Blast from the past dilemma - need advice

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BabyRider
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I'm confused, Florrie. Are you asking if he's getting back at you for something that happened 30 years ago? Are you asking if you should see him "on the sly"? I'm not following what it is you want to know. I'm working on a total of 7 hours of sleep in 3 days, so I'm sure that has something to do with that, and not you being unclear. :yh_bigsmi
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His look reflected in the billboard was probably that of confusion:confused:

You sound like you are seeing something that isn't there because you feel gulity for sending him a dear john. I don't see the 'payback' He has looked up an old flame (not an unusual thing to do) and you implied you were interested in catching up sending the messages through your sister.

Him saying you preferred this other man to him is not sinister its just how it was from his perspective. You need to take a few deep breathes and decide once and for all what you are going to do either meet up and lay the ghost or contact him and say that your relationship with him is a part of your life that is over and you've moved on.

Remember one meeting is not a commitment to anything either a relationship or a friendship and please ensure your meeting is in public place like a coffee shop and you do not go anywhere with him until you are sure he's not a basket case.
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I wish a scenario this fascinating would happen in my life. It sounds like the script of so many old romantic movies. How can you resist the temptation of talking to him? It would be very safe in the foyer of a store, with other people there. Unless hes nuts he wouldnt blame a 19 year old girl for making a choice 30 years ago. If you were happy now, I would probably say to let it go. But since you say your not,why not investigate a bit. Even if nothing comes of it.. its a great ego booster to know that someone remembered you for all these years.
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Florrie

First let me say I'm sorry to hear your news given on Heartbroken. Share it if you need to.

As regards your story above, I don't envy you your angst. It may be that, regretting your whirlwind marriage, you wonder if you'd have been better off with your sailor. Chances are that if your marriage was happy, you wouldn't even be wondering about this. But, hell, you aren't going to find out unless you meet with him. Just remember, take one step at a time. Get to know him, what he's done with himself, if he's married, divorced, and so on.

It may come to nought, then again, it could be the romance you are really looking for.

Remember, though, go easy on your heart. Take deep breaths and stay calm.

Lots of love

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Hey Florrie, it has been a long time since we have seen you. Welcome back.

Wow quite the story.

So how are you feeling here? You want this blast from the past? You are running from it? You think he is a stalker (loose term here ok)? I feel like BR a tad confused?
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