Obese in a Bikini

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 11:49 am

Well, Thank You Oscar

do you speak for every one?

no one else has a voice - interesting.?

GMC can't reply?

What message does that video send?

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 12:16 pm

Let's try a different angle here...

When I was a kid we holidayed In Devon twice a year. There was a woman on the beach every year who after raising her children all year wanted to feel the sun on her back and have a dip In the sea. She was In her late 40's and a little over-weight so the rolls of fat drooped over her Bikini bottoms. Her legs were covered with awful varicose viens and she was covered In stretch marks.

She was my Mum and despite the viens, the fat and the stretch marks, to me, my brothers and sister and my Father, she was the most beautiful and wonderful woman on that beach.

Had someone like your husband have glanced her disapproving looks we would have laughed and pitied him.

The over-weight woman on the beach that you find gross Is no doubt wealthier than those who have to turn away.... and I don't mean money.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 12:25 pm

I was referring to several obese woman on the beach - I didn't not state that all those large women were gross - did not say that - I stated the large - very large stretch marks were difficult to see - the marks were gross - not the woman/women so do not twist my opinion - or my husbands opinion.

I was referring to the confidence the obese women have .

The video of the large man in a speedo - he was walking proud

yet is it a vision or is it a sight for sore eyes.? same principle

Patsy

gmc · Post by **gmc** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 12:46 pm

Patsy Warnick;1418353 wrote: Well, Thank You Oscar

do you speak for every one?

no one else has a voice - interesting.?

GMC can't reply?

What message does that video send?

Patsy

Oscar and I are indulging in the traditional british pasttime of taking the piss out of each other. On this occasion oscar started it - she has never send me a picture and i haven't a clue what she looks like. As she herself would be the first to concede fantasy is often better than reality. Not so much a vision as a sight is a rather witty play on words which someomne like oscar can appreciate. We disagree quite a lot and trade insults occasionally it's actually all in good humour. As I said to my mother in law I can tell you're getting thinner you don't block out the light when you stand in front iof the window as much as you used to.

Taking the piss is a British term meaning to take liberties at the expense of others, or to be unreasonable. It is often used (or confused) with taking the piss out of which is an expression meaning to mock, tease, ridicule, or scoff.[1] It is also not to be confused with "taking a piss", which refers to the actual biological act of urinating. Taking the Mickey (Mickey Bliss, Cockney rhyming slang) or taking the Michael is another term for making fun of someone. These terms are most widely used in the United Kingdom, Ireland, South Africa, New Zealand and Australia.

She's english I'm scots that alone leaves plenty of scope for friendly abuse.

The video is funny, it's an advert on british TV. Fat bloke walks across the screen not caring what people think and it's funny. Fat woman does it and it just wouldn't work. Presumably souithern comfort are trying to portray an image of a drink that appeals to self confident males. Must try it someday. is it any good?

Were there any fat blokes on the beach and if so were they worthy of comment?

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 12:47 pm

Patsy Warnick;1418357 wrote: I was referring to several obese woman on the beach - I didn't not state that all those large women were gross - did not say that - I stated the large - very large stretch marks were difficult to see - the marks were gross - not the woman/women so do not twist my opinion - or my husbands opinion.

I was referring to the confidence the obese women have .

The video of the large man in a speedo - he was walking proud

yet is it a vision or is it a sight for sore eyes.? same principle

Patsy These women....

What colour was their bikini ?

How did they have their hair?

Were they wearing lipstick?

Did they have footwear on ?

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 12:51 pm

I didn't think the guy in the Southern Comfort vid looked that bad... at least not bad enough that I'd notice and make snarky comments about him on a forum if I had seen him in real life.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 1:00 pm

gmc;1418358 wrote: Oscar and I are indulging in the traditional british pasttime of taking the piss out of each other. On this occasion oscar started it - she has never send me a picture and i haven't a clue what she looks like. As she herself would be the first to concede fantasy is often better than reality. Not so much a vision as a sight is a rather witty play on words which someomne like oscar can appreciate. We disagree quite a lot and trade insults occasionally it's actually all in good humour. As I said to my mother in law I can tell you're getting thinner you don't block out the light when you stand in front iof the window as much as you used to.

