How Long ?

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:22 pm

Do any of us know how long we have left?

Do we need to get in touch with long lost friends?

Do we need to say sorry to someone for some intended or unintended slight?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately & this year I am going to get in touch with people I haven't spoken to for ages.

I am also going to try & be more compassionate to others.

Less thinking about how hard things are for me & think how hard it must be for those who may lose their employment,their superanuation,loved ones etc.

What I am trying to say is can't everyone just be a bit more considerate to each other here & in RL.

Sure people pee you off ignore them,say something nice,put in a smiley,who cares just lets all try to be a bit more considerate of each others feelings.

I have been know to hurt others feelings I publicly apologised on here most people took that as a peace offering as it was meant.

Those who didn't well I can't change that .The offer is still open.

There is so much going on around us in RL I find it nice to come here & get away from other hassles ,from all the RL garbage.

Have your debates,opinions etc but come out of it being considerate to others feelings,beliefs & up bringings. Different nationalities have different ways of saying & doing things.

Guess what ......................We all bleed the same,breath the same,die the same.

I just care for people on here, past & present.

Life is short ,shorter than we think.

Be kind to one another.

You are probably thinking Hello she has finally lost the plot:yh_rotfl not far from the truth probably.

I just care,no harm in that? :-4:-4:-4:-6

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:28 pm

Wise words sweetheart!

none of us know if we're gonna have another day on this earth, and i for one would hate to leave this world with any ill will towards anyone or thinking that someone had bad feelings toward me!

there have been some terrible misunderstandings here in the garden that have caused a rift between me and folks i truly like, and it tears me up to have to ignore people, i have even contemplated leaving from here because of it but have decided aganist it, but i wish so much that things could be different!

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:29 pm

Beautifully said mrsK....and I cannot imagine you ever being anything but sweet and kind. :-4

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:32 pm

Hope6;1115756 wrote: Wise words sweetheart!

none of us know if we're gonna have another day on this earth, and i for one would hate to leave this world with any ill will towards anyone or thinking that someone had bad feelings toward me!

there have been some terrible misunderstandings here in the garden that have caused a rift between me and folks i truly like, and it tears me up to have to ignore people, i have even contemplated leaving from here because of it but have decided aganist it, but i wish so much that things could be different!

I can't imagine people having bad feelings toward you either Hope...but yes, some people just don't see things the same way. And forget your contemplating anything but staying put right here on FG. :-4

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:36 pm

shelbell;1115759 wrote: I can't imagine people having bad feelings toward you either Hope...but yes, some people just don't see things the same way. And forget your contemplating anything but staying put right here on FG. :-4

I thought about it seriously, but i decided i wouldn't leave all the wonderful friends i've made here! :-4

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:41 pm

Hope6;1115762 wrote: I thought about it seriously, but i decided i wouldn't leave all the wonderful friends i've made here! :-4

I know you did hun, that's why I said what I said. You leaving would be a huge loss for FG.:-4

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:43 pm

Hope6;1115762 wrote: I thought about it seriously, but i decided i wouldn't leave all the wonderful friends i've made here! :-4

Hope, you also need to check your room...I put a little something in there for you that only you will understand. :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Kindle · Post by **Kindle** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:44 pm

mrsK;1115748 wrote: Do any of us know how long we have left?

Do we need to get in touch with long lost friends?

About 10 years or so ago I decided to reconnect with friends I had lost touch with. I was most successful and it was satisfying to me to be clever enough to track some of them down. Catching up with everyone was most enjoyable, but I learned that you can't go back................. What was, was. What is now, is now. We moved into the future without them for a reason.

I hope you find the peace you are looking for.

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:51 pm

Hello my lovely friend Mrs. K:-4

You are, without a doubt, one of the most beautiful and endearing friends that I have here in the Forum Garden.

You always speak such wonderful words of wisdom.

Yes, I certainly agree with you:-6. We have to do something to keep our garden growing in a healthy way. Too often, weeds choke the flowers....therefore the flower does not grow seeds, and we all die.

Peace to our garden Mrs. K....Hope all is good with you:-4

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 5:56 pm

mrsK;1115748 wrote: Do any of us know how long we have left?

Do we need to get in touch with long lost friends?

