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Hello Everyone,



I think that most of the regular posting members know me pretty well. Could you be honest in your reply to me and help me overcome some of my quick reactions to issues? I know that I can be very sensitive and am working on it:wah:



Unfortunately, I have a quick temper, but I rethink and apologize very quickly about my misunderstanding events.



I know some member think that I'm too sensitive about anti-Americanism, but I can't seem to make myself clear to them that I do understand why they're upset with my country's politics and decisions....That's their right to have this opinion and I respect them for it.



BUT, my issue with certain comments are about the intense dislike of the 'American people themselves' that I feel from some people here. I guess that I'm just not making myself clear and don't want to spend hours trying to locate comments that upset me.



The comments are always that 'we don't hate you but your country's politics. '

But, I felt that these comments were directed to the people not the government.



I will work harder to not be so sensitive and make sure that I do make note of future comments so I'll be able to discuss them in a timely fashion.



On a smaller scale....



I live in a small beach town where many home owners only come down during the warmer months as they live up north from my area. So many of my neighbors who live here year round feel that's it's ok to park in their driveway because the owner is not here. My neighbor and good friend just spent $11,000 to put down pavers and part of them were in her driveway. These neighbors just park there whenever they want and don't have permission. What if their cars have issues such as oil leaks? I've heard that these neighbors also park in my driveway when I go on holidays. To me this is over stepping their boundaries....Am I wrong?



I promise that I won't be sensitive about your replies, and I thank you for your thoughts:-6

I'd put up signs saying non resident cars will be towed at the owners expense and police each others drives for awhile.

oh, about the other... its a just a forum, if you want to go on a rant go ahead. Usually the stuff that gets you upset is just other people getting stuff off their minds too so to hell with it. Just get yourself a soapbox smilie so you can use it whenever you feel like you're losing your cool.

Here's one:

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I was going to say something similar, Koan. :wah:

I was wondering if a drop down bar can be installed across the drive entrance. It would act as a barrier implied, then if somebody lifts it and parks uninvited on the driveway, they can be done for trespass (well they can in the UK). Sometimes people put rocks across their entrances to stop people parking, but that is such a pain to have to move them when it's needed for access by the owner.

You could always put a professional looking notice up on a pole stating that the access is to be left clear at all times, as access is required by the owner at any time. Or words to that effect. But I still think a drop-down barrier (or one that swings round from the side), could help, or maybe a length of chain from posts, right across the entrance to the driveway.

I know it is difficult to watch for these people, and even if you saw them in the act, it could be a bit risky to go and challenge them about it. They could, I suppose, get awkward with you, and maybe a bit angry etc.

I agree with both Koan and Gill they are trespassing and that is against the law. The tow away signs work and can be enforced. The nerve of people anyway. :wah: I would just take care of your driveway and maybe mention to the other home owners what is happening in their absence and let them decide what they want to do.



It is just a forum and sometimes walking away works wonders. You are entitled to your opinion and can rant if you wish. You are a kind wonderful person we all know that and enjoy you very much here in the garden. Just keep being yourself that is most important. :-6

You're a good person, Kathy, and a big person too. It takes a lot to do a thread like this and you have my utmost respect for it. I think you've been a little more sensitive than is necessary, but anyone can be extra sensitive at times about many issues. People worth knowing care enough to ask. :-4:-4

On the other issue, I agree with Koan.

Kathy Ellen;1287025 wrote:

I promise that I won't be sensitive about your replies, and I thank you for your thoughts:-6


Oh yes you will......ALL you Americans are the same. That's an English joke

But seriously.....the second subject first......put a plastic chain across, connected one end and attached to a hook the other, with a sign asking people to keep clear for emergencies.

Now then.....about the anti American comments.

I suspect many are from the English side of the pond, but to give it some perspective, you should read what we say about our own.

It's only a forum Kathy......look at some of the comments.....no names no pack drill.....some amongst us are to put it bluntly NUTTERS......speaking dribble about nothing....because they can (No one can ignore them on here....unlike in day to day life.....well that's why I am here spouting off again)

Kathy Ellen;1287025 wrote: Hello Everyone,



I think that most of the regular posting members know me pretty well. Could you be honest in your reply to me and help me overcome some of my quick reactions to issues? I know that I can be very sensitive and am working on it:wah:



Unfortunately, I have a quick temper, but I rethink and apologize very quickly about my misunderstanding events.



