Yes ... Enough Is Enough!

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:16 pm

After so much banter with Ahso! & spot I feel like I'm in a bizarro Gilmore Girls episode.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:23 pm

AnneBoleyn;1390321 wrote: I wish I were as sure as you.
Doesn't matter. It's status quo either way.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:32 pm

You know, usually the first assessment a couples or family counselor makes is how the individuals are interacting. Whether or not any of them are making others responsible for their feelings. What the counselor does is ask the couple or family to talk like the counselor is not in the room, and what the counselor is looking for is language such as: "you make me feel" and "you hurt me" and "you're not a good partner". If that is happening in a relationship the counselor knows the first thing that needs addressing is the language being used, and so they make the people aware of their tendency and offer them a new way to talk to each other. What the counselor teaches is to address the behavior and not the individual like: "when you say such-n-such I feel humiliated." This change in communication is all that's needed in many cases to save a relationship.

You experienced feelings when you thought I said Obama was evil and your reaction was to call me a name. What you could have done is inform me that you took issue with me saying Obama was evil and then move forward from there.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:33 pm

AnneBoleyn;1390391 wrote: After so much banter with Ahso! & spot I feel like I'm in a bizarro Gilmore Girls episode.Good, that was the goal.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:33 pm

Accountable;1390393 wrote: Doesn't matter. It's status quo either way.
Economically I agree. All Dems drink from the same trough as Republicans. Otherwise............many areas of disagreement.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:34 pm

Been through a lot of counseling, Ahso!?

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:36 pm

Oh for gods sake. Spot called me a fool and I didn't freak out about it. Big deal, she called you an ass. You're acting like one right now. Give it a rest.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:38 pm

I wouldn't have called him an ass if he didn't make such a dumb statement that my President is evil.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:40 pm

AnneBoleyn;1390399 wrote: Been through a lot of counseling, Ahso!?

Done a lot of learning about it. Life is all about relationships, Anne.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:42 pm

Ahso!;1390402 wrote: Done a lot of learning about it. Life is all about relationships, Anne.
Why Ahso! I do believe you're getting fresh.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:43 pm

Well lookee here! Ahso! removed the second sentence to his post which I claim for posterity.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:47 pm

AnneBoleyn;1390404 wrote: Well lookee here! Ahso! removed the second sentence to his post which I claim for posterity.I have no idea what you're talking about. What sentence?

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:49 pm

I beg your pardon, Ahso! I must have had an optical delusion.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:53 pm

Ahso!;1390396 wrote: You know, usually the first assessment a couples or family counselor makes is how the individuals are interacting. Whether or not any of them are making others responsible for their feelings. What the counselor does is ask the couple or family to talk like the counselor is not in the room, and what the counselor is looking for is language such as: "you make me feel" and "you hurt me" and "you're not a good partner". If that is happening in a relationship the counselor knows the first thing that needs addressing is the language being used, and so they make the people aware of their tendency and offer them a new way to talk to each other. What the counselor teaches is to address the behavior and not the individual like: "when you say such-n-such I feel humiliated." This change in communication is all that's needed in many cases to save a relationship.

You experienced feelings when you thought I said Obama was evil and your reaction was to call me a name. What you could have done is inform me that you took issue with me saying Obama was evil and then move forward from there.
I think we should live apart ... at least for awhile.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:57 pm

AnneBoleyn;1390398 wrote: Economically I agree. All Dems drink from the same trough as Republicans. Otherwise............many areas of disagreement.
Most disagreements are trivial compared to what they agree on: Concentrating power and control in a centralized national gov't, global military empire, tax-support and absorbing risk of international corporations.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 2:01 pm

I fear I am being overcome by the vapors. Therefore, for now, I must bid adieu.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 2:03 pm

Accountable;1390410 wrote: I think we should live apart ... at least for awhile.Okay! Take Pussy with you, I no longer want her.

K.Snyder · Post by **K.Snyder** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 2:51 pm

I see that this thread has gone on long enough for people to step in and take sides...

Perhaps we can draw a line through the middle and allow everyone to step back, hoard their belongings, conspire amongst themselves, and then race full circle back to what may or may not be an obvious DMZ we may be able to resolve the situation quickly and effectively.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 3:16 pm

K.Snyder;1390425 wrote: I see that this thread has gone on long enough for people to step in and take sides...

Perhaps we can draw a line through the middle and allow everyone to step back, hoard their belongings, conspire amongst themselves, and then race full circle back to what may or may not be an obvious DMZ we may be able to resolve the situation quickly and effectively.Nothing bad happened in this thread. A couple of people got to know each other a little better, that's all. There are no hard feelings as far as I'm concerned and I'm certain Anne will survive the situation just fine. she's tough enough and smart enough.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 3:19 pm

Oh, and Accountable ended up with Pussy.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Thu Apr 05, 2012 7:25 pm

That's never a bad thing.

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Fri Apr 06, 2012 12:58 pm

She's a nice little kitty, Pussy is. Accountable gifted her to me and since he's decided to leave [for a while] I feel it's only fair he be responsible for her wellbeing. A healthy and well cared for Pussy is important to the both of us.