Is it possible to fall in love with some-one on a forum who you have never met?

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 12:39 pm

Well, yes, in a way you can fall in love with someone you've never seen. What you fall in love with is your idea of that person. Unfortunately we all too often do that to people we meet face to face as well. That is why we find the "love hurts" -- because we don't love the person as they really are, but how we want them to be.

You can't always trust people you meet online and it's better to be safe than sorry. There are a lot of lonely, manipulative, predators on the internet world who can be anyone they choose to be. Keep one step ahead of them and save yourself some heartache.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 12:40 pm

Chezzie;1167549 wrote: Well, yes, in a way you can fall in love with someone you've never seen. What you fall in love with is your idea of that person. Unfortunately we all too often do that to people we meet face to face as well. That is why we find the "love hurts" -- because we don't love the person as they really are, but how we want them to be.

You can't always trust people you meet online and it's better to be safe than sorry. There are a lot of lonely, manipulative, predators on the internet world who can be anyone they choose to be. Keep one step ahead of them and save yourself some heartache.

Do you think there is lonely, manipulative predator within FG?

Clodhopper · Post by **Clodhopper** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 12:44 pm

What is love? I'd argue that what you describe is obsession.

Virtual love? Sounds thoroughly dodgy to me...

Clodhopper · Post by **Clodhopper** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 12:46 pm

Do you think there is lonely, manipulative predator within FG?

Oy! I'm not lonely.:sneaky:;):D

el guapo · Post by **el guapo** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 12:50 pm

oscar;1167551 wrote: Do you think there is lonely, manipulative predator within FG?

ya called

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 1:07 pm

oscar;1167551 wrote: Do you think there is lonely, manipulative predator within FG?

are you hoping?:yh_rotfl

mrsK · Post by **mrsK** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 1:09 pm

Fall in love with words on a screen?

No ,not me anyway,don't know about others.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 1:11 pm

oscar;1167551 wrote: Do you think there is lonely, manipulative predator within FG?Do you???

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 1:16 pm

oscar;1167551 wrote: Do you think there is lonely, manipulative predator within FG?

We have had Oscar and they were very manipulative. Unfortunately they tell the ladies what they want to hear, usually prey on women who are having a rough time with RL problems. Build them up with compliments and before they know it their having cyber sex, phone sex and think they are in love.. Big shame.

By the way, I'm not speaking on my own experience, i'm happily married, just on what I have been told. Also not all manipulative predators are men, a forum I was on, we had a woman who damn near went through every male member and split up a couple of marriages while she had her fun.

Snowfire · Post by **Snowfire** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:12 pm

Oh , happens to me all the time. I'm having to beat them away with a virtual stick.

Trouble is cos of the confusion with my username, I have to fight the boys off as well.

Its across I have to bear, having such alluring charm :rolleyes:

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:21 pm

NOOOOOOO.....As Mrs. K said, We fall in love with their words?:-6 Yes, we can do that.

I think that we become infatuated with members in FG because of their loving or humerous ways. How can you truly fall in love with someone unless you've spent lots of time with them and weathered all the pitfalls of relationships?

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:30 pm

I guess it's possible, but not very likely.

Click on the "I love you" pic and...........................let's dance.

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Hope6 · Post by **Hope6** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:44 pm

yes it's possible.........i know it happened to me.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:48 pm

Yeah I reckon you can . there is one individual that used to sit for ages reading all of my crap and i in turn read all of his crap. We've mucked around with cyber sex, but that was just to get into the heads of others and have them gossip as we knew they would ....... IT being a joke.:yh_rotfl We can go months without communicating then begin again where we left off. I would call him a very good friend. and I love him dearly.........I believe we're starting a bunny farm, we're going to breed rabbits:yh_rotfl We had a whole commune situation going.................:-6 so yeah I think you can.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:51 pm

fuzzywuzzy;1167612 wrote: Yeah I reckon you can . there is one individual that used to sit for ages reading all of my crap and i in turn read all of his crap. We've mucked around with cyber sex, but that was just to get into the heads of others and have them gossip as we knew they would ....... IT being a joke.:yh_rotfl We can go months without communicating then begin again where we left off. I would call him a very good friend. and I love him dearly.........I believe we're starting a bunny farm, we're going to breed rabbits:yh_rotfl We had a whole commune situation going.................:-6 so yeah I think you can.

