I am ready

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 7:33 am

Hi all. I am ready to come back. It was hard for me after the death of my husband. but i am copeing a little better now. So i hope my friends here do understand. I am trying to sell our home. and move back home to IN. Crossing my fingers. i think i have found a place. Shhhh don't want to jinx it and say tooo much. will know more Sunday nite. say a prayer this works out for me.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 9:17 am

southern yankee;1329854 wrote: Hi all. I am ready to come back. It was hard for me after the death of my husband. but i am copeing a little better now. So i hope my friends here do understand. I am trying to sell our home. and move back home to IN. Crossing my fingers. i think i have found a place. Shhhh don't want to jinx it and say tooo much. will know more Sunday nite. say a prayer this works out for me.

Welcome back. Of course we understand! I hope everything works out for your move back to IN. :-4

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 9:33 am

southern yankee;1329854 wrote: Hi all. I am ready to come back. It was hard for me after the death of my husband. but i am copeing a little better now. So i hope my friends here do understand. I am trying to sell our home. and move back home to IN. Crossing my fingers. i think i have found a place. Shhhh don't want to jinx it and say tooo much. will know more Sunday nite. say a prayer this works out for me.

You are coping much much better now my friend!:-4

fingers and tossed crossed for your new home!:guitarist

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kazalala · Post by **kazalala** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 9:41 am

Welcome back SY:)hope all goes well for your new place:driving::)

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 10:07 am

thanks all. being a widow is far from easy. pretty overwhelming at times. but it will work out for me. with the lord's help. Things are getting done. But there are always. flies in the ointment. but that is life.

Mustang · Post by **Mustang** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 10:11 am

Nice to see you back SY! :-6

Just take it one day at a time. :-6

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 10:36 am

Welcome back, southern yankee. I am so glad you took the time to post. I do wonder how my friends here are doing especially when I don't see them posting for awhile.

Mustang said it best......"One day at a time."

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 11:29 am

yes being a widow is almost like a 12 step program. but, i have found. i have to have dreams of the future. this is helpful. thanks everyone

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 11:35 am

I am glad you are back.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:02 pm

thanks

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:05 pm

i am looking at a place now. it may take me awhile to sell here. with the CRAZY La. laws here. but a dear friend will keep my place up. until i can arrive. the friends i have are a blessing. they have come up to bat, in my time of need.

CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:10 pm

Wonderful to see you back and taking the steps forward. You have what takes to make a new life and be happy again. Your beloved husband wouldn't want it any other way. I will pray your will be in your new home soon. We are here to help if you need anything....

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:23 pm

Hi, Southern Yankee.

Nice to see you posting again. I hope your plans go smoothly. Bless you.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:23 pm

CARLA;1329890 wrote: Wonderful to see you back and taking the steps forward. You have what takes to make a new life and be happy again. Your beloved husband wouldn't want it any other way. I will pray your will be in your new home soon. We are here to help if you need anything....

thank you deaR. god bless

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:34 pm

OpenMind;1329897 wrote: Hi, Southern Yankee.

Nice to see you posting again. I hope your plans go smoothly. Bless you. you know there is a reason for everything. i just have to allow the lord to lead me. it will all work out in his time, and his way

Kathy Ellen · Post by **Kathy Ellen** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 12:48 pm

Welcome back southern yankee. It's good to see you:-4

G#Gill · Post by **G#Gill** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:03 pm

Glad you made it back here SY, I'm wishing you all the very best in your new venture. You are strong enough to carry it off and move forward. Bless your heart:-6:-6 :driving: :yh_smiley

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:11 pm

G#Gill;1329906 wrote: Glad you made it back here SY, I'm wishing you all the very best in your new venture. You are strong enough to carry it off and move forward. Bless your heart:-6:-6 :driving: :yh_smiley you know you are stronger then you may think. i have found that out. it is survival. we can all dig and claw when we have to.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 1:52 pm

I am so glad you posted SY because funny enough I was thinking of you only very recently.

One never knows what to say to any-one being widowed. I know one day soon I will be In the same position.

Just try to stay strong taking one day at a time. Reflect on the wonderful maraige you had and the happiness your husband gave you... It will help you get through those weepy moments we all have In times like this.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 2:00 pm

oscar;1329915 wrote: I am so glad you posted SY because funny enough I was thinking of you only very recently.

One never knows what to say to any-one being widowed. I know one day soon I will be In the same position.

