Be honest.
Do you wish them well even if they're doing better than you?
Do you wish them well if they're doing what you want to do but haven't yet?
Do you wish them well if the person you love chose them?
Do you wish them well if they took an opportunity you planned on getting for yourself?
Do you wish them well if they are obstructing you in any way?
Where do your well wishes fall apart?
If you think they don't fall apart... what holds them together?
Do you wish others well?
Do you wish others well?
Let me start it out.
I last felt jealousy in 1992. My roommate won $20 in the lottery. I was a broke student. I went mad with jealousy then realised the sickness I was feeling was over a mere $20 and spent the next two hours in the shower trying to make myself clean again. I vowed to never let the world make me feel such malice again.
The latest ill feeling was towards a supervisor. She was going in for surgery and I discovered myself wishing she wouldn't survive it. Instead of denying my evil, I faced it and realised that the world was better off if I wished she found the self confidence to stop taking her lack of esteem out on her co-workers. I became a better person because I didn't run from my bad thoughts. I faced them.
Do you?
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I last felt jealousy in 1992. My roommate won $20 in the lottery. I was a broke student. I went mad with jealousy then realised the sickness I was feeling was over a mere $20 and spent the next two hours in the shower trying to make myself clean again. I vowed to never let the world make me feel such malice again.
The latest ill feeling was towards a supervisor. She was going in for surgery and I discovered myself wishing she wouldn't survive it. Instead of denying my evil, I faced it and realised that the world was better off if I wished she found the self confidence to stop taking her lack of esteem out on her co-workers. I became a better person because I didn't run from my bad thoughts. I faced them.
Do you?
eta: if you're not comfortable answering, add another Do you question.
Do you wish others well?
Well, this probably makes me petty but I have wished that some backstabbing and troublesome co-workers would get promoted just so they'd get out of my life/area. The only person I've wished actual harm/death on was my second ex and I don't feel bad about that at all.
I bought tickets to a Christmas party for my broke co-worker and her husband one year and they both won over $100 while I didn't win anything. I was kind of pissed that they didn't offer to repay me for their tickets since they wouldn't have won the money if I hadn't paid for them to be there. So there I am, petty again. I didn't begrudge them the money though, that was a godsend.
I bought tickets to a Christmas party for my broke co-worker and her husband one year and they both won over $100 while I didn't win anything. I was kind of pissed that they didn't offer to repay me for their tickets since they wouldn't have won the money if I hadn't paid for them to be there. So there I am, petty again. I didn't begrudge them the money though, that was a godsend.
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Do you wish others well?
[QUOTE=koan;1383655]Be honest.
Do you wish them well even if they're doing better than you? Yes.
Do you wish them well if they're doing what you want to do but haven't yet?Yes, I'm a little vicarious that way.
Do you wish them well if the person you love chose them? Dunno. That hasn't happened, but I expect Not.
Do you wish them well if they took an opportunity you planned on getting for yourself? If they were a friend, absolutely. If not, then no.
Do you wish them well if they are obstructing you in any way? No. (in my head I changed 'any' to 'some')
Where do your well wishes fall apart?
If you think they don't fall apart... what holds them together? I never did sports as a youngster. I was into music. When someone did better than I it meant that I got to enjoy better music than I could create. That's a win for me as well. It seems that we were all supportive of each other like that. I don't think it could ever be like that in sports. But now I've taken that attitude with me. I don't begrudge another person's "power" at work, but I do get irritated very easily if someone uses that power to hinder me in doing what I think is the best thing to do without being able to explain why.
Do you wish them well even if they're doing better than you? Yes.
Do you wish them well if they're doing what you want to do but haven't yet?Yes, I'm a little vicarious that way.
Do you wish them well if the person you love chose them? Dunno. That hasn't happened, but I expect Not.
Do you wish them well if they took an opportunity you planned on getting for yourself? If they were a friend, absolutely. If not, then no.
Do you wish them well if they are obstructing you in any way? No. (in my head I changed 'any' to 'some')
Where do your well wishes fall apart?
If you think they don't fall apart... what holds them together? I never did sports as a youngster. I was into music. When someone did better than I it meant that I got to enjoy better music than I could create. That's a win for me as well. It seems that we were all supportive of each other like that. I don't think it could ever be like that in sports. But now I've taken that attitude with me. I don't begrudge another person's "power" at work, but I do get irritated very easily if someone uses that power to hinder me in doing what I think is the best thing to do without being able to explain why.
Do you wish others well?
I frighteningly have no ill feeling to anybody, even people that I should have.
And I find that as nasty as the opposite.
And I find that as nasty as the opposite.
I thought I knew more than this until I opened my mouth
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Do you wish others well?
I frankly did not like the way I felt when I was bitter, or jealous, or resentful. So, I find myself actually wishing "those people " well in spite of what happened...and just moving on with my life.
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