Lifetime Experiences That Change Your Life

G#Gill · Post by **G#Gill** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:01 am

:guitarist

I did say I couldn't post here, cos I get so upset reading all those traumatic posts from you lovely people, and a certain occurence in my life just burst through, and details I thought were faded became so starkly revealed. But I still cannot talk about it, even on here. Then I sat and thought about things, and what the heading of this thread meant. Experiences don't have to be awful ones, that change your life!

It's a case of ying and yang !

When I was a teenager, my parents bought me a guitar, with the proviso that I took guitar lessons. I was so thrilled ! That was, for me, a lovely life-changing experience. Over the years, I purchased various electric guitars (my first guitar from my parents was a classical guitar, which I've still got, and will never part with). I finished up with a Gibson 335 walnut - a beautiful instrument! From a Vox combo (valve) amp, I progressed to an H/H Combo amp (amp and speakers in the same box !). I was in various bands, my last band being a harmony/dance trio. We were very busy, and had no need to go through an agent. I loved those years, and I enjoyed our popularity ! We sang and played everything and anything from Old Time dances ! pmsl, to rock and roll, ballads, country etc. We all sang solos and harmony, so there were different voices taking the leads, which avoided any possible monotony over a three hour gig ! The other day, we were talking about those days and watching a Carpenters programme on TV, and my husband Chris and son Andy both said I sounded very like Karen Carpenter ! Now they chuffin well tell me ! pmsl. I had no idea then cos what you hear in your head is totally different from what people hear out there !!!

Ah well ! They are lovely memories, I didn't make the 'big time' but we earnt a lot of pennies and thoroughly enjoyed doing it !

Definitely a life-changing occurence in my life!

Love to you all Gill :guitarist

Helen · Post by **Helen** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:22 am

hi carol,

been coming back to this thread time and time again, thinking where do i start !! well, now i know.

last friday night changed my life.

for those of you who dont know, i was widowed 18mths ago.of course i was devastated, totally lost. his ex wife and sons did some incredibly wicked things to me during those few days around his death and i didnt know where to turn.

over the time, i've dragged myself up a bit, got a job and carried on playing darts, which i enjoy but i've kept myself to myself and i know i've been a pain to be around at times.

anyway, last friday night was our darts presentation night, theres a few of us in my team and we were all sitting together. i got talking to one of the guys there, didnt really know him like that but we got on like a house on fire. we bought each other drinks, shared ciggerettes and i found myself laughing !! not just to be polite but good old happy laughing. the people around us, mostly my hubbys friends, didnt turn a hair, didnt look down at me cos i was betraying him and for the first time in a long while, i felt like a human being again and found out that someone actually enjoyed my company again. i doubt if anything will come of it and i wont worry if it dosnt cos im back in the land of the living now and thats what im gonna do, LIVE !!

i know you wont read this, but this is for you .... A J...... THANKYOU XX

Pheasy · Post by **Pheasy** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:34 am

Hi Helen,

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is great that you are making the most of your life - its only too easier to sink. Go out and enjoy life and make the best of the cards you have been dealt. Good luck with everything. I look forward to reading your threads to see how things turn out. Happy times are just around the corner.

Pheasy

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 7:00 am

Helen;593566 wrote: hi carol,

been coming back to this thread time and time again, thinking where do i start !! well, now i know.

last friday night changed my life.

for those of you who dont know, i was widowed 18mths ago.of course i was devastated, totally lost. his ex wife and sons did some incredibly wicked things to me during those few days around his death and i didnt know where to turn.

over the time, i've dragged myself up a bit, got a job and carried on playing darts, which i enjoy but i've kept myself to myself and i know i've been a pain to be around at times.

anyway, last friday night was our darts presentation night, theres a few of us in my team and we were all sitting together. i got talking to one of the guys there, didnt really know him like that but we got on like a house on fire. we bought each other drinks, shared ciggerettes and i found myself laughing !! not just to be polite but good old happy laughing. the people around us, mostly my hubbys friends, didnt turn a hair, didnt look down at me cos i was betraying him and for the first time in a long while, i felt like a human being again and found out that someone actually enjoyed my company again. i doubt if anything will come of it and i wont worry if it dosnt cos im back in the land of the living now and thats what im gonna do, LIVE !!

