What songs would you like...

Delorean · Post by **Delorean** » Sat May 07, 2011 3:41 am

...played at your funeral?

I've been feeling rather morbid of late and started plotting out my will and it got me thinking about songs I would like played at my funeral.

I decided I would like played:

Footloose - Kenny Loggins, I've always loved this song, it'll get me up dancing every time, may seem rather upbeat for a funeral, but it'll say "me" at least.

Forever Young - any version, it just seems meaningful and appropriate.

Bed of Roses - Bon Jovi, love them, and Bon Jovi have a song for every occasion, this one seems appropriate out of most of their songs.

Fireflies - Owl City - Loved this song from the moment I heard it, it's so pretty and tinkly.

So has anyone else given any thought to this?

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sat May 07, 2011 10:30 am

Yeah I have-----------I'm kinda partial to "Oye Como Va" by Carlos Santana. No funeral though, played during the scattering of my ashes.

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CARLA · Post by **CARLA** » Sat May 07, 2011 10:40 am

Nice choice Lon might use that one at the scattering of ashes also. No funeral can't stand them nor do I want one they give me the creeps. Just remember me and have a party.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat May 07, 2011 11:03 am

Delorean;1358982 wrote: ...played at your funeral?

I've been feeling rather morbid of late and started plotting out my will and it got me thinking about songs I would like played at my funeral.

I decided I would like played:

Footloose - Kenny Loggins, I've always loved this song, it'll get me up dancing every time, may seem rather upbeat for a funeral, but it'll say "me" at least.

Forever Young - any version, it just seems meaningful and appropriate.

Bed of Roses - Bon Jovi, love them, and Bon Jovi have a song for every occasion, this one seems appropriate out of most of their songs.

Fireflies - Owl City - Loved this song from the moment I heard it, it's so pretty and tinkly.

So has anyone else given any thought to this?

I would like Rod Stewart's Forever Young.

your choices are quite nice, and stop feeling morbid, your going to be okay.:-4

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sat May 07, 2011 11:51 am

No song....just music:

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 4:06 pm

What happened to hymns??

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat May 07, 2011 6:10 pm

spot;1359031 wrote: What happened to hymns??

to old fashioned and some do not like hymns....just to religious or same old stuff.

most want their own song now, I have picked out one when my mom passes, its a part of how you feel and you want to express that.

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 6:15 pm

It is, I suppose, possible that at least some of the few remaining Christians in the first world, like myself, might actually retain a recognizably Christian structure to our funeral service. Such as singing hymns, for example.

Does your ideal modern post-Christian funeral include a prayer for the bereaved, Odie? If so, to whom is it directed?

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat May 07, 2011 6:17 pm

spot;1359037 wrote: It is, I suppose, possible that at least some of the few remaining Christians in the first world, like myself, might actually retain a recognizably Christian structure to our funeral service. Such as singing hymns, for example.

Does your ideal modern post-Christian funeral include a prayer for the bereaved, Odie? If so, to whom is it directed?

spot, everyone has a right to which they prefer.

there will of course a minister present and prayer.

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 6:49 pm

I cannot for the life of me imagine what benefit a minister might bring to the occasion.

The solace of a good hymn or two, on the other hand, is immense. They - hymns - discuss death, they put it into perspective, they remind those who have gathered of the last time they were summoned and the next time they might be expected. Funerals are meant to be planned for the survivors, not for the dead.

Here's a verse from each of three hymns I'd be pleased to sing. Or I suppose, if it's my funeral, hymns I'd commend to those present.

Our brother the haven hath gained,

Out-flying the tempest and wind,

His rest he hath sooner obtained,

And left his companions behind,

Still tossed on a sea of distress,

Hard toiling to make the blest shore,

Where all is assurance and peace,

And sorrow and sin are no more.

One family we dwell in Him, one church above, beneath,

Though now divided by the stream, the narrow stream of death;

One army of the living God, to His command we bow;

Part of His host have crossed the flood, and part are crossing now.

