Love Thread

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 12:14 am

here is what Far wrote last night..."Sorry folks to get off topic... is there a love thread?"...sooooo, i propose a love thread...how did you fall in love? what is the best thing? was it instant? love at first sight? or over time? tell us your love story!! all of us LOVE love stories!

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 2:56 am

hello folks, well l think that everytime you fall in love its different, thats not to say one is less important than the other.

Love at first sight (haaaaah swoon) beautiful... but in my experience not the long lasting type, for the reason of its normally LUST:p

not that lve got anything against lust

For me the best type of love is when youve gotten to know the person first and youve managed to develop a kind of friendship.. Because if your relationship is going through a rough patch its easier to see things from their point of view.

The only problem with love is that sometimes you feel like headin to the funny farm as it messes with your head and your heart

:driving: which way to the clinic?

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 8:10 am

Okay. For me it was horn at first sight. But fate must've had a hand in it.

I was stationed in Okinawa, Japan, in the Air Force. I'm bright white and don't normally go to the beach because of the cooking factor. But on this Sunday my buddies convinced me to go with them to Moon Beach to hound dog girls.

Naomi grew up in Okinawa, Japan. She doesn't normally go to the beach because she tans easily and the Japanese value porcelin skin. But on this Sunday her buddies convinced her to go with them to Moon Beach to enjoy the water and eat sushi.

Long story later, we wed. Longer story later, we are looking forward to our 20th anniversary in November. :-4

mominiowa · Post by **mominiowa** » Sat Aug 06, 2005 11:32 am

Mine isn't a love at first site thing - it was more of a hands on type things LOL No & not that kind of hands on.....:p My 1st hubby and I had an attraction and it ended up being my daughter ..LOL so we married and spent 11 years together.....but when I met Chad and he thought I was ready to date - I was still holding a torch for the X --he waited it out and we dated slowly---when I knew I loved him was - he took me to Omaha for the weekend and we went to the Old Market--we were waiting at the cross walk and he turned me around and kissed me - and told me he was falling in love with me...WHOA!!! wait a minute here buddy---I had only been divorced for 9 months! -BUT the moral of MY story is - Never in all of the years my X hubby and I were together did he grab my hand to hold it- pat my bottom as we walked - or KISSED me in public....No -I am not one for slobbering love & affection in front of people - but he made me feel like he wanted to whole world to know that he loved me...:-4

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sun Aug 07, 2005 5:58 am

There was a guy I was seeing. I loved him, but I knew he not the one for me. I had divorced an alcoholic/ drug addict and was not about to marry another one. He kept calling and coming to my house, and knowing how much I loved him, I knew the only way not to get myself in a bad situation was to get away from him. I moved to another town and in with my sister. The week I was getting ready to move in she called and said, "I have this really good friend. I don't know why I never thought of him before, but you two will be married in 6 months". That was the last thing I wanted to hear! I moved in, met him that day because he helped, and thought "this isn't going to happen" LOL. Well, everyday when I woke up there was a knock at the door. It was him, Bud. Everyday I came home from work, he was there waiting. I told my sister he was driving me insane! He backed off and I missed him. When he would stop by, he'd lean towards me like he wanted to kiss me, but would back off before he did. After about 2 weeks of this, I was getting to the point I wanted to scream and say, "Just kiss me and get it over with!" He finally did and told me he loved me. My reply? "Shut up. I don't want to hear that". One day, he looked at me and said, "I really think we should get married." I thought he was going to faint when I agreed. We met June 30, 1986, moved in together Aug 15, and married Dec. 14 of that same year. Two months later I got pregnant, and one year after that I was pregnant again. During my first pregnancy, I was in the hospital 13 days because our son was bound and determined to enter this world early. For 13 days, he never left my side. The poor man slept in hospital windowsills, in chairs, in bed with me, etc. 19 years later, he's still by my side.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Sun Aug 07, 2005 7:03 am

BTS and I met through an internet dating service in June 2004. I had just finished my last chemo and was still bald. We talked on-line for a couple of months. We met for the first time in September - my hair had barely begun to sprout. He didn't call for a few weeks so I called him. He thought I was mad at him for not calling me - I wasn't. He came to visit again in October when my house was torn up from renovation work and I was going to have reconstruction surgery the next week. He went with me to the hospital for my pre-op tests even though he was supposed to be leaving that morning. I called him on his birthday the next week and we never stopped talking after that - everyday - several times a day. We started talking about living together the first of January - he brought it up and I was very surprised. On March 30 first I flew to California - helped him pack and moved him to NM. We got married July 3. :-4

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Aug 07, 2005 7:36 am

god it is so rare for me to tell personal stuff...but here goes....i was doing surveillance one night. i knew Bothwell was at this place, the sunset grill. i was parked behind a sign. i was dressed to kill, white silk suit. looked hot as hell LOL...so after about 45 minutes i started to walk towards him, but he saw me right away. he grabbed me and hugged me and said i was beautiful and i melted into his arms. he gave me his paratrooper wings in that moment, which i always wear on my uniform with pride. damn i love that man!