i know you wont read this, but this is for you .... A J...... THANKYOU XX

Helen over the months we have got to know each other and so many times my heart has gone out to you. You ain't got it easy love I know in many ways and sometimes you have been so down because of certain things going on. Helen to find love once is a God send but to find it twice is a miracle on its own. I wish you your miracle Helen as you so deserve it........and A J you better look after her mate or else!!!!!Talk to you soon Helen me old matexxx;)

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 7:06 am

G#Gill;593561 wrote: :guitarist

I did say I couldn't post here, cos I get so upset reading all those traumatic posts from you lovely people, and a certain occurence in my life just burst through, and details I thought were faded became so starkly revealed. But I still cannot talk about it, even on here. Then I sat and thought about things, and what the heading of this thread meant. Experiences don't have to be awful ones, that change your life!

It's a case of ying and yang !

When I was a teenager, my parents bought me a guitar, with the proviso that I took guitar lessons. I was so thrilled ! That was, for me, a lovely life-changing experience. Over the years, I purchased various electric guitars (my first guitar from my parents was a classical guitar, which I've still got, and will never part with). I finished up with a Gibson 335 walnut - a beautiful instrument! From a Vox combo (valve) amp, I progressed to an H/H Combo amp (amp and speakers in the same box !). I was in various bands, my last band being a harmony/dance trio. We were very busy, and had no need to go through an agent. I loved those years, and I enjoyed our popularity ! We sang and played everything and anything from Old Time dances ! pmsl, to rock and roll, ballads, country etc. We all sang solos and harmony, so there were different voices taking the leads, which avoided any possible monotony over a three hour gig ! The other day, we were talking about those days and watching a Carpenters programme on TV, and my husband Chris and son Andy both said I sounded very like Karen Carpenter ! Now they chuffin well tell me ! pmsl. I had no idea then cos what you hear in your head is totally different from what people hear out there !!!

Ah well ! They are lovely memories, I didn't make the 'big time' but we earnt a lot of pennies and thoroughly enjoyed doing it !

Definitely a life-changing occurence in my life!

Love to you all Gill :guitaristGill your another lady that hasn't got an easy life but to the outside world you are a great fun lady.......except when yer having a go at me lol!!Our past as singers brought us both such joy and if the book could be written again that part would be still there. I still love singing as you know after driving you mad with that web site that I have sung on.....which reminds me...why dont you go on it??Now about these pennies you earnt, er lend us a fiver lolxx

CrazyCruizChick · Post by **CrazyCruizChick** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 10:21 am

My farther died when I was only a year old and then my mum turned to drink and became a alcoholic. I ended up in Forster care with my brother and sister , became a ward off court and then went in to a Children's home.

Been hurt a lot from boyfriends but I'm happy to say that all this has made me a stronger person and having good friends and having my two sons have helped be become a better and happier human being.

WonderWendy3 · Post by **WonderWendy3** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:35 pm

CrazyCruizChick;593663 wrote: My farther died when I was only a year old and then my mum turned to drink and became a alcoholic. I ended up in Forster care with my brother and sister , became a ward off court and then went in to a Children's home.

Been hurt a lot from boyfriends but I'm happy to say that all this has made me a stronger person and having good friends and having my two sons have helped be become a better and happier human being.

:yh_hugs :yh_hugs and :-4 to you darlin'!!

I know the hurt by boyfriends and my ex husband, I'm happy that good people came into your life to show you love. Children are a wonderful blessing and from what I've seen on the boards, so are you:-4

Marie5656 · Post by **Marie5656** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:40 pm

I guess when my dad died in September of 1991. Now both my parents were gone and I was made to finish growing up. I decided to stay here in Rochester, rather than move back to Batavia, which I had been considering. Then I bought my house and am here for the long haul.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 2:49 am

CrazyCruizChick;593663 wrote: My farther died when I was only a year old and then my mum turned to drink and became a alcoholic. I ended up in Forster care with my brother and sister , became a ward off court and then went in to a Children's home.

Been hurt a lot from boyfriends but I'm happy to say that all this has made me a stronger person and having good friends and having my two sons have helped be become a better and happier human being.
Chick like me you had a crap childhood it seems.Yes these times stay with us forever and dosent ever seem to go away.The thing is yes your right it made us strong in many ways but also left us with many issues. Chick your very welcome here anytime and thankyou also for sharing

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:09 am

WonderWendy3;594012 wrote: :yh_hugs :yh_hugs and :-4 to you darlin'!!