I know some member think that I'm too sensitive about anti-Americanism, but I can't seem to make myself clear to them that I do understand why they're upset with my country's politics and decisions....That's their right to have this opinion and I respect them for it.



BUT, my issue with certain comments are about the intense dislike of the 'American people themselves' that I feel from some people here. I guess that I'm just not making myself clear and don't want to spend hours trying to locate comments that upset me.



The comments are always that 'we don't hate you but your country's politics. '

But, I felt that these comments were directed to the people not the government.



I will work harder to not be so sensitive and make sure that I do make note of future comments so I'll be able to discuss them in a timely fashion.



On a smaller scale....



I live in a small beach town where many home owners only come down during the warmer months as they live up north from my area. So many of my neighbors who live here year round feel that's it's ok to park in their driveway because the owner is not here. My neighbor and good friend just spent $11,000 to put down pavers and part of them were in her driveway. These neighbors just park there whenever they want and don't have permission. What if their cars have issues such as oil leaks? I've heard that these neighbors also park in my driveway when I go on holidays. To me this is over stepping their boundaries....Am I wrong?



I promise that I won't be sensitive about your replies, and I thank you for your thoughts:-6 No, I do not believe you were being over sensitive or rash In your Posts.

There has been a long history here of The Anti-Americanism that had started long before I joined nearly two years ago now. I can still remember how very nasty it got between some members and Jester. Also Accountable posted a thread nearly a Year ago stating that due to the Anti-Americanism, he was leaving FG. He did come back, but some, mentioning no names began to post a series of Joke threads about the Anti-Americanism here and the 'Don't mention the war' threads that just caused even more trouble.

Then... After we had all thought It had been done and dusted, an Insensitive post was posted on the anniversary of 9/11 and that started It all up again.

A few days ago, a post was made by a British Poster that I believed was Offencive. You commented on his post and Unfortunatey Ahso came In to tell you that you were being over-sensitive as he says here. You are not Kathy. You are deeply patriotic and took offence to that post as I did. Ahso, does not know the history of this Anti-American thing here on FG. All he has seen Is one post from a British poster since he returned here. He has not seen all the bitter, nastiness that was going on a year ago. He certainly does not know you as some do on this forum.

There Is a Unique side to the human species. We can critisize our own Governments but when some-one else does, It's Offensive. I can call my husband a Pillock but woe anyone else trying the same. Most people when seeing any post that critises their Government, they Immediately get defensive and why not? That your Country that is being slated and It's perfectly natural to take Offence.

Kathy... Just stay the way you are and don't change one little bit. Also don't let any-one talk you Into believing you are over-reacting. If you or any-one else Is offended by a post then they have every right to challenge It or complain without being told 'Don't worry. It's you over-reacting or being too sensitive'. If we were all to stop challenging and reporting posts that offend Us, members woul carry on with no Idea that they have actually offended. If It is flagged up, at least It can be sorted out and the Garden Is a happier place to be.

We have several vacant homes on a regular basis - Holiday Homes.

On several occasions we've parked our vehicles in the vacant homes driveway.

Some like the activity for safety security reasons.

Some stated it's just not right.

You'll need to post a sign - but Kathy - have you ever been troubled by others parking in your area?

I try to be neighborly - I won't mind the parking - I will mind the oil leak & I would have to speak up.

Patsy

I don't think your overacting to issues here.

A few maybe, if anyone trashed Canada as much as they trash the US, I would resent it, its my country, let them trash their own.



You've always been a very kind, generous and caring person Kathy, if someone starts to get on your nerves, you have no obligation whatsoever to post nor reply, let them think what they want and walk away.





as for what Koan said, I agree.

On your driveway, why not get a cemented-in metal post on each side, each with a ring for a metal chain - and use a couple of padlocks. You can open them with a key. No-one else can. This works Down Under. Speak to your local hardware store, because you'll need something that can't be demolished. Put a "driveway must be kept clear at all times" sign on the middle of the chain, for good measure.

Kathy - I am so sorry about the other stuff. There's been too much of it, and no Forum Garden member, no matter who they are, should be allowed to get away with posting racial hatred.

Kathy I agree with Pam about your driveway....Also stop the way you are Kathy and dont change as your one special friend:-4

Kathy Ellen;1287025 wrote: On a smaller scale....



My neighbor and good friend just spent $11,000 to put down pavers and part of them were in her driveway. These neighbors just park there whenever they want and don't have permission. What if their cars have issues such as oil leaks? I've heard that these neighbors also park in my driveway when I go on holidays. To me this is over stepping their boundaries....Am I wrong?




