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When I was a teenager, we had our little crowd and one of that crowd was Neil.

Neil was the biggest laugh anyone could wish for. At times, positively silly.

I remember the time he'd been night fishing on Shoreham beach and The Brighton Evening Argus ran the headlines the next day, ' Shark found In Town Fish Pond'.

Him and my first husband were the local ' Men Behaving Badly'.

Then when he was 17 years old he announced his entire family were moving to Australia.

We all kept In touch for a while but sadly lost touch but myself and my girlfriends never ever forgot him.

Over the years, we tried everything but because his parents had moved around, even the Salvation Army couldn't help us.

That was over 35 years ago.

I thought I'd try once more on Facebook because maybe just maybe he'd opened an account.

He had and we'd found him.

He tells us he had tried searching for some of our crowd also In the past but to no avail.

Now we're looking at a reunion.

My only reason for ever opening an account on facebook was to find an old school friend. Friendsreunited didnt garner any results but FB did. It certainly does have its advantages and uses. If only I didnt have to read that someone had just made a cup of tea or had just changed their duvet. I have one FB friend who posts exactly the same things at regular times of the day, even to say goodnight.

Snowfire;1438636 wrote: My only reason for ever opening an account on facebook was to find an old school friend. Friendsreunited didnt garner any results but FB did. It certainly does have its advantages and uses. If only I didnt have to read that someone had just made a cup of tea or had just changed their duvet. I have one FB friend who posts exactly the same things at regular times of the day, even to say goodnight.


I agree and I think Friends Reunited lost It's appeal. My husband has been contacted also on Facebook from school friends who he hasn't seen for 40 years.

I agree about some of the status updates though.

Snowfire;1438636 wrote: . I have one FB friend who posts exactly the same things at regular times of the day, even to say goodnight. That's not me then... I post to say I've been sniffing my husbands drugs.

oscar;1438638 wrote: That's not me then... I post to say I've been sniffing my husbands drugs.


You're posts are testament to that

oscar;1438637 wrote: I agree and I think Friends Reunited lost It's appeal. My husband has been contacted also on Facebook from school friends who he hasn't seen for 40 years.

I agree about some of the status updates though.


You're talking about my "diametrically opposed" post, aren't you?

You can change how much stuff you will see from people on FB.

I set all my friends and family so that I see "only important" status updates, and photos.

I then set up several lists, family, co-workers, friends, School mates, Good friends, etc. and put everybody in one of those list

Now I see very little of all the gibberish in my newsfeed.

It has actually become rather useful, and my newsfeed is mostly a collection of items from organizations I care about, like MaximumPC, Mother Jones, Bill Moyers, and such.

I joined a group yesterday that my dil told me about...reminiscences and photos from people who grew up in the same town. It's great and brings back so many memories.

theia;1438644 wrote: I joined a group yesterday that my dil told me about...reminiscences and photos from people who grew up in the same town. It's great and brings back so many memories.


They're great Theia. I joined one recently also ' Adur Valley revisited'..

I am so made up that we found Neil. There was always a sense of sadness and poignancy that so many of us on Facebook would reminisce and to all of us, there was the feeling that the final piece of the jigsaw was missing because It was so often the case that Neil was Involved or Instigated the greatest memories.

Like the time, our crowd crashed at my ex Mother In Laws house and blind drunk he got up In the night, sleepwalking, walked Into her bedroom stark naked and began peeing over her In bed.

For that, I'll be eternally grateful for Facebook.

SnoozeAgain;1438641 wrote: You're talking about my "diametrically opposed" post, aren't you?


Well, I didn't like to say.

theia;1438644 wrote: I joined a group yesterday that my dil told me about...reminiscences and photos from people who grew up in the same town. It's great and brings back so many memories.


Yeah. I joined a group like that for the town where I grew up. It is a lot of fun, and I have re-connected with a few old school chums as a result.

Found out I have been driving past one old schoolmate's house every time I drive across Kansas. Have to stop in, on the next run.

LarsMac;1438660 wrote: Yeah. I joined a group like that for the town where I grew up. It is a lot of fun, and I have re-connected with a few old school chums as a result.

Found out I have been driving past one old schoolmate's house every time I drive across Kansas. Have to stop in, on the next run.


It's fascinating, Lars...there was a thread on remembering which shops were where back in the 60s. I was hooked for the evening...I'd forgotten half of them.

oscar;1438654 wrote: Like the time, our crowd crashed at my ex Mother In Laws house and blind drunk he got up In the night, sleepwalking, walked Into her bedroom stark naked and began peeing over her In bed.

For that, I'll be eternally grateful for Facebook.


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Facebook is good for looking up old friends, if that's what you want to do. I just like to keep them in my memories. Last time I saw/spoke to them was about 9-10 years ago. Thats when I told them: i'm switching schools, see you later! I never spoke to them again.

I've only kept in touch with my best friend from primary school, I've known her for over 16 years. And we chat on facebook every other day

Chloe_88;1438663 wrote: :yh_rotfl



Facebook is good for looking up old friends, if that's what you want to do. I just like to keep them in my memories. Last time I saw/spoke to them was about 9-10 years ago. Thats when I told them: i'm switching schools, see you later! I never spoke to them again.

I've only kept in touch with my best friend from primary school, I've known her for over 16 years. And we chat on facebook every other day


I don't bother with everyone I meet, It's just Neil was such a part of so many people's lives.

Another plus I like about Facebook.... this live chat thingy... What a boom?.... Being able to chat live without waiting for e mails to come back.

On FB, I've reconnected with some high school classmates, and even the boy I went to my senior prom with. All of them seem to be happily married and still enjoying life. Nice to see.

I would like to reconnect with a few of my old childhood girlfriends. but that is rather difficult as they have no doubt changed their last names and moved away.

along-for-the-ride;1438728 wrote: On FB, I've reconnected with some high school classmates, and even the boy I went to my senior prom with. All of them seem to be happily married and still enjoying life. Nice to see.

I would like to reconnect with a few of my old childhood girlfriends. but that is rather difficult as they have no doubt changed their last names and moved away.


I found a few from school and like you, lovely to see them happily married and doing so well. It's easy with men but women get married and their names change.

If you input your high school and the year you graduated in your profile, FB will direct you to others with the same info listed. You can also search for your graduating class, a lot of people have started pages where classmates can find each other.

SnoozeAgain;1438750 wrote: If you input your high school and the year you graduated in your profile, FB will direct you to others with the same info listed. You can also search for your graduating class, a lot of people have started pages where classmates can find each other.


Well Bugger me with a Kipper.... I never knew that !!! That's worth checking out.

There was one old school mate who found me a few months ago. Everything was fine for a few months and then he got me on live chat one night and told me that at school, he'd wait at the bottom of the stairs while I walked up them hoping to see my knickers.

Then he started getting quite lewd asking If we could meet...

oscar;1438746 wrote: I found a few from school and like you, lovely to see them happily married and doing so well. It's easy with men but women get married and their names change.


Except for those (few?) of us who retained our maiden names!

I'm friends with two of my brother's former girlfriends, lovely ladies.

Both of whom friended me, and not just for info about my brother.

One of them has never said bupkes about my bro, the other just very

briefly when she first friended me, and none since.

It's nice.

valerie;1438755 wrote: Except for those (few?) of us who retained our maiden names!

I'm friends with two of my brother's former girlfriends, lovely ladies.

Both of whom friended me, and not just for info about my brother.

One of them has never said bupkes about my bro, the other just very

briefly when she first friended me, and none since.

It's nice.


I know the feeling.... first thing I'm asked Is ' What's Bunny up to' ( my brother)... In fact, I'd have more success If I changed my Facebook name to ' Bunny's sister '

oscar;1438746 wrote: I found a few from school and like you, lovely to see them happily married and doing so well. It's easy with men but women get married and their names change.


Except in Holland (and maybe other places). The married ladies (most of them) have double barrelled surnames, but a lot of the time continu using their maiden name. Very confusing. Especially when phoning customers and a lady says: Smith speaking! as I stutter, oh i'm sorry i was looking for the Jones family. replied by: Yes thats me!

So confusing.......

Although... I'm even more "undercover" on facebook. I've used my first name (well short version of my name) and my middle name as my surname. I have done so to avoid "work people". Maybe i'll miss out on "old school contacts", but thats my loss, and I accept that.

But i admit, for a lot of people, facebook has brought a lot of people (family, friends etc) back together, which is a good thing.

oscar;1438751 wrote: There was one old school mate who found me a few months ago. Everything was fine for a few months and then he got me on live chat one night and told me that at school, he'd wait at the bottom of the stairs while I walked up them hoping to see my knickers.

Then he started getting quite lewd asking If we could meet...


Ieuw.. That's just, just.. no.. He didn't ?!

Well facebook does come with it's "freaks", but then so does "real" life.

Chloe_88;1438773 wrote: Ieuw.. That's just, just.. no.. He didn't ?!

Well facebook does come with it's "freaks", but then so does "real" life. He didn't have to wait at the bottom of the stairs to get a glimpse of my knickers... If he'd bought me a Mars Bar, I'd have shown him.

oscar;1438776 wrote: He didn't have to wait at the bottom of the stairs to get a glimpse of my knickers... If he'd bought me a Mars Bar, I'd have shown him.


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