I know the hurt by boyfriends and my ex husband, I'm happy that good people came into your life to show you love. Children are a wonderful blessing and from what I've seen on the boards, so are you:-4

Wendy and so are you x

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:10 am

ThePheasant;593567 wrote: Hi Helen,

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is great that you are making the most of your life - its only too easier to sink. Go out and enjoy life and make the best of the cards you have been dealt. Good luck with everything. I look forward to reading your threads to see how things turn out. Happy times are just around the corner.

Pheasy
And we are looking forward to your comments Pheasy.:-6

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:42 am

Marie5656;594013 wrote: I guess when my dad died in September of 1991. Now both my parents were gone and I was made to finish growing up. I decided to stay here in Rochester, rather than move back to Batavia, which I had been considering. Then I bought my house and am here for the long haul.
Marie well done girl for growing up and sorting your life.Being left alone couldn't have been easy for you love.

CrazyCruizChick · Post by **CrazyCruizChick** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:45 am

WonderWendy3;594012 wrote: :yh_hugs :yh_hugs and :-4 to you darlin'!!

I know the hurt by boyfriends and my ex husband, I'm happy that good people came into your life to show you love. Children are a wonderful blessing and from what I've seen on the boards, so are you:-4

Thank you WW Thats very kind and Thank you too Carolly for both kind comments. ~A Hug for both of you~

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 8:18 am

Aw Betty B what a hellish ordeal you went through. And your most welcome for the support on here from me I think a lot of times yours and my lives run a kind of parallel pattern girl.

Huggs

Heck huge huggs to everyone of you guys on here for having the courage to share your experiences. I hope everybody finds somebody they can lean on here in FG.

Minks

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:07 am

CrazyCruizChick;594122 wrote: Thank you WW Thats very kind and Thank you too Carolly for both kind comments. ~A Hug for both of you~

And a hug for you to Chick ((((((((((((((((((hug))))))))))))))))))))

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:15 am

minks;594207 wrote: Aw Betty B what a hellish ordeal you went through. And your most welcome for the support on here from me I think a lot of times yours and my lives run a kind of parallel pattern girl.

Huggs

Heck huge huggs to everyone of you guys on here for having the courage to share your experiences. I hope everybody finds somebody they can lean on here in FG.

Minks
Minks i agree dear the guys here have been so open and hope we can all manage to help each other here in some little way no matter what it is. Good to have you here Minks.:-6

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 10:37 am

AngelEyes82;594275 wrote: I was reading some of what you all went through and I was almost in tears.

:(Angel nothing more moving than real life. Oh you can see your films and plays but nothing even touches the edges of every day happenings and the guys here have opened up so much and yes its been sad to read most of the time but these guys have come through it and Im so proud to have read their stories and for them to have been so open with us Angel.Thankyou so much for your comments x:)

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 11:05 am

Carolly;594273 wrote: Minks i agree dear the guys here have been so open and hope we can all manage to help each other here in some little way no matter what it is. Good to have you here Minks.:-6

My thanks :-4

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 11:24 am

[QUOTE=minks;594304]My thanks :-4[/Ahhhh tar.:-6 :guitarist

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 11:30 am

AngelEyes82;594319 wrote: Me too.. It takes a lot to open up about something so tragic in your life.
Goodness it does Angel but its the best theropy you can have to get it all out and sometimes a place like this helps you do this.Im so proud of everyone here I really am but I think they know that!!

Helen · Post by **Helen** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 12:40 pm

Helen;593566 wrote: hi carol,

been coming back to this thread time and time again, thinking where do i start !! well, now i know.

last friday night changed my life.

for those of you who dont know, i was widowed 18mths ago.of course i was devastated, totally lost. his ex wife and sons did some incredibly wicked things to me during those few days around his death and i didnt know where to turn.

over the time, i've dragged myself up a bit, got a job and carried on playing darts, which i enjoy but i've kept myself to myself and i know i've been a pain to be around at times.

anyway, last friday night was our darts presentation night, theres a few of us in my team and we were all sitting together. i got talking to one of the guys there, didnt really know him like that but we got on like a house on fire. we bought each other drinks, shared ciggerettes and i found myself laughing !! not just to be polite but good old happy laughing. the people around us, mostly my hubbys friends, didnt turn a hair, didnt look down at me cos i was betraying him and for the first time in a long while, i felt like a human being again and found out that someone actually enjoyed my company again. i doubt if anything will come of it and i wont worry if it dosnt cos im back in the land of the living now and thats what im gonna do, LIVE !!