Ten thousand to their endless home this solemn moment fly,

And we are to the margin come, and we expect to die.

His militant embodied host, with wishful looks we stand,

And long to see that happy coast, and reach the heavenly land.

What troubles have we seen,

What conflicts have we past,

Fightings without, and fears within,

Since we assembled last!

But out of all the Lord

Hath brought us by his love;

And still he doth his help afford,

And hides our life above.

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 7:04 pm

Or, as a studied insult of enormous magnitude,,,

I leave the world without a tear,

Save for the friends I held so dear;

To heal their sorrows, Lord, descend,

And to the friendless prove a friend!

The hour of my departure's come,

I hear the voice that calls me home:

Now, O my God, let trouble cease,

Now let thy servant die in peace!

Wandrin · Post by **Wandrin** » Sat May 07, 2011 7:12 pm

This is the song my late wife chose for her memorial service.

Alan Parsons Project: "Time"

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 7:45 pm

Wandrin;1359045 wrote: This is the song my late wife chose for her memorial service.There can scarcely have been a dry eye in the house, that song is the antithesis of upbeat. But one can see why it might fit the occasion. There is, I suspect, a harrowing back-story to your post. How recent was the service?

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat May 07, 2011 7:51 pm

Wandrin;1359045 wrote: This is the song my late wife chose for her memorial service.

Alan Parsons Project: "Time"

I'm sorry...........

very touching:-1

Delorean · Post by **Delorean** » Sat May 07, 2011 7:59 pm

Odie;1358994 wrote: I would like Rod Stewart's Forever Young.

your choices are quite nice, and stop feeling morbid, your going to be okay.:-4

I know, I should be alright, but at the moment i don't even feel confident enough to buy green bananas! :yh_rotfl

Word of advice to everyone: If you feel unwell, DON'T Google your symptoms, I've believed I've been dying for the last 3 weeks! :wah:

Wandrin · Post by **Wandrin** » Sat May 07, 2011 8:05 pm

spot;1359050 wrote: There can scarcely have been a dry eye in the house, that song is the antithesis of upbeat. But one can see why it might fit the occasion. There is, I suspect, a harrowing back-story to your post. How recent was the service?

January.

I should note that I then put on a playlist made up of her favorite songs, mostly upbeat, to celebrate her life with our friends.

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 8:12 pm

Forty years ago I was firmly entrenched in what was becoming the Small Is Beautiful anti-pollution sustainable cultural diversity movement. A World War Two RAF glider pilot - the lack of an engine is appropriate in retrospect - called Hurricane Smith released the wake-up anthem for the times. How anyone can think environmentalism is new I've no idea. This is 1971, this is magnificent, this is Don't Let It Die and you can definitely play it to start my wake.

Hurricane Smith - Don't Let It Die

As for the service itself though, they can end it with And Can It Be because it's as good a finale to a funeral as I can imagine, if perhaps slightly presumptuous.

Post by **spot** » Sat May 07, 2011 8:19 pm

Wandrin;1359053 wrote: January.You have my sympathy, you're bang in the middle of it still.

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sat May 07, 2011 8:51 pm

Delorean;1359052 wrote: I know, I should be alright, but at the moment i don't even feel confident enough to buy green bananas! :yh_rotfl

Word of advice to everyone: If you feel unwell, DON'T Google your symptoms, I've believed I've been dying for the last 3 weeks! :wah:

would you like some brown bananas, would that make you confident?:wah:

that googling can't be all that bad, your still with us!:yh_rotfl

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Sat May 07, 2011 10:14 pm

My first wife died in 1989

YouTube - Joe Coker-Ain't No Sunshine

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Sun May 08, 2011 9:38 am

along-for-the-ride;1359007 wrote: No song....just music:

When I am Gone Author Unknown

"When I am gone, release me. Let me go.

I have so many things to see and do.

You mustn't tie yourself to me with tears.

Be happy that we had so many beautiful years.

I gave to you my love. You can only guess

How much you gave to me in happiness.

