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Spot: Dear jones jones,

You have received an infraction at ForumGarden.

Reason: harrass, insult, belittle, threaten or flame another member or guest

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I'm quite prepared to unilaterally ban this ****wit outright if he ever does anything like this again.

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This infraction is worth 2 point(s) and may result in restricted access until it expires. Serious infractions will never expire.

Original Post:

Hiroshima Day



Jj: Pray tell me exactly what part of my post warranted this infraction. Reason: harrass, insult, belittle, threaten or flame another member or guest.

Spot: I have no intention of doing anything of the sort. Make my day, JJ, and fight it. You'll be out of here faster than a greased pig.

Green members can already read about all this in another thread, it's not 'new' news.

Members are able to discuss in the other thread what is going on and who is right and who is wrong.

Betty Boop;1400481 wrote: Green members can already read about all this in another thread, it's not 'new' news.

Members are able to discuss in the other thread what is going on and who is right and who is wrong.


Thank you for bringing that to my attention Ms Boop. Perhaps the "Ungreen" members will read this thread then .

jones jones;1400484 wrote: Thank you for bringing that to my attention Ms Boop. Perhaps the "Ungreen" members will read this thread then .


My advice to you is that this thread isn't such a good idea, the matter is being discussed elsewhere, you do not need to be fanning any flames right now. Trouble is discussion takes time we need to wait for members to come on board and give their opinions.

Betty Boop;1400487 wrote: My advice to you is that this thread isn't such a good idea, the matter is being discussed elsewhere, you do not need to be fanning any flames right now. Trouble is discussion takes time we need to wait for members to come on board and give their opinions.


Reason I posted this? Some time back I sent a "Private" message to Spot and he responded by posting it in a thread. Whats good for the Spot is good for the Jj.

hmmm an eye for an eye then, don't look to me for approval, joining them doesn't beat them.

Betty Boop;1400490 wrote: hmmm an eye for an eye then, don't look to me for approval, joining them doesn't beat them.


Miss Boop ... An "eye for an eye" has biblical connotations. I am a born again atheist who has asked time upon time for the "ball to be played and not the man." I have no control over other peoples deep seated prejudices and I would do anything for you ... but expect you to give me your approval.

I can understand why you'd want to post this out in the open for all to see. I'm a firm believer in full disclosure and I *try* living up to that belief. It doesn't hurt getting non-green members opinions as well.

SnoozeAgain;1400504 wrote: I can understand why you'd want to post this out in the open for all to see. I'm a firm believer in full disclosure and I *try* living up to that belief. It doesn't hurt getting non-green members opinions as well.


Precisely.

I see nothing really changes here. I've been here on and off since 2005. Same sh!t different day

Surely, the terms of the forum are to send a PM to the member stating they have Incurred an Infraction and the reason or the relevant post.

Posted by Spot In JJ's PM

"Make my day, JJ, and fight it. You'll be out of here faster than a greased pig."

Surely that Is flaming baiting and threatening.?

Snowfire;1400508 wrote: I see nothing really changes here. I've been here on and off since 2005. Same sh!t different day


You are so right. Its almost as if certain members here have "death wish" for FG. Sort of like if they continually push their own agenda FG might implode ... sad, but I think true.

O' the dreadful thunder-claps, more momentary

And sight-outrunning were not; the fire and cracks

Of sulphurous roaring the most mighty Neptune

Seem to besiege and make his bold waves tremble,

Yea, his dread trident shake.

Release the kraken!

SnoozeAgain;1400514 wrote: Release the kraken!


I dont think I've read any of Kraken's threads

"Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hatred is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves."

Mitch Albom, The five people you meet in Heaven.

jones jones;1400516 wrote: "Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hatred is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves."

Mitch Albom, The five people you meet in Heaven. Very true.

To profess to Infract a member for being nasty or threatening and then write that In a private message where you think no-one will see I Is cowardly and hypocritical In the extreme. Personally, I find Spot's message to you disgusting. I would any member who was sent that.

