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Jester, you are not alone. This year has been filled with nothing but bad news. Everytime I think things may be looking up, something else comes crashing down on us. My mood is so depressed that we don't even have a tree up cuz we know there are no presents to put under it. This is the only Christmas that I wish was just over with already. I'm hoping that next year will be better and that once again I'll look forward to this holiday with excitement and not dread.

I have had a crap year but because I have my little cherub Meline with us I will try to make christmas a great happy loving day for her:-4:-4

Jester;1092683 wrote: Shell go make it a better year!

It is odd to me that I'm feeling this way... but I think the political outlook has a lot to do with it, I'm sure obama is going to destroy our country.

So as you can see, I'm back and forth on this one... I'm usually the type that rips through dodge city and can leave everything aright. Now I'm feeling like I still could, but I don't wanna.

Is it apathy? :-2

So what was the worst of last year? Might as well get it out!


I couldn't agree more about the Obama thing.

There are so many Jester, but a lot I can't put on an open forum...but I think the worst is when my step-daughter stole my wedding rings. It was an act that shot right thru my heart. We did have insurance on them, but I'll never find any that will have the same sentimental value to them, and the sense of betrayal breaks my heart. :-1

shelbell;1092691 wrote: I couldn't agree more about the Obama thing.

There are so many Jester, but a lot I can't put on an open forum...but I think the worst is when my step-daughter stole my wedding rings. It was an act that shot right thru my heart. We did have insurance on them, but I'll never find any that will have the same sentimental value to them, and the sense of betrayal breaks my heart. :-1


ummmmmmmm step daughters grrrrrrrrrrr mine came over for my youngest 21st birthday and started putting her dad down so I stuck up for him and she punched me out:mad::-1 so christmas is going to be difficult this year cause i told hubby if she comes over here I am leaving:mad:

kayleneaussie;1092685 wrote: I have had a crap year but because I have my little cherub Meline with us I will try to make christmas a great happy loving day for her:-4:-4


I'm sorry your year has been so bad kay, at least you have little Meline, it will be worth it to see her adorable little face take in all the wonderment and sights of the season. Give her hugs and kisses for me...and I send you some too sweetheart.:-4 (of course the kisses will be on your cheek!) :wah:

shelbell;1092694 wrote: I'm sorry your year has been so bad kay, at least you have little Meline, it will be worth it to see her adorable little face take in all the wonderment and sights of the season. Give her hugs and kisses for me...and I send you some too sweetheart.:-4 (of course the kisses will be on your cheek!) :wah:


hugs and kisses back at ya shel :-4:-4

Jester;1092700 wrote: You need me to come bodyguard for ya? I need a trip and some dessert, may be we could trade!???:)


ahhhhhhhhhh thats a good idea....a bodyguard.....what sort of dessert do ya want:sneaky:

kayleneaussie;1092692 wrote: ummmmmmmm step daughters grrrrrrrrrrr mine came over for my youngest 21st birthday and started putting her dad down so I stuck up for him and she punched me out:mad::-1 so christmas is going to be difficult this year cause i told hubby if she comes over here I am leaving:mad:


My step daughter did the same a couple of years ago, but I just couldn't hit one of my kids. She kept punching on her dads back, and I kept grabbing her arm and putting her down so she could eat some carpet. We called the police and they put her in jail...she was in jail for her birthday and Thanksgiving. I told my hubby there was no way we were bailing her out.

After stealing my rings, she is not allowed in our house, and that is what hubby said. He's tired of all her crap too. Unfortunately step daughters get so much of their mothers in them, and her mom is nuts and nasty...literally.

Jester;1092712 wrote: A tart! :yh_rotfl


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shelbell;1092710 wrote: My step daughter did the same a couple of years ago, but I just couldn't hit one of my kids. She kept punching on her dads back, and I kept grabbing her arm and putting her down so she could eat some carpet. We called the police and they put her in jail...she was in jail for her birthday and Thanksgiving. I told my hubby there was no way we were bailing her out.

