Ginger Nuts, Carrot Tops Red-heads

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 9:55 am

Hi there,

Yesterday I watched a TV programme called *Wanted - New Mum & Dad* which showed the adoption process through the eyes of the kids being adopted. It was very well done, although very sad when the kids were let down or rejected. However, one little boy (who was eventually happily adopted) was originally considered unadoptable because he *had red hair and glasses*

Then today I noticed that Sojourner had asked on the *Which is worse* thread..................

*which is worse?

being treated like the red headed stepchild

or

being the sister of the favorite child*

What I would like to know is.........what is wrong with red-headed kids??

I'm open to all opinions as I'm asking both out of sheer naivety because I had no idea red-headed kids were objectionable, and also out of bias because my daughter has the most beautiful waist-length red hair.

When my daughters hair is washed and brushed it falls straight down her back and is alive with so many bright colours. There are strands of silver and gold, white and palest blonde, through to richer blondes and reds, strawberry and orange, ginger and even a few strands of brown. She has THE most amazing hair colour and when neatly brushed it is absolutely stunning to look at!

So I was totally gob-smacked that a small & very sweet little boy was considered "unadoptable" purely because of his red hair and glasses and then seeing soujourners comment about red-headed kids I just wondered WHY are kids with red-hair considered objectionable??

Anyone? :-3

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 10:57 am

Thats just awful..

If l were adopting a child l wouldn't care less for their hair colour etc..

Children are children and they all need love regardless..

Its like saying if a child isn't quite pretty enough...pretty damn shallow if you ask me.

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:02 am

I don't know an answer to your question but I simply have to say that

your loving description of your daughter's hair moved me... and I can

just see in my mind what it must look like!

:)

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:08 am

I've never had an aversion to red heads, ginger nut biscuits yea (they give me heartburn)

Its very sad that potential parents would turn down the chance of a gift of children because of the colour of their hair!

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:23 am

I'm a red head, and as a kid, it was other kids treatment that was horrible....not the adults. Kids can be cruel and will search for things to pick at. When it's something obvious like long red hair, they can really bring it on. I use the 'red headed step child" comment on occasion, usually when ribbing other coworkers or what not. I got curious and below is what I found via google.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

"Beating you like a red-headed step child" refers to a terrible beating. It is a variation of "beating you like a rented mule."

Etymology (the origin of words and phrases) is notoriously hard to pin down. The etymology of this one obviously has something to do with child abuse. Some clues to the origin of its specifics:

A step child is often presumed to be less favored than biological children. If a parent was abusive, a step child might get the worst of it. (Similarly, a rented mule would be less valuable than one you own.)

A child having red hair might be an indication that they have a different father, thereby reinforcing that they are a step child.

Red hair is often associated with a firey personality. (Similarly, a mule is considered an especially stubborn animal.) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

1. red headed stepchild

A person or group treated without the favor of birthright.

The boss treats this department like his red headed stepchildren.

2. red headed stepchild

According to popular belief red headed stepchildren are prone to severe discipline problems, rebelliousness and promiscuity.

Kena is such a red headed stepchild...no really she is she's run away from home as a kid and has slept with 400 guys.

3. red headed stepchild

One who is beaten often.

Man, he smacked her like she was a red headed stepchild!

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:29 am

Rapunzel wrote: Hi there,

Yesterday I watched a TV programme called *Wanted - New Mum & Dad* which showed the adoption process through the eyes of the kids being adopted. It was very well done, although very sad when the kids were let down or rejected. However, one little boy (who was eventually happily adopted) was originally considered unadoptable because he *had red hair and glasses*

Then today I noticed that Sojourner had asked on the *Which is worse* thread..................

*which is worse?

being treated like the red headed stepchild

or

being the sister of the favorite child*

What I would like to know is.........what is wrong with red-headed kids??

I'm open to all opinions as I'm asking both out of sheer naivety because I had no idea red-headed kids were objectionable, and also out of bias because my daughter has the most beautiful waist-length red hair.