I would take pictures of the cars parked in your neighbor and good friend's driveway while she is away. This way if there is an oil leak or damage, she knows who is responsible and can approach them. As far as your driveway goes, I agree with the suggestions made. I would use signs and take pictures of the signs that you place on your property warning people not to park there. If at all possible, get your neighbor to take pictures of the cars parked in your driveway while you are on holiday. I guess it boils down to "a picture says a thousand words."

On the first issue, I agree with Koan.

I wanted to end by saying you are one of the nicest and sweetet members I have had the pleasure to meet here on FG. :-4

My take on it.

I've been here 4 or maybe 5 years. This board is American owned and populated mostly by American people, that tells me there would be very little chance of it being racist towards America.

The musings thread in my opinion was against American politics and not directed at American board members. In the 4/5 years i have been here i have noticed each countries politics are ripped into, U.K politics / government gets just as much a ripping as any other.

Do you over react Kathy, yes i think you do but its only natural for someone who is so patriotic. In the U.K although many of us are also patriotic we are more willing to admit our government are assholes, American people find it a direct insult to themselves to suggest their government are assholes.

p.s - I don't like anybody else parking in my space, that's universal

Kathy Ellen;1287025 wrote: Hello Everyone,



I think that most of the regular posting members know me pretty well. Could you be honest in your reply to me and help me overcome some of my quick reactions to issues? I know that I can be very sensitive and am working on it:wah:



Unfortunately, I have a quick temper, but I rethink and apologize very quickly about my misunderstanding events.



I know some member think that I'm too sensitive about anti-Americanism, but I can't seem to make myself clear to them that I do understand why they're upset with my country's politics and decisions....That's their right to have this opinion and I respect them for it.



BUT, my issue with certain comments are about the intense dislike of the 'American people themselves' that I feel from some people here. I guess that I'm just not making myself clear and don't want to spend hours trying to locate comments that upset me.



The comments are always that 'we don't hate you but your country's politics. '

But, I felt that these comments were directed to the people not the government.



I will work harder to not be so sensitive and make sure that I do make note of future comments so I'll be able to discuss them in a timely fashion.



On a smaller scale....



I live in a small beach town where many home owners only come down during the warmer months as they live up north from my area. So many of my neighbors who live here year round feel that's it's ok to park in their driveway because the owner is not here. My neighbor and good friend just spent $11,000 to put down pavers and part of them were in her driveway. These neighbors just park there whenever they want and don't have permission. What if their cars have issues such as oil leaks? I've heard that these neighbors also park in my driveway when I go on holidays. To me this is over stepping their boundaries....Am I wrong?



I promise that I won't be sensitive about your replies, and I thank you for your thoughts:-6


As it happens I think you do manage to find anti-american sentiment where none exists. It's getting to the point that any objective discussion about foreign policy or other gets blown apart by someone (not just you) making accusations of anti-americanism rather than responding objectively to the points made. Then there is the really annoying we saved you from the nazis group who know bugger all about their own history. Yes there are one or two really annoying right wing fascist americans around. It's good fun arguing with them though.

You can't even take the **** out of americans it seems without then taking it personally. Honestly if I can call some british posters welsh sheep shaggers why do you find it offensive if I comment that cowboy hats are a bit gay and what were those chaps doing wrapped round their legs? How is that anti-american|? Why do your policemen dress like members of a village people tribute band? is that anti-american?

Yes there are one or two fairly vitriolic individuals on both sides but I would suggest you adopt a sightly more british attitude and stop worrying what foreigners think-especially if you know they are trying to get a response. Ignoring them is the best tactic, they are inadequates indulging in a form of intellectual masturbation and if you ignore them the rest of the thread is usually quite interesting. Failing that bollocks to you is a good response or if you like we can give a load of appropriate responses, americans seem to lack the ability to construct a good insult. now is that anti-american or a comment on how overly polite Americans can be. Maybe if you swore more often you would be less touchy and prone to find offence.

Maybe it's it's the irish in you but you could start an argument in an empty room. :DNow if you were wholly irish that would be a compliment.

As to the second point. my neighbour asks us to park our car in their drive when they are away as it makes the house look occupied-we have had a series of break ins locally. maybe your neighbours have been asked to do the same. Is it just one particular family? maybe it's just something they consider inconsequential and they expect you would park on theirs the same way. Sometimes people give offence without realising they are.

