while I was single............:yh_drool :wah:

I would have kept my pants on that one time.

Carolly;621299 wrote: Minks so much in my life I would rewrite that Im finding it so hard.....thanks love for your comments;)


nice thing is ya got your future to build on and work with and with luck it will involve some change or changes you made in regards to your past.

Another thing I would have changed, I would have not allowed others to influence me so much that I lost who I truly was. Being on my own again has made me realize this is who I am, this is who I always was, and I am not going to slip into who someone else wants me to be ever again.

This brings me to a bit of an interesting revelation I had the other day, I was walking through the mall with my youngest daughter, and out of one store came this huge young man, not obese huge just a big boy. He had the loudest uproarous laugh going on, and my first instinct was to think good lord how annoying then suddenly that thought was lost and I was thinking gosh he must be having fun and it's good he can laugh so heartily about it. And I walked on undisturbed.

I would have skinny dipped more often ahahahaha

Just for you YZ

YZGI;621365 wrote: I would have kept my pants on that one time.


:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

minks;621368 wrote: I would have skinny dipped more often ahahahaha



Just for you YZ
Finally a taker. Ha Ha!!

minks;621366 wrote: nice thing is ya got your future to build on and work with and with luck it will involve some change or changes you made in regards to your past.

Another thing I would have changed, I would have not allowed others to influence me so much that I lost who I truly was. Being on my own again has made me realize this is who I am, this is who I always was, and I am not going to slip into who someone else wants me to be ever again.

This brings me to a bit of an interesting revelation I had the other day, I was walking through the mall with my youngest daughter, and out of one store came this huge young man, not obese huge just a big boy. He had the loudest uproarous laugh going on, and my first instinct was to think good lord how annoying then suddenly that thought was lost and I was thinking gosh he must be having fun and it's good he can laugh so heartily about it. And I walked on undisturbed.


I love to hear people laugh and see them enjoying themselves..... even if they showing themselves up,, people have commented to me before,, look at them how daft do they look,,, i just say aw they are enjoying themselves so they dont care:wah:

YZGI;621372 wrote: Finally a taker. Ha Ha!!


wassa matter?? didnt u like my bikini??;)

kazalala;621375 wrote: wassa matter?? didnt u like my bikini??;)
Hell yes, bikini's look great laying on the ground of course.

YZGI;621365 wrote: I would have kept my pants on that one time.


me too!

YZGI;621377 wrote: Hell yes, bikini's look great laying on the ground of course.


:eek: :yh_rotfl

I wouldn't have drunk so much that time........





I would have made sure I had that 2nd baby I really wanted but circumstances meant it wasn't wise to.



I wouldn't change much though or I wouldn't be where I am now which is a pretty good place for me.

jimbo;621343 wrote: my life has been hard but its fine , i would change taking my daughter back when she was young and i would prevent the death of my brother in a house fire ,and my cousins murder ,but who is to say that if you changed one thing a whole bunch of other things could happen much worse





besides its abrasion that shapes men not the smooth times



and on the whole i'm pretty proud how against all odds i'm not a bad guy You aint had it easy have you Jim ......hope you have found your rainbow now though love;)

I wouldn't change anything hard in my life. What a boring life if everything was easy. Without the downs I don't think we'd enjoy the ups as much. The only thing I'd change about my life would be how I've responded to the hard times.

laneybug;621502 wrote: I wouldn't change anything hard in my life. What a boring life if everything was easy. Without the downs I don't think we'd enjoy the ups as much. The only thing I'd change about my life would be how I've responded to the hard times.
I want it known I left this one alone.

YZGI;621505 wrote: I want it known I left this one alone.


Oh for God's sake! :wah: :wah:

I think I've responded very well to all of my fiance's hard times. :yh_tong2

There. I didn't leave it alone. :yh_blush

Carolly;621412 wrote: You aint had it easy have you Jim ......hope you have found your rainbow now though love;)


no complaints from me ,i have a beautifull family ,a beautifull woman ,i'm so ugly i'm almost cute and i laugh from dawn till dark ,i'm reasonably healthy and i got it going on :-6 :-6









big time:D

YZGI;621365 wrote: I would have kept my pants on that one time.


:wah: Well you did promise me that you were going too - don't call you 'eazy' for nothing :wah:

ThePheasant;621560 wrote: :wah: Well you did promise me that you were going too - don't call you 'eazy' for nothing :wah:


you're in the coconut club too??

