Exes

persephone · Post by **persephone** » Tue Jan 04, 2005 12:28 pm

No more wrong than still living with your ex

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Tue Jan 04, 2005 2:17 pm

tmbsgrl wrote: Does anyone here still talk to their Exes. I do now and then. Just to say hi. I can't let that part of my life go. he was in my life for 5 years and his sister is my best friend. Her boys are like my nephews. they still call me aunt Susie. Is that wrong?

No, I don't think it's wrong at all, in fact it's admirable. Not enough of it in

this world.

I'm still friends with my ex (SO) and he has even been to dinner at my house

and likes my husband! I also just last month went to visit my former mother

(outlaw) who is in a nursing home. She is a truly sweet person and always

made for some nice times for me. So why not keep those realtionships if you

can? The only thing I would worry about is how your fiance feels about it,

and if he's okay with it, I see no problem.

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Tue Jan 04, 2005 4:40 pm

I see nothing wrong with it. I'd talk to mine if I saw him, but of course I can say that when he lives far away now LOL. My husband's ex and I email each other jokes all the time. Sometimes, you can love someone, just not live with them. tmbsgirl--the fear eventually goes away. It takes a long time, but it does.

koan · Post by **koan** » Tue Jan 04, 2005 8:13 pm

Yikes!!!! Your ex put you in the hospital? It might be a good idea to say Hi once in a while just so you know where he is and that he is far away from you. Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer as the saying goes.

I still talk to many of my exes and consider them friends. I do not tend to associate with the ones who did me wrong but being friends with his sister make this a little more complicated. I hope this is not a tendancy to be with people who harm you and wish you better luck in your marriage.

A Karenina · Post by **A Karenina** » Tue Jan 04, 2005 10:06 pm

I talked with mine until he reached a point where he could no longer speak. (He died of cancer 3 years ago). We were able to keep a friendship of sorts and to talk civilly about the kids.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it unless it hurts you or those important to you.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Jan 07, 2005 12:25 pm

tmbsgrl wrote: Does anyone here still talk to their Exes. I do now and then. Just to say hi. I can't let that part of my life go. he was in my life for 5 years and his sister is my best friend. Her boys are like my nephews. they still call me aunt Susie. Is that wrong?

Oh bleck I have no choice but to talk to my ex (we spent 18 years in marriage) due to the fact We try to co-parent our teen daughters. I detest the man but do not let this show onto my daughters however they grow futher and further from their father due to his incredibly lousy treatment. If they came to me one day and said Mom I never wish to see my father again, I would write him off in a heartbeat. I have no use for a man who shirks his responsibilities to his own children just to please another woman and her children then turn around and lie by saying "nothing means more to me than my own daughters" Uh huh sure, he has financially, and emotionally deprived these 2 beautiful girls to the point of them fighting to not see him.

I suppose talking to our ex's is relative to how the ex's have treated us and those dear to us.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Fri Jan 07, 2005 12:57 pm

There are exes I still talk to and those I don't...One of my exes has been a friend for 12 years, and we were a "couple" for, like, 4 months. We make WAY better friends than lovers, and had a great relationship AS friends for a long time. Then of course, my self-proclaimed overly jealous fiance got uncomfortable with it, and I pretty much broke off the friendship. Now, before anyone says anything about my fiance "ruling my life", keep in mind, if he is not comfortable with the relationship, I don't want it. I could have said I wanted to keep my friend, and there wouldn't have been a whole lot he could do about it. But to me, your partner comes first. So, what I'm trying to say is, if your fiance is ok with it, it's fine. Mine just happens to not approve! And I'm fine with it.

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Jan 07, 2005 1:02 pm

BabyRider wrote: There are exes I still talk to and those I don't...One of my exes has been a friend for 12 years, and we were a "couple" for, like, 4 months. We make WAY better friends than lovers, and had a great relationship AS friends for a long time. Then of course, my self-proclaimed overly jealous fiance got uncomfortable with it, and I pretty much broke off the friendship. Now, before anyone says anything about my fiance "ruling my life", keep in mind, if he is not comfortable with the relationship, I don't want it. I could have said I wanted to keep my friend, and there wouldn't have been a whole lot he could do about it. But to me, your partner comes first. So, what I'm trying to say is, if your fiance is ok with it, it's fine. Mine just happens to not approve! And I'm fine with it.