Rwoar!

Wotcha think?

We for one I agree with Oscar

oscar;1400517 wrote:

To profess to Infract a member for being nasty or threatening and then write that In a private message where you think no-one will see I Is cowardly and hypocritical In the extreme. Personally, I find Spot's message to you disgusting. I would any member who was sent that.


Jj I think you did the right thing by sharing Spot's message and showing all his true colors.

oscar;1400517 wrote: Very true.

To profess to Infract a member for being nasty or threatening and then write that In a private message where you think no-one will see I Is cowardly and hypocritical In the extreme. Personally, I find Spot's message to you disgusting. I would any member who was sent that.


Surely spot was prepared for other people to see it when he quoted it in the other thread?

theia;1400529 wrote: Surely spot was prepared for other people to see it when he quoted it in the other thread? Green members only. The rest of the open bard and guests would never have seen It.

jones jones;1400478 wrote: Check This Out Guys!

Spot: Dear jones jones,

You have received an infraction at ForumGarden.

Reason: harrass, insult, belittle, threaten or flame another member or guest

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Original Post:

Hiroshima Day



Jj: Pray tell me exactly what part of my post warranted this infraction. Reason: harrass, insult, belittle, threaten or flame another member or guest.

Spot: I have no intention of doing anything of the sort. Make my day, JJ, and fight it. You'll be out of here faster than a greased pig.


I read thru Hiroshima and don't get why Spot has done this and I think he owes you an explanation. One can make amends if they so desire if they know what they did wrong. Koan certainly got away with it; why is that? How is that fair?

oscar;1400530 wrote: Green members only. The rest of the open bard and guests would never have seen It.


Yes, but that was hardly him thinking that no-one else would see it.

I had no idea that infractions got posted in the private area before I was green.

SnoozeAgain;1400536 wrote: I had no idea that infractions got posted in the private area before I was green.


They never used to be, only since we went to lighter moderation did it happen for the green members, it's a perk of being green.

Betty Boop;1400537 wrote: They never used to be, only since we went to lighter moderation did it happen for the green members, it's a perk of being green.


So maybe JJ had no idea the discussion even existed and decided to start his own here.

SnoozeAgain;1400539 wrote: So maybe JJ had no idea the discussion even existed and decided to start his own here.


Afraid not. Jj simply decided to return the compliment and thereby bang his head up against a brick wall knowing full well that he would always be on a hiding to nothing.

There comes a time in every man's life when he has to make a stand even when the odds are stacked against him.

When I was a young lad I once asked Lola why bad things happened to me.

Her reply: "When you were born did I ever tell you life was gonna be fair?"

Me: "No ma."

Lola: "Well then go outside and play."

The over-whelming vote In the green room Including Bryn's Is that JJ should not have Incurred an Infraction. So can we have that Infraction withdrawn and an apology from Spot to JJ for singling him out?

May I suggest that Spot Is Infracted for the threatening manner of his pm to JJ.

And maybe some overly ripe tomatoes for throwing. I've always wanted to do that.

oscar;1400547 wrote: The over-whelming vote In the green room Including Bryn's Is that JJ should not have Incurred an Infraction. So can we have that Infraction withdrawn and an apology from Spot to JJ for singling him out?

May I suggest that Spot Is Infracted for the threatening manner of his pm to JJ.


When the discussions are concluded then a way forward will be decided. In the mean time, stop trying to pre-empt the discussion.

Maybe one of the guidance rules for members should be if someone tries to wind you up do not respond in kind or if you prefer - if someone wants to spit out the dummy don't encourage them by picking it up. Don't know what you did exactly but I think I'll take betty boops advice and not join in.

gmc;1400558 wrote: Maybe one of the guidance rules for members should be if someone tries to wind you up do not respond in kind or if you prefer - if someone wants to spit out the dummy don't encourage them by picking it up. Don't know what you did exactly but I think I'll take betty boops advice and not join in.