I thank you for the love you each have shown,

But now it's time I traveled on alone.

So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must.

Then let your grief be comforted by trust.

It's only for a while that we must part,

So bless the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away, for life goes on.

So if you need me, call and I will come.

Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near.

And if you listen with your heart,

You'll hear all my love around you soft and clear.

And then, when you must come this way alone,

I'll greet you with a smile and say welcome home..."

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Sun May 08, 2011 10:58 am

along-for-the-ride;1359089 wrote: When I am Gone Author Unknown

"When I am gone, release me. Let me go.

I have so many things to see and do.

You mustn't tie yourself to me with tears.

Be happy that we had so many beautiful years.

I gave to you my love. You can only guess

How much you gave to me in happiness.

I thank you for the love you each have shown,

But now it's time I traveled on alone.

So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must.

Then let your grief be comforted by trust.

It's only for a while that we must part,

So bless the memories within your heart.

I won't be far away, for life goes on.

So if you need me, call and I will come.

Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near.

And if you listen with your heart,

You'll hear all my love around you soft and clear.

And then, when you must come this way alone,

I'll greet you with a smile and say welcome home..."

that particular song is amazing to have selected!

Saint_ · Post by **Saint_** » Mon May 09, 2011 11:47 am

Delorean;1358982 wrote: ...played at your funeral?

1. During the video of my life: "You Only Get What You Give" by the New Radicals.

2. During the service: Amazing Grace, the Gregorian Monk version.

3. Exit music: Swing Low, Sweet Chariot

there's some Hymns.

mikeinie · Post by **mikeinie** » Tue May 10, 2011 6:19 am

Queen: Another one bites the dust

Delorean · Post by **Delorean** » Tue May 10, 2011 6:42 am

mikeinie;1359215 wrote: Queen: Another one bites the dust

:wah: yep, good one. I have a friend who dead-set (pardon the pun!:D) wants AC/DC's Highway to Hell.

Post by **spot** » Tue May 10, 2011 7:16 am

Delorean;1359216 wrote: :wah: yep, good one. I have a friend who dead-set (pardon the pun!:D) wants AC/DC's Highway to Hell.

Years have passed and I keep thinking what a fool I've been

I look back into the past and think of way back then

I know that I lost everything I thought that I could win

I guess I should have listened to my friends -All the burning bridges that have fallen after me

All the lonely feelings and the burning memories

Everyone I left behind each time I closed the door

Burning bridges lost for ever more.Donny Osmond - Burning Bridges

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Tue May 10, 2011 8:22 am

mikeinie;1359215 wrote: Queen: Another one bites the dust

excellent!:yh_rotfl

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Tue May 10, 2011 8:24 am

Delorean;1359216 wrote: :wah: yep, good one. I have a friend who dead-set (pardon the pun!:D) wants AC/DC's Highway to Hell.

another good one!:wah:

Wandrin · Post by **Wandrin** » Tue May 10, 2011 9:35 am

I always liked the traditional New Orleans funeral procession where the band is playing the sad dirge and suddenly breaks into joyous music with the band bee bopping around.

If I had to choose one song for my own memorial service, it would be

Johnny Nash: I can see clearly now (YouTube)

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Tue May 10, 2011 10:02 am

Wandrin;1359231 wrote: I always liked the traditional New Orleans funeral procession where the band is playing the sad dirge and suddenly breaks into joyous music with the band bee bopping around.

If I had to choose one song for my own memorial service, it would be

Johnny Nash: I can see clearly now (YouTube)

that tradition sounds lovely, after all, we are celebrating life.

beautiful song!

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Fri May 13, 2011 4:03 am

Being in a cheery sort of mood today, I'd go for :-

http://www.youtube.com/embed/lsRqgek0Gr8

Odie · Post by **Odie** » Fri May 13, 2011 7:39 am

Bryn Mawr;1359455 wrote: Being in a cheery sort of mood today, I'd go for :-

YouTube - Solitude

tis good to feel cheery!

awesome song Bryn!:guitarist