Do we need to say sorry to someone for some intended or unintended slight?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately & this year I am going to get in touch with people I haven't spoken to for ages.

I am also going to try & be more compassionate to others.

Less thinking about how hard things are for me & think how hard it must be for those who may lose their employment,their superanuation,loved ones etc.

What I am trying to say is can't everyone just be a bit more considerate to each other here & in RL.

Sure people pee you off ignore them,say something nice,put in a smiley,who cares just lets all try to be a bit more considerate of each others feelings.

I have been know to hurt others feelings I publicly apologised on here most people took that as a peace offering as it was meant.

Those who didn't well I can't change that .The offer is still open.

There is so much going on around us in RL I find it nice to come here & get away from other hassles ,from all the RL garbage.

Have your debates,opinions etc but come out of it being considerate to others feelings,beliefs & up bringings. Different nationalities have different ways of saying & doing things.

Guess what ......................We all bleed the same,breath the same,die the same.

I just care for people on here, past & present.

Life is short ,shorter than we think.

Be kind to one another.

You are probably thinking Hello she has finally lost the plot:yh_rotfl not far from the truth probably.

I just care,no harm in that? :-4:-4:-4:-6

life's ups and downs at times can be really upsetting.

no one knows how long anyone has on this earth.

-there has been alot of rudeness and insults planted in this garden the past few months, and I have now learnt to ignore them....just let them die in the ground...........move on to more happier topics in the garden and just enjoy!

You have a lot of caring friends here, so forget the ones we don't need here!

:-4

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 7:21 pm

We all love you-:-4

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Wed Jan 21, 2009 7:45 pm

Thanks for the lovely words :-4:-4

I was trying to get people just to think ,do we/you need to get in touch with someone,tell them you love them,I guess what I am trying to say is we need have a look at our lives & have a stocktake as to what is most important to us.

I love coming on here reading all the posts,some I laugh at others I cry,others I get a bit cranky.

That happens in our RL also & I have decided to make things a bit nicer for those who I care about.

I just feel I can do better in the caring stakes & that is one of my New Years resolutions.

Things happen in our lives that make us sit down & have a good think about what direction our lives are going in.

I have been doing that recently & the above is what I have come up with.

Thanks for your replies:-4:-4

nok · Post by **nok** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 4:38 am

[QUOTE=Kindle;1115768]I learned that you can't go back................. What was, was. What is now, is now. We moved into the future without them for a reason.

QUOTE]

I totally agree with you. A couple of years ago, I tried to reconnect with the people from my past ( friends, former bosses, ex boyfriends) and by doing so, I learned the hard way to leave the past in the past. Oh, I mean they talked to me but things just weren't the same. After a couple of attempts to rekindle past relationships ( with me doing all of the work ) , I decided to let go of them and leave them in the past ( where they belong). It would've been nice to have been friends with them ( again) since we went through so much together in the past but since they were so neutral about rekindling the relationship, then I have to respect them and let go ( which I've already done.)

nok · Post by **nok** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 4:41 am

mrsK- Thank you for your nice thoughts about forgiveness and caring. The world would be a much better place if everyone loved, cared and forgave each other.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 5:05 am

mrsK;1115827 wrote: Thanks for the lovely words :-4:-4

I was trying to get people just to think ,do we/you need to get in touch with someone,tell them you love them,I guess what I am trying to say is we need have a look at our lives & have a stocktake as to what is most important to us.

I love coming on here reading all the posts,some I laugh at others I cry,others I get a bit cranky.

That happens in our RL also & I have decided to make things a bit nicer for those who I care about.

I just feel I can do better in the caring stakes & that is one of my New Years resolutions.

Things happen in our lives that make us sit down & have a good think about what direction our lives are going in.

I have been doing that recently & the above is what I have come up with.

Thanks for your replies:-4:-4
I dont know how you can possibly become more caring than you already are mrsK:-4 every time i see your posts i smile, and send you a little wish for happiness always:-6

I know what you mean about people getting a bit cranky sometimes in here,, people are the way they are i suppose and we cant change that, i just wish some could disagree in a more civilised manner,, i have disagreed with many things but if i decide to vioce my disagreement i try to do it civilly and calmly without personal insults or offensive remarks,, i think thats just so unneccessary:-3

There are some people from my past i would like to find,, just to see how they are getting on,, how life has treated them,, i often wonder. Some people though i have had to let go, for my own peace of mind

For a very long time in my life now ,, i have had my priorities in order of what is most important to me ,,and that is my family,, my friends ,, people who are special to me, our happiness and health,,, thats all:D I find it sad when some people put so much importance to objects, thngs, a house a car ,, etc. when thay have some absolutely beautiful crystal wine glasses but wont ever use them:-2 I use my lovely glasses and china.. and burn my gorgeous candles:D

MrsK. i have a suggestion for you,,, while you are making an effort to be more caring,,, dont leave out an important person,,,,,,,,,, you:-4

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 5:46 am

mrsK;1115748 wrote: Do any of us know how long we have left?

Do we need to get in touch with long lost friends?

Do we need to say sorry to someone for some intended or unintended slight?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately & this year I am going to get in touch with people I haven't spoken to for ages.

I am also going to try & be more compassionate to others.

Less thinking about how hard things are for me & think how hard it must be for those who may lose their employment,their superanuation,loved ones etc.

What I am trying to say is can't everyone just be a bit more considerate to each other here & in RL.

Sure people pee you off ignore them,say something nice,put in a smiley,who cares just lets all try to be a bit more considerate of each others feelings.

I have been know to hurt others feelings I publicly apologised on here most people took that as a peace offering as it was meant.

Those who didn't well I can't change that .The offer is still open.

There is so much going on around us in RL I find it nice to come here & get away from other hassles ,from all the RL garbage.

Have your debates,opinions etc but come out of it being considerate to others feelings,beliefs & up bringings. Different nationalities have different ways of saying & doing things.

Guess what ......................We all bleed the same,breath the same,die the same.

I just care for people on here, past & present.

Life is short ,shorter than we think.

Be kind to one another.

You are probably thinking Hello she has finally lost the plot:yh_rotfl not far from the truth probably.

I just care,no harm in that? :-4:-4:-4:-6

OMG! You must have been reading my mind! I've been thinking about this an awful lot lately :-4:-4:-4

Life is too short - tell those close to you what they mean to you, before it's too late :-1

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:13 pm

nok;1115925 wrote: [QUOTE=Kindle;1115768]I learned that you can't go back................. What was, was. What is now, is now. We moved into the future without them for a reason.

QUOTE]

I totally agree with you. A couple of years ago, I tried to reconnect with the people from my past ( friends, former bosses, ex boyfriends) and by doing so, I learned the hard way to leave the past in the past. Oh, I mean they talked to me but things just weren't the same. After a couple of attempts to rekindle past relationships ( with me doing all of the work ) , I decided to let go of them and leave them in the past ( where they belong). It would've been nice to have been friends with them ( again) since we went through so much together in the past but since they were so neutral about rekindling the relationship, then I have to respect them and let go ( which I've already done.)

Good for you nok...these people are in our past for a reason.

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:22 pm

I do believe that family, in most cases, is one thing we should try to rekindle if things have been bad. Eight years ago my oldest daughter did some rotten stuff and as a result my extended family decided to just cut me out of their lives(including my mom). It was four years later that we started to actually talk and see each other again. I love them, yet don't get to close because I don't want to go thru that trama again. We don't see each other ofter nor talk often, but when we do see each other we will hug and tell each other "I love you". I know that if something happened to any of us, I would regret not having any relationship with them.

I've had friends in the past that ended up in the past for a reason and will stay there...but family is totally different.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:23 pm

I'm not sure why, but this thread made me think of my father although thinking of my father is a daily event anyway.

We all know that people get old and die..... It's fact and when some-one elderly die's we tend to think 'Oh well, they had a good innings'

My father died at 80 years old but even in my adult mind, i believed that only other people's dad's died. Well, they did didn't they? My dad was a super-hero so he couldn't possibly die could he?.... not MY dad... MY dad would live for-ever being right behind me as always. He wouldn't leave me would he? Even when the cancer was in his bones and his consultant said they could do no more....I said.....but this is MY dad....MY dad will live for-ever.....Other people's dad's die.......Not mine...... He can't die because he's MY dad.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:39 pm

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( Mrs K )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry you're hurting. Things happen in the lives of a lot of us where suddenly we find ourselves standing on the edge of the abyss staring into darkness. It's an experience that cannot but change the way we live out our lives. It puts petty online squabbles into perspective, and makes us evaluate what things really are important to us. Our families, our friends. Human warmth. A sunset. A cup of coffee... the smell of gardenias, a sea breeze.