Oh my bloody good god...I know who your talking about

Erm isn't he is a little on the short side for you Meeeeeeeegan:wah::wah::wah:

Mind you suppose it dont matter in cyber life, no awkward bumping of noses:yh_rotfl

jupiter · Post by **jupiter** » Wed Apr 01, 2009 8:01 pm

It's a nice thought being able to get to know people through forums without the pre-judgment of physical appearances,getting to the "inner"before the outer!

:yh_alien

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 4:04 am

I would, (if I was capable of loving..)

princessladedah · Post by **princessladedah** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 4:11 am

I know someone who fell in love over the internet, and kicked out her childrens father(they never married) they had 5 children moved this individual in she lived in Michigan and he California,he was 19 she was 38, it lasted a year,until she found another internet love and repeated the whole thing.

sunny104 · Post by **sunny104** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 6:22 am

I don't think so....

You can't really love someone until you see if you have chemistry in person and deal with each other day to day. But that's just my opinion.....

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 12:24 pm

Chezzie;1167614 wrote: Oh my bloody good god...I know who your talking about

Erm isn't he is a little on the short side for you Meeeeeeeegan:wah::wah::wah:

Mind you suppose it dont matter in cyber life, no awkward bumping of noses:yh_rotfl

Oh who's a funny girl then............smarty pants.:wah:

Oh yeah go ahead and laugh but we did amuse people awhile back. I consider him a mate.

:-6 You should tell him to come back hear ...............the coast is clear now.

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 12:31 pm

fuzzywuzzy;1168202 wrote: Oh who's a funny girl then............smarty pants.:wah:

Oh yeah go ahead and laugh but we did amuse people awhile back. I consider him a mate.

:-6 You should tell him to come back hear ...............the coast is clear now.

true, he may come back, he was a good laugh:)

I think you may have more influence than me though:sneaky::D

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 12:41 pm

settle Gretel :yh_rotfl Nah he'll come back if he wants to.

but getting back to the topic:

I think people get confused with 'falling in love' and 'Love'. I don't think you can "love" someone over the internet but you can "fall in love" with a personae

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 2:38 pm

mikeinie;1167826 wrote: I would, (if I was capable of loving..)

oh you are babe!

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 3:13 pm

nope i'm still using my cyber personality as cyber contraceptive

buttercup · Post by **buttercup** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 3:40 pm

fuzzywuzzy;1168213 wrote: settle Gretel :yh_rotfl Nah he'll come back if he wants to.

but getting back to the topic:

I think people get confused with 'falling in love' and 'Love'. I don't think you can "love" someone over the internet but you can "fall in love" with a personae

Interesting thought, personally i think its more about lust than love and being lonely.

minks · Post by **minks** » Thu Apr 02, 2009 4:41 pm

To answer the question of the thread .... Yes.

I have a friend who did just that, and she moved her self to his country and lived happily ever after... And they make the lovliest pair.

Clodhopper · Post by **Clodhopper** » Fri Apr 03, 2009 3:49 am

To answer the question of the thread .... Yes.

I have a friend who did just that, and she moved her self to his country and lived happily ever after... And they make the lovliest pair.

:yh_ooooo

Well, just goes to show you never can tell.

Still wonder if it could really be called "love" when it was just an internet connection....? "Attraction" yes, but "love"?

woppy71 · Post by **woppy71** » Fri Apr 03, 2009 5:55 am

OK, So who has the hots for Nomad now then??:-4:-4

jupiter · Post by **jupiter** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 11:39 pm

As Howard Jones once lamented"what is la ar ar ar ar ar ve anyway,does anybody love anybody anyway wao wao"

There is something special about connecting with another on an emotional level,my pondering is, if its possible to "fall in love"online is it possible to fall in love with a person of the same sex , not knowing the sex of the person they have connected with, is it possible to fall in love without knowing the sex of another?

After all it then comes down to a meeting of minds,do we fall in love with the sex or the soul ?

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Tue Apr 07, 2009 6:49 am

woppy71;1168510 wrote: OK, So who has the hots for Nomad now then??:-4:-4 ME... :yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 3:12 am

mrsK;1167560 wrote: Fall in love with words on a screen?

No ,not me anyway,don't know about others.

I think the same Mrs.K, with words on a screen?:rolleyes:

Chezzie · Post by **Chezzie** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 3:20 am

Odie;1171620 wrote: I think the same Mrs.K, with words on a screen?:rolleyes:

But Odie with words on a screen you class me as a friend without meeting me?

