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hoppy · Post by **hoppy** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:41 am

Cuz ya lets 'em.

Jazzy · Post by **Jazzy** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:54 am

I think the more you help people, the more dependant they become on you to be there and supply them with whatever they need. I don't mind helping people and I also enjoy doing it but I have to know my limit. When it starts to take a toll on my finances or emotions, I end it.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:58 am

There are buckets and dippers, you're a bucket, I'm a bucket. Dippers are always going to dipping out od us buckets, ya just gotta know how much dipping to allow. When someone asks what you are, just say bucket.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:59 am

Jazzy;1269487 wrote: I think the more you help people, the more dependant they become on you to be there and supply them with whatever they need. I don't mind helping people and I also enjoy doing it but I have to know my limit. When it starts to take a toll on my finances or emotions, I end it.Its difficult to know where or how to regulate the degree of assistance to provide others in order to protect your own emotional state.

Sometimes I permit myself to get too drawn in too and then find I have to pull back too much in order to compensate. Its a thin rope to walk.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 9:03 am

YZGI;1269488 wrote: There are buckets and dippers, you're a bucket, I'm a bucket. Dippers are always going to dipping out od us buckets, ya just gotta know how much dipping to allow. When someone asks what you are, just say bucket.

Do you not find that sometimes you switch from one to the other, for a while you may be the dipper, then you switch to be a bucket. Surely one should aim to surround themselves with a balance of both. What you need to avoid is the leeches

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 9:09 am

Betty Boop;1269492 wrote: Do you not find that sometimes you switch from one to the other, for a while you may be the dipper, then you switch to be a bucket. Surely one should aim to surround themselves with a balance of both. What you need to avoid is the leeches :DLike Frank Sinatra said in "That's Life";

I've been a bucket, a dipper, a pirate,

A poet, a pawn and a king.

I've been up and down and over and out

And I know one thing:

Each time I find myself laying flat on my face,

I just pick myself up and get back in the race

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Fri Dec 04, 2009 11:10 am

Betty Boop;1269492 wrote: Do you not find that sometimes you switch from one to the other, for a while you may be the dipper, then you switch to be a bucket. Surely one should aim to surround themselves with a balance of both. What you need to avoid is the leeches

Not really Betty, I think I'm destined to be a bucket. I think I like being a bucket, I don't necessarily do the things for the other people , I think I do them because it makes me feel better about myself.