women your thoughts on a guys thoughts on women please
Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 5:38 am
There's a fundamental error in the piece which is the misperception that men and women are different. They're not. If you draw up a list of lifeforms and spend time with the assorted sexes of each you'll discover that your time with the humans had a lot more in common than your time with any of the others. Stereotyping women with the differences in the article fails to recognize that they're cultural rather than inbuilt, that they're a consequence of the existing stereotype rather than anything essential to the person.
I've brought up girls and left them with a capacity to discard these cultural imprints when they feel inclined and they often do, and the same with the boys. Most of my socializing this year's been with Felicity and she's pretty well untouched by gender taboos so far. Obviously she'll learn what they are eventually but I hope to put her in a position where she can wear them like a coat rather than identify with them - this "young women are herd creatures" is easy enough to overcome if the people around her enable her to choose rather than hand her a straitjacket at an early age.
That whole article's centred on the desirability of possessing someone else. Possession's a sickness, not a state to aim for or to welcome. There are biological imprints relating to monogamy and fidelity but they sure as hell don't match the Western model, the sooner society turns its back on that particular corruption the better.
I've brought up girls and left them with a capacity to discard these cultural imprints when they feel inclined and they often do, and the same with the boys. Most of my socializing this year's been with Felicity and she's pretty well untouched by gender taboos so far. Obviously she'll learn what they are eventually but I hope to put her in a position where she can wear them like a coat rather than identify with them - this "young women are herd creatures" is easy enough to overcome if the people around her enable her to choose rather than hand her a straitjacket at an early age.
That whole article's centred on the desirability of possessing someone else. Possession's a sickness, not a state to aim for or to welcome. There are biological imprints relating to monogamy and fidelity but they sure as hell don't match the Western model, the sooner society turns its back on that particular corruption the better.