Nirvana awaits if ever that sinks in - I'm not holding my breath

jones jones;1400516 wrote: "Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hatred is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves."

Mitch Albom, The five people you meet in Heaven.I think the "greased pig" part was kind of humorous. Have you ever thought he might speak sarcastically because perhaps no one really gives a damn about personal spats?

Is this honestly ruining people by the day?

I'm not a green member and I think the OP really doesn't explain anything. It makes me think that the person with the first word always wins the argument.

I hope everyone has enjoyed the drama.

It's funny what you find when you click on this site at the end of a day sometimes. Let JJ have his rant, let him even run his poll, the results are irrelevant cuz it's a ridiculous game to play. I can see spot's concern because quite often someone who is willing to run someone off a site in a public thread is already running them off in PMs... if the people are daft enough to take such things seriously.

This whole thing is stupid & babyish. Spot, this is so obviously personal. Banning people, unless you are spreading nazi propaganda or something, is just plain dumb. What's the point?

koan;1400635 wrote: I hope everyone has enjoyed the drama.

It's funny what you find when you click on this site at the end of a day sometimes. Let JJ have his rant, let him even run his poll, the results are irrelevant cuz it's a ridiculous game to play. I can see spot's concern because quite often someone who is willing to run someone off a site in a public thread is already running them off in PMs... if the people are daft enough to take such things seriously.


Clever insinuation. Are you saying JJ's been sending you threatening PMs?

SnoozeAgain;1400668 wrote: Clever insinuation. Are you saying JJ's been sending you threatening PMs?


Behind the scenes some people like to start a pm campaign, they'll find a bit of 'dirt' on a poster and spread that dirt in PM's. Then they progress to having a group of people follow that person around online slowly but surely harassing them until that person leaves, or reacts within the forum boards in a bad way and ends up banned. They never ever contact that person direct in a pm, they just spread the poison around and about.

Most activity this site has seen in weeks.



Good job kids!:yh_clap:yh_clap:yh_clap



On the other hand... now that everyones attention is gathered...



I'm down 45 lbs in 4 and a half months. If I'm not careful, I may start having womanly curves again rather than a linebackers rear view...:guitarist

Betty Boop;1400669 wrote: Behind the scenes some people like to start a pm campaign, they'll find a bit of 'dirt' on a poster and spread that dirt in PM's. Then they progress to having a group of people follow that person around online slowly but surely harassing them until that person leaves, or reacts within the forum boards in a bad way and ends up banned. They never ever contact that person direct in a pm, they just spread the poison around and about.


I understand but koan insinuated that JJ was doing that to her. If he's not, then it's unfair to hint at it. Cowardly, even.

flopstock;1400671 wrote: Most activity this site has seen in weeks.



Good job kids!:yh_clap:yh_clap:yh_clap



On the other hand... now that everyones attention is gathered...



I'm down 45 lbs in 4 and a half months. If I'm not careful, I may start having womanly curves again rather than a linebackers rear view...:guitarist


Good for you! What are you doing differently? I need to lose weight but if it involves exercise, I doubt it's going to happen.

flopstock;1400671 wrote: Most activity this site has seen in weeks.



Good job kids!:yh_clap:yh_clap:yh_clap



On the other hand... now that everyones attention is gathered...



I'm down 45 lbs in 4 and a half months. If I'm not careful, I may start having womanly curves again rather than a linebackers rear view...:guitarist


Good for you. You'll be a tight end before you know it.

Most people would like to lose weight without exercising and the way to achieve it is as simple as getting fat. It's to not eat foods that will make you fat. I suppose that's my philosophy.

SnoozeAgain;1400673 wrote: I understand but koan insinuated that JJ was doing that to her. If he's not, then it's unfair to hint at it. Cowardly, even.


If we're referring to the post in this thread, I don't see where she is insinuating that :-2

SnoozeAgain;1400673 wrote: I understand but koan insinuated that JJ was doing that to her. If he's not, then it's unfair to hint at it. Cowardly, even.