So you do fantasise about me ? See ? I knew It

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 1:57 pm

Don't know what color the bikini was - couldn't see it...

Snooze - Snarky comments - haven't seen any wit here.?

The confident over weight man in the video - yes, there are plenty of over weight men in speedos on beaches strutting in all their glory.

It seems over weight men in a speedo is more acceptable than a obese woman in a bikini.?

ones gross - ones funny

society is fickle

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 2:13 pm

Patsy Warnick;1418372 wrote: Don't know what color the bikini was - couldn't see it...

Or you were just looking for her faults?

Sorry Patsy but It seems when ever you write a thread you are attacking women somewhere somehow.

Even the Hilary Clinton thread, all you seemed Interested In was her dull skin, bad hair etc.

It kinds of gives one the Impression that you you either like attacking less than perfect looking women or that you just can't see beyond cosmetic appearance.

Post by **Betty Boop** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 2:29 pm

Something just occurred to me, no one is attacking me for saying I would look with 'horror', ok I admitted that after while I would just accept it, it's the norm nowadays after all but why is Patsy being attacked and not me?

Why is Patsy attacking women but Oscar is not attacking Patsy?? After all, Patsy's opinions may differ from some other peoples, but where is the fairness in all this? This isn't a discussion, its a poke poke poke at Patsy thread, just like the previous thread mentioned was.

Maybe the discussion should be why are some people turned off by fat people? Maybe it is because of what the media likes to present to us as examples of 'the perfect woman', and the 'perfect man' of course, these people aren't measuring up to societies ideal. Maybe it is the case that a lot of people keen on keeping their weight down and staying fit as they age see larger people as people that are just letting themselves go? Those ideas and others would be a far more productive discussion than what is currently going on in this thread.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 2:29 pm

Attacking - do you really want to go there Oscar?

Hillary thread - I know what I stated

this thread is obese women wearing a bikini - again a subject on women

I'm asking where do they get the confidence or the man in the video - where does he get his confidence?

a fat man in a speedo is funny - how? why is that funny?

less than perfect person - I stated I can't wear a bikini - could - but don't - modest

you & snooze feel the need to bombard me - it's not wit - dull

one could get the impression of bitter personality - jealous perhaps

again you didn't need to reply - put me on ignore since I bring out the best in you.

it's that simple

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 2:43 pm

Believe me Patsy, I have nothing to be jealous or bitter of. I have a wonderful marraige, a loving family, and I'm happy In my own skin.

I also have many girlfriends....of all shapes and sizes who I don't judge because of age or the way they look.

We are not bombarding you. If you write a thread stating your husband finds women with stretch marks and fat gross then really what did you expect?

Take a good look at yourself here. All you see is women's personal appearances.....

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 2:53 pm

This thread is about appearance - now you got it..

"Obese in a Bikini"

offend you - yes or no

you got it..?

Betty B is right - your comments are not productive.

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 3:21 pm

Patsy Warnick;1418379 wrote: This thread is about appearance - now you got it..

"Obese in a Bikini"

offend you - yes or no

you got it..?

Betty B is right - your comments are not productive.

Patsy Why exactly do you find these women's stretchmarks gross Patsy ?

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 3:51 pm

SnoozeAgain;1418327 wrote: Oscar - if this thread is confusing/upsetting to you - don't reply - it's that simple.

Very good advice Snooze.

gmc · Post by **gmc** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 3:59 pm

posted by patsy warnock

I'm asking where do they get the confidence or the man in the video - where does he get his confidence?

a fat man in a speedo is funny - how? why is that funny?

It's simple you decide not to worry about the opinions of others. The man in the video is funny (imo at any rate) because he is not exactly good looking in the conventional sense but clearly thinks he is and is enjoying his strut. Medallion man with a paunch. .