After stealing my rings, she is not allowed in our house, and that is what hubby said. He's tired of all her crap too. Unfortunately step daughters get so much of their mothers in them, and her mom is nuts and nasty...literally.


the same with this ones mum:(

Jester;1092718 wrote: Looky there--- we're cheerin each other up already!:guitarist


thanks I needed a good laugh:-4

It's been a crap year here also, first losing my now 5th job in the last 7 years.... I had gone through chemo-therapy 7 years ago, I never regained my strength back, its been a fight for me with non-stop being out of work, finding work after lengthy times, only to be dismissed again........

Chemo also did some nasty stuff on the brain cells, I just couldn't pick up things that I used to find so simple, hence being let go from those jobs.

I finally had enough, I no longer had the strength to keep fighting anymore with so many jobs......my body had yet another nervous breakdown.....enough was enough........and I was on anti-depressants throughout.

After a years fight, I finally got disability......that didn't feel so damn hot, just told me I was useless now.......I cried and cried and then some.

I am thankful for the letters my oncologist sent to CPP disability, as he said, not everyone gets their energy back and chemo does kill brain cells.

Don't get me wrong, I am thankful for this benefit each month, as my husband was forced to work 65 hour weeks, as we only had one income, that was a guilt trip big time for me also.

yup, been one heck of a year!

Jester;1092696 wrote: Thats true you won't find the same sentimental value of those rings but you still have the sentiments that went with them!

I can see how that is a terrible thing that heppened. I tend to look at things liek that as 'things' and not hold too tight to the items themselves, sounds easy to say but its a hard thing to go through. I do know that Godhas a way of taking the most valued posessions we have and blowing on them to mak esure we dont loose sight of the most important things.

I just relearned that lesson a few weeks ago when I was run off the road while driving my Jeep (my jeep that I have brought with me through five states and pieced together by hand over the past 11 years)- totaled in one roll over accident that miraculously I walked away from.

I am sorry you lost the rings, Shell, that is just terrible.

I hope you gain your daughter back and she learns the lesson too!


hehehe I can tell you are definately NOT a woman. A womans wedding rings are our most dear possession, no matter how big, small or even a band. They are irreplacable to us....so having a child (20) steal them it is the ultimate betrayal.

This daughter has stolen from us many times and of course always lies about it. She has lied about taking my rings but that is the only possibility.

I do understand that possessions are just that...things. My hubby wrecked MY SUV twice in 4 months. I love my Suv, but I knew it could be fixed or replaced.

We pray for her and yes God does miracles and we feel He's the only one that can change her heart. We need to keep our eye's where they belong, on God and realize that Jesus is the reason for the season. But sorry Jester, you just won't understand about the wedding rings...you're a man.

Jester;1092678 wrote: You can add a line or phrase to the title and say on...

My worst Christmas ever was spent in a hotel in San Antonio Texas. It was a cockroach infested dive not 5 miles off post. I was a young soldier alone, arriving to inprocess for a military course only to have the course go unto vacation status, I arrived as a student, 'no room in the inn' so to speak but more like no bother to get me into billeting in the usual fashion so it was sign in and do details and get temp billeting or go find a hotel... I figured I'd catch up on sleep... oh god was I wrong...

The hotel in question was more than a dive, it was prostitute haven, it had a bar next to it, and as I arrived at the hotel there were sheriff deputies arresting several drunk and disorderlies.

I shrugged it off and went to check in... I asked for a quiet room, and got one, with head banging acid rock noise playing full tilt next door, no shower just a bath tub, tv did not work, and the odor was rough to say the least. I'm always prepared though, I had my bed roll and could sleep through anything.

At this point in my life I had not yet had sex, heck I'd kissed a girl on the cheek and that was about it. But coming form the room on the other side was loud rough sex, head board banging sex- moaning and screams of delight, which I could honestly say gave me a shiver of disgust...

But the phone did work and I called for pizza- and they would not deliver to the hotel, so I set out to find the pizza place and get me some pizza. It's never good to get directions from a drunk man in a elf hat... but on my way the wrong direction I passed a Mexican place I went in and ordered, and the food was terrible.