i know you wont read this, but this is for you .... A J...... THANKYOU XX

going to quote my own post here !! the reason why that friday meant so much to me is because four years ago,and within 9mths, i lost my mum, my father in law, my best friend and the sons of two good friends, i had a few months respite then my late hubbys son contracted cancer, my hubby then lost his job cos he had so much time off attending hospital,the stress of all this gave my husband a major heart attack and he died in my arms on the way to hospital. his son got the all clear the day before his dads funeral. he's now been gone two years and i thought i was down as far as i could get but that nite has given me a bit of hope at long last.

kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 12:43 pm

Helen;594370 wrote: going to quote my own post here !! the reason why that friday meant so much to me is because four years ago,and within 9mths, i lost my mum, my father in law, my best friend and the sons of two good friends, i had a few months respite then my late hubbys son contracted cancer, my hubby then lost his job cos he had so much time off attending hospital,the stress of all this gave my husband a major heart attack and he died in my arms on the way to hospital. his son got the all clear the day before his dads funeral. he's now been gone two years and i thought i was down as far as i could get but that nite has given me a bit of hope at long last.

Helen im so pleased u can see a light at the end of the tunnell now.... im wishing u all the best and may u now go from strngth to strength:-4

guppy · Post by **guppy** » Mon Apr 16, 2007 2:45 pm

living with an alchoholic for years..he was never around...soooooooo i learned how to do alot of stuff on my own.....nobody was around to tell me i couldnt...so i did......

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 12:39 am

Helen;594370 wrote: going to quote my own post here !! the reason why that friday meant so much to me is because four years ago,and within 9mths, i lost my mum, my father in law, my best friend and the sons of two good friends, i had a few months respite then my late hubbys son contracted cancer, my hubby then lost his job cos he had so much time off attending hospital,the stress of all this gave my husband a major heart attack and he died in my arms on the way to hospital. his son got the all clear the day before his dads funeral. he's now been gone two years and i thought i was down as far as i could get but that nite has given me a bit of hope at long last.Helen I know you have had a rough deal babe in your life and you are still paying for it.You deserve some happiness in your life and I hope with all my heart you will find your rainbow.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 12:46 am

juno;594486 wrote: My best life-changing experience was having a child. Giving birth to and raising my son was the most rewarding/transforming experience I could have hoped for. That's not to say it was always a bed of roses, it wasn't, but for my life it has made the hugest positive difference. :-6What a lovely reply this is and I bet no it hasn't been easy Juno but it looks like your son is very lucky to have such a caring mother. I never had one so I say this with the real meaning its meant to be. Good on ye girl.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 12:53 am

guppy;594488 wrote: living with an alchoholic for years..he was never around...soooooooo i learned how to do alot of stuff on my own.....nobody was around to tell me i couldnt...so i did......

Oh Guppy my mother and husband both had that problem. Thing was when I used to do the clubs singing I also could have gone that way........it would have been so easy but Im glad to say I didn't and I thank God for saving me from the sad life of booze. I hope your life is better for you now Guppy as you have paid the price for this dearly.

Helen · Post by **Helen** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 1:47 am

Carolly;594693 wrote: Helen I know you have had a rough deal babe in your life and you are still paying for it.You deserve some happiness in your life and I hope with all my heart you will find your rainbow.

you've made me cry now:-1 (:D )

i hope neveryone else who's posted on here finds some happiness too, its amazin what you can acheive if you're put to it !!

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 1:53 am

Helen;594712 wrote: you've made me cry now:-1 (:D )

i hope neveryone else who's posted on here finds some happiness too, its amazin what you can acheive if you're put to it !!Now wipe those tears madam as enough tears have been shed its time now for the laughter that you so deserve.Its never to late Helen so get out there girl and show em!!!!!:driving: :guitarist

Helen · Post by **Helen** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 2:03 am

ok, i've stopped:p

its a flippin shame we're all so far apart, reckon we'd have a ball if we all got together.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 2:06 am

Helen;594718 wrote: ok, i've stopped:p

its a flippin shame we're all so far apart, reckon we'd have a ball if we all got together.
Helen the mind boggles lol still never say never mate!!!;)

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 11:26 am

A while back, i read a very interesting book that compared life to a train ride or a series of train rides.