I don't believe for a minute that JJ has been pm'ing Koan.

And Betty.... Are you suggesting any of us here have started a 'campaign ' as you put It ?

Flops.... High Five Girl.... I lost 11 stone of ugly fat once.... I divorced him.

oscar;1400682 wrote: I don't believe for a minute that JJ has been pm'ing Koan.

And Betty.... Are you suggesting any of us here have started a 'campaign ' as you put It ?



Flops.... High Five Girl.... I lost 11 stone of ugly fat once.... I divorced him.


What sort of question is that? Yes, I'm suggesting some people here on this site have started such campaigns. I'm not about to start naming names so everyone can relax. I've seen the evidence, I don't much care who started any of them.

Why are you always on the defensive?

Betty Boop;1400679 wrote: If we're referring to the post in this thread, I don't see where she is insinuating that :-2


Posted by Koan

It's funny what you find when you click on this site at the end of a day sometimes. Let JJ have his rant, let him even run his poll, the results are irrelevant cuz it's a ridiculous game to play. I can see spot's concern because quite often someone who is willing to run someone off a site in a public thread is already running them off in PMs... if the people are daft enough to take such things seriously.

My Interpretation Is that Koan didn't mean JJ had been pm'ing her but she thinks he's slating her to other members In pm's.

I have seen no evidence of that. JJ has never dissed anyone In any pm he's sent me.

oscar;1400684 wrote: Posted by Koan

It's funny what you find when you click on this site at the end of a day sometimes. Let JJ have his rant, let him even run his poll, the results are irrelevant cuz it's a ridiculous game to play. I can see spot's concern because quite often someone who is willing to run someone off a site in a public thread is already running them off in PMs... if the people are daft enough to take such things seriously.

My Interpretation Is that Koan didn't mean JJ had been pm'ing her but she thinks he's slating her to other members In pm's.

I have seen no evidence of that. JJ has never dissed anyone In any pm he's sent me.


Yes, that's the post I was referring to as insinuation. It's been mentioned elsewhere that JJ was trying to run koan off the site, and to attach a comment about some kind of PM campaign links the two in the readers' mind. I don't know how much more clearly I can explain that, Betty.

SnoozeAgain;1400687 wrote: Yes, that's the post I was referring to as insinuation. It's been mentioned elsewhere that JJ was trying to run koan off the site, and to attach a comment about some kind of PM campaign links the two in the readers' mind. I don't know how much more clearly I can explain that, Betty.


I just wanted to clarify that I was reading the same post as you. I think it's a matter of perception then, I don't see anything in that post that insinuates jj directly pm ing koan. I see koan second guessing that those that call people out in public threads are already managing a campaign behind the scenes that involves other members rather than the individual being targeted.

Personally I don't think one follows the other in all cases, most people just act slyly behind the scenes then act all innocent when someone outs them :wah: Seems to be a fact of forum life, just like real life.

SnoozeAgain;1400687 wrote: Yes, that's the post I was referring to as insinuation. It's been mentioned elsewhere that JJ was trying to run koan off the site, and to attach a comment about some kind of PM campaign links the two in the readers' mind. I don't know how much more clearly I can explain that, Betty.


I know Jj quite well and to run someone off site with PM's is NOT his style; as that would be cowardly and he is not a coward by any means. He will face them like a man as he demonstrated with his challenge.

Betty Boop;1400689 wrote: I just wanted to clarify that I was reading the same post as you. I think it's a matter of perception then, I don't see anything in that post that insinuates jj directly pm ing koan. I see koan second guessing that those that call people out in public threads are already managing a campaign behind the scenes that involves other members rather than the individual being targeted.

Personally I don't think one follows the other in all cases, most people just act slyly behind the scenes then act all innocent when someone outs them :wah: Seems to be a fact of forum life, just like real life.


Exactly.