I need some help

computerchic8301 · Post by **computerchic8301** » Fri Jan 13, 2006 9:47 pm

When I am talking to someone I tell them how far I want to stay away from love. Then I come home at night and no matter what I do there is some thing there talking about, showing, or has something to do with love. Every night I get to the point to where I just want to cry. I have been hurt, broken, run down, and done wrong so many times I don't want to go through that again. Yet I can't help but think how happy I could be if I could find my true love. But I don't think he lives. Can anybody help me with this. I can't keep living like this. I can't keep crying every night. I feel like I am living two different lives. What do I do?

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Fri Jan 13, 2006 9:52 pm

you do nothing. i found my soulmate after 10 years of not looking.

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Fri Jan 13, 2006 9:55 pm

Take a deep breath, RELAX.

How old are you? Maybe too young for this much angst!

It's an old saw but I think a very true one: Stop looking, and you'll

find it. Love will come to you.

Get out of yourself, you're wallowing in it. Do something for someone

else. Volunteer. Walk dogs for the animal shelter. Visit a senior

citizen. Donate blood. Buy yourself a $3.00 bunch of daises at

the grocery store and reflect on their sunny nature...

Something, ANYTHING.

I'm not saying give up crying entirely, it does have a place and can

actually be therapeutic.

Failing that, talk to an MD, and see about getting anti-depressants.

Or talk to a therapist. Sometimes just getting it all out does a world

of good.

:-6 :-6 :-6

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Fri Jan 13, 2006 9:56 pm

This might sound trite but its my experience that tells me its so. You have to be comfortable in your own skin, you have to have calm and peace and an inner glow, self worth and a general health of mind body and spirit before you can expect those things truly from another. When you are strong within you will become a magnet.

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Sat Jan 14, 2006 1:06 am

Nomad wrote: This might sound trite but its my experience that tells me its so. You have to be comfortable in your own skin, you have to have calm and peace and an inner glow, self worth and a general health of mind body and spirit before you can expect those things truly from another. When you are strong within you will become a magnet.

Good advice as ever from Nomad. Love yourself, it's not selfish. Fill your time as Val said and the RIGHT person will come along.

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Sat Jan 14, 2006 2:58 am

Take chances. Always take chances. If you don't venture and put your heart back out, it will never get swept up. Regret the things you do, NOT the things you wish you'd done. Never give up believing that true love is out there for you. It is.