Disappointed I headed back to my hotel, and found my stuff on the front stoop... and a man inside putting his stuff away, and helping himself to my stash of treats that I usually travel with (jerky, peanuts and dr pepper). Now normally I'm a pretty mild guy, but I was tired, disappointed and had a head ache from listening to acid rock and mad head board bumping sex... so I told him he had 3 seconds to get the heck out or the next thing through the door would be him head first. He left rather rapidly and I tossed out my peanuts and jerky...

I laid there for a few hours in the dark, inside my bed roll, on the floor, thinking about why I joined the army- I had to laugh a little bit inside, but I thought deeply about my family and where they were and what they were doing compared to me. The clean heartfelt music of the Christmas season hummed by my sisters and mother in unison as they busied themselves about the kitchen and house in preparation for the upcoming meals, the candles my mother burned, the cinnamon smell, the mint smell, the warmth of my home and the odor of wood smoke drifting in when another visitor would enter our home. My mind drifted deeper in thoughts of home, in all those smells and joyous moments were visions of musicals and Christmas plays by kids dressed in costumes, beautiful solos and choir numbers sung out in joyous union, and the preaching and proclaiming of Gods word bellowed in strong and uncompromising belief, seeing my father dressed in his best suit and hat with his red Christmas scarf. And on and on as my memories richly blessed my heart.

I'm pretty sure I slept for a moment or two, but it was no use the noise was deafening, the parties going on in every room seemed to get louder and louder. I heard broken glass and arguing, and drunken riotous living, carousing, women being beaten up and the cops breaking in doors and arguments and pleads not to be arrested... this went on most of the night but by 3 am it had pretty much settled to a dull roar and most of the drunkards were asleep, or passed out, or probably both.

This incident wasn't the last I ever had, but I made sure in the future about planning my worst Christmas ever to be sure it was my last worse Christmas...

Times have changed, I'm older by 20+ years, I hope I'm wiser, but, I do think this is my second worse Christmas ever.

I find myself, having those same feelings of missing home more than anything, just like that night. Now I'm in a quiet place surrounded by one of my best buds of all time, my son, his girlfriend and a church full of folks, but. I am feeling kind of low. This year started out as a gang buster year, in the first 8 months I made almost 10 times what I made the previous year in terms of money. The last two months I have been selling off my business contracts and am slowly winding down to just about nothing... and for the first time I'm wondering what I'm going to do? There is plenty to do, I mean I can busy myself on the ranch from well before sun up to well after sundown each day and still not get it done, but it's not exactly what I enjoy doing the most. But then life's always about choices eh.

OK they say misery loves company so give me your worst! Your worst day, your worst moment, the worst liver and onions you ever ate, I don't care, just spill it...


woah, that was more than a tough one!:-4

shelbell;1092691 wrote:

.but I think the worst is when my step-daughter stole my wedding rings. It was an act that shot right thru my heart. We did have insurance on them, but I'll never find any that will have the same sentimental value to them, and the sense of betrayal breaks my heart. :-1


I well remember going through this with you Shelly, its one of the worst feelings, when your kids steal from you....been there hun as you know!:-4

still won't forgive my son and that was 15 years ago, sorry, no excuse on that one.

Jester;1092726 wrote: (((((((((hugs))))))))))

Funny how we measure our worth by our work, its a trap actually. I do it too all the time.

But what am I? Really what am I in the things that matter?

I'm a husband, father, son, brother, uncle... those are the occupations that matter, the rest of the things I do are for a living but they arent my life.

Odie, your a magical person, full of wit, and kindness. Everytime I see ya online I light up a bit. Thats what you are, your an encourager to me.

That other stuff doesnt measure your worth, not in the least. If you have enough to get by, then you have enough.

:-4


Thanks Jester, you make me light up!:-4

thing is, I LOVED WORKING, IT WAS A PASSION!

