How do you trust again? - Update

scfd524 · Post by **scfd524** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 6:43 pm

Okay, Pink Princess was inquiring as to what has happened. Well...its been a tough battle with my ups and down thankfully more ups than downs. We've talked about it a few times since then and I have gotten some good reassurance from her. As I said in my first post I had a spy program on our computer and I was checking her emails. That has mostly all gone away now. She did send him an e-card that I felt was inappropriate and my spy program caught a screen shot of it and so I revealed it to her. She said it was nothing and that she was sorry for sending it and that it didn't mean anything. This was all before work on a Monday morning. Way to start the week! So after she got to work she sent me an email and said that she understood why I was upset and that she loved me and she was sorry. She said reassured me that they are strictly friends and that he knows we are working on our relationship and he's not going to do anything that would jepordize that and neither was she.

She started asking me about how I got that screen shot so I revealed that I had a spy prog on the computer and that I was sorry that I put it on there and that I was just scared and didn't know what to do. She said that she understood and that if she didnt' trust me that she would prob have tried to do the same thing. As for checking her emails, I rarely do it anymore. I rarely check her cell phone for calls anymore and it feels good not being obsessed with it.

So, things are going well for us and we keep moving forward. We moved a couple of wks ago and have been spending some good time together painting and stuff like that. I still think about "it" almost everyday but it no longer gives me stomach aches and makes me worry or anything like that. I've even been able to joke about it a little bit. I'm still looking forward to the day I don't think about it at all. I think Toby Keith best describes it in his song, "I wish I didn't know now, what I didn't know then" Thanks for the replies and opinions.

Jim

DadinIowa · Post by **DadinIowa** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 6:58 pm

good song and good luck.

my son went thru something like that and they didn't make it. I truly wish you two the best of luck.

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 7:33 pm

flopstock wrote: can't help feelin the garden will be a much better place if i just keep my mouth shut..

well i'll say it Flop....last man that pulled that 007 spy stuff on me (10 years ago) got put on a bus. at gunpoint. crying. :yh_cry

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 7:47 pm

I'm with Floppy....my tongue hurts.

lady cop wrote:

at gunpoint.

Gee, somehow I just can't imagine you doing that.... :yh_eyebro

DadinIowa · Post by **DadinIowa** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 7:49 pm

flopstock wrote: can't help feelin the garden will be a much better place if i just keep my mouth shut..

you must be floppy?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 7:53 pm

BabyRider wrote: I'm with Floppy....my tongue hurts.

since when are you so reticent? :yh_rotfl

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 8:00 pm

lady cop wrote: since when are you so reticent? :yh_rotfl
Well, the post is an "update", not a request for input. To impose my opinion on this topic at this point would seem rude, since he's not asking advice.

But you're right, it's not like me, is it?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 8:02 pm

who are you and what have you done with BR????

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 8:05 pm

lady cop wrote: who are you and what have you done with BR????

:yh_rotfl

I guess I got more relaxed over the weekend than even I knew!

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 8:11 pm

Wooo !! you guys are digging in...:wah: :wah: