Homesick

pina · Post by **pina** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:17 pm

As most of you know I have been to visit my family last week. After seeing my two daughters and my two grandsons I'm feeling a little homesick. Guilt is starting to set in that I am not there with them to help with things and do my share of babysitting. The youngest grandson Kairo is four months old and already rolling over on the floor and wanting to sit up, he is so cute and smiles and laughs all the time. I last saw him when he was a week old and next time I see him he will probably be walking. I feel I'm missing so much of them growing up. My other grandson Keeno is 7 this Saturday and I am missing his party. I also really miss having girly chats with my two girls.:-1

Since getting home I am thinking maybe I should go back there to live even though I love living where I am.

ok thats my chest cleared.

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:18 pm

pina wrote: As most of you know I have been to visit my family last week. After seeing my two daughters and my two grandsons I'm feeling a little homesick. Guilt is starting to set in that I am not there with them to help with things and do my share of babysitting. The youngest grandson Kairo is four months old and already rolling over on the floor and wanting to sit up, he is so cute and smiles and laughs all the time. I last saw him when he was a week old and next time I see him he will probably be walking. I feel I'm missing so much of them growing up. My other grandson Keeno is 7 this Saturday and I am missing his party. I also really miss having girly chats with my two girls.:-1

Since getting home I am thinking maybe I should go back there to live even though I love living where I am.

ok thats my chest cleared.

I think I would feel just like you do. Huggs to you

pina · Post by **pina** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:22 pm

Thanks Minks, I think I'm needing some hugs and a hanky right now.

orangesox1 · Post by **orangesox1** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:25 pm

I can understand how you feel, don't make a rushed decision about going back though. Think it through over the next few weeks.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:29 pm

Aw Pina, i'm sorry you're feeling homesick for your family xoxoxo

Group hugs for our Pina

minks · Post by **minks** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:32 pm

abbey wrote: Aw Pina, i'm sorry you're feeling homesick for your family xoxoxo

Group hugs for our Pina

yes and tissue's all around.

pina · Post by **pina** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:37 pm

Thank you all.

Pete just came in from walking the dog, took one look at me and went in the kitchen, when he came back he had made a nice mug of tea and brought the choccy bikkies, and then gave me the biggest hug ever. he's so sweet.

pina · Post by **pina** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:42 pm

orangesox1 wrote: I can understand how you feel, don't make a rushed decision about going back though. Think it through over the next few weeks.

Thanks OS, I feel like this everytime I go visit, but this time it just seems to have effected me more. I've no thoughts of rushing back, I'm just thinking maybe some time in the future.

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 2:58 pm

Pina, being homesick is all right, it is natural. I always feel homesick when I go home to L.A., and when it is cold and miserable here in the east, I always want the warmth of the western sun. And I miss my two grownup kids so much.

Be glad you have a future visit to look forward too, and enjoy your happy life where you are right now!

along-for-the-ride · Post by **along-for-the-ride** » Tue Nov 01, 2005 4:39 pm

I think it's more the people than the place you miss.

I visited my grown kids and grandkids this past summer for a week and thoroughly enjoyed myself. But I know my home is here, not there. I surely do miss them though.

What was that myth, Percephones? Live part of the year there, and part of the year here.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Wed Nov 02, 2005 4:13 am

While you wouldn't miss them so much if you saw them every day, you also wouldn't appreciate them so much if they were always underfoot.

:yh_hugs

Big hugs!

Lon · Post by **Lon** » Wed Nov 02, 2005 9:18 am

pina wrote: As most of you know I have been to visit my family last week. After seeing my two daughters and my two grandsons I'm feeling a little homesick. Guilt is starting to set in that I am not there with them to help with things and do my share of babysitting. The youngest grandson Kairo is four months old and already rolling over on the floor and wanting to sit up, he is so cute and smiles and laughs all the time. I last saw him when he was a week old and next time I see him he will probably be walking. I feel I'm missing so much of them growing up. My other grandson Keeno is 7 this Saturday and I am missing his party. I also really miss having girly chats with my two girls.:-1

Since getting home I am thinking maybe I should go back there to live even though I love living where I am.

ok thats my chest cleared.

I can relate to your dilemna. We have gc in New Zealand and the U.S. and are fortunate to be able to travel each year to see them. I however, am different than my wife, in that, I do not live my life for either my children or grandchildren, and feel no quilt about that at all. My wife on the other hand has that stronger maternal thing with our four daughters, despite her feeling that she is being used sometimes. If you love living where you do Pina, why move back? If you can afford that occasional visit and stay in touch by phone and email won't that suffice. You probably made many sacrifices for your kids during their growing up. Enjoy your life and do what makes you happy and content, but don't feel any guilt.