When my daughters hair is washed and brushed it falls straight down her back and is alive with so many bright colours. There are strands of silver and gold, white and palest blonde, through to richer blondes and reds, strawberry and orange, ginger and even a few strands of brown. She has THE most amazing hair colour and when neatly brushed it is absolutely stunning to look at!

So I was totally gob-smacked that a small & very sweet little boy was considered "unadoptable" purely because of his red hair and glasses and then seeing soujourners comment about red-headed kids I just wondered WHY are kids with red-hair considered objectionable??

Anyone? :-3

My goodness I am shocked!

There is another post on "which is worse" that I posted which fits this situation to a "T". It is were I posted having your intentions misconstrued..........

"being treated like a red-headed stepchild" is a southern saying that means you are being treated different. Red hair is not a common hair color in the area of the world that I live in....... and if one child out of a group of children within a family has red hair, the question is (for Mama) where did this child come from..... In the olden days men did not look favorably upon raising another man's child and did not treat them very well if they suspected they were not theirs.......

Now-a-days, saying you are being treated like a red-headed stepchild only means you stand out as different and you are thusly treated.

No slam was intended by me. I personally love red hair. As a youngster I was a burnette with alot of red in my hair -- as my father had red hair. In my late teens, I helped it along and most people thought I was a natural red head. If I could, I would have hair the color of an Irish Setter.

Life is difficult enough without going out of ones way to try and find problems where none are to be found.

Rapunzel, Rapunzel, let down your long hair. Relax and play a little bit. My choice of aviatar should show you that I am not a mean spirited person......

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 11:33 am

devist8me wrote: I'm a red head, and as a kid, it was other kids treatment that was horrible....not the adults. Kids can be cruel and will search for things to pick at. When it's something obvious like long red hair, they can really bring it on. I use the 'red headed step child" comment on occasion, usually when ribbing other coworkers or what not. I got curious and below is what I found via google.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

"Beating you like a red-headed step child" refers to a terrible beating. It is a variation of "beating you like a rented mule."

Etymology (the origin of words and phrases) is notoriously hard to pin down. The etymology of this one obviously has something to do with child abuse. Some clues to the origin of its specifics:

A step child is often presumed to be less favored than biological children. If a parent was abusive, a step child might get the worst of it. (Similarly, a rented mule would be less valuable than one you own.)

A child having red hair might be an indication that they have a different father, thereby reinforcing that they are a step child.

Red hair is often associated with a firey personality. (Similarly, a mule is considered an especially stubborn animal.) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

1. red headed stepchild

A person or group treated without the favor of birthright.

The boss treats this department like his red headed stepchildren.

2. red headed stepchild

According to popular belief red headed stepchildren are prone to severe discipline problems, rebelliousness and promiscuity.

Kena is such a red headed stepchild...no really she is she's run away from home as a kid and has slept with 400 guys.

3. red headed stepchild

One who is beaten often.

Man, he smacked her like she was a red headed stepchild!

Thank you so much for the info. I hope when Rapunzel reads this, along with my previous post, she will see that it is a "saying" only, not a critism.

And the saying was used in a GAME!!

Wolverine · Post by **Wolverine** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 12:24 pm

Personally, i ADORE redheads.

they are the ONLY true constant in the known universe.

Stars collapse, planets die, entire civilizations disappear, species become extinct,

but redheads are unwavering; they are B-E-A utiful!

can anyone honestly think of a "cute" redhead? an "attractive" one?

no. that's because redheads are Stunning. they are rare and beautiful.:yh_drool

good God, i love redheads.:yh_blush

actionfigurestepho · Post by **actionfigurestepho** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 1:43 pm

I'm a redhead.

Growing up I was always compared to my beautiful dark haired tanned cousin...they would look at us and tell her how cute she was, and then look at me and remark that my glasses made me look "smart." When you're a little girl and you want to be a pretty little princess that's kind of a smack in the face. My boyfriend's mom would knit me a scarf and say "gee, I had such a hard time finding a color that wouldn't clash with your hair...let's see it" and I'd put it on and she'd frown thoughtfully. UGH! Or I'd try something trendy like violet eyeshadow and my mom would say "I don't think redheads should wear purple eye makeup." I felt limited. I hate my freckles, too!!! There were so many colors I wanted to wear but would be criticized for wearing, or I'd hear "redhead" jokes, or even worse, creepy old men at the mall would come up and say dirty things to me. What's with that?? I had a boyfriend once say he didn't like my "Irish temper." My temper has nothing to do with my hair, thank you very much.