People are more judgemental of women - it's a fact of life. I wouldn't find an obese women in a bikini offensive, some do, being male I would be more inclined to look, at a good looking one in a bikini but many also find them disturbing and offensive. I never understand people who go to a beach and complain about skimpy bathing costumes if it bothers you then don't go.

You are the one that brought the subject up maybe you should ask your husband why he finds it gross. It's his choice he can find it gross or he can decide it doesn't matter how people look. You can do the same - find it gross or decide if she doesn't worry I'm not going to either.

You live in a country where women can wear what they want and don't have to cover themselves from head to foot if only the beautiful people were allowed to wear bikinis it would be a shame.

posted by oscar

So you do fantasise about me ? See ? I knew It

Bugger, walked in to that one didn't I:-5:-5

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:34 pm

I call foul play. Patsy has a history of starting threads like this that are guaranteed to annoy and provoke, and when they do, poor little Patsy screams that she's being bullied and admin gets involved. If she didn't want this negative attention then she should learn not to post this crap. And she certainly shouldn't be responding to someone that seems to upset her so much that admin hears her whimpers and comes charging to the rescue.

Whose fault is it if a poster has a history of inflammatory posts like this and certain members take offense? You poke the bear, you risk getting bitten.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:41 pm

snooze

what are you talking about?

I haven't spoken to any one..?

starting threads like this - it's a question thread and I very seldom start a thread.

Poke what bear? you & Oscar don't intimidate me

Perhaps you should speak to Admin. - again your way off course here.

Admin can read all & speak for themselves

And you don't have to reply to my thread - so cry elsewhere.

Patsy

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:43 pm

gmc;1418388 wrote:

Bugger, walked in to that one didn't I:-5:-5 Yep....

Living In Brighton, I had this to contend with:

Brighton Naturist Beach - Coastal in Brighton, Brighton and Hove - VisitBrighton

Ahso! · Post by **Ahso!** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:48 pm

I honestly don't see anything wrong with either the thread topic or the op, although it's not my angle of discussion.

I think patsy was asking legitimate questions. Sometimes when we're not sure why we think a certain thing or feel a certain way we need to talk though it. Even if nobody had responded to the op, it might have been therapeutic for Patsy just to air the issue out.

FG Admin · Post by **FG Admin** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:49 pm

SnoozeAgain;1418396 wrote: I call foul play. Patsy has a history of starting threads like this that are guaranteed to annoy and provoke, and when they do, poor little Patsy screams that she's being bullied and admin gets involved. If she didn't want this negative attention then she should learn not to post this crap. And she certainly shouldn't be responding to someone that seems to upset her so much that admin hears her whimpers and comes charging to the rescue.

Whose fault is it if a poster has a history of inflammatory posts like this and certain members take offense? You poke the bear, you risk getting bitten.

Poor little Patsy has screemed to no-one. I have read through the thread and seen one member going well over the top in attacking another. A member has every right to make a point but there comes a point where it denys the other member the right to have an opinion at all unless they bow down to yours. This thread passed that point.

Had it been the first time I might have ignored it but a repeat performance stinks of an agenda.

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:49 pm

This message is hidden because Patsy Warnick is on your ignore list.

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 4:52 pm

FG Admin;1418402 wrote: Poor little Patsy has screemed to no-one. I have read through the thread and seen one member going well over the top in attacking another. A member has every right to make a point but there comes a point where it denys the other member the right to have an opinion at all unless they bow down to yours. This thread passed that point.

Had it been the first time I might have ignored it but a repeat performance stinks of an agenda.

Perhaps you're biased. I haven't seen Oscar "attack" anyone, she was actually very polite. I enjoyed the story about her mother. Oscar does reply back when someone replies to her. Why isn't the other member of this little party under scrutiny as well? I see a lot of hostility in her posts, she apparently accused Oscar of being jealous and bitter. How is THAT not an attack?

