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At 40.

The day my mother died.

I knew it instantly.

At first thought i would say 19, when i got married , had a job and taking care of my own household for the first time.

but as a farm girl, it's like what you said Jester, we become adults much earlier.

i know i can't remember a time when i didn't realize that we had certain responsibilities if the farm was gonna be successful, and you didn't question why you had to work, it was just part of life that certain things had to be done. i can remember helping with the harvesting of the tobacco as young as 5 years old.

but i guess i first really felt like an adult at 17 when my daddy died, that shifted a lot of the responsibility onto me, since my mom kinda phased out there for a while and didn't take much interest in anything.

I think a person feels like an adult many times through early life. With me, I felt adult-like when Big brother Ike taught me to ride a bicycle at age 5. And later to drive his Ford 'A' and the tractors. And when dad entrusted me with changing oil and doing lube jobs on the machinery. And when I got my first very own shotgun. And when I got away with being in a bar with Ike. And my first sex act with Rosie T--, a well known town gal.

Kinda crept up on me, when my dad walked out and I helped mum with my younger brothers.I was only 8 at the time.

Then when I was 11 and she tried to kill herself my dad was there but couldn't cope with the situation so he just handed me her suicide note and said 'look after her' then he left. I knew I had to be 'grown up' and take charge.

Then when I was 17 and my son was born and I was sure. This was it, when you are responsible for creating a child caring for that child and teaching it you have to be an adult.

Jester;899333 wrote: Wow Red, first I'm sorry for your loss, I know it well myself.

So the responsibility hit you? is that what I hear you saying?


Thanks Jester. Yes, that's what I am saying. The responsibility of having to take care of all the things she normally would have. That "shift" you speak of, for me, I actually felt it happen. It was the sudden feeling that everything my mom had been, at the moment she crossed over, I then was. My job to hold up her legacy. My job to carry myself as a newly motherless child. Kind of hard to explain I guess.

hoppy;899345 wrote: I think a person feels like an adult many times through early life. With me, I felt adult-like when Big brother Ike taught me to ride a bicycle at age 5. And later to drive his Ford 'A' and the tractors. And when dad entrusted me with changing oil and doing lube jobs on the machinery. And when I got my first very own shotgun. And when I got away with being in a bar with Ike. And my first sex act with Rosie T--, a well known town gal.
I didn't know Rosie Palm had a "T" middle initial..:wah:

I just turned 49 and fully expect to feel grown up (adult) by the time I reach 50..

Jester;899440 wrote: Interesting, level of responsibility or realizing your the one in responsbile for others?


I guess it was the level of responsibility, that suddenly went up for me, when i had to start taking care of the business of the family farm at the age of 17. that's what made me feel like an adult i think!

YZGI;899446 wrote: I didn't know Rosie Palm had a "T" middle initial..:wah:


Go ahead, have your fun. :wah::wah:

I let y'all know when I finally get there! :p :rolleyes: :wah:



They say, "you're only as old as you feel"! There are times I feel like 13 again, & then there are times I feel like 90, so . . .

cars;899518 wrote: I let y'all know when I finally get there! :p :rolleyes: :wah:



They say, "you're only as old as you feel"! There are times I feel like 13 again, & then there are times I feel like 90, so . . . :)i first knew i was an adult when during one of my mothers stay in hospital it was upto me to speak to her doctor on her behalf.oh ye also me first pint and me first shag!

Do we ever grow up completely? I don't think so. We learn to take responsibility and all the things an adult does. But inside, we grow up some, and in some ways we never do. I was 16 years old when I went surfing with the local Moondoggies this week, and I frankly want to feel that way inside all the time. :-6

I'm still waiting. :wah::wah:

:wah: I get my come uppances tomorrow, when I have to see the doctor for getting too much water in my old ears while surfing. It is kind of nice not having to hear the TV that's on right now......:wah:

But it was worth it, I will wear ear plugs next time. But I will not be able to hear the TKD master telling me stuff tonight, I think I will be doing push ups as a consequence......:wah:

cars;899518 wrote: I let y'all know when I finally get there! :rolleyes: :wah:



They say, "you're only as old as you feel"! There are times I feel like 13 again, & then there are times I feel like 90, so . . .


I know that feeling.:wah:

Adulthood=Maturity

Becoming a responsible and loving parent to my own children did that to me. But, now that my children have grown up and are out on their own, I am still mature and responsible, but sometimes I can feel like a little kid. :wah:



"Are we there yet?":D

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When I turned 21 finally.:wah:

When I turned 18 and had my first baby:-4

kayleneaussie;899802 wrote: When I turned 18 and had my first baby:-4


I guess in reality 26 when I had my first kid.:wah: Other than that, 21 when I could get into the bars/clubs.

I am about to turn 65 and I haven't felt that way yet and hope I never do. Mind over matter.

I still don't feel like an adult.

It could happen any day now.

Im sure of it.

sunny104;900060 wrote: I still don't feel like an adult.


I don't either - but thats good huh?? :-6

Nomad;901035 wrote: It could happen any day now.

Im sure of it.


I'm still taking notes, Nomad.:wah:

Physically at about age 20 when I had my first car accident... thangs just haven't been the same since... ouch, creek, ugh, eeck, argh.

Mentally prolly bloody never, am to immature to ever mature.:wah: