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You approach someone new or an acquaintance and offer to shake their hand...

What is your handshake like and do others turn you off my their handshake? Or do they make you comfortable with their extended reach.

Here are a few suggestions of handshakes for your consideration:

• The Hand Hug: The "handhug" is a popular type of handshake often used by politicians. This shake which involves the covering of the clenched hand shake with the left hand, communicates warmth, friendship, trust and honesty.:yh_rotfl Politicians! I have experienced this with older people looking for comfort which seems more genuine.



• The Crusher: This painful handshake is a favorite shake of aggressive people. This shake is said to display confidence and power.

• The Queen's Fingertips: This handshake greeting is most commonly observed in male-female encounters. Usually the female presents her outstretched hand and the recipient grasps only a few digits of the right hand.

• The Please Keep Back: This handshake is usually extended when one of the parties is not too excited about the greeting. He or she may feel intruded upon or inconvenienced and the handshake will communicate the discomfort.

• The Boy Scouts of America use a left handed shake, referred to as the 'scout shake. 'This was a convention started by Lord Baden-Powell. Tradition states that Baden-Powell was impressed by a legend he heard while he was in West Africa. The story goes that two warring chiefs desiring peace, confronted one another. One chief dropped both his weapon and his shield. Not only was his right hand empty of a weapon leaving him unable to attack, but his left hand was left empty of a shield and he was thus unable to defend against the weapons of the other.

So what is your handshake like? And when someone accepts your handshake does their handshake effect how you feel about them?

Lady J being curious.

I'd not last long round these parts with any of those. Besides, who I'm about to shake hands with determines to a large extent how I prepare for it. Preparations, it need not be said, should be made out of sight of the person to be approached.

The essence of any handshake is the tactile sensation imparted, I take it we all realize this fundamental aspect? Especially when approaching a stranger. There's a stack of information in the exchange.

Missing from your list is the Dead Handshake which involves no shaking whatsoever. First, half-fill a bowl with crushed ice and pour in water to wet it thoroughly. Bare the right arm to beyond the wrist and immerse for a couple of minutes, until pain has intervened for some seconds. Dry the hand gently but leave moist. Approaching the impending handshaker, offer the hand and, when it's taken, relax all the right-arm muscles so that the weight of the hand is left for the other to support until he lets go. Most chaps tend to let go quite quickly but the message will remain for a lifetime. I've never yet explored its effect on a female but I'd expect some sort of shudder.

All other handshakes involve holding one's left sleeve with one's left hand to make the material taut, and then rubbing the right palm vigorously against the stretched material until it becomes both distinctly warm and dry. The shaking-arm's weight should subsequently be supported, the grip apparent and the timing predictable: extend two three grip two three release. Do not respond to any variation in grip intensity offered by the shakee or you've instantly lost the encounter.

Finally there's the my-word-aren't-you-something handshake, in which the model just described varies at the point of release. Extend the left hand while letting go the grip with the right, and end up with the shaken hand cupped loosely between both of yours while absently stroking its fingers and appearing to be unaware the hands are still in contact.

Part of my job involves in-processing new hires for our company. Every once in a awhile, a new-hire will extend his/her hand to me before they leave my desk and after I am finished with the process. I am surprised, but I do return the hand-shake with a smile. The mutual handshake just means to me "Thank you" and "Welcome".

I don't know why, but I've always felt intimidated by a handshake, regardless of its type.

I don't like anything limp Including vegetables and Liberal Democrats.

I have to do a lot of hand shaking In my Party.

It's an odd thing... to shake or not to shake.

There will be women at Party conferences and despite never meeting before, we do that muh muh kiss thing. Yet, the men, It's a weird one for me. Do you offer your hand or your cheek?

The men are often baffled also, not knowing to offer the hand or attempt to kiss your cheek and they hover momentarilly, probably hoping that you'll offer your hand.

So, with the men, I always offer the hand except the President. I always kiss him but then I'm weird.

Don't forget the Baby Kissing.

FourPart;1463813 wrote: Don't forget the Baby Kissing. I prefer dogs to babies.

spot;1463732 wrote: I'd not last long round these parts with any of those. Besides, who I'm about to shake hands with determines to a large extent how I prepare for it. Preparations, it need not be said, should be made out of sight of the person to be approached.

The essence of any handshake is the tactile sensation imparted, I take it we all realize this fundamental aspect?


I couldn't resist....You actually prepare for a handshake and try to make it as horrible as possible!!??

So am I missing British humor again?

Oscar Namechange;1463820 wrote: I prefer dogs to babies.


me too!!!:D

As I understand it, the original purpose of a handshake was to demonstrate that the person was unarmed & therefore being a demonstration of mutual trust.