wonderweirdo hug-a-thon

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Fri May 08, 2009 1:38 pm

tomorrow is a special day for one of the nicest people on the internet :-6:-6

lets show our fave superhero just how much we think of her

wendy i hope you have the best day possible :-6:-6

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri May 08, 2009 1:44 pm

:-4 Hugs for Wendy!

pinkchick · Post by **pinkchick** » Fri May 08, 2009 2:00 pm

Lots of love and hugs to you Wendy :-4:-4:yh_hugs:yh_hugs

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Fri May 08, 2009 3:02 pm

Snowfire · Post by **Snowfire** » Fri May 08, 2009 3:19 pm

Make room for me. I give big manly ones

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Fri May 08, 2009 4:44 pm

Hello my sweet Wendy girl:-4:-4

I can't begin to tell you how much I miss you in FG. Good on ya for working so hard for your degree. I'm so proud of you:-4

Hope that you and the boys are great:-6

Lubs ya lots and miss you so much. I just joined facebook...look me up:guitarist

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Fri May 08, 2009 10:06 pm

Huge squeezes coming your way, Wendy.

:yh_hugs:yh_hugs

Post by **Sunshine** » Fri May 08, 2009 10:11 pm

Big hugs Wendy

kayleneaussie · Post by **kayleneaussie** » Fri May 08, 2009 10:32 pm

:yh_hugs:yh_hugs:yh_hugs:yh_hugs

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Sat May 09, 2009 2:31 am

:-4:-4:-4

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat May 09, 2009 6:41 am

It's good to see ya back, WonderWendy.

:-6

PS. You DO know that farmergiles is really Jimbo, don't ya? :wah:

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sat May 09, 2009 1:39 pm

along-for-the-ride;1185964 wrote: It's good to see ya back, WonderWendy.

:-6

PS. You DO know that farmergiles is really Jimbo, don't ya? :wah:

Who's Jimbo?

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sat May 09, 2009 6:00 pm

Okay, now that I got a tissue for the tears in my eyes!!!! You guys are AWESOME....I love me some farmer-jimbo-carl dude!!!:-4

Jimbo has faithfully remembered the day that I lost my sweet baby Mason, I shared it on here, with my fg family about 3 years ago....Mason would've been 16 years old today....Could you imagine me with a 20 year old, 16 year old, 14 year old and almost 13 year old????? WOW....I know I would've enjoyed him as much as I do my sweet boys that bless me daily!:-4

I miss all of you so very much....I wish I could come back and play like I used to....I get fussed at from a family member if I don't change my status on facebook after 2-3 days...believe it or not, I just don't post that much with my busy busy life.

Big hugs back to all of you!! :-4:-4

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Sun May 10, 2009 1:59 pm

WonderWendy3;1186300 wrote: Okay, now that I got a tissue for the tears in my eyes!!!! You guys are AWESOME....I love me some farmer-jimbo-carl dude!!!:-4

Jimbo has faithfully remembered the day that I lost my sweet baby Mason, I shared it on here, with my fg family about 3 years ago....Mason would've been 16 years old today....Could you imagine me with a 20 year old, 16 year old, 14 year old and almost 13 year old????? WOW....I know I would've enjoyed him as much as I do my sweet boys that bless me daily!:-4

I miss all of you so very much....I wish I could come back and play like I used to....I get fussed at from a family member if I don't change my status on facebook after 2-3 days...believe it or not, I just don't post that much with my busy busy life.

Big hugs back to all of you!! :-4:-4

its great to see you again my good friend :-6

i never know if i should post this thread on Mason's birthday as i worry i may upset you

i'm not very good with words so i will just blurt out another moron rant

i know on Natasha's birthday i break in two my heart my soul everything i still love her so much and it hurts so bad even after all these years

the grief never ever seems to lest en or ever end

my brother had a daughter in the same hospital as our Natasha was born ,she is the same age almost ,though of course i was over the moon that his daughter survived it is a constant reminder of exactly how old our daughter would of been

eg when she first walked it hit home that is what Natasha would of been doing ,when she went to pre school the grief came back ,when she went to infant school in her uniform i cried my heart out ,the same with secondary school and when she started driving

last month my brothers daughter gave birth to twins ,the upset was unbearable i was thinking i should of been a grandad now ,they even called one of the twins Natasha

if you have lost a mother or a brother believe me it does not come close to the all consuming devastation that overcomes you when you lose a child .... believe me i know i have lost two younger brothers and my mother

so wonderweirdo i know how you feel my friend and i hope your day has been the best it can be ,happy birthday mason where ever you may be ...:-6:-6

