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i have been inspired by lots of my fellow FG people ,i'm not going to name anyone as i'm to much of a brain ache to remember every one and i'd hate to miss any one of my heroes out :-6





choco and sixyearsleft Ian ,to name two people are going through some very tough times , i have for one have had better times its true ,so guys how do you stay strong? ,how do you keep going ?,i feel broken and weak at times and i have to dig very deep inside me to find the fight to keep going on





i usually look at someone better braver than me and try to think how much harder they have it than i do and yet they keep going yet i'm struggling this usually gives me the kick up the ass i need



here is one such person i doubt if any of us knew him but what a great guy ,i may fail miserably in my life in my battles but if people say i went out with a millionth of the fight this guy did i know the people i leave behind will be proud of me and at the end of the day thats all down to me



how will you stay strong in your fight ?? and how do you want people to remember you??...... and most of all how will you loved ones remember you?? :-6:-6

very good post jimbo,when i read on here what some people are going through i sit back and take hard lok at myself and my life and what i have got in it.I have been through some very bad times,infact once so bad i wanted to take my own life,but i saw what i was doing to my daughter and how so very sad she was i pulled myself up and became a mum again.

I would like to think people will always remeber me as Ali,honest,loyal and very caring.

And my family a loving mum

jimbo;680886 wrote: i have been inspired by lots of my fellow FG people ,i'm not going to name anyone as i'm to much of a brain ache to remember every one and i'd hate to miss any one of my heroes out :-6





choco and sixyearsleft Ian ,to name two people are going through some very tough times , i have for one have had better times its true ,so guys how do you stay strong? ,how do you keep going ?,i feel broken and weak at times and i have to dig very deep inside me to find the fight to keep going on





i usually look at someone better braver than me and try to think how much harder they have it than i do and yet they keep going yet i'm struggling this usually gives me the kick up the ass i need



here is one such person i doubt if any of us knew him but what a great guy ,i may fail miserably in my life in my battles but if people say i went out with a millionth of the fight this guy did i know the people i leave behind will be proud of me and at the end of the day thats all down to me



how will you stay strong in your fight ?? and how do you want people to remember you??...... and most of all how will you loved ones remember you?? :-6:-6






Oh Lordy!! Jimbo you sure do know how to ask some thought provoking questions at times.....

Personally I have always felt that I have something to prove to society. (because of my disability) Maybe that's been the wrong way to look at life but for the longest time I've been told....."You wouldn't be able to do this because.." or "You can't do that because..."

Well - you know what?? There is no such word as "can't" in my book. I will be the first to admit that life is not always easy but since being an FG member I have realised that there are people here that are a hell of a lot worse off than I am.

The strength and determination of some FG members completely blows my mind.

I have the utmost respect for you guys:-4 I truely believe that I am here for a reason and I'm d@mn sure I'm not gonna give up. Yes there are days when it gets tough but the thing is that we all have people here that can help.

We all need a shoulder to cry on from time to time.....Right?

I want to be remembered as someone who always tried her best - and that I lived life to the full, loved my friends and family end enjoyed everything I did.

jimbo;680886 wrote: i have been inspired by lots of my fellow FG people ,i'm not going to name anyone as i'm to much of a brain ache to remember every one and i'd hate to miss any one of my heroes out :-6





choco and sixyearsleft Ian ,to name two people are going through some very tough times , i have for one have had better times its true ,so guys how do you stay strong? ,how do you keep going ?,i feel broken and weak at times and i have to dig very deep inside me to find the fight to keep going on





i usually look at someone better braver than me and try to think how much harder they have it than i do and yet they keep going yet i'm struggling this usually gives me the kick up the ass i need



here is one such person i doubt if any of us knew him but what a great guy ,i may fail miserably in my life in my battles but if people say i went out with a millionth of the fight this guy did i know the people i leave behind will be proud of me and at the end of the day thats all down to me



how will you stay strong in your fight ?? and how do you want people to remember you??...... and most of all how will you loved ones remember you?? :-6:-6






What keeps me strong hmmm I tend to slip into a bit of a survival mode, I put a lot of the less important things onto the back burner, shift gears and tackle the issues head on. I tend to gain strength from knowing I am not alone in the world in some of my struggles and think gosh is so and so can do it, so can I. I have to admit my FG hero has always been Chonsi.

For me so much that i have faced I have managed to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Meaning things happen, I deal with them, they clear up or we live with it, or we make the best of it.