Life is like a train ride, it read. We get on. We ride. We get off. We get back on and ride some more.

There are accidents and there are delays, At certain stops there are surprises. Some of these will translate into great moments of joy, some will result in profound sorrow.

When we are born and we first board the train, we meet people who we think will be with us for the entire journey. Those people are our parents!.... Sadly this is far from the truth.

Our parents are with us for as long as we absolutely need them. They too have journeys they must complete. We live on with the memories of their love, affection, friendship, guidance and their ever presence.

There are others who board the train and who eventually become very important to us, in turn. These people are our brothers, sisters, friends and acquaintances, whom we learn to love, and cherish.

Some people consider their journey like a jaunty tour. They will just go merrily along. Others, will encounter many upsets, tears, losses on their journey. Others still, will linger on to offer a helping hand to anyone in need.

Some people on the train will leave an everlasting impression when they get off........Some will get on and get off the train so quickly, they will scarcely leave a sign that they ever travelled along with you or ever crossed your path...We will sometimes be upset that some passengers whom we love, will choose to sit in another compartment and leave us to travel on our own.

Then again, there's nothing thats says we can't seek them out anyway. Nevertheless once sought out and found, we may not even be able to sit next to them because that seat will already be taken. That's okay... everyones journey will be filled with hopes, dreams, challenges, setbacks and goodbyes. We must strive to make the best of it... no matter what..We must constantly strive to understand our travel companions and look for the best in everyone.

Remember that at any moment during our journey, any one of our travel companions can have a weak moment and be in need of our help.

We too may vacilate or hesitate, even trip...hopefully we can count on someone being there to be supportive and understanding...The bigger mystery of our journey is that we don't know when our last stop will come. Neither do we know when our travel companions will make their last stop. Not even those sitting in the seat next to us. Personally, i know i'll be sad to make my final stop..i'm sure of it!

My seperation from all those friends and acquaintances i made during the train ride will be painful. Leaving all those i am close to will be a sad thing. But then again, i'm certain that one day i'll get to the main station only to meet up with everyone else.They'll all be carrying their baggage...most of which they didn't have when they first got on this train.

I'll be glad to see them again. I'll also be glad to have contributed to their baggage...and to have enriched their lives, just as much as they will have contributed to my baggage and enriched my life. We're all on this train ride together. Above all, we should all try to strive to make the ride as pleasant and memorable as we can, right up until we each make the final stop and leave the train for the last time.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:14 am

Ahhhh just looked at the above words again as I seem to be in that type of mood.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:20 am

We moved here to this little boro on June 3rd, 1990. The plan was to stay for a couple of years and move on to another town....low & behold, we are still here now for almost 19 yrs.

The kids all have loads of friends here & I have all my fave neighbors:-4, the mortgage is almost paid off...I don't want to move again. Its a small working class town with the right feel...loads of activities for the kids, etc. My older daughter is the only member of the family that hates where we live...oh well, she's never here anyway.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:38 am

qsducks;1187475 wrote: We moved here to this little boro on June 3rd, 1990. The plan was to stay for a couple of years and move on to another town....low & behold, we are still here now for almost 19 yrs.

The kids all have loads of friends here & I have all my fave neighbors:-4, the mortgage is almost paid off...I don't want to move again. Its a small working class town with the right feel...loads of activities for the kids, etc. My older daughter is the only member of the family that hates where we live...oh well, she's never here anyway.:DNice one Ducky.....I remember being so skint at one point it was frightening and the mortgage still had to be paid....its hard at times but worth it in the end when it all comes together;)

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:45 am

Carolly;1187484 wrote: Nice one Ducky.....I remember being so skint at one point it was frightening and the mortgage still had to be paid....its hard at times but worth it in the end when it all comes together;)

I think we have about $4,000 to pay off....but we moved once & it was chaos. I couldn't even imagine moving again. In a way the move did change me...I had never heard of the boro we moved too before...hubs & I both grew up near the main line. Life was very different. But we both grown to love our little town.:-4

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:51 am

being adopted. Yea, that is def a lifetime experience that changed my life.... at least i think so.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:51 am

qsducks;1187488 wrote: I think we have about $4,000 to pay off....but we moved once & it was chaos. I couldn't even imagine moving again. In a way the move did change me...I had never heard of the boro we moved too before...hubs & I both grew up near the main line. Life was very different. But we both grown to love our little town.:-4I could never ever move from here because of the gear I have here and the hassle I would have moving.I would like a bigger place Im not going to lie but I have a fab view in the garden over Countryside....it has taken many years to get the garden to what it is today and quite frankly im just to old and to tired to have the stress of moving.If I moved the Dolls and Bears guess that would help for room:wah:

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:53 am

I started the Korean War. I didnt mean to.