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Aug 07, 2005 1:49 pm

Far Rider wrote: hahahaha LC! Good for you! Its awesome when tough hearted people tell whats inside, we get to see your humanity.... it does not make you weaker I found out!damn, i almost deleted that but you got me. i don't like being human! LOL i am robocop!!

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Aug 14, 2005 9:56 pm

bump for vicky mae

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Aug 15, 2005 12:06 am

Far Rider wrote: baby why don't you just kill me now and get it over with, instead of this slow painful embarrassment?

LC You're on my list now!your love list?? hahahahaha

ggmuze · Post by **ggmuze** » Tue Aug 16, 2005 10:36 pm

Ok, well, mine is quite serious, and I will try to keep it short here because some of it is quite painfull.

Kim and I met almost 6 years ago as undergraduates in Baltimore, 2000. We had a fling as freshmen that I ended after a week. I barely had her friendship, but it was there somewhere all the time. I never stoped liking her.

Just before Christmas 2004 Kim and I got together again. She was with someone else living in Oregon (go figure) but it wasn't exclusive. So we did it this "casual" way which was extremely foreign to me (always monogamous). It was great, the best of flings in my life.... the conversations, the sex, everything just wonderful. When she came back after Christmas break, she had broken up with the other guy and was going to be with me. I was beside myself.

Then, no more than a week and a half, she went back to him and left me. It was the biggest emotional slide of my life, and I've had a few. Yet, somehow we talked every day, and I mean EVERY DAY! We became inseperable. I was still falling in love with her. Jealousy consumed me to no end. She went to see him at spring break, the lowest emotional state of my young life. When we were together everything progressivly got more intense, emotionally and physically... sometimes very physically. But all the time, I was dying, because I loved her, but couldn't have her truly.

Summer 2005 she was paking up to leave for Oregon to live for the summer, the ultimate pressure to my pain. She drove, for four days, and we talked at every single moment. And in all those hours Kim thought, and thought, and thought, undaunted by people or other distractions.

She got there, and in two days turned around and left again.

She came back...

to me.

I know it may sound too unreal to skip all the way to the present, only a year and a half later, but our wedding date is December 29, 2006, my 25th birthday.

So, if you don't believe any of this, then it's your loss. Romance and fairytails do happen sometimes. This was my moment for that. And I have to stop now because I don't want to cry. :-1

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 2:43 am

I met my husband when I was a teenager...we married when I was 19 in 1966.

He is the only person that I have ever been in love with.....I've never even had the slightest crush on anyone else.

Unhappily, 'life' and circumstances ( he has had 2 affairs that I know of) have changed....we are no longer 'In love' although we share a home. I am fiercely loyal and I don't think he realises what he has thrown away.

If I was totally honest I would love to have that gut wrenching feeling that is 'love' just once again in my life....my daughter tells me that it is never to late to find another soulmate...who knows...

Not a happy ending...sorry....but who knows...oneday I might be telling another story....watch this space.

sherry · Post by **sherry** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 2:57 am

I've been in love with my partner for 14 years and yes I am only 29. *lol* We are soul mates I believe, we have a loving and understanding that I can never imagine having with any other person.

Don't get me wrong I get crushes on people off the television all the time and he does as well. He's had his Kylie obsession for a while now:wah:

sherry · Post by **sherry** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 2:59 am

Far Rider wrote: Im the Grinch talkin about LOVE what the hecks a matter with me!

OK... my son has those feelings creeping up in his little heart... Hes 15, he's got a good head on his shoulders, but the love bug has bitten him. And its amazing to see him misplace words while he attempts to talk with the girl of his dreams! He is the same age as I was when I met the girl of my dreams!

He said to me the other day... 'Dad, um I think I'm falling in love'... 'excuse me son'? 'in love? how do you know'? He says 'well every time I get near her I can't think straight and I get all fuzzy'.:-4

hahahaha.... this is gonna be fun to watch!
Oh thats just adorable:-4

I'm taking so many embarrassing pictures of my children now so I can show them to future boyfriends and girlfriends.:sneaky:

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 3:00 am

Far Rider wrote: I'll not only watch for ya Bez I'll wish and pray for ya too!

