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I have a 13 year old son, and usually he is easy going and an all around pleasure to be with, oh, did I mention hes 13! Suddenly he knows it all and has the world by the tail, everything is Whatever!

Forget bei ng respectful and if you should even consider removing the x-box, his reply so what, no tv, so what, grounded from piers, so what,he will bully you with nit-picking until you cave,or reduce to tears, that is bullying, what happened to 6 months ago when life was great.

He is not alway this way but about 1 week out of a month, almost like a girls period. Help!!!!!!!

I know about testosterone and puberty but come on. Input please from other single mom. I have 13 years of medical experience, and my fiance is a pharmacist with also a major in psychology, he assures me its all part of the teen process, easy for him hes not going through it.

So can I please have free advice from anyone with children, that has a teenager.

I love my son, but for that week, he will push all buttons, and still keep going until he can either make you angry, or cry.

frazzeled mom.

Wow...Far Rider, I don't have teenagers yet but that all sounds pretty good to me! LOL ...I am taking notes! And good luck to jasmund.

Far Rider wrote: hahaha Robin, boys are easy! It's my daughter I'm gonna have trouble with! I'll be back here for advice then!


Ohhhhh....I was afraid you might say that! My first two are boys....and then I found out I was having a girl. I nearly cried (and not out of joy)! LOL ...Don't get me wrong...I love my baby girl, but oh you have it right--the boys are so easy!

You crack me up with your sarcasm Flop - but 'tis so true.

I had to practice some tough love when my daughter hit puberty. I think they call it tough love because it is harder on the parent than the child. DO NOT FOLD - DO NOT GIVE IN. You are the parent and this child - puberty or not - is looking for guidance in the face of peer pressure. The outwardly hate you and inwardly are very grateful you care enough to put your foot down. That is my 2 cents.

flopstock wrote: I think you need to ask yourself what YOU did to cause him to behave this way.



Did you enter a room he was in?

Did you ask him to do something for the 10th time, when you should have known he wasn't ignoring you?

Did you have his favorite pants in the laundry, when they were perfectly good for one or two more days wear?

Did you question him about his day..like the grand inquisitor you know you can sound like?

Did you cook him that meal that you know he can't stand?

Are you refusing to let him do things that 'all the other kids get to do'?


that is creepy! how did you know that's what is running through our heads??

you're goooood.

That was outstanding advise farrider. Teenage yrs are tenuous at best and critical in developing the mind of a young man. If your the parent be the parent, love them but your not friends your the parent.

Know what your kids are doing and keep them close because if theyre going to get away from you this is when it will happen.

And your right also that you have to keep them talking, know what theyre thinking.

I dont have kids but in retrospect if my father hadnt been dropping me off at 3 am in the middle of nowhere and telling me to get out of the car when I was 13 things might have been a little different.

I could have learned then what I know now.

Wolverine its funny how when we were younger we knew everything.

At l;east for me the older I get the less I realize I know. :wah: Good luck !

FAR RIDE



Thank you for the advice actually I have tried all that,except the sticking to it part.

I have made it for about 8 days before.

Today Ihad a deal with him, clean your room and your closets(he has had 3 weeks of I did) I told him if he didnt actually do it this time I was making a trip in their myself and whatever was left after I cleaned is all he got to keep,and just possibly me being so old(37) a joke between us I may inadvertantly dispose of the x-box and new tv. I came home the closets were clean, and the bedroom, however, he forgot to pick up the disaster he left down stairs, before he called me at work to spend the night next door, I called him their and kindly asked him to return home clean up downstairs and THEN it would work out that he could stay. He did it all smiles gave me a big kiss and was off next door that was about 3 hours ago. I'll keep you informed. The sticking to it long term will be the challange thanks for understanding and replying :-6

Should be seen and not heard

I think I should print this thread for future reference!

-Come on I know that you didnt mean that. But on the satire side that was comical. Do you have children? If so please share.

-Have a wonderful day.



-Jasmund

Just to let you know, things are going excellent, the other day I had to work a 10 hour day, complete caos at work, my son rode up to my work on his bike with his friend and saw me ( I didnt know he was there)Then re-appeared with homemade lunch, almonds(my fav) yogurt a plastic spoon and a bottled water.

-All what I would have chose. He handed it to me and said I love you mom, please eat, and when I smiled he turned walked away, called mom over his shoulder and winked at me and said "Im proud of you"

It was the hand of god that didnt let me scoop up my guy and plant kisses all over his face in front of his friends.



-Things are going great.

jasmund wrote: Just to let you know, things are going excellent, the other day I had to work a 10 hour day, complete caos at work, my son rode up to my work on his bike with his friend and saw me ( I didnt know he was there)Then re-appeared with homemade lunch, almonds(my fav) yogurt a plastic spoon and a bottled water.

-All what I would have chose. He handed it to me and said I love you mom, please eat, and when I smiled he turned walked away, called mom over his shoulder and winked at me and said "Im proud of you"

It was the hand of god that didnt let me scoop up my guy and plant kisses all over his face in front of his friends.





-Things are going great.When I was in my twenties and thirties I was able to handle teens. Now I'm getting on. Kids aren't what they used to be.Well not over here in the British Isles. Perhaps in the States they are better.

It is just normal for his age, and it will pass. Ignore the negative feedback from him, and go forth with your guidelines that need to be followed. They eventually will! They all grow, sooner then you will want them to. I have 4 children, and 120-130 12-13 year olds in my classroom every year. They all have their phases, and it is quite normal. Keep him growing up the right way, and he will be a darling sooner then you think!