"As to the second point. my neighbour asks us to park our car in their drive when they are away as it makes the house look occupied-we have had a series of break ins locally. maybe your neighbours have been asked to do the same. "

This is a good point, Kathy. However, if a neighbor does not want someone to park in their space, two poles with a chain across the drive should prevent this.



As to your first point, Kathy, don't change. You are loved just the way you are, my friend.

I know some member think that I'm too sensitive about anti-Americanism, but I can't seem to make myself clear to them that I do understand why they're upset with my country's politics and decisions....That's their right to have this opinion and I respect them for it.

BUT, my issue with certain comments are about the intense dislike of the 'American people themselves' that I feel from some people here. I guess that I'm just not making myself clear and don't want to spend hours trying to locate comments that upset me.


No, you are not over-sensitive. There has been trends of that at times, the same as comments for other's country's political systems and beliefs. I've seen it, so you are not alone. It really is not prevalent lately. And I do not agree with gmc's advice to adopt a British attitude, or we wouldn't be American! We are a totally different culture that came from a common root, and has diversed over time.

Just do not post in those threads if they bother you, it is not a negative thing to concentrate on threads of interest to you and less likely to bring you aggravation.

Parking spaces-it is personal property, and as such is a violation I am sure of local laws. Take a photo, one with the license plate on it, and submit it to the local authorities for action.

When I see you start posting in bold black font, it's a telltale sign something got under your skin and is irritating you.

I agree with Carla, that it's just a forum. Sometimes it's best to walk away from the issue to cool off, then come back and make a comment if you feel it's necessary. We all see things differently. No one person is right or wrong with the way they choose to think about issues. That's what makes everyone unique in their own way.

As for the parked cars in the driveway, post a no parking/trespassing sign, then if anyone parks, call your local police department and tell them you need an abandoned vehicle towed at the owners expense from your driveway.

"-- and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth" President Abraham Lincoln





Nope, you're not being overly sensitive, IMO. It's why I don't bother with politics on this forum. There are no new thoughts to be had, only the same bashing at any given opportunity.



We need to keep in mind that FG is not some great intellectual meeting ground in politics. It's the back yard barbecue pit. Like minded folks congregate around a grill and a brew then trash the opposition. It makes them feel better about themselves.



As for the parking - post private property signs and lay down a strip of nails:sneaky::D

Thank you everyone so much for all of your great thoughts and advice: Koan, Gill, Carla, Ahso, Bruv, Oscar, Patsy, Odie, Pam, Kaylene, Jazzy, Buttercup, gmc, Along, Chonsi, Mustang and Floppy.





You've given me a lot of good advice that I will certainly think about. Yes, gmc...I am told that I am very 'thick headed.' My Irish friend, Paddy, used to say that I was as thick as a 'double ditch' :wah:.....That's very true indeed. Mustang, you know me too well...Thought that was my little secret:p Think I'll just stay away from the political and religious threads.





As for my driveway.....I drove Ducky crazy one night because there was a wild party next door and everyone was parking and partying in my driveway. A lot of these kids were only 17/18 and drinking and smoking pot while their parents were inside the house not supervising. I did speak with the owner and felt safer parking my car up the street.





I like the idea of putting up a chain link with posts....I might try that for the summer months. Oh, I do like your nail idea Floppy:wah: My driveway is attached to the property next door. I can't put up a fence to separate the 2 driveways because legally you need room to open your car door. I put railroad ties down to at least park my car, but they're expensive.





I just don't understand why my neighbors think that they can park in other's driveways, and they don't have permission. I don't want to start any bad feelings with my neighbors, so I'll let the sleeping dogs lie:rolleyes:



Will see if I have a picture of the driveway mine is attached to...

Thank you again for your kind thoughts and good advice. You're a wonderful group of people.

Kathy Ellen;1287109 wrote: Thank you everyone so much for all of your great thoughts and advice: Koan, Gill, Carla, Ahso, Bruv, Oscar, Patsy, Odie, Pam, Kaylene, Jazzy, Buttercup, gmc, Along, Chonsi, Mustang and Floppy.





You've given me a lot of good advice that I will certainly think about. Yes, gmc...I am told that I am very 'thick headed.' My Irish friend, Paddy, used to say that I was as thick as a 'double ditch' :wah:.....That's very true indeed. Mustang, you know me too well...Thought that was my little secret:p Think I'll just stay away from the political and religious threads.





