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robinseggs
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I am freaking out. My neighbor, a 17 yr old girl just tried to commit suicide tonight. I am in complete shock. She lives right next door. I just waved to her a few hours ago. She seemed fine. The usual. I am so sad. Just can't believe it. Fortunately she was revived (had been unconcious) at the scene...and now at the hospital.........I am close to her mother...but just what do I say when she calls? You all know by now that I am never at a loss for words.......but tonight I am.
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flopstock wrote: Just tell her you're there for her. If she's wants to talk. If she wants to cry. If she wants to stare at a wall in shock herself. You will be there. That should cover an opening.
Telling her you care for her is nice too....
Right on...IMO
Telling her you care for her is nice too....
Right on...IMO
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She'll be much more embarassed about it than you, just let her know that you are there if she needs you,
and listen without judgement.
The sad thing about suicide and attempted suicide is the tremendous heartache it leaves in its wake.
Family and friends are embarassed and are left feeling that they failed them,
just be your true, caring self. :yh_flower
and listen without judgement.
The sad thing about suicide and attempted suicide is the tremendous heartache it leaves in its wake.
Family and friends are embarassed and are left feeling that they failed them,
just be your true, caring self. :yh_flower
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abbey wrote: She'll be much more embarassed about it than you, just let her know that you are there if she needs you,
and listen without judgement.
The sad thing about suicide and attempted suicide is the tremendous heartache it leaves in its wake.
Family and friends are embarassed and are left feeling that they failed them,
just be your true, caring self. :yh_flower
Agree with abbey's wise words, offer her a shoulder to lean on, with out being judgemental. It's an embarrassing time for all involved.
and listen without judgement.
The sad thing about suicide and attempted suicide is the tremendous heartache it leaves in its wake.
Family and friends are embarassed and are left feeling that they failed them,
just be your true, caring self. :yh_flower
Agree with abbey's wise words, offer her a shoulder to lean on, with out being judgemental. It's an embarrassing time for all involved.
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robinseggs
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I guess part of what is so shocking is that this girl is a straight A student, very mature, has never been in any kind of trouble.....and is the most responsible teen I know. Like a little adult. They are a Chinese family w/ extremely high standards of success. I love them all so much--I hurt for them ALL.
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robinseggs wrote: I guess part of what is so shocking is that this girl is a straight A student, very mature, has never been in any kind of trouble.....and is the most responsible teen I know. Like a little adult. They are a Chinese family w/ extremely high standards of success. I love them all so much--I hurt for them ALL.More often than not there is no rhyme or reason, two months ago my nieces husband hung himself,of course he must have had his reasons, he left my niece and their 5 year old daughter devastated along with his two teenage children from his 1st marriage.
My sister (who found him) is traumatised, his and our whole family devastated.
The funeral was a terrible fraught affair where everyone was embarassed and felt guilty that they never knew that he had anything (apart from the usual worries) on his mind.
It has left my niece £75thou in debt, as the insurance company wont pay out on a suicide, any pensions he had, are to be paid to his 1st two children.
Apart from the monetary side of it, my niece has not been back to the house since that day, the house has been emptied and is now on the market.
My poor niece is beside herself with grief, she's like a zombie, she feels so guilty that he has gone and feels it was all her fault.
You are probably like me, i always assumed that people who took their own lives, or attempted to take it was the type that had always been on meds or had history of mental illness.
I feel very sad for your neighbour and her family, they must be going through a terrible time today thinking of what they could have lost.
My thoughts are with you, her and her family today xx
My sister (who found him) is traumatised, his and our whole family devastated.
The funeral was a terrible fraught affair where everyone was embarassed and felt guilty that they never knew that he had anything (apart from the usual worries) on his mind.
It has left my niece £75thou in debt, as the insurance company wont pay out on a suicide, any pensions he had, are to be paid to his 1st two children.
Apart from the monetary side of it, my niece has not been back to the house since that day, the house has been emptied and is now on the market.
My poor niece is beside herself with grief, she's like a zombie, she feels so guilty that he has gone and feels it was all her fault.
You are probably like me, i always assumed that people who took their own lives, or attempted to take it was the type that had always been on meds or had history of mental illness.
I feel very sad for your neighbour and her family, they must be going through a terrible time today thinking of what they could have lost.
My thoughts are with you, her and her family today xx
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Be sure to let the mom know that you do love her and that your heart aches for her and her family. There are no perfect words of course. Listen and cry with her.
Maybe the poor dear didn't feel like she could measure up to the high standards. That is just so sad for her and her family. My prayers are with them.
Maybe the poor dear didn't feel like she could measure up to the high standards. That is just so sad for her and her family. My prayers are with them.
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that is truly hearbreaking and I agree with the rest, just be there when your neighbor needs you. And hopefully they will be able to find the help needed for their daughter
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robinseggs
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Thanks so much everyone for your kind words...I just keep mulling over in my mind the order of events of last evening...and just still cant' believe it. I keep thinking of how while i was sitting reading the National Enquirer on my driveway and watching my kids/neighbors play outside, this young girl who was only merely feet away in her bedroom...was taking her life.....I had just rounded all my kids up to come in for night when paramedics arrived. A neighbor/mom on our street is a police officer and she knew right away something was terribly wrong as she said it to unusual for 3 police cars/Chief also, there in addition to ambulances....
Abbey I am so sorry about your niece's husband...how very tragic that he succeeded in ending his life. A very close family friend of ours also hung himself last spring.......and like Flopstock said, it really can have such selfish meaning. Our friend's family (mostly the parents) were so angry at him they had him cremated even though he had left a note w/ detailed plans of his burial.....Now all these months later when I thought they would cool off, they are still angry beyond belief. Don't even want his ashes...they sit in the trunk of his convertable in the other daughter's garage....how very sad.
The girl next door apparently also hung herself in her closet. I haven't talked to her mom yet, but my mom friend/police officer told me this. Apparently sometime after she had gone unconcious, the entire hardware holding up the shelving in closet came out and she crashed to the floor. I think her mom heard this and came running to find her, hence calling 911........ I seriously hope she will be ok...
Abbey I am so sorry about your niece's husband...how very tragic that he succeeded in ending his life. A very close family friend of ours also hung himself last spring.......and like Flopstock said, it really can have such selfish meaning. Our friend's family (mostly the parents) were so angry at him they had him cremated even though he had left a note w/ detailed plans of his burial.....Now all these months later when I thought they would cool off, they are still angry beyond belief. Don't even want his ashes...they sit in the trunk of his convertable in the other daughter's garage....how very sad.
The girl next door apparently also hung herself in her closet. I haven't talked to her mom yet, but my mom friend/police officer told me this. Apparently sometime after she had gone unconcious, the entire hardware holding up the shelving in closet came out and she crashed to the floor. I think her mom heard this and came running to find her, hence calling 911........ I seriously hope she will be ok...
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Luckily for the young lady and her family, she will be required to get counseling and perhaps will be able to straighten out what is bothering her so that she feels the only way out is to end her life.
My sympathies to all involved and my very best to their and her's recovery.
My sympathies to all involved and my very best to their and her's recovery.