Just try to stay strong taking one day at a time. Reflect on the wonderful maraige you had and the happiness your husband gave you... It will help you get through those weepy moments we all have In times like this. yes, i finde myself telling him. i love him. several times a day. you know there are many stages of mourning. anger, fear, dispare, pain, and loss. just to name a few. you can never understand this until you live it. you can loose family and friends. but nothing ever effected me like this

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 2:19 pm

southern yankee;1329918 wrote: yes, i finde myself telling him. i love him. several times a day. you know there are many stages of mourning. anger, fear, dispare, pain, and loss. just to name a few. you can never understand this until you live it. you can loose family and friends. but nothing ever effected me like this In many ways we are lucky. That may sound an odd thing to say right now after losing your husband but many women go through life longing for the perfect husband and happy marraige. There are so many husbands who cheat on wives, beat them, useless Fathers etc etc that we have been blessed having such wonderful husbands. I know I would never find another like my husband and that is why when I lose Peter, I shall not even bother looking else-where. We can at least be thankful we had such good men who brought us such happiness. I truely hope you find solace and peace. There are so many un-answered questions when we lose those we love. The answers will not all come at once and you will need lots and lots of time. You have friends here who you can talk to. :-4

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 2:35 pm

oscar;1329924 wrote: In many ways we are lucky. That may sound an odd thing to say right now after losing your husband but many women go through life longing for the perfect husband and happy marraige. There are so many husbands who cheat on wives, beat them, useless Fathers etc etc that we have been blessed having such wonderful husbands. I know I would never find another like my husband and that is why when I lose Peter, I shall not even bother looking else-where. We can at least be thankful we had such good men who brought us such happiness. I truely hope you find solace and peace. There are so many un-answered questions when we lose those we love. The answers will not all come at once and you will need lots and lots of time. You have friends here who you can talk to. :-4 my robert was not the best husband. but he did try. he had many problems. but i know he did love me. when it really counted he was there for me. when my dad was so ill. he was so wonderful. our marriage was good and bad. we had both. but one thing robert taught me, was to be ,a survivor. i am grateful for that.

cars · Post by **cars** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 3:01 pm

Sorry for your loss SY, I didn't know! It's good you came back to your FG family, your were sorely missed!

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 3:33 pm

cars;1329936 wrote: Sorry for your loss SY, I didn't know! It's good you came back to your FG family, your were sorely missed! thank you

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 6:08 pm

southern yankee;1329889 wrote: i am looking at a place now. it may take me awhile to sell here. with the CRAZY La. laws here. but a dear friend will keep my place up. until i can arrive. the friends i have are a blessing. they have come up to bat, in my time of need.

that sounds wonderful, so happy to hear you have someone to take care of your new place until you have moved.

You've done so much and come so far, I can only imagine just how hard it was.

I call it baby-steppin, one day at a time.............

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 6:21 pm

Odie;1329954 wrote: that sounds wonderful, so happy to hear you have someone to take care of your new place until you have moved.

You've done so much and come so far, I can only imagine just how hard it was.

I call it baby-steppin, one day at a time.............thanks odie.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 7:58 pm

southern yankee;1329928 wrote: my robert was not the best husband. but he did try. he had many problems. but i know he did love me. when it really counted he was there for me. when my dad was so ill. he was so wonderful. our marriage was good and bad. we had both. but one thing robert taught me, was to be ,a survivor. i am grateful for that.

If he taught you to be a survivor that is really good. I was a widower 25 years ago and know it's much easier for a man. I met a number of widows before I remarried that were not surviving very well because their husbands handled EVERYTHING.

southern yankee · Post by **southern yankee** » Sat Aug 28, 2010 8:53 pm

Lon;1329964 wrote: If he taught you to be a survivor that is really good. I was a widower 25 years ago and know it's much easier for a man. I met a number of widows before I remarried that were not surviving very well because their husbands handled EVERYTHING. he did a lot. like book keeping and such. but when it comes down to bare bones. i'll make it.

fuzzywuzzy · Post by **fuzzywuzzy** » Sun Aug 29, 2010 12:12 am

You'res, and my situations are a bit different SY But i know how it feels to to have to learn simple banking skills again .... Bare bones is what we're good at. The other stuff you just learn out of neccesity. (Rest assured not a lot of people can handle the bare bones kind of stuff, you're stronger than you think ) It'll get better for you soon enough and you'll feel a bit more confident about things ....good luck girl.