Now that I've gone brunette I can appreciate my red hair more. It was different. But I think I'll be a brunette for awhile. And wear sunblock, you know, for the freckles. Because while different can be good, it's one thing to be different because YOU want to be. It's another thing to grow up being teased all the time for something that's totally not your fault, especially for something as obviously dumb as haircolor.

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 1:53 pm

actionfigurestepho wrote:

Now that I've gone brunette I can appreciate my red hair more. It was different. But I think I'll be a brunette for awhile. And wear sunblock, you know, for the freckles. Because while different can be good, it's one thing to be different because YOU want to be. It's another thing to grow up being teased all the time for something that's totally not your fault, especially for something as obviously dumb as haircolor.

In reading your last paragraph I thought that red heads may have an insight into the feelings of people who are slighted for their skin color............ Kind of interesting to think about.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 2:37 pm

Red heads are lacking in the beauty department? According to who, exactly?

Just go take a peek at Stepho's picture, that myth will be dispelled REAL quick.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 2:53 pm

Well, I am a red-headed step-child. And while I appreciate Woverine's opinion of us, I for one am not interested.

My red hair has always made me different, and different is just fine with me. Sure, I got teased by the kids, but all the girls adored me, especially my oldest brother's dates (he hated me :yh_tong2).

One of the best things about being a red-headed step child: any time someone says he/she or the office, department, etc., gets treated like the red-headed step child - I get to look real serious, hurt and maybe just a little angry and say "I'm a red-headed step child." Then I get to watch them fall all over themselves as they pick their chin up off the floor and apologize. :yh_rotfl Some even try to make me feel better through some lame saying or other. :wah:

booradley · Post by **booradley** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 3:43 pm

Rapunzel wrote: Hi there,

Yesterday I watched a TV programme called *Wanted - New Mum & Dad*

So I was totally gob-smacked that a small & very sweet little boy was considered "unadoptable" purely because of his red hair and glasses

Anyone? :-3

I saw that. He was absolutely gorgeous. I felt most sorry for the little girl in it:(

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 3:53 pm

Weel lve got dark hair from my dad and lots of red from my mum, so l got the best of both really. When l was carrying my son however it went really red and looked like a terrible dye job for about a year after l had him, streaks of red, brown and black. It was awful, but l persisted and it settled down.

Apparently my mum and gran had the dame thing happen whilst pregnant.

I think red hair is a fab colour and have a friend with hair to die for, and she hates it..

Go figure

booradley · Post by **booradley** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 3:56 pm

never satisfied, us women. If it's not hair, it's our figures or complexions.

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 3:57 pm

Not to mention boobs, noses, hips etc the list could go on.........:wah:

I say love yourself, coz no one will do it better..:sneaky:

I did not mean that to sound that way,, honest:wah:

booradley · Post by **booradley** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:01 pm

lol! Such smut!

I know what you mean, have a bit of confidence in yourself because lets face it, none of us are perfect so there's no point in dwelling on stuff you can't change.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:02 pm

venus wrote: Not to mention boobs, noses, hips etc the list could go on.........:wah:

I say love yourself, coz no one will do it better..:sneaky:

I did not mean that to sound that way,, honest:wah:
Of course not! That's why you put the sweet innocent smiley after it. :p

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:06 pm

I did that after l realised what it sounded like... honestly

on my dogs life and l adore my dog

:p

booradley · Post by **booradley** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:07 pm

*tries desperately not to ask if your dog likes peanut butter....fails*

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:07 pm

valerie wrote: I don't know an answer to your question but I simply have to say that

your loving description of your daughter's hair moved me... and I can

just see in my mind what it must look like!

:)

Hi Val,

thankyou so much for your sweet words. Being a dog lover you'll appreciate her Irish Red Setter looks, particularly as they go with the same Irish Red Setter physique, she's very tall for her age, slim and 'rangy', so a fast runner too.

