So lies...

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Fri Nov 20, 2009 2:25 pm

They suck, I mean after 19 years you'd think i would have learned that... But no, I didn't. This entire week of mine has been entirely ruined because i told a lie and it blew up in my face ruining a really good relationship and a trust that i thought was unbreakable... and seriously it was a really small white lie! Yes, i feel horrible and now the sweet trusting abby who would never lie to hurt someone has been slapped in the face with a lesson that sucks. I was in the belief of the ends justifies the means... yea thanks machivelli or however your name was spelt... thanks buddy.

Has anyone ever told a really lame lie to cover something and it blow up in your face?

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Nov 20, 2009 2:26 pm

Oh, a hard lesson to learn my dear. Yes, I am sure we have all told lies at one point in our lives, it usually is not worth it in the end.

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Fri Nov 20, 2009 2:33 pm

chonsigirl;1264362 wrote: Oh, a hard lesson to learn my dear. Yes, I am sure we have all told lies at one point in our lives, it usually is not worth it in the end.For the first time though, i got yelled at... it was weird... I've never been yelled at. So i was kind of like... oh... wow... okay... I'm sorry... i'll just go die now lol

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Fri Nov 20, 2009 2:47 pm

Ah, anger and being yelled at is upsetting. I hope you are never yelled at again in your life.

AussiePam · Post by **AussiePam** » Fri Nov 20, 2009 3:39 pm

You got to 19 without being yelled at. That is a real achievement, Omni!! It feels worse when you know you deserve it - you suffer doubly. The yelling confrontation, and beating yourself up as well. Get up, dust off, make amends or say sorry, forgive yourself and move on. Tough, but it works. Strange, but humans aren't perfect. We mess up sometimes.

I still feel the guilt of stealing a five cent piece from my dad's desk when I was little. Sadly, I got away with it. If I'd been caught and clobbered, it would now be long forgotten, instead of still being there in my psyche, a permanent reminder of my non perfection.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Fri Nov 20, 2009 3:46 pm

Your painful experience is just part of life. We live and learn.

Lying is wrong. Yelling at someone is wrong too. IMO

Omni_Skittles · Post by **Omni_Skittles** » Sat Nov 21, 2009 12:59 am

AussiePam;1264374 wrote: You got to 19 without being yelled at. That is a real achievement, Omni!! It feels worse when you know you deserve it - you suffer doubly. The yelling confrontation, and beating yourself up as well. Get up, dust off, make amends or say sorry, forgive yourself and move on. Tough, but it works. Strange, but humans aren't perfect. We mess up sometimes.

I still feel the guilt of stealing a five cent piece from my dad's desk when I was little. Sadly, I got away with it. If I'd been caught and clobbered, it would now be long forgotten, instead of still being there in my psyche, a permanent reminder of my non perfection.
good point...

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Nov 21, 2009 7:43 am

Omni_Skittles;1264361 wrote: They suck, I mean after 19 years you'd think i would have learned that... But no, I didn't. This entire week of mine has been entirely ruined because i told a lie and it blew up in my face ruining a really good relationship and a trust that i thought was unbreakable... and seriously it was a really small white lie! Yes, i feel horrible and now the sweet trusting abby who would never lie to hurt someone has been slapped in the face with a lesson that sucks. I was in the belief of the ends justifies the means... yea thanks machivelli or however your name was spelt... thanks buddy.

Has anyone ever told a really lame lie to cover something and it blow up in your face?

its a tough lesson to learn.

don't be so hard on yourself.

sit down with your friend and talk it through.