Some people I'm friends with online say im more of a friend to them than their RL friends so why can that not generate to feelings between a man and a woman or indeed same sex relationships.

Their is a stigma attached to dating people you meet online but their are plenty of relationships that come out of online dating and go from strength to strength. Personally I feel its ok if you meet online on a dating site or on a forum ect as its no different to a blind date as long as you meet up and end up having a "normal" relationship including courtship and physical interaction, its all gets skewered when these "cyber" relationships never meet up and its all conducted online....they are the ones to be wary of!

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 4:39 am

Chezzie;1171623 wrote: But Odie with words on a screen you class me as a friend without meeting me?

Some people I'm friends with online say im more of a friend to them than their RL friends so why can that not generate to feelings between a man and a woman or indeed same sex relationships.

Their is a stigma attached to dating people you meet online but their are plenty of relationships that come out of online dating and go from strength to strength. Personally I feel its ok if you meet online on a dating site or on a forum ect as its no different to a blind date as long as you meet up and end up having a "normal" relationship including courtship and physical interaction, its all gets skewered when these "cyber" relationships never meet up and its all conducted online....they are the ones to be wary of!

That has nothing to do with meeting friends on-line and becoming good friends.

Your not falling in love with them, making plans to meet that person, then that never happens, or actually meeting with them and disappointment and grief then arrive.......I know one girl who did this.......she had the shock of her life......

Now I have heard of just a few that lived happily ever after......but not many.

Dating sites are fine..........you know what your up against.

You have their photo, and all info is provided about them, a good dating site is very thorough.....as my friend was on one........and you need to provide info you cannot possible imagine.......and this info is checked out before you are approved.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 1:12 pm

jupiter;1171029 wrote: As Howard Jones once lamented"what is la ar ar ar ar ar ve anyway,does anybody love anybody anyway wao wao"

There is something special about connecting with another on an emotional level,my pondering is, if its possible to "fall in love"online is it possible to fall in love with a person of the same sex , not knowing the sex of the person they have connected with, is it possible to fall in love without knowing the sex of another?

After all it then comes down to a meeting of minds,do we fall in love with the sex or the soul ?

well said Jupiter. But wouldn't that all be sorted out by talking to that person? I mean if someone told me they were a male and then I found out that person was female I'd be a little upset with the lie. Especially if one thought they were being connected in some way . Then it's not even a friendship but a ruse.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 1:15 pm

Odie;1171620 wrote: I think the same Mrs.K, with words on a screen?:rolleyes:

So words only mean something if they are verbalised?

minks · Post by **minks** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 2:02 pm

fuzzywuzzy;1174323 wrote: So words only mean something if they are verbalised?

You know the old saying, "actons speak louder than words"

Tough to show actions when you are online. Of course there is the web cam thing but that is barely enough.

I say you have to use your brain a whole lot more than just your words when you form relations online. You have to be more guarded with your heart. Online is pretty one dimensional but it can be a pretty good base to a relationship but there still has to be the physical.

And yes there is always the chance of disappointment, but there is also a chance of true love.

How much you want to risk is very individual.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 2:39 pm

hmmm i guess I see "falling in love " different to others. Cause when everybody talks about friendships and lasting connections I see that as falling in love.

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 3:03 pm

would it be any different in falling in love with someone who sends letters to you that you've never met before?? I've heard that happen with people... and love is a choice so yea... it's possible.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 3:56 pm

oscar;1167544 wrote: ...

No love-----------intrigue yes.

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 3:55 pm

Love is magic, who is to say where it can be found and felt?

If for a moment in life one feels love, with no rules, restrictions, or prejudice, isn’t better that having no love at all?

Even if it is within a thought of what or who someone may be??

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 4:22 pm

Totally agree with that

jupiter · Post by **jupiter** » Fri May 22, 2009 1:26 am

yes i also agree...love is what? different to thoes who experience a strong reaction to the verbal which is the opposite of love at first sight,i personally have strong attractions to people who turn my mind on, i've

had the physical and have had some awesome times with men i've been attracted to but have to say the mind is far more of a turn on than the outer,thats where the real person exists, self expression in the written is more of a give away to the real person than any other way, people can fall for an awesome mind which is what you get with the unseen if the parties are truthful,i believe one can judge.how many of us have made bad choices based of physical attraction!