Thanks Far...I saw my 'little cowboy' yesterday....3 weeks old today.....he is awesome. Happily, love for our kids and Grandchildren lasts for ever....nothing in the world beats it .... :-4

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Nov 13, 2005 9:29 am

Bez quote..If I was totally honest I would love to have that gut wrenching feeling that is 'love' just once again in my life....my daughter tells me that it is never to late to find another soulmate...who knows..."---Bez i met my soulmate when my kids were grown and i had been contentedly alone for ten years!! God saves the best for last i think. be open to the possibility. :yh_love :yh_flower

PurpleChicken · Post by **PurpleChicken** » Mon Nov 14, 2005 6:14 am

Our story wasn't quite so romantic.

Met my boy on a work pub crawl. Not quite love at first sight (i was still with someone else), but was definitely electric from the start. Had been thinking about breaking up with the other guy anyway, so meeting Mr PC certainly gave me the added incentive. From there it was all a very quick slide towards being head over heels - Funnily enough, it moved too quickly for my folks, who were still devastated over my breakup with my ex and didn't quite embrace Mr PC initially!! HOwever all has worked out well and we both fit in extremely well with each others families, and most importantly with eachother. Still only newbies in comparison to AC, but was 3 yrs a couple of months ago.....

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Sun Nov 20, 2005 8:49 am

all i can say is i would stand in front of a locomotive for someone i love...my kids or Bothwell.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sun Nov 20, 2005 8:57 am

To love is to touch....hugs, cuddles, hold hands, fleeting caresses, kisses

To love is to ....protect, nurture, respect

To feel love for someone....an indescribable feeling in the pit of the stomach, hairs on the back of the neck standing up, joy when you see them, sadness when you leave them

sherry · Post by **sherry** » Sun Nov 20, 2005 9:15 am

Love is when you can sit on the loo and he can bush his teeth at the same time at the sink.:-4

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sun Nov 20, 2005 9:20 am

Find the person who will love you because of your differences and

not in spite of them and you have found a lover for life.

~ Leo Buscaglia

venus · Post by **venus** » Sun Nov 20, 2005 2:40 pm

Love just is.....

its not about who does what or has what...its about looking into anothers face and seeing yourself sat by them in many years to come holding hands and talknig about when you first met...:-4

and love is when your child holds your hand or says l love you mum, just because...

l sometimes watch my son when we are supposed to be watching a movie together, because l can't get over how wonderful he is and that he is mine...l created him and the way he smiles,laughs and wrinkles his nose all mesmerise me. He is my son, and l love him...

oohhh and l agree farlie. My other half and l do that one often...

Light · Post by **Light** » Tue Nov 22, 2005 8:38 am

I could write it alll down, or I could just copy and paste something I wrote in my weblog about one of my love stories. Last option seems most practical.

It is incomplete and not finshed...it is ok though, because it will never be finshed.

Its is a sad love story, but it was my greatest life lesson until now:)

To love and to be loved, does require to love yourself first... Well perhaps also to love life, I am life myself. so if i love myself I love life as well...

Anyway here you go:

Today has been a day of a new start. Only I discovered that is not so easy to just close a door and to keep it closed. And yes again I am talking about her. I took her pictures of the wall already, but it seems like everywhere that I look are little pieces of her. It has been almost 2 months now since we parted or since I knew almost sure that we would. And I wonder how much longer it will take before I am able to let go of my love for her...

Let me start at the beginning. And go back 1 and a half year ago...

I am a chess player, Russia is the country of chess. There was one afternoon that I thought it would be nice to exchange some ideas about chess with a person from Russia. I openend Icq searched for people from Russia with the key word chess.

I found some people, and sent them a message. Some replied, but there was one woman in particular, let me call her Minxy to protect her privacy. It started with a normal chat, I thought she was a nice friendly and polite person.

It was nice to meet her even tough she did not know much about chess.

I wonder how I would have acted if I knew back then what I know now... Probably exactly the same, because my heart knew all along that she was not meant for me.

It started with friendship, we talked so every now and then, i got to know her very slowly, Minxy was not a person who opens up easely, she kept a lot of distance, and with little steps she allowed me to come closer. Half a year passed, before we became good friends. She was different then any other woman that i have ever met online. She was distant, quiet, mysterious, intelligent and beautifull as well inside her heart as the way she looked... I realized that I started to fall in love with her... But again my heart told me no, my inuition said that she was way out of my league.

We continued to stay friends. We shared a lot and many events happened in her life as well as mine. we grew closer. almost a year past by, I couldnt hide my feelings any longer I discussed them with her, she told me she had some feelings as well. though we remained to stay friends.