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Mon May 11, 2009 6:21 am

farmer giles;1186570 wrote: its great to see you again my good friend :-6

i never know if i should post this thread on Mason's birthday as i worry i may upset you

i'm not very good with words so i will just blurt out another moron rant

i know on Natasha's birthday i break in two my heart my soul everything i still love her so much and it hurts so bad even after all these years

the grief never ever seems to lest en or ever end

my brother had a daughter in the same hospital as our Natasha was born ,she is the same age almost ,though of course i was over the moon that his daughter survived it is a constant reminder of exactly how old our daughter would of been

eg when she first walked it hit home that is what Natasha would of been doing ,when she went to pre school the grief came back ,when she went to infant school in her uniform i cried my heart out ,the same with secondary school and when she started driving

last month my brothers daughter gave birth to twins ,the upset was unbearable i was thinking i should of been a grandad now ,they even called one of the twins Natasha

if you have lost a mother or a brother believe me it does not come close to the all consuming devastation that overcomes you when you lose a child .... believe me i know i have lost two younger brothers and my mother

so wonderweirdo i know how you feel my friend and i hope your day has been the best it can be ,happy birthday mason where ever you may be ...:-6:-6

Thanks again Jimbo for sharing all of that, you have such a tender-loving heart. I understand completely where you are coming from as you know I do.

Please don't ever worry about upsetting me, I seriously don't think you have that capability!--I appreciate the fact that you remember and you take the time to let me know that you remember. As I told you last year and it still remains to be true this year....NO-ONE in my family (except my youngest son) remembered, or if they did, they didn't say anything. I have family members (3 to be exact) that had children the same year that Mason was born, so I go through the same thought process....knowing that I would be a mom of a 16 year old getting ready to drive -- and all the other fun stuff that goes along with teenage years....:driving:

I hope you DO know that if you ever want to talk....I'm still contact-able! You know where and how to find me, and I will always be happy to listen/read....btw you have great communicative skills....and don't argue with me MISTER!!:-6

:-4:-4

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Mon May 11, 2009 6:29 am

farmer giles;1186570 wrote: its great to see you again my good friend :-6

i never know if i should post this thread on Mason's birthday as i worry i may upset you

i'm not very good with words so i will just blurt out another moron rant

i know on Natasha's birthday i break in two my heart my soul everything i still love her so much and it hurts so bad even after all these years

the grief never ever seems to lest en or ever end

my brother had a daughter in the same hospital as our Natasha was born ,she is the same age almost ,though of course i was over the moon that his daughter survived it is a constant reminder of exactly how old our daughter would of been

eg when she first walked it hit home that is what Natasha would of been doing ,when she went to pre school the grief came back ,when she went to infant school in her uniform i cried my heart out ,the same with secondary school and when she started driving

last month my brothers daughter gave birth to twins ,the upset was unbearable i was thinking i should of been a grandad now ,they even called one of the twins Natasha

if you have lost a mother or a brother believe me it does not come close to the all consuming devastation that overcomes you when you lose a child .... believe me i know i have lost two younger brothers and my mother

so wonderweirdo i know how you feel my friend and i hope your day has been the best it can be ,happy birthday mason where ever you may be ...:-6:-6

WonderWendy3;1186918 wrote: Thanks again Jimbo for sharing all of that, you have such a tender-loving heart. I understand completely where you are coming from as you know I do.