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:56 am

Nomad;1187494 wrote: I started the Korean War. I didnt mean to.you would.... you would!!!

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:57 am

Carolly;1187491 wrote: I could never ever move from here because of the gear I have here and the hassle I would have moving.I would like a bigger place Im not going to lie but I have a fab view in the garden over Countryside....it has taken many years to get the garden to what it is today and quite frankly im just to old and to tired to have the stress of moving.If I moved the Dolls and Bears guess that would help for room:wah:

That's the thing also with us. Would love to have more room, but we've got a huge yard, deck, we remodeled the kitchen, bathrooms, bedroom closets, the whole first floor has completely changed...remodeled, etc. We now have hardwood floors throughout which makes for more dust bunnies:wah: We have the huge park around the corner, sun all day in my windows, it's very bright & airy house which at the moment needs a paint job.:wah:...and their are loads of kids here...I have them over on the weekends...movie nights, etc.

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 8:59 am

Omni_Skittles;1187490 wrote: being adopted. Yea, that is def a lifetime experience that changed my life.... at least i think so.Yes I bet it has.I was fostered out for 5 years from the minute I was born and the family wanted to adopt me.....my Mother being unmarried wouldnt allow it and she took me back.....I moved from a happy family life to a childhood of misey...I have often thought how my life would have gone if they had adopted me and apart of me will always regret not knowing as instead I became a very unsecure person which at times has caused many problems and also made me in life show the ones that looked down on me I would get there one day.....and I did.You hopefully went into a family of love and good on your parents for bringing that to you;)

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 9:01 am

Nomad;1187494 wrote: I started the Korean War. I didnt mean to.Well why does that not surprise me:rolleyes:

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue May 12, 2009 9:01 am

Carolly;1187503 wrote: Well why does that not surprise me:rolleyes:

:yh_rotfl:yh_rotfl

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 9:01 am

qsducks;1187500 wrote: That's the thing also with us. Would love to have more room, but we've got a huge yard, deck, we remodeled the kitchen, bathrooms, bedroom closets, the whole first floor has completely changed...remodeled, etc. We now have hardwood floors throughout which makes for more dust bunnies:wah: We have the huge park around the corner, sun all day in my windows, it's very bright & airy house which at the moment needs a paint job.:wah:...and their are loads of kids here...I have them over on the weekends...movie nights, etc.Nice one babe;)

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue May 12, 2009 9:06 am

Carolly;1187506 wrote: Nice one babe;)

We had talked about moving, but then again the kids would have to make new friends, switch schools, etc. I don't want to do that to them...starting out in a new school is the pits especially when your a teen. I think Quin would be alright as he is very friendly...a load of peeps know him:wah:. And the #1 reason to not move is a hefty mortgage which lead to about 30 more years of hefty payments.:-5

Carolly · Post by **Carolly** » Tue May 12, 2009 9:11 am

qsducks;1187511 wrote: We had talked about moving, but then again the kids would have to make new friends, switch schools, etc. I don't want to do that to them...starting out in a new school is the pits especially when your a teen. I think Quin would be alright as he is very friendly...a load of peeps know him:wah:. And the #1 reason to not move is a hefty mortgage which lead to about 30 more years of hefty payments.:-5
I can understand that.....through the years I wanted to move but knew the new mortgage would bring more problems as it would be alot higher....now as I say I couldnt face a move....wish I could but im really not mentally or healthy enough to have the hassle.

qsducks · Post by **qsducks** » Tue May 12, 2009 9:19 am

Carolly;1187517 wrote: I can understand that.....through the years I wanted to move but knew the new mortgage would bring more problems as it would be alot higher....now as I say I couldnt face a move....wish I could but im really not mentally or healthy enough to have the hassle.

I would need a dumpster bin to haul out half the crap we've accumulated over 19 yrs:wah:....although I did throw out a lot of stuff from the basement for bulk trash a few weeks ago...loads of wood, etc. and a door. Hubs was having a fit on the door & I was just like, "it's been sitting in the basement for how long"?

Yeah, 6 yrs!