Coming from a totally different scenario, I shall just smile and nod

minks · Post by **minks** » Fri Jan 07, 2005 3:12 pm

tmbsgrl wrote: My Ex & i are friends but mainly the only reason we talk is because his sister is my best friend. I still get along with his parents & his whole family. We are much better friends then we are lovers. We fought so much when we were together. I told him i hated him every day. He found someway to aggravate me on purpose. We got Pregnant when i was 17 years old. 4 months into the pregnancy i found out he also had another girl pregnant. I stresses out & went through depression not knowing what to go. Then i started having a miscarriage in the shower. I called my best friend & then an ambulance to come with me to the hospital. He never even showed up in the ER nor did he visit me the whole 2 weeks i was there. ( i wouldn't leave without my baby) When they told me i had miscarried i didn't and couldn't believe them. I layed in the bed holding my stomach for 2 weeks praying to god. My Best friend & My sister stayed the whole time with me. Thank god. 6 months down the road we got back together ( i was stupid & we were engaged) i couldn't bare to lose both my son ,Austin, and my fiancee. Then when i was 19 years old i found out he was still cheatin with that same girl he got pregnant. I kicked him out of MY apartment and made him get his things from the dumpster. Well he came in (forced his way in) DEMANDED that we get back together because "he loved me" When i told him no he beat me. Yet again i was in the hospital because of him. When we talk these days it is just hi and how are you doing. He knows nothing about me or my family. he is one of the reasons we moved 2000 miles way.

Your girl win for "worst Ex" award. OMG there truly is always some one worse off than ourselves. Gosh the hell you went through was horrific. I sure hope the future heals all of that and then some for you.

samanthaguy · Post by **samanthaguy** » Tue Jan 11, 2005 5:25 pm

I Think Talking To Your Exes Is Good It Shows That You Are A Bigger Person Then One To Hold A Grudge, You Dont Have To Be Their Best Friend Just Civalized. One Of My Exes Was My Best Friend For 8 Years Until He Got Married And His Wife Felt Threatned B/c I Was A Woman And We Got Along Better Than They Did.

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 4:05 am

minks wrote: Oh bleck I have no choice but to talk to my ex (we spent 18 years in marriage) due to the fact We try to co-parent our teen daughters. I detest the man but do not let this show onto my daughters however they grow futher and further from their father due to his incredibly lousy treatment. If they came to me one day and said Mom I never wish to see my father again, I would write him off in a heartbeat. I have no use for a man who shirks his responsibilities to his own children just to please another woman and her children then turn around and lie by saying "nothing means more to me than my own daughters" Uh huh sure, he has financially, and emotionally deprived these 2 beautiful girls to the point of them fighting to not see him.

I suppose talking to our ex's is relative to how the ex's have treated us and those dear to us.
Same scenario for me. Mine made our lives hell when he was with us, turned his back on two of the sweetest boys (our sons) Never sent a dime. Marriied a troubled girl 27 years younger than himself. 15 years later after all the damage is done.. and she off course has married someone her own age.. he breaks his neck trying to see his sons, and he thinks Im beautiful. I wouldnt look at him, if I had to step over him on the floor. Im not angry.. Erased him years ago. I just sound angry because Im responding here. As you said, it all has to do with what the treatment was...... On the other hand.. I would give any thing to talk to the 6 year live in ex. We were best friends who just never should have tried to become a couple. He wont talk to me... Hes embarassed, and ashamed of himself. I wish I still had him as my friend. I always think maybe someday... He will get in touch with me. Its only been 4 years without a word....... Do you think hes going to call?

hahahahahaha.. Thats a little joke between me and my friends.I always say that to them.