When she was born her hair was the colour of autumn leaves that have fallen to the ground - all shades of orange, gold and brown! Beautiful! I love walking through the autumn leaves because I can recall her baby hair so clearly, the leaves make me smile! In photographs her hair always looks bright orange as the camera cannot pick up all the subtle shades, so I need the leaves to remind me!

She's my baby! Lol!

venus · Post by **venus** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:10 pm

um broadley why?

or is it not for this board...:-2

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:21 pm

SOJOURNER wrote: Thank you so much for the info. I hope when Rapunzel reads this, along with my previous post, she will see that it is a "saying" only, not a critism.

And the saying was used in a GAME!!

I say it was a simple misunderstanding of saying and/or phrases between different areas. I'm constantly going "what????" about phrases and terms used in England LOL. I say kudos to Rapunzel for being curious and finding out.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:23 pm

My hair used to be copper. It's more beige now.

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:23 pm

Wolverine wrote: Personally, i ADORE redheads.

they are the ONLY true constant in the known universe.

Stars collapse, planets die, entire civilizations disappear, species become extinct,

but redheads are unwavering; they are B-E-A utiful!

can anyone honestly think of a "cute" redhead? an "attractive" one?

no. that's because redheads are Stunning. they are rare and beautiful.:yh_drool

good God, i love redheads.:yh_blush

You shall recieve 100 "cool dude" points!

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:23 pm

SOJOURNER wrote: My goodness I am shocked!

There is another post on "which is worse" that I posted which fits this situation to a "T". It is were I posted having your intentions misconstrued..........

"being treated like a red-headed stepchild" is a southern saying that means you are being treated different. Red hair is not a common hair color in the area of the world that I live in....... and if one child out of a group of children within a family has red hair, the question is (for Mama) where did this child come from..... In the olden days men did not look favorably upon raising another man's child and did not treat them very well if they suspected they were not theirs.......

Now-a-days, saying you are being treated like a red-headed stepchild only means you stand out as different and you are thusly treated.

No slam was intended by me. I personally love red hair. As a youngster I was a burnette with alot of red in my hair -- as my father had red hair. In my late teens, I helped it along and most people thought I was a natural red head. If I could, I would have hair the color of an Irish Setter.

Life is difficult enough without going out of ones way to try and find problems where none are to be found.

Rapunzel, Rapunzel, let down your long hair. Relax and play a little bit. My choice of aviatar should show you that I am not a mean spirited person......

Oh Soujourner, I'm so sorry if I gave you the wrong impression!! :-1

I DID say I wasn't having a dig at you and I meant it, honestly.

I KNEW it was just a comment and, of course, that thread is JUST a GAME! I REALLY had no thought or intention to villify you at all......it was just the sort of comment any of us might make in general conversation! It was only because I noticed the similarity between the two comments that I had heard in two days and only picked up on it because my daughter is red-headed. I honestly took NO offence and intended none either.

I can understand the comment more if the hair colour is unusual in your area. My SO and I are both of anglo-Irish descent and are surrounded by red-heads both where we live and in our family. So, although red-heads are not usual, they are not uncommon either.

I had just never heard such a comment or saying before and wondered why, or even if, people actually were anti-redheads.

BTW, I also have to say that without actually 'knowing' you as such, I do KNOW you are NOT a mean-spirited person. I don't think anyone on this site is, which is what makes it such a wonderful place to come to. Big hug...specially for you! :yh_hugs

booradley · Post by **booradley** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 4:58 pm

venus wrote: um broadley why?

or is it not for this board...:-2
sorry, silly joke.

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 5:17 pm

Thankyou to ALL you guys for all for your kind words.

It WAS just a query regarding something I had never come across before, thatÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s all.

Venus Ã¢â‚¬“ I totally agree with you! It IS shallow to reject a child, or anyone, purely because of their looks! So often a less shiny exterior hides a heart of solid gold!

Sojourner, I KNOW this and I agree with you.

**Thank you so much for the info. I hope when Rapunzel reads this, along with my previous post, she will see that it is a "saying" only, not a critism.

