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I want to ask this guy out but he is different, and I want something special

sooooooooooooooooooooo, give me advice, ok, he is 21 years older than me.

Age is just a number. :-6

Thanks, Abbey, that is how I feel, but, I want to ask him out in a special way:



so, can I use some help,send flowers what?

Are there any events going on in your town? Like a concert or festival?

December 1st light parade about one hour from here and it's free!!!!

Night time, hopefully it snows, great idea thanks, keep it coming in case that falls through.

Indian Princess;722410 wrote: Thanks, Abbey, that is how I feel, but, I want to ask him out in a special way:





so, can I use some help,send flowers what?Just go for it, why do you feel the need to please him?

Just do it for yourself, life's way too short hon just ask him if he wants to go for a drink sometime and leave it open,

if he's interested you'll know.

Good luck :-6

jimbo;722412 wrote: good grief i was only joking i'm years older than suzy





remind me next time i have toothache to look you to up :rolleyes::rolleyes:Buggeroff! :wah:

Thats what I thought, but my friend said, "You are too direct" Sorry, I just dont see the problem with asking someone out, she said he may view that as too forward because of his age, well ah, he is 61 and I just turned 40, I want to go out, so I will be forward

Indian Princess;722419 wrote: Thats what I thought, but my friend said, "You are too direct" Sorry, I just dont see the problem with asking someone out, she said he may view that as too forward because of his age, well ah, he is 61 and I just turned 40, I want to go out, so I will be forwardAs I said hon, life's too short, take the bull by the horns and just go for it.

Bloomingheck, he's 61 year old if he thinks that's too forward at his time of life then maybe it's time he packed it up!!!

I was pumped up ready too do this thing, and then !!!!!!! My friend who is 42 and a male said"I personally beleive that there is a 10 year limit, after that things in common are scarce and you can not find mutual ground"



I have to rethink this thing.:-5

slinking back too the corner to rethink this whole thing, I should have just asked him last week.

Indian Princess;722422 wrote: I was pumped up ready too do this thing, and then !!!!!!! My friend who is 42 and a male said"I personally beleive that there is a 10 year limit, after that things in common are scarce and you can not find mutual ground"





I have to rethink this thing.:-5Hey, he's a male what can I say!!! :wah:

I would keep your invite lite - as the Christmas evening festival would be fun, in case conversation hits a low.??

Just ask him - he should be flattered.

Good luck

Patsy

abbey;722425 wrote: Hey, he's a male what can I say!!! :wah:


Not this male. Go for it IP.

;)

I just called he wasnt home, but hey, I will try in a little bit, he is probably deer hunting with the guys.

IP...don't listen to your friend just this one time...he's a guy....what the heck does he know??? j/k!! Seriously, that was HIS opinion and not necessarily the gentleman that you would like to ask out!

I say go for it, and if you need me to, I'll call him up and tell him you like him....that's good and all grown up of me, isn't it???:wah::wah:

I agree with Abbey, you only live once sweetie, JUST DO IT!!!:-6

Indian Princess;722403 wrote: I want to ask this guy out but he is different, and I want something special

sooooooooooooooooooooo, give me advice, ok, he is 21 years older than me.


Go for it IP - you won't find out unless you ask. :-4:-4

Age is relative. It's what you have in common (and what you don't) that matters.

I liked your idea of sending him flowers. That's sharp. Nothing too expensive or fancy though at first. Middle ground.

As for where to go, that festival thing sounds good. Or you're in CA right? Why not a museum or an art gallery exhibit? The zoo? Google "creative dates" or "dating ideas" and see what comes up. You might find some good ones.

When you feel pressured to make the date special, remember that it's your personality that does that. Not so much the place you go.

Definitely ask this man out. You'll probably regret it if you don't.

My husband is 10 years older than me, if he was 20 years older I'd still want to be with - just less music in common that's all!!



Go for it, keep it simple and I'm sure he'd be chuffed that someone younger than him finds him attractive (can't you guess who'd love a toy boy!!!):sneaky:

Indian Princess;722422 wrote: I was pumped up ready too do this thing, and then !!!!!!! My friend who is 42 and a male said"I personally beleive that there is a 10 year limit, after that things in common are scarce and you can not find mutual ground"





I have to rethink this thing.:-5
Ok IP, here's the prespective from a 60+ year old man. (for what it's worth) If you're just looking for some fun & having a good time then ask him out, he'll be flattered no matter how you do it. Start off easy by just asking him to go get a coffee. And see if you click, & where it goes from there. If it goes good have some fun. However, if you are even contemplating it to possibly turn into a long term serious relationship, then you really need to rethink it. Because contrary to what the romantics say (& I'm a romantic myself, but now also a realistic) age does make a difference. At 61 pushing 62, and you only 40 for now that's fine. But how about in 10 years from now, when you're 50 & he's "72"!!!? Or 60 & "82"? It's something to really think hard about, at 60 you'd still be near your prime, & him ???? So. . . . . .

You have to go for it. I wish you luck.