I don't know what's happened to bring you to this dark place, but I'm sending you loving thoughts. The advice to be gentle with yourself is good.

How much of our past we can retrieve, I don't know. I regret losing touch with a few close friends over the years. Out of three in particular, I have refound one. The other two, I am still a bit shy to take that last step with. It's been so long. The one I found, is exactly as I remembered her, older of course - and we had a wonderful catching up recently.

Life's a journey and all along the way we make decisions, small and big. We'll never know how things would have turned out if we'd decided differently. Just as well, probably. I'm not sure that having regrets is useful.. grin.. we can really only move onwards.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:41 pm

H, your one of my treasured and most thought about online friends. Your caring, warmth and kindness is second to none and has cheered me up when I have felt down. The emails you send with well wishes for me and my family which arrive at just the right time to put a big smile back on my face...You H, who have had so much heartache and pain to contend with lately but still there for others, your one in a million and I wish you lived closer so I could give you a big hug..:-4

Now then this bloody post of yours

My bloody biological father....The one who's never bothered about me....I'm not getting into it here but I have been saying for a while that I need to make contact as he ain't getting any younger and I am being selfish for once and thinking what impact his death would have on me if we don't get in contact...I know that sounds callous and hard but that man's hurt me so many times, and made me the emotional, needy and insecure person I am today.......Why can't I be the bigger person and say hi.......

-1 I'm frightened of yet another rejection, that's why...

Thanks H, some more pent up feelings just escaped, maybe I will get a good night's sleep tonight...

My dad by the way only lives in the next village, hes never seen my children, their 10 and 9 years old...His loss as they are fabulous, mind you he didnt see me grow up either...More interested in drink and women.

Saw my Dad tonight infact, on my way home from work, I was driving through his village to get to my girls school, gosh hes aged, he walked with a limp also, hair looked greyer and thinner, still a good looking fella and in pretty good shape.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 12:51 pm

Aw Chez ,,, thats so sad:( well maybe you are the person you are today because of it,,, but you happen to be a very special person,, and your children have a wonderful mother:-4:-4 poor man he has lost an awful lot in not being part of your lives and he only has himself to blame

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:00 pm

kazalala;1116278 wrote: Aw Chez ,,, thats so sad:( well maybe you are the person you are today because of it,,, but you happen to be a very special person,, and your children have a wonderful mother:-4:-4 poor man he has lost an awful lot in not being part of your lives and he only has himself to blame

My mum remarried when I was 8 years old, I was a baby when my mum finally left my Dad and my stepdad is wonderful, hes been so good for me and to me but It would be nice for my real dad to recognise what I have achieved with my life and not the single mum with 8 kids and living off benefits that he told me id turn out like when I was 13 years old because I had put eye shadow on....

Anyway he screwed my eldest brothers life up more than he did mine as my brother witnessed more as he is 7 years older than me..Some people just shouldn't have children

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:02 pm

Chezzie;1116284 wrote: My mum remarried when I was 8 years old, I was a baby when my mum finally left my Dad and my stepdad is wonderful, hes been so good for me and to me but It would be nice for my real dad to recognise what I have achieved with my life and not the single mum with 8 kids and living off benefits that he told me id turn out like when I was 13 years old because I had put eye shadow on....

Anyway he screwed my eldest brothers life up more than he did mine as my brother witnessed more as he is 7 years older than me..Some people just shouldn't have children

oh very true chez:(

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:08 pm

But if he hadn't, Chezzie - we wouldn't have the pleasure of your company!!!! :-6

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:09 pm

Chezzie;1116284 wrote: My mum remarried when I was 8 years old, I was a baby when my mum finally left my Dad and my stepdad is wonderful, hes been so good for me and to me but It would be nice for my real dad to recognise what I have achieved with my life and not the single mum with 8 kids and living off benefits that he told me id turn out like when I was 13 years old because I had put eye shadow on....