As for my driveway.....I drove Ducky crazy one night because there was a wild party next door and everyone was parking and partying in my driveway. A lot of these kids were only 17/18 and drinking and smoking pot while their parents were inside the house not supervising. I did speak with the owner and felt safer parking my car up the street.





I like the idea of putting up a chain link with posts....I might try that for the summer months. Oh, I do like your nail idea Floppy:wah: My driveway is attached to the property next door. I can't put up a fence to separate the 2 driveways because legally you need room to open your car door. I put railroad ties down to at least park my car, but they're expensive.





I just don't understand why my neighbors think that they can park in other's driveways, and they don't have permission. I don't want to start any bad feelings with my neighbors, so I'll let the sleeping dogs lie:rolleyes:



Will see if I have a picture of the driveway mine is attached to...

Thank you again for your kind thoughts and good advice. You're a wonderful group of people.




That's why Kathy, they are all young, doped up and drunk, that's the reason they don't have any respect.:-5

You can buy signs that say 'No Parking', is there anywhere at the end of your driveway you can put one up?



any hardware store carry's them.

Odie;1287110 wrote: That's why Kathy, they are all young and drunk, that's the reason they don't have any respect.:-5



You can buy signs that say 'No Parking', is there anywhere at the end of your driveway you can put one up?





any hardware store carry's them.


Yes, I can put signs up, but they'll just be ignored or torn down I think

Kathy Ellen;1287113 wrote: Yes, I can put signs up, but they'll just be ignored or torn down I think


have you tried calling the police?

I'm sure they would be more than helpful seeing that many parked in your driveway.

What you need to do is get a few of those pot smoking teenagers to pinch you some traffic cones and put them on your drive

Parking in MY DRIVEWAY!!!!?!!!!!:-5

I"LL KILL YOU!!!!!:mad:

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buttercup;1287125 wrote: What you need to do is get a few of those pot smoking teenagers to pinch you some traffic cones and put them on your drive


I have two Kathy, I can ship them to you.:yh_rotfl

Traffic cones have lots of creative uses... :sneaky:

Stay as you are Kathy.

You don't need to change:-4:-6

Hey Kathy ! Listen to this !

YouTube - nat king cole gordon jenkins/stay as sweet as you are

AussiePam;1287255 wrote: Traffic cones have lots of creative uses... :sneaky:




We used them for in front of our house when we were selling it, as on that street, cars were parked there endlessly from a engine shop just up the street, came in handy to keep them out!:sneaky:

and when company was coming over.:sneaky:

The street only allowed one hour parking, they never cared.:-5

I can still remember the **** buckets parked all along in front of our house and others.

Kathy Ellen;1287113 wrote: Yes, I can put signs up, but they'll just be ignored or torn down I think Kathy, as you know I live next door to a school and I have seen It all with these Inconsiderate people. The houses In the Close really suffer with parents parking across their drives and even In their drives. When confronted the parents always come out with the same excuse... 'But I'm only going to be 10 minutes'. It is a massive problem that resulted in us even having to have a Police Officer come out to warn parents against obstruction. The poor man who lives in the house right next to the school was the hardest hit. They would park in his drive and even throw their litter out the car window, He solved It by erecting a heavy chain across the drive. It wasn't that expensive and It did work.

oscar;1287512 wrote: Kathy, as you know I live next door to a school and I have seen It all with these Inconsiderate people. The houses In the Close really suffer with parents parking across their drives and even In their drives. When confronted the parents always come out with the same excuse... 'But I'm only going to be 10 minutes'. It is a massive problem that resulted in us even having to have a Police Officer come out to warn parents against obstruction. The poor man who lives in the house right next to the school was the hardest hit. They would park in his drive and even throw their litter out the car window, He solved It by erecting a heavy chain across the drive. It wasn't that expensive and It did work.


Thanks Oscar for your idea...I really need to do something more drastic for the crazy summer months here. I like the idea of the chainlink. I'm sure that my handyman could put something together...Thanks.



It is so unbelievable that people will park in your driveway and then also toss their garbage on your property.



Some of the day trippers here at the beach are absolutely wonderful and others are so disgusting.



I live next to a restaurant frequented by beach goers. So they park in front of my home or nearby and then put a tiny towel around them, undress and redress. The men at the restaurant love to see the young girls do this as they can see lots of skin in the undressing.



I've had a family of 6 sit on my front stoop and have a picnic with all their kids and also a woman change her baby's diaper on my stoop and then leave the dirty diaper there...

Wow Kathy, you really have several taking advantage of your property.