And the saying was used in a GAME!!**

I DID understand, OF COURSE, that they were merely words in a game, NOT a criticism at all! Your words werenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t misconstrued. I hope I didnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t make steam pour from your ears! (Like Harry Potter! Lol!)

Wolverine, you are a TOTAL star!!! :yh_star :yh_star

I will love you forever and, if I ever get to the States again, I may have to seriously consider stalking and possibly ravishing you!

Hehehe :wah:

ActionFigureStepho, people ALWAYS say stupid things and tell you what you should or shouldnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t do! In THEIR opinion! I was told I should never dress my red-headed daughter in pinkÃ¢â‚¬¦..so I did! Frequently! And it suited her too! She looked GORGEOUS! (Although sheÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s not too fond of it now Ã¢â‚¬“ too Ã¢â‚¬Å“girlyÃ¢â‚¬! Lol!)

I once saw Princess Diana at a function where she wore a blue dress, trimmed in green. She too looked absolutely BEAUTIFUL! Yet my mother often quoted that stupid idiomÃ¢â‚¬¦.that Ã¢â‚¬Å“Blue and Green should Never be seen!Ã¢â‚¬ She thought you should NEVER wear those colours together. But seeing Princess Di looking SO pretty, made me realise that you need to experiment and live your life according to your OWN values and not to other peoples preconceptions.

Also, in todayÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s world, pretty much anything goes! I would say wear whatever you please that makes YOU happy! While our mums mean well, they are merely quoting the things THEY were taught, when society was a lot more rigid and a lot less forgiving! So, blow what she says, or what anyone says, wear whatever colours you like and chances are theyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll say how pretty you look! Parents! Lol!

Hi Booradley,

I too felt so sorry for that poor little girl! She had been through SUCH a hard time, hadnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t they all?, and the prospective parents went through a lengthy vetting procedure until they were finally introduced to the little girl. I think her name was Rhiannon, a pretty name which suited her. Rhiannon had SO much love to give and was SO excited to meet her Ã¢â‚¬ËœnewÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ parents. They took her home a couple of times and she was thrilled with her new room and the family petsÃ¢â‚¬¦.then the ******** decided it was Ã¢â‚¬Å“too much troubleÃ¢â‚¬ to rearrange their lives around the needs of a 9 year old girlÃ¢â‚¬¦so they rejected her! Poor little love! She was devastated!

However, they soon found new parents for Rhiannon, and they loved her and told her she was Ã¢â‚¬ËœperfectÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ for them, thank God. They were lovely.

DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t miss part 2 next week, when they have to decide whether to have two small brothers adopted togetherÃ¢â‚¬¦Ã¢â‚¬¦or whether to split them up and have them adopted separately! How can they even consider splitting them up?? Especially as they are so close! I SO hope they are adopted together!

Hey Venus, how strange. One of my best friends is a redhead and when she was pregnant her hair also turned brown, and it stayed mainly brown even after she had her baby. ItÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s interesting because her mum was also a redhead whose hair turned brown when she was pregnant, but then it turned blonde after she had her baby.

How weird is that?

Hiya Devist8me, many thanks for the explanation and the kudos and for realising it was all just a misunderstanding! I know what you mean about asking Ã¢â‚¬Å“what????Ã¢â‚¬ when reading stuff. I had to ask what a Ã¢â‚¬Ëœred-neckÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ was! Duh!

booradley · Post by **booradley** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 5:30 pm

[QUOTE=Rapunzel]

DonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t miss part 2 next week, when they have to decide whether to have two small brothers adopted togetherÃ¢â‚¬¦Ã¢â‚¬¦or whether to split them up and have them adopted separately! How can they even consider splitting them up?? Especially as they are so close! I SO hope they are adopted together!

QUOTE]

I really don't know if I can watch it again. I think animals get a better deal in the u.k. than kids. Hopefully, they will get adopted together, but surely it's better for them to be apart in loving homes, with contact, than stuck in care. The thought of my own lot being split up is horrible. They fight and drive each other up the wall, but they always stick for each other against the outside world. If we had the space, I'd foster tomorrow.