Anyway he screwed my eldest brothers life up more than he did mine as my brother witnessed more as he is 7 years older than me..Some people just shouldn't have children

He is probably feeling as bad as you. Some people just can't admit they have screwed up and mend bridges. I'm sure he is well aware of what he has missed out on in your life but may fear rejection if he tries to make it up to you. He may be hurting far more than you think.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:09 pm

AussiePam;1116290 wrote: But if he hadn't, Chezzie - we wouldn't have the pleasure of your company!!!! :-6

Oh Pam.....what a lovely thing to say, im choked, honestly, thank you:-4

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:09 pm

AussiePam;1116290 wrote: But if he hadn't, Chezzie - we wouldn't have the pleasure of your company!!!! :-6

I was thinking the exact same thing!!

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:12 pm

shelbell;1116294 wrote: I was thinking the exact same thing!!

Thanks Shel, we have such wonderful caring people here on FG, always there for one another, ready to lift spirits and speak kind words, thank you.

Sorry for hijacking your thread H, but it feels good to get it out sometimes and your words sparked alot of emotion hun..:-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:13 pm

Chezzie;1116295 wrote: Thanks Shel, we have such wonderful caring people here on FG, always there for one another, ready to lift spirits and speak kind words, thank you.

Sorry for hijacking your thread H, but it feels good to get it out sometimes and your words sparked alot of emotion hun..:-4

you know H wont mind in the least:-6

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:19 pm

We're the people we are because of all the things that have happened to us, and because of how we deal with these things. Maybe we're all a bit screwed up, Chezzie. Maybe this is just another word for character. I look at my fellow aquarobics ladies when we are all struggling back into our clothes in the minuscule change room. A bunch of lived in women, people. Many of us with messy relationships, blended families, problem kids, divorces, lovers, lonelinesses, joys, achievements, all still somehow smiling. And I'm proud to be there amongst them. And here amongst you all.

This is a bit off topic - but as I race off to get packed, I just felt a moment of silly warm and fuzziness... grin. Mrs K is a fine person. So are you, Chezzie and Shelbell, Kaz... all of us in our own ways.. hey even Oscar on a good day maybe... (don't quote me on that)...

OK I'm outta here. See you all down the track a bit.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:23 pm

AussiePam;1116298 wrote: We're the people we are because of all the things that have happened to us, and because of how we deal with these things. Maybe we're all a bit screwed up, Chezzie. Maybe this is just another word for character. I look at my fellow aquarobics ladies when we are all struggling back into our clothes in the minuscule change room. A bunch of lived in women, people. Many of us with messy relationships, blended families, problem kids, divorces, lovers, lonelinesses, joys, achievements, all still somehow smiling. And I'm proud to be there amongst them. And here amongst you all.

This is a bit off topic - but as I race off to get packed, I just felt a moment of silly warm and fuzziness... grin. Mrs K is a fine person. So are you, Chezzie and Shelbell, Kaz... all of us in our own ways.. hey even Oscar on a good day maybe... (don't quote me on that)...

OK I'm outta here. See you all down the track a bit.

good words pam ,, you are another one who can always make me smile with your posts:D

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:24 pm

Chezzie;1116295 wrote: Thanks Shel, we have such wonderful caring people here on FG, always there for one another, ready to lift spirits and speak kind words, thank you.

Sorry for hijacking your thread H, but it feels good to get it out sometimes and your words sparked alot of emotion hun..:-4

Your so welcome cheezewhiz

There is always someone that will understand and if you don't get it out, you may miss out on meeting that someone that can become such a close friend. We're so glad you were born so that you can be here with us. :-4:yh_hugs:-4

shelbell · Post by **shelbell** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:25 pm

AussiePam;1116298 wrote: We're the people we are because of all the things that have happened to us, and because of how we deal with these things. Maybe we're all a bit screwed up, Chezzie. Maybe this is just another word for character. I look at my fellow aquarobics ladies when we are all struggling back into our clothes in the minuscule change room. A bunch of lived in women, people. Many of us with messy relationships, blended families, problem kids, divorces, lovers, lonelinesses, joys, achievements, all still somehow smiling. And I'm proud to be there amongst them. And here amongst you all.