I've seen several water location using a Lg. chain or Lg rope, Nautical look.

other than a gate - anything else would be ignored.

Some thing is needed for your own security too.

Good Luck

Patsy

does your landlord not care?

have no neighbours ever approached this subject to him?

Ahso!;1287032 wrote: You're a good person, Kathy, and a big person too.


That is just rude !

Nomad;1287566 wrote: That is just rude !


:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Kathy IS the landlord. This is her property!!

Also, her problem is a real one, something that worries her, that she cares about. So shame on those of you who are just ocming in here for a cheap shot, or a laugh!!

AussiePam;1287581 wrote: Kathy IS the landlord. This is her property!!

Also, her problem is a real one, something that worries her, that she cares about. So shame on those of you who are just ocming in here for a cheap shot, or a laugh!!


Here, here, Pam. I wonder how they would feel if they had strangers having a bloody picnic on their doorstep ffs ! :-5

AussiePam;1287581 wrote: Kathy IS the landlord. This is her property!!

Also, her problem is a real one, something that worries her, that she cares about. So shame on those of you who are just ocming in here for a cheap shot, or a laugh!!


-I thought Kathy rented.



that's why I asked about a landlord?



Did you not read my posts, 9, 20 and 22 where I tried to help Kathy?



Pam........ don't just assume!;)

Kathy Ellen, I was wondering if you ever thought to place the below sign(s) on your property? I bought several of these and have them in certain windows in my house and one at the end of my driveway. They might think twice before going near your property again. It's worked for me and I have a long driveway and live on a wooded lot. Before I placed the signs, I had hikers park in front of my driveway but NO MORE :wah:

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AussiePam;1287581 wrote: Kathy IS the landlord. This is her property!!



Also, her problem is a real one, something that worries her, that she cares about. So shame on those of you who are just ocming in here for a cheap shot, or a laugh!!


Would you just put me on ignore already. Enough with the overwhelming disgust.

Nomad;1287796 wrote: Would you just put me on ignore already. Enough with the overwhelming disgust.


It's just small disgust, not overwhelming, but rather underwhelming disgust as befits the petty nature of the comments.

I don't have anyone on ignore, and if I put some posters on ignore, Nomad, that wouldn't stop them having a go at Kathy, would it? She can of course be underwhelmed disgust-wise, herself - but she's got a lot on her plate right now, and as a real friend of hers, I'm standing in her corner. :-6

Putting people on ignore wouldn't stop them having a go at me either, though I wouldn't get to see it, and when people have a go at me - and it's happening quite a lot these days - I'd rather know. Always best to know who your friends are, and aren't - don't you think?

AussiePam;1287798 wrote: It's just small disgust, not overwhelming, but rather underwhelming disgust as befits the petty nature of the comments.



I don't have anyone on ignore, and if I put some posters on ignore, Nomad, that wouldn't stop them having a go at Kathy, would it? She can of course be underwhelmed disgust-wise, herself - but she's got a lot on her plate right now, and as a real friend of hers, I'm standing in her corner. :-6



Putting people on ignore wouldn't stop them having a go at me either, though I wouldn't get to see it, and when people have a go at me - and it's happening quite a lot these days - I'd rather know. Always best to know who your friends are, and aren't - don't you think?


Well thats quite a relief that its underwhelming disgust. Ive stated this before but Ill voice it again, Im not heartless, I feel for people and help whenever I can. Much of that goes on behind the scenes. If I think I may have offended someone Im quick to contact them and apologize.

Time and again Im told thats not the case because they understand Im just being silly. I never intend to hurt people. Id be horrified if I did and would work hard to make ammends. There are very very few Ive ever actually felt animosity toward and even some of them Ive extended an olive branch.

Im not doing anything different that Im aware of that Ive always done. Ive often asked people if I should tone it down. Sometimes its hard to see yourself as others do and welcome input. Im flexible.

I come here to amuse myself and others are welcome to enjoy the ride or be underwhelmingly disgusted, either or but I assure you there is never any evil intent.

I dont have enemies. I dont even think in those terms. Others may hate me but even those people are not my enemies. In fact there are some that do dislike me but I still enjoy their qualities.

Enemies....thats so forumy Pam. You are allowed to dislike me but I think youre great. I can see through your writing your a good person. It would not occur to me to think otherwise.

Im Nomad here. I hope to continue being Nomad here. Nomad is well....just Nomad. No harm intended.

Er...I mean Hofenfeffer damnit !