Odie;1092730 wrote: I well remember going through this with you Shelly, its one of the worst feelings, when your kids steal from you....been there hun as you know!:-4

still won't forgive my son and that was 15 years ago, sorry, no excuse on that one.


Thanks sis...I'm glad you lost a few brain cells, it makes you the person you are now, and I love that person. :-4:-4

shelbell;1092741 wrote: Thanks sis...I'm glad you lost a few brain cells, it makes you the person you are now, and I love that person. :-4:-4




as Odie the dog's saying goes, cute but stuipid!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl



:-4

Jester;1092742 wrote: Good Lord lady you got it bad! :yh_rotfl

Home business, there are thousands of home businesses...

I suggest this to many people and they often laugh at me. I'm a farm boy farmin IS the ultimate home business! I made and sold all kinds of things... from wooden toys to furniture, Ive done landscaping, security work, deliveries, answering services---

Here's the thing i'd do if I were you- go find a local college and take a course in how to run your own business.

Then find a small home based business and do it for fun the first year, just have a goal of breaking even. One lady I know in your similar circumstances did phone answering for contractors and dispatched the work to the workers. She made a great living and ended up making more than her hubby. And he was glad too!




I'm bored!

I can't make anything here with 4 cats!:-5:-5



and cannot find anything on-line.

so whats your next idea?

Odie;1092745 wrote: as Odie the dog's saying goes, cute but stuipid!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl



:-4


I don't believe the stupid part sis.

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Jester;1092731 wrote: Oh I lost mine once- yer right, I'm a guy... :-3

Wait- thats not a bad thing right?:-2


Yeah, you're a guy Jester, but why do you have that man pointing a gun at me whenever I respond to you???:-3:-3:-2

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

shelbell;1092747 wrote: I don't believe the stupid part sis.

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


you do know with little brain cells left!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie;1092750 wrote: you do know with little brain cells left!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl


Yeah, I'm not the smartest card in the deck, so we work together well!! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Jester, can we borrow you huntin dog? We need to get Ducky and bring her back to cook her for Christmas dinner...you're invited!

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Jester;1092754 wrote: Ever hunt cats before? :-3



Juskiddin! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

I suggest you find a internet forum to lounge around on and met exotic poeple from around the world, one that has cowboys, and englishmen, irishmen, sister texas girls etc---crazy aussie tarts--- you know, find some entertainment out there.



:-3


I have!:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Jester;1092754 wrote: Ever hunt cats before? :-3



Juskiddin! :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

I suggest you find a internet forum to lounge around on and met exotic poeple from around the world, one that has cowboys, and englishmen, irishmen, sister texas girls etc---crazy aussie tarts--- you know, find some entertainment out there.



:-3


Isn't that what FG is?? :yh_rotfl

Jester;1092755 wrote: I was just thinkin about changin that too, hang on a sec.....


That is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much better!!! If that's you, you're welcome to come over for Christmas!!! What a nice present!!:yh_drool:yh_drool:yh_drool

Jester;1092755 wrote: I was just thinkin about changin that too, hang on a sec.....


ohhhhhhhhhhhhh baby!:-5:-5:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Jester;1092755 wrote: I was just thinkin about changin that too, hang on a sec.....


ummmmmmmmmmmm what a hunk...think I am inlove:-4

Jester;1092768 wrote: Sure!


awwwwww there's my cutie!

the dog, the dog.:wah:

kayleneaussie;1092770 wrote: ummmmmmmmmmmm what a hunk...think I am inlove:-4


is it still Christmas eve there?

Jester;1092776 wrote: Well thats not missy but this dogs close, I dont have any pics of missy on this PC.

I'll have to post one when i get a chance. My other PC's in the shop!


awwwww it looked so much like her, mind you I haven't seen her pic since Hoss posted waaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy back when you were away.

Odie;1092775 wrote: is it still Christmas eve there?


yea its only 2.18pm:-6

Jester;1092772 wrote: I'll still guard your body for a tart!;)


got one special tart here waiting for ya :sneaky:;)