This is a bit off topic - but as I race off to get packed, I just felt a moment of silly warm and fuzziness... grin. Mrs K is a fine person. So are you, Chezzie and Shelbell, Kaz... all of us in our own ways.. hey even Oscar on a good day maybe... (don't quote me on that)...

OK I'm outta here. See you all down the track a bit.

I'm glad you're here too Pam. :-4

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 1:26 pm

AussiePam;1116298 wrote: We're the people we are because of all the things that have happened to us, and because of how we deal with these things. Maybe we're all a bit screwed up, Chezzie. Maybe this is just another word for character. I look at my fellow aquarobics ladies when we are all struggling back into our clothes in the minuscule change room. A bunch of lived in women, people. Many of us with messy relationships, blended families, problem kids, divorces, lovers, lonelinesses, joys, achievements, all still somehow smiling. And I'm proud to be there amongst them. And here amongst you all.

This is a bit off topic - but as I race off to get packed, I just felt a moment of silly warm and fuzziness... grin. Mrs K is a fine person. So are you, Chezzie and Shelbell, Kaz... all of us in our own ways.. hey even Oscar on a good day maybe... (don't quote me on that)...

OK I'm outta here. See you all down the track a bit.

kazalala;1116299 wrote: good words pam ,, you are another one who can always make me smile with your posts:D

shelbell;1116300 wrote: Your so welcome cheezewhiz

There is always someone that will understand and if you don't get it out, you may miss out on meeting that someone that can become such a close friend. We're so glad you were born so that you can be here with us. :-4:yh_hugs:-4

Thanks girls, wise words and so very true:-4

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 2:52 pm

We should respect our differences and enjoy our similarities.

I agree with nok in that some people from our past need to stay in our past. People change. Time changes us.

We do not know how long we have on this earth. Each day we have is a gift. What we do with this gift is in our hands.

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mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 4:45 pm

Chezzie;1116295 wrote: Thanks Shel, we have such wonderful caring people here on FG, always there for one another, ready to lift spirits and speak kind words, thank you.

Sorry for hijacking your thread H, but it feels good to get it out sometimes and your words sparked alot of emotion hun..:-4

No don't say sorry:-4:-4

This is what I wanted to happen in this thread

,I wanted people to think & talk & show each other that we really care for one another. And if they needed to get in touch with others than this might just get them to do it.

There should be more of it.

HopeI am so very pleased you stayed at FG you really are an asset & bring cheer to the place,everyone has their moments but thry are soon over & done with.

KindleYou took the time to reconnect with past firends.

I know you can never go back ,at least you made the effort & found that out for yourself.

Kathy You always have something lovely & uplifting to say.

Odie Thanks for your input as well.

Chonsi Thank you you are one lovely lady.

Nok I understand what you said about your friends.I know we all change & need to move on with our lives.For better or worse.

Kaz Family is always first with me,friends & then the rest follows on.

I also use all my good things,I want them well used before I go & don't want anyone else breaking them in;)

I wear my jewellery gardening,my best perfume every day even gardening.

Like you I try to be respectful even when I am angry .

Rosie I think you & I have some ESP happening between us as we always seem to be thinking the same thing.

Shelbell I am so happy you are in touch with your family.

Even if it is not what it once was . We all need family.

Oscar You have great memories of your Dad & that is fantastic.

AP Things happen in our lives that make us sit back & have a good think.

I know you have been there as well.

Stocktake .........

We need to go through these times no matter how hurtful.

Makes us better caring people.

I am not in a bad place just a thinking place.

Thanks for the hugs though I welcome them anytime.

Chez You are a lovely lady.

A good Mum.

Get in touch with your Dad.

Rejection hurts like hell,but at least you will know you tried & are the better person for it.

If you are thinking about it than you probably need to doit.

Ring him ,then you can end the conversation when it suits you.

He is the one missing out on a lot.

Maybe he feels he can't call you ,been to long.

Give it a go.

AFTR So very true ,what we do with our lives is up to us.

I am going to make a few changes for the better.