FG Admin · Post by **FG Admin** » Wed Jan 30, 2013 5:07 pm

SnoozeAgain;1418404 wrote: Perhaps you're biased. I haven't seen Oscar "attack" anyone, she was actually very polite. I enjoyed the story about her mother. Oscar does reply back when someone replies to her. Why isn't the other member of this little party under scrutiny as well? I see a lot of hostility in her posts, she apparently accused Oscar of being jealous and bitter. How is THAT not an attack?

Perhaps you're biased as Oscar's your friend.

Having looks at the thread from both sides, I'll make my own mind up, thank you.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 8:14 am

I think we all have things that offend us or that gross us out from other humans. Some find tattoo's offensive, some find piercing's gross. Sometimes it might be behavior, could be bad teeth, unkempt hair or just general body odor that the person has no control over. Anyone who says nothing of the human body offends or grosses them out is not being realistic. Whether it be obesity, anorexia, or a hairy ass, people can be gross at times.

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 8:36 am

If I spent a ton of money and a week's worth of my time in one of the world's most beautiful locations, I can guarantee I wouldn't be posting complaints about people's teeth or unkempt hair when I got back.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 9:00 am

I'm still convinced those fat broads in bikinis were Russian Babushka Yentas from Brighton Beach (Little Odessa) USA.

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 9:03 am

Ahso!;1418305 wrote: :wah:

About your age (57th year). Most women in my age group are past the age of conceiving and so I'm resigned to the idea that I am as well. Younger females seem too much like my daughters and so they're out (my oldest is in her 33rd year). I'm focusing on keeping the family a tightly knit group. Imagine that!

Aint that the truth! My son is 36 and I got asked out by a kid in his early 40s... I thought his was joking until he acted all feelings hurt kinda thing..

You could not pay me enough money to strip down in front of anyone who was that much younger than me.:yh_rotfl

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 9:04 am

SnoozeAgain;1418361 wrote: I didn't think the guy in the Southern Comfort vid looked that bad... at least not bad enough that I'd notice and make snarky comments about him on a forum if I had seen him in real life.

It was the hair and swimsuit, IMO.. his body itself was not that bad.

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 9:06 am

"a kid in his early 40s"

That's so funny!!

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 9:08 am

SnoozeAgain;1418434 wrote: If I spent a ton of money and a week's worth of my time in one of the world's most beautiful locations, I can guarantee I wouldn't be posting complaints about people's teeth or unkempt hair when I got back. My sister saved for 2 years to go to Hawaii last year... she came back raving about how wonderful American peeps were. She brought me back a suvineer of a Hawaii car registration plate... I've been so tempted for months to change my British reg plate for It just to see what the local traffic police did.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 9:09 am

flopstock;1418436 wrote: Aint that the truth! My son is 36 and I got asked out by a kid in his early 40s... I thought his was joking until he acted all feelings hurt kinda thing..

You could not pay me enough money to strip down in front of anyone who was that much younger than me.:yh_rotfl You've made my day.... I now feel quite young

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:07 am

YZGI;1418433 wrote: I think we all have things that offend us or that gross us out from other humans. Some find tattoo's offensive, some find piercing's gross. Sometimes it might be behavior, could be bad teeth, unkempt hair or just general body odor that the person has no control over. Anyone who says nothing of the human body offends or grosses them out is not being realistic. Whether it be obesity, anorexia, or a hairy ass, people can be gross at times.

Every thread started on this board is guaranteed to annoy and provoke somebody given the diversity of opinion we have here - remember the "warm and fuzzy" threads we had a while back that sparked a a bunfight?

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:22 am

Bryn Mawr;1418450 wrote: Every thread started on this board is guaranteed to annoy and provoke somebody given the diversity of opinion we have here - remember the "warm and fuzzy" threads we had a while back that sparked a a bunfight?

And what a grand thing to have. Diversity that is..

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:26 am

I must have missed the bun fight. Was Oscar the leader of that too?

