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Well tonight is my 19th anniversary. My wife and I have been married for 19 years and together for twenty. time flies, eh? We've certainly had our fair share of adversity including unimaginable health problems for both of us, but we've also had all kinds of joy, excitement, adventure and love.

As a present to me, would you give me your opinion on what quality, pattern, behavior, or system it is that lets some people stay together for a lifetime, while other relationships don't last? (The divorce rate is 50% right now, so maybe we can help someone here!)

I'll share later, what I think it was that allowed us to stay together and in love for so long...

Saint_;1431715 wrote: Well tonight is my 19th anniversary. My wife and I have been married for 19 years and together for twenty. time flies, eh? We've certainly had our fair share of adversity including unimaginable health problems for both of us, but we've also had all kinds of joy, excitement, adventure and love.

As a present to me, would you give me your opinion on what quality, pattern, behavior, or system it is that let's some people stay together for a lifetime, while other relationships don't last? (The divorce rate is 50% right now, so maybe we can help someone here!)

I'll share later, what I think it was that allowed us to stay together and in love for so long...


After thirty years of marriage I still couldn't tell you.

Never hold on to an upset, cut each other a lot of slack and talk to each other?

There must be lots more involved.

Many congratulations to you and your wife Saint and here's to many more happy years,

First of all, I believe In trust for without It you can't be truly at peace.

Respect...

Compromise

Giving each other one's own space.

Congrats

After 35yrs of bliss :-2, we gave each other elbow room,. Time to go and hang out with our friends without the other.

I could go camping, her visit her mom out of state for a week, or two.

None of the above would matter if we did not hold the same values and aspirations.

Congratulations!

Luck of the draw! :yh_shamrk

Plus an innate and undefinable understanding between two people. It's just meant to be!

Congratulations!

After 34 years

Both of us do what we want to do. As long as it doesn't interfere with family obligations. Never carry ill feelings about each other to the next day (I'm sure my wife must practice this much more than me). Oh and loving each other tends to help a bit. She makes me laugh, I make her laugh, she also tends to roll her eyes a lot. Don't keep count.

Congratulations to you & your wife Saint_. May you have many more years of health & happiness.

Saint

Congrats to you both for staying together & taking care of each other.

Years together working through adversity & health issues - it's respect.

and your love grows as respect is shared.

I have a wonderful marriage - we laugh a lot

don't want to imagine my life without him & we've had a couple close calls.( Health )

Be thankful for a good relationship enjoy !!

Patsy

Well, I was going to share what I thought were the keys to successful relationships, but...you all already know them! Thanks for all the well wishes. We had a nice day. She got me a video game and I got her some charms for her bracelet. We had dinner at a nice restaurant and as a nod to the 21st century, we played a slideshow of our decades together on the iPad while we ate.

It was very nice.

Not completely on topic but close enough!

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First of all congrats!

my relationship comes nowhere near that, but hey i'm 24 so.. :wah:

i've been together with my OH for about 6,5 years now, lived together since 2008 and bought our (first) house in oct. 2010.

2011 my OH lost his job, been in and out production line jobs since then and since january this year, no job no social welfare. (he does his best but cannot seem to get a job, wel august 6th he finally has a job interview, fingers crossed!)

I work and pay for everything, my point being before i drag on forever :wah: , is that so many people around me said: lose him! Why? he does his best at finding a job, it's not his fault the shop he worked at in 2006-2011 went bankrupt! Many people around me said they wouldn't cope with so little at the end of the month, and having to spend time with eachother at home without having the luxury of going out places.

My point being: i've learned that you truly learn about people's character and if they really love you when luxury is absent.

Again: Congrats

Chloe_88;1432573 wrote:

My point being: i've learned that you truly learn about people's character and if they really love you when luxury is absent.

Again: Congrats


Well said! Nothing stains a marriage more than a lack of resources (poverty). My poor wife has not been able to work consistently for 16 of our 19 years. I've been the sole wage earner all that time. I am extremely stable, and while my job isn't upper class, it's pretty solid middle class. We've had to go without things for most of our lives together, but the only real hardship was, of course, dealing with her terrible health issues.

Luxury was absent, but love was present.

Saint_;1432647 wrote:

Luxury was absent, but love was present.
:yh_clap

Belated congratulations to Saint and Mrs. Saint!

On the 24th of June, Hubby and I had been married 16 years. We love each other. We like each other. We accept each other. We trust each other. We respect each other. We enjoy each other. :-4