Please don't ever worry about upsetting me, I seriously don't think you have that capability!--I appreciate the fact that you remember and you take the time to let me know that you remember. As I told you last year and it still remains to be true this year....NO-ONE in my family (except my youngest son) remembered, or if they did, they didn't say anything. I have family members (3 to be exact) that had children the same year that Mason was born, so I go through the same thought process....knowing that I would be a mom of a 16 year old getting ready to drive -- and all the other fun stuff that goes along with teenage years....:driving:

I hope you DO know that if you ever want to talk....I'm still contact-able! You know where and how to find me, and I will always be happy to listen/read....btw you have great communicative skills....and don't argue with me MISTER!!:-6

:-4:-4

Hubs & I both lost a baby through miscarriage and the same thing happened with us WW...nobody in hubs side of the family even said "we're so sorry"...it still hurts me to this day that they never said a word. We don't exactly get along so great anyway but at least my family came & comforted us. Our baby would be 17 yrs now & a junior in high school.:-1

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Mon May 11, 2009 7:29 am

WW and duckzilla

i guess the point i was trying to get across is that where a childs death is concerned there really is no getting over it ,people seem to think that you should just pull yourself together by now ,which on birthdays and other special days it is just not possible ,no one else seems to understand that just because your child is not here for people to see it does not follow that you dont love them or dont miss them more than words can say ,to know that someone else remember that your child would of been 18 on his/her birthday etc and to just understand what you are going through and gives you a hug as you struggle to put logic and reason to one side and deal with the cocktail of emotions going through your mind and heart would be nice :-6:-6:-6

ww thank you for your kind words

:o

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon May 11, 2009 7:32 am

qsducks;1186922 wrote: Hubs & I both lost a baby through miscarriage and the same thing happened with us WW...nobody in hubs side of the family even said "we're so sorry"...it still hurts me to this day that they never said a word. We don't exactly get along so great anyway but at least my family came & comforted us. Our baby would be 17 yrs now & a junior in high school.:-1

When I lost my daughter's twin (very early in the pregnancy) my mum-in-law just said 'what a shame, I'd been waiting for twins to come out in the family' - she was a twin. At the time I was hurt beyond belief that she thought of herself before me. Over the years I've come to realise that that is what that side of the family are like, they find it hard to empathise but they show they care in practical ways instead.

I sometimes look at my daughter and wonder what her twin would have been like, it was so early in the pregnancy that I never knew if it was another girl or a boy.

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Mon May 11, 2009 7:35 am

Imladris;1186935 wrote: When I lost my daughter's twin (very early in the pregnancy) my mum-in-law just said 'what a shame, I'd been waiting for twins to come out in the family' - she was a twin. At the time I was hurt beyond belief that she thought of herself before me. Over the years I've come to realise that that is what that side of the family are like, they find it hard to empathise but they show they care in practical ways instead.

I sometimes look at my daughter and wonder what her twin would have been like, it was so early in the pregnancy that I never knew if it was another girl or a boy.

moron hug beamy baldy healing thingy heading your way :-6:-6

Imladris · Post by **Imladris** » Mon May 11, 2009 7:42 am

farmer giles;1186938 wrote: moron hug beamy baldy healing thingy heading your way :-6:-6
right back at you :-4:-4

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon May 11, 2009 8:20 am

huge belated huggs to you girlie :-4:-4:-4:-4:-4

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon May 11, 2009 9:44 am

This has become such a sad thread. But I think I've got a bit of an idea what it must be like to lose a child.

Although I see my daughter every Sunday, I miss her terribly the rest of the time. I felt immense pain on her first birthday because I could not be with her and I confess that I broke down that day. The pain felt over a lost child must be an awful thing to bear.