Red, I wish I was in CA, nope in Michigan the generic version of Russia, weather wise:wah:

Cars, are you stating that he would find it not worth it? Because for me age is just a number, my last relationship was a 17 and a 1/2 year age difference and that lasted seven years?

I do Jimbo, soo the only thing that I can see is that one, he thinks I wouldnt be interested, I am going to try and call again today, I called yesterday but he wasnt home yet.

The whole thing sounds good for both of you. You're asking him if he'd like to go out with you somewhere, he's got no grounds for jumping to any conclusions at all. Either he'll be pleased at the idea or he won't. You can't lose unless you chicken out of asking.

Presumably he knows who you are so you've some sort of common acquaintance already?

I dont own a web cam, I dont allow my son Travis too post pics, so he said "OK but the same goes for you mum" hmmmmmmmmmm, me thinks Santa may leave one with new rules of stipulation. Ha. Ha. oh, whos the hottie in the pic you posted of you and a group of guys, he was standing right next to you, because I'm thinking I'll ask him next.

Ha. ha. Ha. ha.

On the serious side, I ask older men out because one, physical attraction,intellect,kindness, appreciative in reguards if you make them a sandwich or whatever,gentle, and GREAT LOVERS!!!!

jimbo;722555 wrote: with your looks ,personality and charm there is every hope my friend









all you need is chloroform ,some rope and to find a way to force feed him Viagra :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl





please dont ever leave fg immy no else is worth annoying as much as you are


Good to know I'm valued





Stop using all the smilies fartface!!

um, I beleive all smilies were used up in the "Lets make a story with smiley faces"

Our quota was used up until oh, 2010!!!

Indian Princess;722585 wrote: um, I beleive all smilies were used up in the "Lets make a story with smiley faces"

Our quota was used up until oh, 2010!!!


:yh_pig:yh_cow I found a couple and one especially for Jimbo -:yh_loser

You are too funny!

abbey;722409 wrote: Age is just a number. :-6


So is a back account!:D

Whats a back account? Is that to be bank account? And no, that doesnt fall into it!

I say go for it, too! :-6

Indian Princess;722549 wrote: Cars, are you stating that he would find it not worth it? Because for me age is just a number, my last relationship was a 17 and a 1/2 year age difference and that lasted seven years?
No IP, you have that in reverse. What I said was, if "you" are just looking for fun & think he would be, then by all means go for it & ask him out. "He" would be flattered any way you asked him!!!



But I also mentioned, if you even had the slighest thought of him as possibly being a "lifetime" relationship or commitment, then "age" is a definate concern. Your past relationship, you were younger, "he" was younger, however, in 10 years from now it would have been the same issue. You 50, him 68! Most men upto about 70, are pretty good, but it seems after 70, many men can't keep up with them 50 year ol wimmin!! So just trying to remind you to keep that in mind. If you're not interested in a long term relationship, then forget what was just said!

cars;722731 wrote: No IP, you have that in reverse. What I said was, if "you" are just looking for fun & think he would be, then by all means go for it & ask him out. "He" would be flattered any way you asked him!!!



But I also mentioned, if you even had the slighest thought of him as possibly being a "lifetime" relationship or commitment, then "age" is a definate concern. Your past relationship, you were younger, "he" was younger, however, in 10 years from now it would have been the same issue. You 50, him 68! Most men upto about 70, are pretty good, but it seems after 70, many men can't keep up with them 50 year ol wimmin!! So just trying to remind you to keep that in mind. If you're not interested in a long term relationship, then forget what was just said!


don't forget though that no-one knows what's round the corner - you could be the one being wheeled around whilst he'd still eyeing up the blue rinse brigade!!!:wah:

Imladris;722732 wrote: don't forget though that no-one knows what's round the corner - you could be the one being wheeled around whilst he'd still eyeing up the blue rinse brigade!!!:wah:
Exactally, but would you want to be the 50 year old wheeling around a 70 year old?! :wah:;)

Life is too short for plain biscuits..........Go for it IP........Have your date, it dont work out, you still had a great day and maybe a bit more (allo allo ma sheri).......

At 40 ( snap i turned 40 in March) you can afford to be forward and not look stupid or forward.. My bet is he will be stoked ( no I didnt mean stroked lol) that you asked him. Men love it!......Woman with a bit of oomp. :-4

Ok, read the thread ball is in his court:D

What do the two of you have in common at this point..............job?...are ya neighbors? Use that in conversation over coffee or ice cream. If nothing develops romantically......being friends with an older person is a good thing too.



Just go easy on him, IP.

You can always ask him what he did in the first World War. Joke:wah: You can laugh now..

IP

I would have to agree with Cars

I stated, ask him out for fun & he would be flatterd

As far as a long term relationship - think long & hard before any commitment in regards with the age difference, the age gap will make a difference, no doubt about it..

Patsy

Imladris;722732 wrote: don't forget though that no-one knows what's round the corner - you could be the one being wheeled around whilst he'd still eyeing up the blue rinse brigade!!!:wah:


Haha!! Blue rinse brigade! Immy, you come up with the fuinniest things!

No blue rinse brigade goin on here!!!! :wah::wah: