I have some sad news...

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 8:50 am

Far Rider wrote: Well Fellow Gardners..... I dont know how to annouce things like this and im not used to being the bearer of bad news publicly like this, we're a deeply private family but many of you ask about Vicky all the time and for lack of knowing what to say to each person I thought this would be easier.

We lost the baby over the weekend, Vicky is fine now physically, but emotionally and mentally she is a wreck. I'm at work today for a short time, then I'll be home and mostly off line. So I'll be scarce for a while.

I'd appreciate all your thoughts and prayers and if i dont get by to thank you all personally, I'll just say thank you now.

Robert (Far).

ooo I put a dedication out there for you hun.

valerie · Post by **valerie** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:00 am

I am so, so sorry to hear this devastating news. This baby had an awful

lot of people looking forward to its' arrival.

I'm going to pm you.

If there is ANYTHING at all I can do, please don't hesitate to ask.

I love you.

theia · Post by **theia** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:01 am

Truly, Robert, my heart goes out to you both and my thoughts, prayers and love are with you and Vicky

hotsauce · Post by **hotsauce** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:01 am

I am so terribly sorry to hear the news. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:07 am

Think of your child; then, not as dead, but as living; not as a flower that has withered, but as one that is transplanted, and touched by a divine hand, is blooming in richer colors and sweeter shades than those oÃ…“ earth.

- Richard Hooker

The dying boy said: "Father, don't you weep for me; when I get to heaven I will go straight to Jesus and tell Him that ever since I can remember you have tried to lead me to Him." I would rather have my children say that of me after I am gone; or if they die before me, I would rather they should take that message to the Master than to have a monument over me reaching to the skies.

- Dwight Lyman Moody

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:08 am

sorry

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:08 am

Know you are not alone during this Rob we are all here for you in any way we can be.......

Think of your child; then, not as dead, but as living; not as a flower that has withered, but as one that is transplanted, and touched by a divine hand, is blooming in richer colors and sweeter shades than those oÃ…“ earth.

- Richard Hooker

The dying boy said: "Father, don't you weep for me; when I get to heaven I will go straight to Jesus and tell Him that ever since I can remember you have tried to lead me to Him." I would rather have my children say that of me after I am gone; or if they die before me, I would rather they should take that message to the Master than to have a monument over me reaching to the skies.

- Dwight Lyman Moody

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:09 am

Sorry deleting double post

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:10 am

That's terrible news. You & Vicky are in my thoughts & prayers at this sad time. Just remember, he/she is now an angel smiling down on you.

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:13 am

Double-post

Lil~Basco · Post by **Lil~Basco** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:15 am

I am so very sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in family, friends and the good Lord above to get you all through this time of sorrow. Big hugs to you and Vicky. You're all in my prayers.

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:15 am

Triple-post

observer1 · Post by **observer1** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:15 am

What the heck! Nevermind this post. Posted twice.

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:17 am

hey same here sorry far we are botching up your thread silly problems

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:20 am

Far Rider wrote: Well Fellow Gardners..... I dont know how to annouce things like this and im not used to being the bearer of bad news publicly like this, we're a deeply private family but many of you ask about Vicky all the time and for lack of knowing what to say to each person I thought this would be easier.

We lost the baby over the weekend, Vicky is fine now physically, but emotionally and mentally she is a wreck. I'm at work today for a short time, then I'll be home and mostly off line. So I'll be scarce for a while.

I'd appreciate all your thoughts and prayers and if i dont get by to thank you all personally, I'll just say thank you now.

Robert (Far).

Oh Robert,

I am SO sorry for you and Vicky.

I also lost my baby last October, I was 3 1/2 months pregnant.

I miscarried twins 10 years before that and I had wanted a third baby ever since that time. It took 10 years to fall pregnant again, only to lose it.

I was incredibly depressed for about 3 months and although I'm feeling happier now, I still have some very down moments. I wish I had had counselling. A friend has suggested it would still be helpful, even now. At the time I didn't want to leave the house, not for anything, not even for counselling.