More time went by we knew eachother approximately one year, and we decided to become a couple. Still I had aqaintants who were more open to me than that she was. She was like the wind, I wanted to grab her and she escaped through my fingers. Slowly and bit by bit, she gave herself to me, but never it was completely. I think It was that what made me want her even more.

There was enough contact, we talked almost everyday, I recieved hunderds of smses from her. and I send her as much back. Everything was so different than the other times that I felt love. We were so close but yet it stayed so fragile and at the same time so precious to me. And still my heart told me no, you are not the one for her. She can't love you but she does not know it yet.

I told her about my fears, and that they made me afraid to love her. She teached me and explained me how to love and to have faith in our love, She read a lot about it and knew exactly how to love in theory. She was not able to take my fear away. But I decided that my inuition was the same as fear. And I decided to go along with it because I did not want to be lead by fear. And anyway I loved her too much to ever be able to turn around and to walk away, She was the first thought in the morning , the last in the evening and I took her with her in my heart where ever I went.

And even while writing this I feel the tears running down my face, and so I have to stop now... but I hope to continue tomorrow... Soon it will be time to sleep, I will lay in my bed, and still she will be my last thought before I fall asleep...

10-27-2005

I planned to continue to write this, though I doubt if it is usefull. I feel the desire to write it all down fading away. Why would I confront myself with it again and want to experience all those emotion and pain. well let me put it in the freezer for now, lets see if I can write about it later

8-11-2005

Still she is the last person I think of before I fall asleep I wish her freedom, in the widest sense of that word! I won't continue writing about this. Some things do not require to be written down... Because they will be a beautiful and vivid memory for ever...

8-11-2005

one last thing, was my intuition right, or could she not love me because I believed so...

venus · Post by **venus** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 1:56 am

Love is having your heart ripped out and stamped on in front of you as your brain tries to catch up with whats going on...

Love is giving your heart and soul to someone only to have them walk...

love is being told ld be devastated if we part, only to see that they are not devastated at all and are having a laugh... even if you have spent the entire day crying silently to yourself...

love is being kicked while you are down...

love is pain in the most extreme...

love is having your whole body feel like it has been crushed and having to remind yourself to breathe...

Love is something l just cannot face again ...:-1

Light · Post by **Light** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 4:35 am

Though Love is also something that you can't stop from happening again...

venus · Post by **venus** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 11:56 am

Love is being willing to give your life for the one you love..

obviously this requires a life or death situation and not just bumping yaself off to prove you love someone...:-3

LOVE is that feeling in the pit of your stomach that bubbles up when you see the love of your life :-4

Light · Post by **Light** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 1:40 pm

Love is a situation in wich you can function in a correct way as individuals, so that both can contribute to each other life in a positive way. of course this would be an ideal situation. but how often does it happens that two persons get together because they want to compensate something in each other, while infact it means that they are slowing eachother down in thier personal developement...

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 1:45 pm

Light wrote: Love is a situation in wich you can function in a correct way as individuals, so that both can contribute to each other life in a positive way. of course this would be an ideal situation. but how often does it happens that two persons get together because they want to compensate something in each other, while infact it means that they are slowing eachother down in thier personal developement...
Love is giving all of yourself to your beloved, and then some.

I give all my love, for that one smile a day I receive....................

Light · Post by **Light** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 1:47 pm

Far Rider wrote: Love is when my giant son put his arm around his litttle sister and leaned in and said Happy Birthday Sissy, I love ya!

Thats love as well:) but a different kind of love, though one of the most beautiful ones. Love between family is most likely to last for ever than other kinds of love.

Well love is such a broard word, there is love for oneself, love for life, love for nature, love for your fellow humans...

I think the most important kind of love is the love for life it self...and that includes love for yourself considering a human is also life. With that as a basis love can be a very beautiful thing..

Light · Post by **Light** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 1:49 pm

chonsigirl wrote: Love is giving all of yourself to your beloved, and then some.

I give all my love, for that one smile a day I receive....................

Love is in my opinion not to give all of yourself, because that could indicate lack of love for oneself..

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sun Nov 27, 2005 1:53 pm

Light wrote: Love is in my opinion not to give all of yourself, because that could indicate lack of love for oneself..
No Light, I give all of myself because my husband is an invalid and can do no more then smile at me.

It is not a lack of respect, but the contrary. To neglect him, would show lack of respect for himself and myself. And indicate I did not love him. So I give all of myself to his care and attention, and those who know me here know this.

PS Many languages have different definitions of love, for example, the Bible has 4 different types in the original Greek. There is no one definition of love.