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 5:42 pm

Rapunzel wrote: Oh Soujourner, I'm so sorry if I gave you the wrong impression!! :-1

I DID say I wasn't having a dig at you and I meant it, honestly.

I KNEW it was just a comment and, of course, that thread is JUST a GAME! I REALLY had no thought or intention to villify you at all......it was just the sort of comment any of us might make in general conversation! It was only because I noticed the similarity between the two comments that I had heard in two days and only picked up on it because my daughter is red-headed. I honestly took NO offence and intended none either.

I can understand the comment more if the hair colour is unusual in your area. My SO and I are both of anglo-Irish descent and are surrounded by red-heads both where we live and in our family. So, although red-heads are not usual, they are not uncommon either.

I had just never heard such a comment or saying before and wondered why, or even if, people actually were anti-redheads.

BTW, I also have to say that without actually 'knowing' you as such, I do KNOW you are NOT a mean-spirited person. I don't think anyone on this site is, which is what makes it such a wonderful place to come to. Big hug...specially for you! :yh_hugs

Big hug back to you too. :-4

I'm so glad to have this resolved so quickly and pleasantly.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 7:04 pm

OMG! I think I'm getting cavities just reading all this sweetness. :wah:

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 7:18 pm

Accountable wrote: OMG! I think I'm getting cavities just reading all this sweetness. :wah:

SMACK!

Just let it go, ACC.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 7:20 pm

What? I like it.

SOJOURNER · Post by **SOJOURNER** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 7:23 pm

Accountable wrote: What? I like it.

SMACK!! SMACK!! SMACK!!

Still liking it..........

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 7:30 pm

booradley wrote:

I really don't know if I can watch it again. I think animals get a better deal in the u.k. than kids. Hopefully, they will get adopted together, but surely it's better for them to be apart in loving homes, with contact, than stuck in care. The thought of my own lot being split up is horrible. They fight and drive each other up the wall, but they always stick for each other against the outside world. If we had the space, I'd foster tomorrow.

You're right of course! I had assumed that if separated there would be no contact.

And I agree, if I had the space I would love to foster, although it was heartbreaking to see the foster mum being so upset at losing her charge. It is a very hard job to do emotionally as well as every other way. Poor little loves.

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 8:33 pm

Accountable wrote: OMG! I think I'm getting cavities just reading all this sweetness. :wah:

Accountable....Your close to seeing if that "fiery" part is true about redheads

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sat Nov 05, 2005 8:36 pm

Rapunzel wrote: Hiya Devist8me, many thanks for the explanation and the kudos and for realising it was all just a misunderstanding! I know what you mean about asking Ã¢â‚¬Å“what????Ã¢â‚¬ when reading stuff. I had to ask what a Ã¢â‚¬Ëœred-neckÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ was! Duh!

Well, your nearly talking to a redneck, however, I do have all my teeth, own several pairs of shoes and I'm not married nor have children with my brother :wah:

Valerie100 · Post by **Valerie100** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 7:34 am

I absolutely agree. I cannot imagine anyone not loving or wanting to adopt a child because of the color of his/her hair. How shallow!

kitty · Post by **kitty** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 8:24 am

There are not enough gingers in this world for me.

I've got a little one with copper coloured hair and when I had him the number of people who commented about they'd rather not have one than have a ginger child amazed me.

I was close to headbutting the person when they said that..you know postnatal hormones and all.

He will get teased but hopefully he'll be made of strong stuff to be able to take. i don't see why he should have to though.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 10:57 am

kitty wrote: There are not enough gingers in this world for me.

I've got a little one with copper coloured hair and when I had him the number of people who commented about they'd rather not have one than have a ginger child amazed me.

I was close to headbutting the person when they said that..you know postnatal hormones and all.

He will get teased but hopefully he'll be made of strong stuff to be able to take. i don't see why he should have to though.

I can't understand some people. All children are wondrous gifts. Gingers stand out, head and shoulders. How is that not great?!? Do people truly prefer their own children to be wallflowers?