Give Vicky lots of love and understanding. Suggest counselling too. I didn't want to burden my hubby with my pain as he had his own pain too. Talking to a counsellor would have helped me and I'm sure it would help Vicky too. Also, talking to a miscarriage advisor, so Vicky can see its a very natural thing to happen and not because of anything she's done or not done, etc. As we have a natural tendency to blame ourselves.

I wish all the love in the world to you and Vicky right now. It's a horrible horrible thing to go through and it doesn't matter that it was just a foetus not a baby, in our hearts its still our baby who has died.

The other thing I would warn you about is the first period after the miscarriage. Apparently its well known to be as awful as the miscarriage itself, but no one warned me of that! It was incredibly painful and just as horrible and heart-rending as the miscarriage itself. Just be there for her and as understanding and as loving as I know you are with her.

All my love and hugs to both of you. You're in my thoughts and in my prayers and I'm sending you lots of hugs and angels to watch over you. (It might sound silly to some, but I'd swear I felt angel wings around me when I was at my lowest ebb!)

If you or Vicky want to pm me or phone to chat, just let me know and I'll give you my phone number. I'm happy to help in any way I can.

Love and hugs to you both,

Melanie. xxx

Rapunzel · Post by **Rapunzel** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:21 am

Far Rider wrote: Well Fellow Gardners..... I dont know how to annouce things like this and im not used to being the bearer of bad news publicly like this, we're a deeply private family but many of you ask about Vicky all the time and for lack of knowing what to say to each person I thought this would be easier.

We lost the baby over the weekend, Vicky is fine now physically, but emotionally and mentally she is a wreck. I'm at work today for a short time, then I'll be home and mostly off line. So I'll be scarce for a while.

I'd appreciate all your thoughts and prayers and if i dont get by to thank you all personally, I'll just say thank you now.

Robert (Far).

Oh Robert,

I am SO sorry for you and Vicky.

I also lost my baby last October, I was 3 1/2 months pregnant.

I miscarried twins 10 years before that and I had wanted a third baby ever since that time. It took 10 years to fall pregnant again, only to lose it.

I was incredibly depressed for about 3 months and although I'm feeling happier now, I still have some very down moments. I wish I had had counselling. A friend has suggested it would still be helpful, even now. At the time I didn't want to leave the house, not for anything, not even for counselling.

Give Vicky lots of love and understanding. Suggest counselling too. I didn't want to burden my hubby with my pain as he had his own pain too. Talking to a counsellor would have helped me and I'm sure it would help Vicky too. Also, talking to a miscarriage advisor, so she can see its a very natural thing to happen and not because of anything she's done or not done, etc. As we have a natural tendency to blame ourselves.

I wish all the love in the world to you and Vicky right now. It's a horrible horrible thing to go through and it doesn't matter that it was just a foetus not a baby, in our hearts its still our baby who has died.

The other thing I would warn you about is the first period after the miscarriage. Apparently its well known to be as awful as the miscarriage itself, but no one warned me of that! It was incredibly painful and just as horrible and heart-rending as the miscarriage itself. Just be there for her and as understanding and as loving as I know you are with her.

All my love and hugs to both of you. You're in my thoughts and in my prayers and I'm sending you lots of hugs and angels to watch over you. (It might sound silly to some, but I'd swear I felt angel wings around me when I was at my lowest ebb!)

If you or Vicky want to pm me or phone to chat, just let me know and I'll give you my phone number. I'm happy to help in any way I can.

Love and hugs to you both,

Melanie. xxx

PS Please excuse the double post.

There's a glitch in the posting system right now.

But extra hugs come with the extra post. xxx

chonsigirl · Post by **chonsigirl** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:46 am

My dearest Far:

Words will never express how much we love you and Miss Vicky. I believe your baby is in the arms of Jesus. I ask for God to bless you and your wife at this time, and that your hearts will be healed over this loss.

Susie

BabyRider · Post by **BabyRider** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 9:58 am

Love and peace to you and your family, Rob. :-1

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:01 am

I'm so sorry! Just know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Accountable · Post by **Accountable** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:11 am

I don't have words, Rob. :yh_flower

I'm here if you need anything.

jennyswan · Post by **jennyswan** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:18 am

Hi Far, I'm so sorry to hear this sad news. Lots of love to you and your family at this difficult time. Jenny :yh_hugs :yh_hugs

minks · Post by **minks** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:29 am

Far Rider wrote: The craziest thing Is I know My little Girl would have been born with the wackiest sense of humor, and with all these double post and craziness would have tickled her even more.