Thanks everyone,you are all fantastic caring people.:-4:-4:-4:-4

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 5:05 pm

mrsK;1116411 wrote: No don't say sorry:-4:-4

This is what I wanted to happen in this thread

,I wanted people to think & talk & show each other that we really care for one another. And if they needed to get in touch with others than this might just get them to do it.

There should be more of it.

HopeI am so very pleased you stayed at FG you really are an asset & bring cheer to the place,everyone has their moments but thry are soon over & done with.

KindleYou took the time to reconnect with past firends.

I know you can never go back ,at least you made the effort & found that out for yourself.

Kathy You always have something lovely & uplifting to say.

Odie Thanks for your input as well.

Chonsi Thank you you are one lovely lady.

Nok I understand what you said about your friends.I know we all change & need to move on with our lives.For better or worse.

Kaz Family is always first with me,friends & then the rest follows on.

I also use all my good things,I want them well used before I go & don't want anyone else breaking them in;)

I wear my jewellery gardening,my best perfume every day even gardening.

Like you I try to be respectful even when I am angry .

Rosie I think you & I have some ESP happening between us as we always seem to be thinking the same thing.

Shelbell I am so happy you are in touch with your family.

Even if it is not what it once was . We all need family.

Oscar You have great memories of your Dad & that is fantastic.

AP Things happen in our lives that make us sit back & have a good think.

I know you have been there as well.

Stocktake .........

We need to go through these times no matter how hurtful.

Makes us better caring people.

I am not in a bad place just a thinking place.

Thanks for the hugs though I welcome them anytime.

Chez You are a lovely lady.

A good Mum.

Get in touch with your Dad.

Rejection hurts like hell,but at least you will know you tried & are the better person for it.

If you are thinking about it than you probably need to doit.

Ring him ,then you can end the conversation when it suits you.

He is the one missing out on a lot.

Maybe he feels he can't call you ,been to long.

Give it a go.

AFTR So very true ,what we do with our lives is up to us.

I am going to make a few changes for the better.

Thanks everyone,you are all fantastic caring people.:-4:-4:-4:-4

Thank you for the lovely words MrsK! you are a special lady and a great asset to FG yourself! :-4

Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Thu Jan 22, 2009 5:08 pm

i wish i had known that day when i left to go to school and went into my dad's room to kiss him goodbye, that it would be the last time i would see him alive!

How many things i would have said to him! i know i would have told him i loved him!

we should never put off telling people we care about how we feel because one day it's gonna be to late!

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:38 am

Hope6;1116421 wrote: i wish i had known that day when i left to go to school and went into my dad's room to kiss him goodbye, that it would be the last time i would see him alive!

How many things i would have said to him! i know i would have told him i loved him!

we should never put off telling people we care about how we feel because one day it's gonna be to late!

We don't know Hope.

I think it is good that we don't know.

That is why I am going to get in touch with people & just say hello.:-4:-6

Post by **Ally** » Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:44 am

Mrs k i agree with everything u have said and the other girls we all have something in our past that we should think about dealing with,with me its my brother he has a wich of a wife that broke our family up and caused my parent heartache befor they died and i dont think i could ever forgive her for taking my brother and brainwashing him and hurting our whole family.we dont see any of our neices and nefews she has turned them all agains us.i know that my brothe was very weak because if he had been strong he wouldnt have let the wich shatter our family.unfortunately its not my time to deal with it.how nice it is to have such loving caring people on here you are all great in my book.:-6:-6:-6:-6

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Fri Jan 23, 2009 12:50 am

Ally;1116571 wrote: Mrs k i agree with everything u have said and the other girls we all have something in our past that we should think about dealing with,with me its my brother he has a wich of a wife that broke our family up and caused my parent heartache befor they died and i dont think i could ever forgive her for taking my brother and brainwashing him and hurting our whole family.we dont see any of our neices and nefews she has turned them all agains us.i know that my brothe was very weak because if he had been strong he wouldnt have let the wich shatter our family.unfortunately its not my time to deal with it.how nice it is to have such loving caring people on here you are all great in my book.:-6:-6:-6:-6

I am sorry that happened to your family Ally.

You never know one day you may be able to face all this & at least be on talking terms.