Also my children keep me afloat, I could never fall apart to the point of not being there for my girls. They are my strength.

How do I want people to remember me, hmmmm gosh I dunno, just as a compassionate person and a good mother, and daughter who "tried hard".

Is it fate that has brought us all here to FG? Have you ever been with a larger group of people in your life who have gone through such incredibly hard times.

Did we find FG by accident, or were we all meant to be here to give and gain strength to and from the others here?

I know it sounds gushy, but I am always amazed by you guys and gals in what you face, yet you all have the wonderfulness to offer up support to your friends here.

Truly a great Forum, you all each and everyone of you deserve a medal. And for everybody in here seeking solace, remember you are among wonderful friends.

I really had to state this all today.

:-6 to everybody.

drugs!!...

I'm kidding...ha....Oh Jimbo that is a good one first thing this morning...Wendy has been having panic attacks and chest pains this week and I have to STOP myself and say....take a deep breath...calm down...Life is getting a bit too stressful for me at the moment, but as always it will be fine...What keeps me strong? I am WonderWendy...ha .....I have 3 beautiful boys that I will NOT let down and I am stubborn as a MULE.

I have just recently reviewed my current situation...in a nutshell...I am 40 years old, single mom, work full time, going to college and just barely make enough to keep our house in my name....but I will find a way to keep my chin up.:-4

I want people to remember me as a Strong Woman who went through a lot of tough times, but came out a winner, because of her love for her children and faith in God.

That sure was sad :-1

Sorry to hear your so down today jimbo.

And to everyone here having a rough time I send my sympathy and well wishes.:yh_flower



That picture Wendy is just too funny! :wah:

I smile and try to laugh alot. Stay positive and focus on things that are happening on a daily basis. I try right now not to think of what has to happen in the future. So, take it one day at a time, and remember, a frown cause more wrinkles than a smile. haha

One foot in front of the other, one breath at a time, think of one thing at a time and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow!!

Imladris;681186 wrote: One foot in front of the other, one breath at a time, think of one thing at a time and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow!!




that answer was a total waste of my time reading it answer the questions dammit :-5:-5















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Imladris;681186 wrote: One foot in front of the other, one breath at a time, think of one thing at a time and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow!!
A wise man once said: Two days from now, tomorrow will be yesterday and it will all be behind us.

There is all kinds of advice for staying strong:

Looking outward at others instead of inward at you own problems.

Praying or meditiating

Staying busy doing something you enjoy doing

Appreciating the joys you do have, no matter how trivial

Having a personal goal to work towards

Spending time with people who love you.

Me, I'm just a face in the crowd. You would pass me on the street and not give me a second thought. But, that's okay. Maybe I've touched a few peoples lives .......maybe they'll smile when they think of me. I hope so.

At the risk of oversimplifying your question.............The big picture. I always try to see the big picture.

Puts things in perspective.

That and realizing that ok things may be ****ed up right now but that will change.

Also for me a very important perspective is to remember to reap the rewards from my lessons.

For all of my shortcomings and screw ups Ive usually been able to learn from them.

Thats the evolution of life.

Getting better at it for the next time you feel like your sinking.

I am not strong Jimbo.I find things tough,I am stresssed by eighteen years of illness that never getes better.I am the sole carer of my hubby.He was in HDU just around ten days ago.He is back home with me now,but I can never relax,because I never know what will happen next.I suppose we just have to cope.Must admit I hit the whisky sometimes.You may notice this as my spelling hits the deck....lol

You and Suzy will be fine,trust me on this.

Mia;681266 wrote: I am not strong Jimbo.I find things tough,I am stresssed by eighteen years of illness that never getes better.I am the sole carer of my hubby.He was in HDU just around ten days ago.He is back home with me now,but I can never relax,because I never know what will happen next.I suppose we just have to cope.Must admit I hit the whisky sometimes.You may notice this as my spelling hits the deck....lol

You and Suzy will be fine,trust me on this.




thanks mia i know i will be fine and suzy too





i am not too good at phrasing things i meant it more as a message to all of FG land especially a few of us that are having a tough time right now :-6:-6

I was thinking as the link was opening up... well, I run for ten miles three times a week and hit the gym six days a week... plus all the physical work I do out in my garden after I leave the office... :p

I've been through more than my share of hardship... and what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. I just keep trodding ahead, and maintain a positive attitude, treat others as I would want to be treated myself, and do my best to better myself mentally and physically.

Sending you both big hugs.Off to my bed now,night night and take care.