I had all theses thoughts about her, I knew her hair color and eyes, little saphires, crazy curls going everywhere, tough little stout body, and somehow saw her all the way through adult hood growing up. I did the same with each of my kids and although I was never exactly right, I was close and that was good enough.

God is amazing, We trust he made the right decision, tough as it is.

We have three amazing kids already life is good.

Thank you all, the thoughts and good will is enough for now, the rest time will care for.

Far.

Don't forget she would have had her daddy's charm, wit, huge heart, impish good looks and a deadly aim with any gun

Far if I can offer you up a "peace of mind", I silently asked my ex-father-in-law who passed on a number or years ago to watch out for your little miss.

pina · Post by **pina** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:31 am

That's terrible news, I'm so sorry for your loss Far, big hugs to you and Vicky.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers. loads of love for you both. :-1 :-4

lady cop · Post by **lady cop** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 10:46 am

my deepest heartfelt condolences to you and your family Far. :yh_flower :yh_flower :yh_flower

gmc · Post by **gmc** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:06 am

My condolences

Bez · Post by **Bez** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:13 am

I can't find the words....please accept hugs for you both across the Atlantic...:yh_hugs

Post by **Betty Boop** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:33 am

Robert and Vicky, I don't know what to say, life can be so cruel sometimes, please accept my condolences, thinking of you both.

:-1 :-4 :yh_hugs

Lyn x x

Peg · Post by **Peg** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:43 am

These may only be words on a page, but they come from the heart. I am so sorry to hear of your and Vicky's and the kids' loss. You are lucky enough to have an extended family through here and we are all here for you if you need anything. You and Vicky will survive this just fine because you are lucky enough to have each other. My thoughts, prayers, and love are with you all.

Xxena · Post by **Xxena** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:43 am

I am so sad to hear of your family's loss. It's hard to know what to say at times like this. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and Vicky and the kids at this time. Take care of yourself and your wife, that is what's most important now.

abbey · Post by **abbey** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 11:47 am

My thoughts are with you and Vicky Rob X

Uncle Kram · Post by **Uncle Kram** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 12:32 pm

Rob & Vic - I've been there so big hugs to you both. This is indeed sad news but you will pull through in your own way and in your own time

Unc

cars · Post by **cars** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 1:10 pm

Rob & Vicky, so sad to hear that dreadful news, my deepest condolances. Mear words are not enough to ease you through your time of sorrow. Only time will do that. Rob, You will have to be strong enough for both you & your wife at this tragic time, until things seem to ease somewhat.

You & your family Rob, will be in my thoughts & prayers.

daffodil52 · Post by **daffodil52** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 2:06 pm

Far Rider wrote: Well Fellow Gardners..... I dont know how to annouce things like this and im not used to being the bearer of bad news publicly like this, we're a deeply private family but many of you ask about Vicky all the time and for lack of knowing what to say to each person I thought this would be easier.

We lost the baby over the weekend, Vicky is fine now physically, but emotionally and mentally she is a wreck. I'm at work today for a short time, then I'll be home and mostly off line. So I'll be scarce for a while.

I'd appreciate all your thoughts and prayers and if i dont get by to thank you all personally, I'll just say thank you now.

Robert (Far). my heart goe's out to u and your family daffy, sorry to hear that...............

OpenMind · Post by **OpenMind** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 2:26 pm

I'm so sorry to hear this, Far.

My love and prayers go out to you both.

nvalleyvee · Post by **nvalleyvee** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 4:21 pm

Go take care of your family and yourself. I am very sad to hear the news. I will hold your family in my heart. :-1 :-1

weeder · Post by **weeder** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 4:30 pm

Sending wishes of heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss.

Nomad · Post by **Nomad** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 4:33 pm

Love, hugs, prayers and blessings Robert. Im so sorry.

Mookey1229 · Post by **Mookey1229** » Mon Feb 27, 2006 8:47 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Keep the faith in your love and your marriage and in time you will get through this terrible tragedy.

Take care of yourselves,

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