It's what lies beneath all that beautiful hair that counts for so much more. He'll be fine, I'm sure. :-6

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 10:59 am

My dad was a redhead, my brother is a redhead and so is my nephew. I love 'em all.....i used to dye my hair red until I went grey..... hooray for redheads and blow the people that are so small minded that they take the micky out of them.

venus · Post by **venus** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 11:01 am

Now here is a good reason for me to go into social work...

Its awful that siblings should be split, l think they have had it rough enough and should be kept together if at all possible..

Have considred fostering and adoption myself.

I had an Aunt who did foster and her 'kids' still call her up and go see her to many she is still mum.:p

kitty · Post by **kitty** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 2:21 pm

I'm a respite foster carer, basically I give care to children from specific families for one or two nights every couple of weeks.

I love it and find it incredibly rewarding.

If you have ever thought about becoming a foster carer then please do some more research as there are so many children out there who need a little help out there.

devist8me · Post by **devist8me** » Sun Nov 06, 2005 10:18 pm

I've thought the whole foster parent thing through and decided I would get too attached. Kudos to you folks you can do it!

Alfred · Post by **Alfred** » Mon Nov 07, 2005 12:09 am

Red hair, freckles, glasses, braces...thats me.

i and the other redheads at school cop it so much at school, lately the favourite saying is "your hairs on fire" right before they pretend to warm there hands or be cooking marshmellows above your head.

it's not fair. i'd realy like to know why.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Nov 07, 2005 4:48 am

devist8me wrote: I've thought the whole foster parent thing through and decided I would get too attached. Kudos to you folks you can do it!
It really takes a special personality. I lived in the foster care system ages 13-18. I would've been a picnic compared to some of the other kids I met.

A foster parent takes in a kid who may have seen or experienced things in his or her life that many adults have never encountered. Drugs; prostitution; homelessness; sexual, physical, or emotional abuse; etc. The kid may be angry, even violent. He or she may not know how to handle courtesy - having never seen it - or even how to express gratitude. Definitely qualifies as a "fixer upper."

Nevertheless, the foster parent welcomes the child into her home and family. She provides a safe haven, a warm bed, rules, discipline, and love. She tries to work through all the kid's history to find the good stuff and nurture it. There is truly no guarantee what she will get in return, but I suspect it is positive far more than it is negative. I don't know for sure, but I think most foster parents take a child in with the intent of keeping her or him until graduation - and beyond.

I lived in two different childrens' homes, facilities that house many foster kids in several "cottages" on a campus. In between, I also spent a year with a family who had never fostered before. It didn't work out.

I was lucky in that I had four older siblings to keep me anchored with family. I was raised well by my divorced mother until she died unexpectedly, so I had known love and discipline until I was 13. Therefore, as a foster kid I was not a problem and so received no real attention. What I missed was a dad to coach me through my teen years and teach me to be a man. I learned that later in life from the Air Force.

Kids need parents to show and coach them into proper adulthood. Foster parents are a special breed. We definitely need more of them.

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Wed Nov 09, 2005 12:12 pm

My colouring is very dark in that I have blak hair and dark brown eyes, but I have to say that I find true redheads by far the most attractive women. I don't know about red-headed men, I'm not sure if they are as popular with the opposite sex, but theres my tuppance worth...redheads are gorgeous.

minks · Post by **minks** » Wed Nov 09, 2005 12:19 pm

Galbally wrote: My colouring is very dark in that I have blak hair and dark brown eyes, but I have to say that I find true redheads by far the most attractive women. I don't know about red-headed men, I'm not sure if they are as popular with the opposite sex, but theres my tuppance worth...redheads are gorgeous.

I have the most beautiful red headed sis in law love her to bits.

When I was a teen I baby sat a red head kid and he was a hellion. Hair color does not make the person

Just my 2 cents worth hehehehehe

Galbally · Post by **Galbally** » Wed Nov 09, 2005 12:22 pm

minks wrote: I have the most beautiful red headed sis in law love her to bits.

When I was a teen I baby sat a red head kid and he was a hellion. Hair color does not make the person

Just my 2 cents worth hehehehehe

Damn, she's married eh? And obviously red heads can be toe-rags just like anyone, but I'm just saying they look lovely.

P.S. What is a "Hellion" that is the first time I've ever heard that in my life!