I hope that is true in your case,hugs to you:-4:-4

Post by **Ally** » Fri Jan 23, 2009 1:07 am

Thanks so much mrs,k cant see it happening but my sister and i are very very close all thats left of our family sad but we have each other always.:-4

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Fri Jan 23, 2009 4:27 am

Ally;1116577 wrote: Thanks so much mrs,k cant see it happening but my sister and i are very very close all thats left of our family sad but we have each other always.:-4

its so hard when you have to let one of your family go:(

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 9:45 pm

I think,I hope I have found a very dear friend of mine.:-4:-4

I honestly don't know what happened & why we drifted apart.

I do know I love this person & always have since the first time we spoke.

She came to visit me,our children,grandchildren welcomed & loved her.

They still talk about her,especially our grandaughter.

She hasn't seen our new grandson.

I know she has a beautiful granddaughter:-4

I have been sending the occasional emails with no success.

I hope to god she got my latest one ,I hope it is the right addy.

DISTANCE never separates the HEART that really CARES.

Though we may not SPEND so much time TOGETHER you are always in my THOUGHTS my great friend.

Post by **Ally** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 11:03 pm

kazalala;1116622 wrote: its so hard when you have to let one of your family go:(

kaz it is so very sad,but these things happen and not to much u can do about it.i know for a fact they wouldnt see me even if i tryed,but i wont.

Post by **Ally** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 11:04 pm

mrsk;1129310 wrote: i think,i hope i have found a very dear friend of mine.:-4:-4

i honestly don't know what happened & why we drifted apart.

I do know i love this person & always have since the first time we spoke.

She came to visit me,our children,grandchildren welcomed & loved her.

They still talk about her,especially our grandaughter.

She hasn't seen our new grandson.

I know she has a beautiful granddaughter:-4

i have been sending the occasional emails with no success.

I hope to god she got my latest one ,i hope it is the right addy.

distance never separates the heart that really cares.

Though we may not spend so much time together you are always in my thoughts my great friend.

oh mrs k i do hope so how wonderful for u i will keep my fingers crossed it works out for you.:-4:-4

Post by **Sunshine** » Fri Feb 06, 2009 11:11 pm

mrsK;1129310 wrote: I think,I hope I have found a very dear friend of mine.:-4:-4

I honestly don't know what happened & why we drifted apart.

I do know I love this person & always have since the first time we spoke.

She came to visit me,our children,grandchildren welcomed & loved her.

They still talk about her,especially our grandaughter.

She hasn't seen our new grandson.

I know she has a beautiful granddaughter:-4

I have been sending the occasional emails with no success.

I hope to god she got my latest one ,I hope it is the right addy.

DISTANCE never separates the HEART that really CARES.

Though we may not SPEND so much time TOGETHER you are always in my THOUGHTS my great friend.

You have

I messaged you about my new addy. so we can chat again. Missed you. :-4

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Sat Feb 07, 2009 3:46 am

Somehow I missed this lovely Thread H that only someone as nice as you are could put up.I guess some may read this and think how corny is that....but the truth is you have to be one of the nicest, caring and forgiving person I know and I so wish I had some of your qualities as a human but alas I dont.Yes I do and have forgiven many but some I cant......I just cant. Im not proud of this not proud at all and without going into to fine a detail I have to blame my insecurity as a child and rejection that made me as I am today.Yes I have many good qualities that I have been blessed with but also ones that do not make me proud.Never judge a book by its cover they say and how very true is that.People tend to shy away from people they dont even know because of whatever............so sad.

Im not going into things you may already know about me H but one thing I will always remember on my Mothers deathbed are those words that will live with me forever and even as I type this I feel tears in my eyes.To say we had a hard relationship would be an understatement and she knew she was to blame when she looked at me and said.....Carol.....all those wasted years.She died shortly after that and guess her words are so very true for so many of us.....if only we could listen to our heart more at times and not let our pride take over.......

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Feb 07, 2009 4:46 am

Ally;1129350 wrote: kaz it is so very sad,but these things happen and not to much u can do about it.i know for a fact they wouldnt see me even if i tryed,but i wont.

sometimes there comes a point when you have to stop setting yourself up just to get knocked down Ally, so i understand when you say you wont try anymore:-4 and in a way, some people might not agree, but i think its a healthy choice:-4