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:37 am

oscar;1418439 wrote: My sister saved for 2 years to go to Hawaii last year... she came back raving about how wonderful American peeps were. She brought me back a suvineer of a Hawaii car registration plate... I've been so tempted for months to change my British reg plate for It just to see what the local traffic police did.

Post a pic of it. I'm going to florida in March and if I find a similar one from that state, we'll add it to your collection!:wah:

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:39 am

flopstock;1418464 wrote: Post a pic of it. I'm going to florida in March and if I find a similar one from that state, we'll add it to your collection!:wah:

Will do.... she got It In a suvineer shop I hasten to add and not a car jacking.

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:40 am

Bryn Mawr;1418450 wrote: Every thread started on this board is guaranteed to annoy and provoke somebody given the diversity of opinion we have here - remember the "warm and fuzzy" threads we had a while back that sparked a a bunfight?

Those were so phony though..

:yh_rotfl

Post by **Bryn Mawr** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:41 am

SnoozeAgain;1418459 wrote: I must have missed the bun fight. Was Oscar the leader of that too?

Did I suggest she was?

Who was involved is, at this point, immaterial. The point is that if even "cute" posts can "annoy and provoke" then the fact that a particular thread annoys or provokes you cannot be used to justify attacking the poster.

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:45 am

Sarcasm, you Brits just don't get it.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:45 am

YZGI;1418433 wrote: I think we all have things that offend us or that gross us out from other humans. Some find tattoo's offensive, some find piercing's gross. Sometimes it might be behavior, could be bad teeth, unkempt hair or just general body odor that the person has no control over. Anyone who says nothing of the human body offends or grosses them out is not being realistic. Whether it be obesity, anorexia, or a hairy ass, people can be gross at times.

I would like to add that the hairy ass referred to in the above post was strictly hypothetical. It in no way described any poster, including the poster himself. I barely have any chest hair, let alone back or ass hair.

Post by **Oscar Namechange** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:47 am

YZGI;1418471 wrote: I would like to add that the hairy ass referred to in the above post was strictly hypothetical. It in no way described any poster, including the poster himself. I barely have any chest hair, let alone back or ass hair. I thought you were describing yourself and for a while I was strangely attracted to you.

Post by **jones jones** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 10:49 am

Okay, I am gonna come out of my self imposed exile just this once and say something. Why? Well I'm not gonna beat around the bush. I'm doing it because Patsy Warnick is my good friend from way back here on FG. Take that any way you want.

Obese earthlings, men with their guts hanging over their pants or ladies with their wobbly wobbly flesh hanging from wherever ... They get that way 99.999 % of the time because they put more grub down their throats than they need to survive.

They disgust me! There I've said it. They disgust me!

There is nothing more disgusting to me than a fat obese earthling.

And despite their bravado and saying: "Oh but my husband/wife loves me just the way I am." They are lying in their teeth ...

All fat people wish they were not so fat.

So there ... go crucify me for telling the truth!

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:02 am

I was wondering when you'd pop up.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:02 am

oscar;1418475 wrote: I thought you were describing yourself and for a while I was strangely attracted to you.

Yup, I'm a master at pick up lines.

Post by **jones jones** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:07 am

SnoozeAgain;1418483 wrote: I was wondering when you'd pop up.

Ooooooooooooooh you naughty thang!!!!

Snooz · Post by **Snooz** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:13 am

Yes I am. Not in the same league as YZGI though.

Patsy Warnick · Post by **Patsy Warnick** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:37 am

Wow

there's other earthlings that admit body image can be "gross"

you've come out of the closet..

proud of ya

Patsy

Post by **jones jones** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:43 am

Is gross big time Hun.. Why beat about the bush trying to score points? Obese is not only ugly to look at but seriously bad for the person's health. Go take a look at the number of procedures that take place to staple stomachs to the size of an egg.

Obese isn't cool ...

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Thu Jan 31, 2013 11:44 am

Don't hold anything back you two! Let it out!