All parents everywhere who have lost a child have my heartfelt love and condolences.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Mon May 11, 2009 9:57 am

farmer giles;1186932 wrote: WW and duckzilla

i guess the point i was trying to get across is that where a childs death is concerned there really is no getting over it ,people seem to think that you should just pull yourself together by now ,which on birthdays and other special days it is just not possible ,no one else seems to understand that just because your child is not here for people to see it does not follow that you dont love them or dont miss them more than words can say ,to know that someone else remember that your child would of been 18 on his/her birthday etc and to just understand what you are going through and gives you a hug as you struggle to put logic and reason to one side and deal with the cocktail of emotions going through your mind and heart would be nice :-6:-6:-6

ww thank you for your kind words

:o

I always in my heart feel it was a boy..was due on Jan 8, Elvis Presley's birthday..sorta a running joke, even toyed with the name...not seriously though. Well, when Jan 8th comes up, I always say a little prayer for him.:-4

Imladris;1186935 wrote: When I lost my daughter's twin (very early in the pregnancy) my mum-in-law just said 'what a shame, I'd been waiting for twins to come out in the family' - she was a twin. At the time I was hurt beyond belief that she thought of herself before me. Over the years I've come to realise that that is what that side of the family are like, they find it hard to empathise but they show they care in practical ways instead.

I sometimes look at my daughter and wonder what her twin would have been like, it was so early in the pregnancy that I never knew if it was another girl or a boy.

Honestly, I don't think some peeps know what to say so they just don't say anything. but I wish they would...at least acknowledge the loss.

OpenMind;1187008 wrote: This has become such a sad thread. But I think I've got a bit of an idea what it must be like to lose a child.

Although I see my daughter every Sunday, I miss her terribly the rest of the time. I felt immense pain on her first birthday because I could not be with her and I confess that I broke down that day. The pain felt over a lost child must be an awful thing to bear.

All parents everywhere who have lost a child have my heartfelt love and condolences.

And my grateful thank you's OM.:-4

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Mon May 11, 2009 1:58 pm

OpenMind;1187008 wrote: This has become such a sad thread. But I think I've got a bit of an idea what it must be like to lose a child.

Although I see my daughter every Sunday, I miss her terribly the rest of the time. I felt immense pain on her first birthday because I could not be with her and I confess that I broke down that day. The pain felt over a lost child must be an awful thing to bear.

All parents everywhere who have lost a child have my heartfelt love and condolences.

thanks for your kind words buddy :-6:-6

my chantelle was brought up by me as a single dad till she was 5 years old then her mother took her away to the states i never saw her again till she was 18 :-1 i know the pain of having a child and not being able to see her

i'm sorry you find this thread a sad thread it was not meant to be that way ,it was a thread to celebrate the life of a child who is sadly no longer with us but i can assure you the mother loves that child and still is glad of his birth ,it was just my way of saying wonder weirdo i know it was masons birthday you are not alone in remembering him ,and i understand what you are going through ,remember your child as i do mine and through your tears of grief its ok to cry a few tears of joy for your beautifull child as i do for mine :-6:-6

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon May 11, 2009 9:41 pm

I'm glad you found her Jimbo.:-6:-6

farmer giles · Post by **farmer giles** » Tue May 12, 2009 1:45 am

OpenMind;1187292 wrote: I'm glad you found her Jimbo.:-6:-6

i am really glad i found her to buddy

but i'm afraid the damage was done by to ong apart ,i still loved her every bit as much as i did when she went away ffom me as a 5 year old but when she came back as an 18 year old alas she did not even rember me

let alone love me

it was and is so very hard to take:-5

its very hard not to be bitter towards the mother of my daughter but i cant waste my strenghth being bitter i have to plough everything i have trying to build bridges

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Tue May 12, 2009 10:58 am

farmer giles;1187305 wrote: i am really glad i found her to buddy

but i'm afraid the damage was done by to ong apart ,i still loved her every bit as much as i did when she went away ffom me as a 5 year old but when she came back as an 18 year old alas she did not even rember me

let alone love me

it was and is so very hard to take:-5

its very hard not to be bitter towards the mother of my daughter but i cant waste my strenghth being bitter i have to plough everything i have trying to build bridges

13 years goes by so quickly but it's a long time for a kid. Still, it's good you have another chance to get to know her and be friends. You still have your paternal instincts for her and maybe that will rub off onto her in time. I hope so.

She's an adult now and it must be pretty strange for her to meet her Dad after all this time. Time is still on your side though.

You're quite right about not wasting your strength. Write everything you feel about the mother on a piece of paper and then burn it outside.