It's Complicated

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Feb 10, 2015 9:54 am

It's complicated is what we read as the marital status of many people when they are asked, married/divorced. Have you ever wondered about that? I have. Sounds like there could be an interesting gossipy story.

Post by **LarsMac** » Tue Feb 10, 2015 12:39 pm

It can be pretty simple.

My sister is still married to her husband with whom she has been separated from for twenty years.

Neither of them ever really wanted to deal with the paperwork. At some point it WILL be complicated, but they are not the type to plan ahead.

When asked, she just says, "It's complicated".

That usually ends the conversation, and she doesn't have to explain why she is too lazy to get divorced.

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Tue Feb 10, 2015 12:59 pm

Folks ask me and I say I'm single, because I am. I've been married and divorced but I've been single for over 15 years

AnneBoleyn · Post by **AnneBoleyn** » Tue Feb 10, 2015 3:03 pm

I gotta admit, Lon, I am curious why you got a divorce at your age. I was going to ask you in a PM since it's personal, but you did bring the subject up.

You are right, gossip makes the world go 'round!

flopstock · Post by **flopstock** » Tue Feb 10, 2015 3:46 pm

AnneBoleyn;1473800 wrote: I gotta admit, Lon, I am curious why you got a divorce at your age. I was going to ask you in a PM since it's personal, but you did bring the subject up.

You are right, gossip makes the world go 'round!

Yikes!

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Tue Feb 10, 2015 5:11 pm

AnneBoleyn;1473800 wrote: I gotta admit, Lon, I am curious why you got a divorce at your age. I was going to ask you in a PM since it's personal, but you did bring the subject up.

You are right, gossip makes the world go 'round!

My divorce was a Estate Planning idea that I came up with. First, the divorce was a very amicable non contested event. My ex has dual citizenship U.S./New Zealand. She has assets in New Zealand and the U.S. If she or I had died while we were married separating our respective assets and co-mingled assets for the benefit of our heirs would have been not only complex, but costly. We were able to completely separate our respective assets while both living. Their is no spousal support and my only obligation as per the divorce decree is to pay the monthly cost of a Medicare Supplement for her. We will remain good friends and probably take a trip together later this year. We will be living two hundred miles away from each other in our respective apartments and close to respective children and grand children. She has a daughter and two grand daughters in NZ. Her first divorce to her American husband 27 years ago cost her $30,000. This divorce of ours cost us both a total of $1,800 which we split.We were married for 23 years.

YZGI · Post by **YZGI** » Wed Feb 11, 2015 8:07 am

Lon;1473807 wrote: My divorce was a Estate Planning idea that I came up with. First, the divorce was a very amicable non contested event. My ex has dual citizenship U.S./New Zealand. She has assets in New Zealand and the U.S. If she or I had died while we were married separating our respective assets and co-mingled assets for the benefit of our heirs would have been not only complex, but costly. We were able to completely separate our respective assets while both living. Their is no spousal support and my only obligation as per the divorce decree is to pay the monthly cost of a Medicare Supplement for her. We will remain good friends and probably take a trip together later this year. We will be living two hundred miles away from each other in our respective apartments and close to respective children and grand children. She has a daughter and two grand daughters in NZ. Her first divorce to her American husband 27 years ago cost her $30,000. This divorce of ours cost us both a total of $1,800 which we split.We were married for 23 years.

So this is a "Financial Divorce"? Was it a "Financial marriage"? If this is none of my business just say so and I apologize..

Bruv · Post by **Bruv** » Wed Feb 11, 2015 8:33 am

Lon;1473807 wrote: My divorce was a Estate Planning idea that I came up with. First, the divorce was a very amicable non contested event. My ex has dual citizenship U.S./New Zealand. She has assets in New Zealand and the U.S. If she or I had died while we were married separating our respective assets and co-mingled assets for the benefit of our heirs would have been not only complex, but costly. We were able to completely separate our respective assets while both living. Their is no spousal support and my only obligation as per the divorce decree is to pay the monthly cost of a Medicare Supplement for her. We will remain good friends and probably take a trip together later this year. We will be living two hundred miles away from each other in our respective apartments and close to respective children and grand children. She has a daughter and two grand daughters in NZ. Her first divorce to her American husband 27 years ago cost her $30,000. This divorce of ours cost us both a total of $1,800 which we split.We were married for 23 years.

It is complicated alright....................thankfully I have no such concerns.

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Wed Feb 11, 2015 9:12 am

YZGI;1473825 wrote: So this is a "Financial Divorce"? Was it a "Financial marriage"? If this is none of my business just say so and I apologize..

No need to apologise, no it was not a financial marriage, it was love, but it just so happened that our individual assets were pretty equal at the time of our marriage. I was 57 and she was 47. She later inherited pretty substantial amounts of $$ from her mother's and then later her fathers estate. Neither of us at this point in our lives needs any part of the other's assets to live on.

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Wed Feb 11, 2015 5:57 pm

Happily ever after, I hope.