I feel so neglected.....







:D :wah:

sunny104;621608 wrote: you're in the coconut club too??



I feel so neglected.....













:D :wah:


:yh_rotfl :yh_rotfl

Imladris;621400 wrote: I wouldn't have drunk so much that time........





I would have made sure I had that 2nd baby I really wanted but circumstances meant it wasn't wise to.



I wouldn't change much though or I wouldn't be where I am now which is a pretty good place for me.
Sometimes you have to come through the dark to see the light Imladris and it looks like you have and lets hope from now that light will always shine.

Carolly;621252 wrote: We go through our lives.....there are good times and my goodness there are bad ones also so I was thinking.....If you could rewrite your life......what bit would you want to change the most???


I have certainly had good times and bad times, grief and sadness, joy and happiness, misfortune and luck, but I wouldn't change a thing because today I am the sum total of all those experiences and I like who and what I am today.

Huzzah,Lon.

Life is a learning lesson.

If I held on to all the bad, grief and sadness, misfortune, I would never grow.

Learn from living.

If I could change anything it would be not being aware of that sooner..

i wish i hadnt opend that bottle of wine earlier tongiht....:p

Pinky;621960 wrote: I wouldn't have gone out with psycho head when I was 15, I would have got my education when it was free instead of running around being a wildchild, I'd have hassled my boss into getting my work permit in Malta, I would never have got married, I never wouls have gone to the medieval meet at Sandringham. That's probably it!
Oh is that all Pinky!!!:yh_rotfl

Lon;622063 wrote: I have certainly had good times and bad times, grief and sadness, joy and happiness, misfortune and luck, but I wouldn't change a thing because today I am the sum total of all those experiences and I like who and what I am today.Oh Lon what a truely wonderful reply.......good on yer!!;) :-6

JacksDad;622068 wrote: Huzzah,Lon.

Life is a learning lesson.

If I held on to all the bad, grief and sadness, misfortune, I would never grow.

Learn from living.

If I could change anything it would be not being aware of that sooner..


Very Wise Words...............Thankyou.

what i would like to change in my life was not to of ben so nasty to my daughter shelley.I was so hard on her when she was little and even writing this down is making me cry.I was not a great mum and i just wish i was not like that.And i also wish i handled the death of my dad a little better because when i had the phone call to say that my dad died,i screamed and shelley was only 13 and it really did scare her.

neffy;622299 wrote: what i would like to change in my life was not to of ben so nasty to my daughter shelley.I was so hard on her when she was little and even writing this down is making me cry.I was not a great mum and i just wish i was not like that.And i also wish i handled the death of my dad a little better because when i had the phone call to say that my dad died,i screamed and shelley was only 13 and it really did scare her.At least you can see your mistakes Neffy and well done to admitting them love.It takes a big person to own up to stuff that they handled wrong you remember that.

neffy;622299 wrote: what i would like to change in my life was not to of ben so nasty to my daughter shelley.I was so hard on her when she was little and even writing this down is making me cry.I was not a great mum and i just wish i was not like that.And i also wish i handled the death of my dad a little better because when i had the phone call to say that my dad died,i screamed and shelley was only 13 and it really did scare her.


Aww neffy:-4 :yh_hugs.. hey when we become parents its for the first time.. U just do what u think is best at the time> I know i have looked back and thought,, oh i dealt with that wrong, i shgouldnt have done that or said that.. we learn as we go along i think.

thank you for that.I look at my daughter now who is now 20 and she has turned out to be a really lovely young lady.She really looks after me.

neffy;622310 wrote: thank you for that.I look at my daughter now who is now 20 and she has turned out to be a really lovely young lady.She really looks after me.


Well then !!! u must have done summat right:D

yeah i guess i did somewhere along the line:wah: :wah: but to put that to one side i think because my mum bless treated me like that and her mum treated her like that it sometime just goes down the line.But i am the one that has stopped that now

Well I'm certainly not an expert on being a parent, but from a child's perspective I'm sure that your daughter understands what happened all those years ago, and bears no ill feelings toward you, after all being a mother isn't easy. I know I used to be angry with my parents, but now I have grown I understand why they did some of the things that they did or said towards me, be it bad or good, and I feel a better person for it.